8 Insights to Build Powerful Relationships

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[00:00:00] All kinds of relationships are the cornerstone to being a human, coworkers, personal, romantic, parental, professional community. All our relationships we're involved with daily. Would you like the keys to improving any of them that you'd like to? No kidding Any of them? Join us on eight Insights to build powerful relationships as we share the five, or sorry, eight key insights to help you build deeper, more meaningful connections with people in your.

[00:00:30] From communication strategies to emotional intelligence, we're gonna equip you with the knowledge you need to create powerful, lasting relationships that will enrich your life. Let's get into it. I won't waste another minute, won't. Here's the million dollar question. How do men like us reach our full potential?

[00:00:51] Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities. Working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. Well, that's the big question. In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more. My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast on ambition.

[00:01:13] Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all things, man, husband, and. Big shout out to Fallible Nation. You guys make this possible and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. I'm a relationship with personal development coach specializing in men.

[00:01:30] Although I talk to pretty much everybody these days, and this is near and dear to my heart because relationships are just part of the human condition. They're everywhere, and unless you're a hermit, you're gonna have 'em in your. The funny thing is several of the elements it takes to have a great marriage or the same elements it takes to be a good friend or a good coworker.

[00:01:53] In fact, these same elements will help you be a good father, a good neighbor, and a better employee as well. It's, it's funny, they all just kind of overlap. Let me lead off the episode with a caveat because I don't want any misconceptions. Conceptual knowledge will not, will not improve your relationships.

[00:02:14] Knowing what you need to know will not be enough. You actually have to learn and apply this knowledge that we're gonna talk about. And in this episode of the Fallible Man podcast, I'm gonna lay out the core elements that you need to learn to achieve life-changing connections. You will have to learn them and apply.

[00:02:33] Now if you need help with that, you can hit my website www.thefallibleman.com and book your free discovery call. It doesn't cost anything. I would love to go deeper in this with you if this is something that you're interested with, because this is one of my specialties who is faint heart. Okay, this is not a quick answer.

[00:02:52] This is not a quick, easy fix. I don't sell shortcuts because they don't. But once you learn these skills, you can apply them to anyone and to any relationship, you will become a relationship king because it's gonna make a huge difference. I promise this works for anyone. So the first thing you need to know is it starts with yourself.

[00:03:19] As much as I love to say it's not that complicated. No, it really. You cannot have a healthy relationship with anyone until you build a healthy relationship with yourself. And this is where a lot of people get tripped up. It's an impossibility. You'll be used, abused, stepped on, rolled over, manipulated, and used as a doormat as long as you have an unhealthy relationship with.

[00:03:44] Which does not let you have healthy relationships with other people. It just you. You can feel it on somebody when they don't love themselves and have a good relationship with themselves. Number two, and I'm gonna make a lot of people matter with this one, which I love. You have to gender your thought process.

[00:04:03] Now I know that someone's gonna be pissed. I just don't care. Facts are facts. There is always an exception to any role, but for the most, Men and women think incredibly differently. It's not a better or worse or anything stupid like that. It's just a matter of the way our brains process things. It's entirely different.

[00:04:27] It's just, it's just how we wired and it's okay. You know what, if we were wired the DA same, it would stink. But this is why there are books like Men Are From Mars, women are from Venus, and all that other crap is because the way our brains processes things are very different. And that's okay. Now guys, we're gonna roll to our sponsor real quick.

[00:04:45] We'll be right back with more of eight things to build better relationships. Now, before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys, I don't always tell you how much I love doing my podcast. Like I passionately love what I'm doing and one of the things that makes my life better as a podcaster is to work with a company like Grow Your Show.

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[00:05:29] Adam will take care of you. I guarantee it. I trust him. He's my friend. He's my business. Colleague and I wouldn't trust anybody else with my show. All right guys, welcome back to this show, eight Insights to Build Powerful Relationships. On this episode of the Falbo Man podcast, we already let off with number one, it starts with yourself, and number two, you gotta gender your thought process because our brains just officially, technically, scientifically, whatever Lee you want, throw onto it, work differently.

[00:05:56] Now, number three, guys, is you need to identify their love language. Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages, to put it in a less scientific, more understandable language and terminology that we would get. There are five basic types of people in the way that they need to feel loved and appreciated, and we all want to feel that way.

[00:06:17] Let's face it, we all want to feel loved and appreciated. I've literally used this information to prove my, improve my work relationships, as well as my personal relationships. Now, I recommend the. Over the science research papers that he distilled down, because that's what Gary did. Gary did a lot of research and he distilled down years of scientific studies into something very digestible.

[00:06:40] I promise you it has been more beneficial in other aspects of my life even than my romantic relationship. Highly encourage that one. Number four, identify their behavioral communication. Right, more research. I know this isn't something you wanted to hear. I told you I was going to give you the keys to build powerful relationships.

[00:07:00] You gotta learn all this information, and I know it seems insurmountable, but really we can help you through it. Identify their behavioral communication style now. This came out of something called Disc Theory. Dr. William Marson took some groundwork that Dr. Carl Young, the father of Mar father of modern psychology, did and created a layout of behavioral communication styles, simplifying this process.

[00:07:26] It w it's really comes down to this. It has to do with how the personality types help dictate communication preferences for people. It is called. This theory is something we talked about more in season three with Jim Fuller in an episode called Communication System Never Suffer Communica Miscommunication.

[00:07:46] Again, I highly recommend you go back. Jim wrote one of the best books on communication I've ever read, and you'll get a lot out of that content as well. Number five, identify their personality type. There are four dominant personality types. Most people are a mix of. There are many different studies that have used many different names, many different descriptors, but really they all say the same thing.

[00:08:15] Just some of 'em are a little more user friendly than others. For some of us who didn't go to college for six to 10 years, and that's fine, you don't have to, but it all bases down on this, whatever you want to call them. There are four dominant personality types, and understanding someone's personality will help you have a better relationship with.

[00:08:36] Number six is one of the hardest ones. It is practice Gracie Grace and Humility. Gracie, I'm not sure where that came from. Practice Grace and Humility. One of the hardest things is to do exactly this, to have healthy relationships require grace and humility towards yourself and towards the person you want to connect.

[00:08:59] No one is perfect. We all need more grace in our lives. I know I need grace extended to me every day by everybody around me because I am far from perfect. But be humble and make the effort. Be willing to be vulnerable. Vulnerable, to not be the boss, to not be the talk dog. Do not have, say the last word.

[00:09:20] Practice some, some humility and extend a lot of grace, and that will go a long way in healthier relationships. Number seven is great. More space. One of the biggest problems these days is the lack of space in anyone's individual lives. You have a limited amount of time during the day and we tend to overfill it like not.

[00:09:41] When I say we, I'm using the royal. We guys some got the, got the quotes up there, air quotes. Woo. Royal, we, we as a people like to overfill our schedule to an extraordinary. Like anything worth doing. A healthy relationship takes time and it takes space in your life. It may mean prioritizing, it may mean auditing your life and removing some clutter or less important things.

[00:10:08] But if you're going to have a healthy relationship with somebody, that's going to take time and space, and you gotta have room for it because if you don't, it will become very obvious. Obvious to them. They just it. It won't be possible. I promise you. People require time and space to connect with you. The last one is to get intentional.

[00:10:31] Good relationships are never accidental. They can start as an accident. You can bump into somebody. I've actually made a few relationships where I kind of just happen upon somebody. We crossed paths is something, and like we were forced into each other's lives by accident. And it just, the collision was great because it turned into an incredible relationship, but it didn't get that way by accident, meaning that was an accident, but it never stays an accident.

[00:11:01] If you want it to be a healthy relationship. Good relationships don't happen by accident. They require effort and intentionality on your part. Are there never going to be a good relationship? Now, these eight skills are core to building any great relationship. Even if you don't realize you're doing some of these things already in your healthy relationships, you actually are.

[00:11:22] You might not have put a fancy name on it. That's okay. Not all of us are that fancy, but some of it comes instinctively. There are just some things you're doing automatically because you want that relationship. These are skills that can be learned, they can be grown, and they can be improved. And I hope these eight insights to build powerful relationships will help you on your journey.

[00:11:44] If you need help with it, if you wanna go deeper, you can hit my website www and sign up for a free discovery call. This is one of my specialties as a coach and I love to help people because relationships truly are life guys, and they're everywhere you're gonna be. If that's something that's interesting, you please reach out.

[00:12:07] I love to work with people at building and improving relationships. Now it is Friday guys, and I love to shout out one of our listeners. And today I wanna shout out O two O T B L one. I love you guys and your fake names on Apple Podcast. It just cracks me up. But this is a listener. Shout out for O T B L one on Apple Podcast.

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