The 2% Solution: Dai Manuel on Embracing Change and Self-Worth

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Whether you like it or not, and
whether you believe it or not, I'm

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just going to tell you, whatever
change you feel is important for

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you to make, you're worth it.

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You're worth it.

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Don't let anybody tell you otherwise, you
know, you were born into this life and

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you are entitled to live a great life.

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You are just by being here.

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We're all entitled to
that and good to great.

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You know, anybody can be good,
but greatness takes work.

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You're worth the effort.

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You can achieve it.

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It's going to be uncomfortable,
but believe me, when you get to

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the other side of that, man, you're
going to be so happy about yourself.

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But more than that, you're going to
realize that any change in the future

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is that much more possible for you.

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You're worth it.

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Make the change.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach our
full potential growing to the men

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we dream of being while taking
care of our responsibilities?

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Working, being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big question.

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In this podcast, we'll help you
answer those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man Podcast.

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My name is Brent today.

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My special guest is author, coach,
TEDx speaker, podcaster, and more

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importantly, my friend, Di Manuel.

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Di, welcome back to the
fallible man podcast.

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Oh man, I've always loved being back.

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It's nice to be back.

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It's nice to just to be here.

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I was looking, it was like season
three, I think that you were on.

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Wow.

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So it's been a, it's been
a minute, been a minute.

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Your, your introduction is getting longer.

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Cause you just stay in that whole
ambitious streak and keep adding things.

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Oh, I just, I was going to say, just
say it's that dude from Vancouver.

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That works for me.

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I, we, uh, we've made a
few changes to the show.

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How's your trivia?

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Sorry.

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How's your trivia?

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Trivia.

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Uh, I don't know.

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Let's find out.

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All right.

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We, here's the show question guys.

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What tropical thunder character was
based on a combination of Russell Crowe,

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Daniel Day Lewis and Colin Farrell?

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Is it Tug Speedman, Kirk Lazarus,
Les Grossman, or Al Pacino?

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What?

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Say that again?

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Was this a question?

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What character from the movie
Tropical Thunder was based on

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a combination of Russell Crowe,
Daniel Day Lewis, and Colin Farrell?

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Was it Tug Speedman, Kirk Lazarus,
Les Grossman, or Al Pacino?

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Number one.

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Number one?

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Alright, guys.

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Write your question answer down.

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Remember it.

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Don't cheat.

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Don't jump ahead.

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If you're driving, for goodness
sake, please don't write and drive.

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That's a bad idea.

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We'll come back to that.

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Now die.

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One thing that hasn't changed.

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I'm not huge introduction.

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So today in this moment, who is diamond?

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Well, Yeah, I think the last few
months have been figuring that out.

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It's been an interesting time as I've
had some pretty cool projects that

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I've been a part of this past year.

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Uh, 2023 has been just an interesting
year, as I've said no to certain

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things that were working really
well in my business to lean

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into some new opportunities.

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And of course, there's always a little
bit of risk when you align with startups.

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So, uh, Uh, it's still moving in the right
direction, but it hasn't quite realized

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to the place where I expected it to be
after a year involved with it, but it's

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still moving forward, which is exciting.

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So that's been a big change this
year, but the last few months

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I've reconnected with just sort
of my own purpose and meaning and.

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The things that I really get a
lot of fulfillment from, and, and

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I'm back to doing a lot of that.

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And, uh, with that, you know, I'm
now a podcaster as, as you mentioned

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in the intro, you know, I launched a
podcast, uh, geez, I guess it's going

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on almost five and a half weeks now.

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Five weeks.

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And it's been so much fun.

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And, um, but outside of
that, I'm still a dad.

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I'm still dating my wife of, of 23 years.

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And, and, uh, still love just
supporting people with change, you

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know, um, especially on the personal.

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Mental, emotional, spiritual, as well
as physical, uh, side of things, uh,

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because, hey, we're, we're holistic
beings and all those parts matter.

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They all make up who we are.

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And so, yeah, that's who I am right now.

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What's your favorite childhood memory?

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Uh, you know, there's a, there's a number
of them, but I gotta say, I really, I

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enjoyed doing long road trips with my dad.

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My dad loved to drive, and I
remember that he took my brother

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and I on a big summer trip, and we
went down to, um, Mammoth Caves.

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I forget the state that it's in,
but it was just this amazing cave

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system, and we got to go down there
and do a little Splunkin a bunch of

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these tours through these different
caves, and I just remember being a

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kid and just absolutely loving that.

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You know, and, and just these long
trips with my dad on the road.

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And, uh, and then equally with my
mom when she took my brother and I

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to, uh, Disney World down in Florida.

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And it was the 15th anniversary
at, at Disney World, uh,

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just to sort of date myself.

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I think I was like 10 or 11 at the
time, so I think that was 1986 or 85.

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And, uh, in Epcot Center, I just
freaking, uh, I'm a big sci fi

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fan, so Epcot Center was my jam.

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And, uh, we had just such a wonderful
time and, and we drove down, we

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lived outside of Toronto, so it was
that nice long drive straight down

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to Florida, along the East Coast.

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And, uh, it was just a,
it was a really fun time.

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So you'll notice that most of
the time it's around road trips.

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It's probably why my family and I tend
to do a lot of road trips, especially

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we had five years of it, you know?

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So, um, yeah, those are some
of my favorite memories.

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Now, now, full disclosure, guys,
Dai is a friend of mine, like I

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said, so I actually avoided, for
the trivia question, comic books and

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sci fi, because I knew you had that.

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Sure, so many of the
stuff I'm not sure on.

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But it's been so long since I've
seen Tropical Thunderman, it's

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been years, years and years, but,
uh, I gotta rewatch that one now.

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I'm usually trying to, like, guessing
what won't line up with my, but

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that one I had a little heads up on.

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So, Dai, if you could eat one meal for
the rest of your life, what would it be?

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Well, I love steak yams
with a big honkin salad.

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And I actually, and I do
that at least once a week.

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You know, I don't eat a ton of red
meat, but I do have, try to eat a

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little bit of red meat once a week.

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And when I do, you know, it's a good six
to eight ounces of steak and some yams.

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And then on top of that, I just, I
love these big honking, honking salads

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with as many colors of the rainbows
I can put in there veggie wise.

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And for me, I just, man, I could, I
honestly, I could do that every day.

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Every day.

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No problem.

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It's my favorite stuff.

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I get a bit of everything and I feel
so good afterwards, like satiated

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but not over full and I think that's
the key, you know, is learning

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what foods do we best thrive on.

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And that's what intuitive eating
is all about as well, right?

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Is really getting in tune with the energy
and the energy that's fostered in us.

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And because, you know, if you need to take
a nap an hour after you've eaten, there's

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a little bit of room for improvement.

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Okay, that's all I got to say.

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Now, the holiday silly season is upon us.

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So what is your favorite holiday movie?

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And what does that say about you?

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Oh, gosh, elf a hundred percent.

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And for those that know,
I was even at that.

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Coaching this morning, right?

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Um, so I still coach crossfit.

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I just love it.

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I love being part of the community
I love coaching people in crossfit.

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It's just it's my jam.

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I enjoy i've been a personal trainer for
30 years So it's just that extension of

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community support And uh this morning,
you know, i'm like, I love lifting

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lifting's my favorite, you know, like I
love smiling smiling It's my favorite.

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Yeah.

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Anyways, I just I love l because
I love that that playfulness That

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can be maintained as an adult.

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Cause I know that's in all of us, right?

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That inner child.

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And I think Will Ferrell
just does it so naturally.

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Cause you just feel like
he is just a big kid.

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You see him on social,
you see him on movies.

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He always plays that sort
of quirky adult boy, right?

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And, uh, or man boy.

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And, uh, Elf is just such a
wonderful movie and, and Jon Favreau,

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just to be honest, is one of my
favorite writers, favorite writers.

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He's also a huge sci fi guy.

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If you guys aren't aware, he
wrote Mandalorian as well.

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And, uh, just an amazingly talented
writer and a good actor at that.

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So he's happy in a lot of the
Marvel movies, the Avenger movies.

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I don't know if people remember
it happened, but, um, anyways,

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I, I dork out right now.

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So, uh, yeah, that's, that would be it.

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Fair enough.

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Like I actually introduced
that concept to my daughters.

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I see, we watched enough Jon Favreau
movies because he's done some great

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work, great director and a writer.

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And so like, I, I like to tie
these things together for my

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daughters when we're watching stuff.

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Great.

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Like when we watched the
jump live action jungle book.

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Oh yeah.

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Like happy directed this.

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Yeah.

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Like, wait, what?

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You know, I almost die happy.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Like, you know, mind blown.

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So talented.

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So talented.

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But the way that he wrote the Mandalorian
too, it's just like, Oh my gosh, because

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he's a huge comic book guy, right?

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Like he just loves all the
Star Wars lore as well.

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And I just, I'm waiting for him to
write like a Star Trek because I think

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Star Trek needs a really good reboot.

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And I think he could do it.

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You know, I really do.

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What is your best playground insult?

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Um, probably that my daughter
can do more pull ups than you.

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That's going to be accurate
for a lot of people.

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I have a feeling.

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It's very true for my daughter,
especially like my daughter.

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I remember her at age four, she would
come to the gym with us every Sunday.

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And, uh, I, she'd like, I'd have
to lift her up to reach the pull up

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bar because you couldn't reach it.

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Right.

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It's like seven feet in there.

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Um, and she just whip off pull
ups like they were nothing.

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Like she'd do 10, 11, 12,
like they were nothing.

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And, uh, yeah, so it was,
it was always entertaining.

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Cause you know, people would
come in and they'd be like.

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Huh?

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Yeah, perfect form.

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Just one, two.

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And she's smiling the whole time, right?

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So yeah, that'd be my, my, my
favorite playground insult for sure.

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What purchase of a hundred dollars or
less have you made in the last year that's

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had the biggest impact on your life?

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You know, I think if I'm really
thinking about it, like I was going

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to think maybe it was something tech
wise, but most of the tech stuff's

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a bit more than a hundred bucks.

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Um, cause I was going to say, I
upgraded my mic and it's been really

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good so far, but, uh, that was
a bit more than a hundred bucks.

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Um, it's probably gotta be
like, you know what I did, I, I

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upgraded, I bought a new roller.

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Uh, like, uh, uh, there's a brand called
travel ruler, which I really love.

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And, uh, they're about 50,
60 bucks, just awesome.

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And, but they're great because
they fit in the size of, you know,

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a little backpack that can fit
in your suitcase really nicely.

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It's, uh, you can put a couple of
like lacrosse balls in it as well.

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It seals up nicely, but, uh, I love it.

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I got a big roller because I believe
in mobility and working through trigger

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points and all that good stuff, but
it's one of my favorite products.

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And, uh, I.

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Highly endorse and recommend it
for anybody and everybody that's

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got some physical ailments that
need to work through well Pick

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yourself up a travel roller.

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I was going to say, mine
does not nicely fit.

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I just have a full size phone.

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Oh yeah, you get the big one.

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To travel though, like you
see, I always travel with one.

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Like even when we were traveling around
the world, I had my roller with me.

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The whole time.

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You know, so I just had to upgrade though.

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I needed a new one because my other
one got so worn out after literally

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eight, nine years of using it.

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It's just, it was getting pretty yucky.

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Chrissy wasn't even going
to touch it anymore.

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So I thought I'd better
buy a new one, you know?

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If I sat down at your dinner table
with you and Chrissy and the girls,

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what story would they tell on you?

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Well You know, there's that, there's
sort of the drinking version of Di, and

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then the sober version of Di, right?

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And, and they really only
know the sober version.

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But I know Christy would have a
lot of good stories to tease me and

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make fun of me, based on some of
the ways I made a fool of myself.

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Uh when I would drink too much,
uh, there's a reason why i've been

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sober for 15 years You know, but
I I think yeah I think what would

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the kids really laugh latch on to?

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There's a lot of those little moments,
but that's a really good question I'd

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love to ask my kids because I know that
they'd have a lot of ways to give me

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some pretty good jabs Probably, you know,
it's me more so than trying to teach

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me tiktok dances Doesn't go very well.

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Let's just say that.

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I feel like I need to start a tiktok
channel where it's just literally dad

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moves and it will be just not very good.

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Like it's just, I, and I
don't have coordination.

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What was that one that used to be a really
big one to do like the side to side?

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I don't know.

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Like it's, you're asking, we were
living in Bali at the time and my kids

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are trying to teach me how to floss.

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And I am.

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Like, I think I'm fairly coordinated.

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I'm a pretty fit dude, pretty
athletic, but I could not get

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it to save the life of me.

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You know, and here they are
all just nailing it perfectly.

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And I look like this awkward
sort of big sort of lug.

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And, uh, yeah, that, that was pretty good.

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So they, they know I don't
really have much rhythm.

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I think that could be like a very.

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Successful collaboration is daughters
trying to teach dads, tick tock dances.

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Yeah, well, I'll tell you, they, they
could definitely do it, but, uh, I, I

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need to be able to follow up and I think
it would be just not very positive.

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I think there are a lot of dads
who can contribute to that.

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I could just be a universal channel.

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Definitely.

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What's one random fact, totally random
fact people don't know about you.

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Which is hard when you're
a very public figure.

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Yeah, you know, it's still amazing
that a lot of people aren't aware

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that I have an autoimmune condition.

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You know, and it's chronic.

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It's like, um, um, or autoimmune disease.

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I guess it depends on
how you want to frame it.

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They figure I've had it most of
my life, but, uh, it really became

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prominent over a decade ago when I was
hospitalized for almost a week and a half.

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Where my body was systemically shutting
down because I, I got this infection.

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And my body doesn't have any neutrophils,
so it's an autoimmune neutropenia.

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And, and Because a lot of people see
how healthy I am and the way I live

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my life and just Yeah, like most
people with and I have a very very

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aggressive form of this like to the
point that the doctors the hematologists

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Like they're rather perplexed.

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You know, they often refer to me as
the enigma because based on where

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my blood levels are, my neutrophil
counts are, which are almost zero.

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So those that are into the medical
field or health and you understand

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how this works, neutrophils are
produced by your bone marrow.

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I have very healthy bone marrow produces
it, but my body kills it off a little

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bit faster than I can produce it.

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So it leaves me at sort of this net
zero level, which leaves me susceptible

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to viral and bacterial infections.

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Long and short of it, lifestyle choices
allow me to stay in a thrive area,

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but I've also had to learn how to, you
know, pull it back a little bit to, to

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ease off on certain things, to spend
a little bit extra time doing recovery

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and, and nourishing the rest side of
my life, you know, to, to keep stress

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at bay, to keep inflammation down
and, uh, and that really helps, but

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sometimes, and you've, you know, this
brand I've had to reschedule with you

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on some of our calls before in the past.

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You know, and because I'll
get a simple cold or a flu.

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And if it's a viral thing, my body is
not very good at defending me against it.

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And, you know, most people bounce
back in a couple of days, I'm down

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for a week, sometimes 10 days, like,
and it doesn't happen that often

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because I'm again, very health minded.

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And I want to stay in the Thrive Zone,
but man, when it hits me, it hits me.

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And so there's still a number of
people that aren't aware of that.

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But it's interesting, as of late,
I got an inquiry from the UK.

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Someone stumbled upon a blog post
I wrote, like, nine years ago.

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And I guess there's very little
information about this condition,

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especially over in the UK.

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There's only a couple thousand people
in the entire UK area that have it.

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So, um, they reached out to me, and
I had this great conversation with

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this lady that's just been diagnosed
with a similar condition, so.

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Anyways, I think maybe I need to
start a Facebook group for it.

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I don't know.

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Hey, there, there's a whole nother
thing to take care of, right?

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Yeah.

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Well, geez, I don't know.

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Another thing.

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Yeah.

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But, uh, but yeah, that's something
that I think some people don't

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know about me other than I'm also
a total nerd and love comic books.

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The comic book king man out there selling
comic books in your free time I was I

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was I uh took them all to the auction
so I could pay for my kid's school.

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So, uh, Yeah, it's I've
kept only about 300.

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So from 8 000 If you were able
to sell them off and pay for

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a good chunk of schooling for
the girls That's that's huge.

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So yeah, I was able to pay for some
of the schooling I didn't realize

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how much schooling is now versus when
I went to university It's like Holy

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smokes, but fortunately one of my
daughters, you know, she's she's Uh,

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just landed, I don't know, about 14
grand in scholarships and bursaries.

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And so she's good.

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And then my other daughter, well,
it's, uh, she's, she's working on it.

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You know, that's good.

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She's having fun doing great, but,
uh, we'll see where schooling goes.

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You know, it's, uh, I think it's
important, but also at the same time, I'm

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like, take a gap year, take some time off.

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You know, like you don't
need to rush into school.

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You just finished like 13
years straight of school.

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Why don't you take a little break,
you know, because, uh, they've

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grown up in an ambitious household.

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Yeah.

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But.

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I really want to nurture that
entrepreneurial side of them, you

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know, and, uh, fortunately they're,
they're, they're really wise to that

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cause they've grown up with mom and
dad always having a side hustle,

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but also just always doing stuff.

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So they're definitely big on the
activity side, but now it's just a

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matter of figuring out, well, where
do they want to make some money that

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also allows them to make an impact.

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And, uh, and that's what they're
trying to figure out right now.

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You know, what's something that
everyone should know about you

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before we dig into today, you
know, that, um, I have a TEDx talk.

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And a lot of people are like, Oh, you
must talk about health, fitness, right?

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Maybe some mindset stuff.

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And I'm like, well, sort of, I actually
talk about vulnerability in men.

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And then people are always like, Oh, you
know, they're always really surprised

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when they hear about the subject matter
of what I spoke about in my TEDx.

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But, uh, just full disclosure, being a
guy, you know, a man that identifies as a

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man and Caucasian man at that, and which,
you know, is a whole nother heap of stuff,

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um, vulnerability was not something that
was modeled or mentored to me growing up.

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It just wasn't really.

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Um, and so I was just doing what all
the other guys were doing, and, uh,

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I do associate a lot of my struggles
in my twenties, my early thirties,

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especially around alcohol consumption
and drug use and just not really

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doing the right thing when I deep
down knew what the right thing was.

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And I think it was because of this
lack of ability to ask for help, but

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also ability to say no, you know?

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And, uh, so that that talk really
dives into that pinnacle moment in

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my life where everything changed.

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And vulnerability became a
skill that I started to embrace.

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Now I'm not saying it's easy.

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I'm not saying I'm trying to be
vulnerable, simple, uh, but it's

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a skill like any other skill.

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And I consciously and intentionally
started to want to dive into how to be

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more vulnerable, be more authentic, be
more transparent, be more connected, you

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know, with people, especially my kids, my
wife, my closest friends, you know, even,

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even business relationships, you know?

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So, um, yeah.

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That's, that's what I like to share.

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See guys, he talks
about all the feels too.

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I'm not the only one.

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I know, Brett.

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I know.

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When we first met, I totally,
I was like, Oh my gosh, we're

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brothers from different mothers.

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You know, quite literally.

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Also being a father of girls,
you know, I mean, we got a

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lot of the same thing going.

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Other than, you know, my hair only
grows on top, doesn't grow down here.

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Yours grows down here.

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You know, we mix and match that way.

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It's perfect.

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00:20:15,670 --> 00:20:16,020
Right?

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Together we're like almost a full person.

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I know.

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Guys, we've been getting to
know Dai just a little bit, uh,

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who he is and what he's about.

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In the next part of the show, we're
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00:21:21,850 --> 00:21:26,340
Colleague, and I wouldn't trust
anybody else with my show guys.

460
00:21:26,340 --> 00:21:27,629
Welcome back in the
first part of the show.

461
00:21:27,649 --> 00:21:30,290
We were spending some time just
getting to know who Diamondwell is

462
00:21:30,300 --> 00:21:33,399
and what he's all about and having
some fun in this part of the show.

463
00:21:33,399 --> 00:21:40,540
We're going to dive into change in just
a minute, but that we're having some fun.

464
00:21:41,319 --> 00:21:43,729
Let's let's kind of set
the ground for this.

465
00:21:43,739 --> 00:21:45,329
Cause we talked about changing hair.

466
00:21:45,969 --> 00:21:46,109
Yeah.

467
00:21:46,620 --> 00:21:48,470
Tell us the story of Die, Manuel.

468
00:21:49,590 --> 00:21:50,759
Give us a little background.

469
00:21:52,050 --> 00:21:53,070
I'll give you the quick scan.

470
00:21:54,239 --> 00:21:55,989
Change, in me, we go way back.

471
00:21:57,219 --> 00:21:58,769
Not always in a positive way, though.

472
00:21:58,889 --> 00:22:02,119
Because most of us, you know, our
relationship with change, it's not like

473
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,779
we wake up in the morning thinking,
Hmm, you know what I feel like today?

474
00:22:05,635 --> 00:22:06,645
I feel like I want to change something.

475
00:22:07,284 --> 00:22:09,665
Like, we just, we're rather change averse.

476
00:22:09,794 --> 00:22:13,074
Even though it's in our DNA, this
thing called resiliency, and allows us

477
00:22:13,105 --> 00:22:18,314
to adapt and evolve, especially under
times of extreme stress and duress.

478
00:22:18,585 --> 00:22:21,284
Um, that's when we really
have to pull through, right?

479
00:22:21,284 --> 00:22:24,034
We have to draw on certain skills that
maybe we're not even aware that we have.

480
00:22:25,135 --> 00:22:28,435
But most of us, we are
built to navigate change.

481
00:22:28,705 --> 00:22:29,285
To some level.

482
00:22:29,810 --> 00:22:30,790
And at least adapt to it.

483
00:22:32,020 --> 00:22:34,710
I was really slow to
come to that realization.

484
00:22:36,050 --> 00:22:38,729
And, you know, starting off,
you know, at age nine, I

485
00:22:38,729 --> 00:22:40,130
remember my parents separating.

486
00:22:40,139 --> 00:22:44,169
That was a massive change, you know, for
me as a kid, when the world was perfect

487
00:22:44,170 --> 00:22:46,750
at that time, no issues, no worries.

488
00:22:46,990 --> 00:22:50,880
And then to have boom, the bomb drop that
parents are separating, ultimately going

489
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:52,420
to divorce within a couple of years.

490
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:57,309
And, you know, I'm dating myself,
but this is back in like 1984, 85.

491
00:22:57,310 --> 00:22:59,210
We didn't have an
internet like we do today.

492
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:03,769
I didn't have endless amounts of resources
to go and learn about what does this

493
00:23:03,770 --> 00:23:08,025
mean, because also there was a heavy
stigmatization around Divorce back then.

494
00:23:08,025 --> 00:23:11,605
I mean, there's only one other kid in my
entire class of 30 kids that didn't have

495
00:23:11,605 --> 00:23:15,865
their original parents together still,
so It's not like we had this network or

496
00:23:15,865 --> 00:23:17,475
community to support us through that.

497
00:23:17,854 --> 00:23:20,915
My parents did their best They could but
they were both working full time and so

498
00:23:21,394 --> 00:23:26,345
it sort of propelled me in this next place
where I was seeking not only validation

499
00:23:26,445 --> 00:23:34,345
and connection and wanting to feel more
in control and I found that in food and

500
00:23:34,345 --> 00:23:38,665
video games and movie watching, you know,
so I watched a lot of movies, played

501
00:23:38,665 --> 00:23:43,045
a lot of video games and ate a lot of,
well, let's just say calories that would

502
00:23:43,055 --> 00:23:45,135
not fall on the side of being nutritious.

503
00:23:45,964 --> 00:23:48,495
And sometimes you refer to
these as empty calories.

504
00:23:49,025 --> 00:23:53,195
And that was my go to, really
carby, really sweet, really salty.

505
00:23:53,195 --> 00:23:54,615
I mean, you name it, I was eating it.

506
00:23:55,045 --> 00:23:58,825
And, uh, after about five years, by the
time I got to 14, almost 15 years old,

507
00:23:58,825 --> 00:24:01,105
I was classified as morbidly obese.

508
00:24:01,685 --> 00:24:05,035
Again, big, big change that
happened gradually over time.

509
00:24:05,045 --> 00:24:06,085
And that's the thing with change.

510
00:24:06,315 --> 00:24:07,555
Sometimes it happens immediately.

511
00:24:07,745 --> 00:24:11,935
Sometimes it just happens like compound
effect just takes time to get there.

512
00:24:13,235 --> 00:24:15,734
Sure enough, I leaned into
wanting to make some changes.

513
00:24:15,734 --> 00:24:17,855
I got to a place and we'll get
into all the story right now.

514
00:24:17,855 --> 00:24:20,845
And I actually think Brent on our
last conversation, I talked a bit

515
00:24:20,845 --> 00:24:25,855
about that, uh, that time as a kid
and, um, I made some big changes.

516
00:24:26,530 --> 00:24:29,150
Took me five years to put all the
weight on, took me about 20 months to

517
00:24:29,150 --> 00:24:32,540
take it all off and, and discover a
new lifestyle and a new way of being.

518
00:24:33,190 --> 00:24:37,060
But sure enough, you know, as much as
I got healthy by 17, 18 years old, I'd

519
00:24:37,060 --> 00:24:42,170
worked on the exterior, did no internal
work and was still feeling like the

520
00:24:42,170 --> 00:24:47,769
morbidly obese that I was, even though
I had changed this perception from other

521
00:24:47,769 --> 00:24:49,280
people, but that's how I felt inside.

522
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:52,810
Cause I didn't do anything to change
my own self reflection and self.

523
00:24:53,135 --> 00:24:55,615
Identification and just
really that introspective

524
00:24:55,615 --> 00:24:57,435
version of me, like, who am I?

525
00:24:57,875 --> 00:25:01,645
Well, I believed I was still the
fat kid that nobody wants to know,

526
00:25:01,944 --> 00:25:07,144
nobody wants to love, and really
ostracized myself a lot of times

527
00:25:07,694 --> 00:25:10,134
until I discovered alcohol at age 18.

528
00:25:11,565 --> 00:25:16,595
And then alcohol allowed me this
vehicle to be somebody different.

529
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,700
Who I believed other people
preferred that person versus

530
00:25:19,700 --> 00:25:21,000
the one I was when I was sober.

531
00:25:21,650 --> 00:25:24,300
Because again, when I was sober, I
felt like the obese fat kid that didn't

532
00:25:24,300 --> 00:25:27,870
want to do anything and wanted to avoid
people because I was always worried and

533
00:25:27,870 --> 00:25:28,920
concerned that people were judging me.

534
00:25:29,769 --> 00:25:31,990
Amazing what goes on in
the mind of people, huh?

535
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:33,909
I'm sure people can relate to this.

536
00:25:34,179 --> 00:25:37,609
That inner voice can sometimes
be the loudest and, you know,

537
00:25:37,669 --> 00:25:39,349
meanest critic in our own lives.

538
00:25:39,429 --> 00:25:39,949
Possible.

539
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:46,705
And, uh, So then fast forward, you know,
another 13, 14 years and alcohol became

540
00:25:46,705 --> 00:25:51,454
a huge part of my life was building
a company, you know, with a business

541
00:25:51,454 --> 00:25:54,395
partner and a great team of people were
building up to eight figures a year.

542
00:25:54,824 --> 00:25:56,674
I mean, it was scaling fast.

543
00:25:56,674 --> 00:26:00,144
It was a lot of fun, but on the flip
side, I was also living this double life

544
00:26:00,605 --> 00:26:02,985
and always struggling with this question.

545
00:26:02,985 --> 00:26:04,415
Like, I want to be a great man.

546
00:26:04,415 --> 00:26:11,385
I believe I'm a great man, but there was
a huge disparity between what I believed

547
00:26:11,385 --> 00:26:12,975
and how I was showing up consistently.

548
00:26:13,670 --> 00:26:17,690
Which created a lot of these negative
inner feelings, which I realized,

549
00:26:17,690 --> 00:26:18,980
well, if I drink, I don't really.

550
00:26:19,345 --> 00:26:21,505
Remember those or I can ignore those.

551
00:26:21,505 --> 00:26:22,335
I can focus on something else.

552
00:26:22,345 --> 00:26:26,325
So you can see how this, this sort
of dichotomy started to take over.

553
00:26:26,325 --> 00:26:30,154
And, uh, and then my wife asked me a
question one day while we were discussing

554
00:26:30,154 --> 00:26:33,575
what it'd be like to co parent our kids
and separate and divorce ultimately, which

555
00:26:34,125 --> 00:26:37,975
triggered me because then all of a sudden
I'm flashing back to 1985, not like back

556
00:26:37,975 --> 00:26:41,085
to the future style of flashback, but
actually reflecting on my own life, my

557
00:26:41,085 --> 00:26:43,785
parents separating and sitting us down
on the couch that day to tell my brother

558
00:26:43,785 --> 00:26:46,885
and I, and all of a sudden it was just
like, Oh my gosh, this is not what I want.

559
00:26:48,290 --> 00:26:51,160
I don't want history to repeat itself
because I love my wife, she loves me,

560
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,730
I love my kids, I love her family.

561
00:26:55,190 --> 00:26:57,930
And, along came another change.

562
00:26:58,090 --> 00:27:01,010
And for those that want to know that whole
story, the TEDx talk, I dive into that.

563
00:27:01,450 --> 00:27:04,540
And then, you know, fast forward,
I get two more years after that,

564
00:27:04,820 --> 00:27:08,089
Brent, I'm freaking, you find out I
got this autoimmune condition, right?

565
00:27:08,110 --> 00:27:10,019
And it's just like, whoo!

566
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,360
So at the very least, everybody should
recognize, yeah, I've gone through a

567
00:27:13,360 --> 00:27:15,700
lot of changes, but I know every single
person that's listening and watching this,

568
00:27:15,700 --> 00:27:16,900
you've gone through a lot of changes too.

569
00:27:17,769 --> 00:27:20,570
And that's why we all have the
ability to change and adapt.

570
00:27:20,999 --> 00:27:24,979
And we often are okay when we get to
the other side of that change, but

571
00:27:24,979 --> 00:27:29,020
sometimes when we're going through
it, we don't realize that, you know,

572
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,230
and, uh, and it can be really hard.

573
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:32,080
It is hard.

574
00:27:32,110 --> 00:27:33,070
I mean, who are we kidding?

575
00:27:33,540 --> 00:27:36,480
Otherwise, we'd all sign up
for change every day, all day.

576
00:27:37,229 --> 00:27:40,489
Um, so yeah, that's, that's a little
bit of the five minute overview of

577
00:27:40,490 --> 00:27:41,649
all the different types of changes.

578
00:27:41,649 --> 00:27:43,419
Some of the biggest
milestone changes in my life.

579
00:27:45,155 --> 00:27:49,915
And I, we, we both know that change is
honestly the only constant in life, right?

580
00:27:50,235 --> 00:27:53,775
We're always in some
sort of state of change.

581
00:27:53,835 --> 00:27:54,305
Correct.

582
00:27:54,465 --> 00:27:57,314
Personally, the world around
us, like nothing stays the same.

583
00:27:59,554 --> 00:28:03,334
But as, as humans, we're
terrified of change and we have

584
00:28:03,344 --> 00:28:05,605
varying levels of that, right?

585
00:28:05,824 --> 00:28:06,835
We have varying comfort levels.

586
00:28:06,835 --> 00:28:10,995
We got people like me who I eat
the same thing at every restaurant.

587
00:28:11,045 --> 00:28:13,865
Like my wife can tell you what I'm
eating based on where we're going

588
00:28:13,975 --> 00:28:17,695
because I find what I like and
that's what I order at a restaurant.

589
00:28:18,014 --> 00:28:18,304
Love it.

590
00:28:18,344 --> 00:28:18,675
Right.

591
00:28:18,985 --> 00:28:20,554
I don't like to change that up.

592
00:28:20,584 --> 00:28:21,875
I don't like to try new restaurants.

593
00:28:22,125 --> 00:28:25,245
I, my, my wife is the adventuresome
one and she wants to try new places and

594
00:28:25,264 --> 00:28:27,425
go do things and I'm like, I'm good.

595
00:28:27,884 --> 00:28:30,364
Like personality differences.

596
00:28:30,364 --> 00:28:30,744
Right.

597
00:28:31,154 --> 00:28:34,864
And then we have people who only
get uncomfortable around really big,

598
00:28:35,075 --> 00:28:38,215
impactful changes or things they'll
see as impactful to their life.

599
00:28:39,155 --> 00:28:40,955
What is it in us?

600
00:28:41,419 --> 00:28:44,760
That's so uncomfortable with this
concept of change, do you think?

601
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,500
Well, because it is
hard for the most part.

602
00:28:48,510 --> 00:28:50,860
I mean, it involves us doing
something very different than

603
00:28:50,860 --> 00:28:51,830
what we were doing before.

604
00:28:52,479 --> 00:28:57,830
And anytime that involves learning,
it also involves making mistakes.

605
00:28:58,230 --> 00:29:01,940
Because we will make mistakes,
uh, and there's certain underlying

606
00:29:01,940 --> 00:29:04,760
beliefs that I think also limit
us from leaning in to change, even

607
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:06,210
though we know it's true, right?

608
00:29:06,220 --> 00:29:09,010
Like Buddha, like 2, 600 years
ago, he's like, hey, everybody,

609
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:10,810
you know this universe of ours?

610
00:29:11,169 --> 00:29:12,000
It's impermanent.

611
00:29:12,649 --> 00:29:12,860
Huh?

612
00:29:12,870 --> 00:29:13,800
What do you mean by that, Buddha?

613
00:29:13,830 --> 00:29:15,719
Well, I mean, nothing stays as it is.

614
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,460
In fact, everything's constantly changing.

615
00:29:18,039 --> 00:29:21,100
Now, in the last hundred years,
science has caught up to Buddha

616
00:29:21,100 --> 00:29:24,035
and said, Whoa, Buddha was right.

617
00:29:24,805 --> 00:29:26,295
Everything is mainly space.

618
00:29:26,305 --> 00:29:28,275
We have this law of entropy.

619
00:29:28,545 --> 00:29:33,325
Things are constantly changing and energy
is floating between things, you know?

620
00:29:33,325 --> 00:29:38,204
And so it's really interesting, but we do
recognize that, yeah, change is a given.

621
00:29:38,584 --> 00:29:39,884
It's absolutely guaranteed.

622
00:29:39,895 --> 00:29:40,615
It doesn't matter.

623
00:29:41,895 --> 00:29:45,115
Every moment I take an inhale of
air, something's changing inside me.

624
00:29:45,615 --> 00:29:45,935
Right?

625
00:29:45,975 --> 00:29:48,755
Like it just is, biologically
speaking, chemically speaking.

626
00:29:49,445 --> 00:29:51,925
And so change is happening continuously.

627
00:29:52,895 --> 00:29:57,135
But our intentional ability
to lean into change, that is

628
00:29:57,135 --> 00:29:58,545
a mindset, that is a choice.

629
00:29:59,575 --> 00:30:02,285
And it's consciously saying, you
know what, here's an area in my

630
00:30:02,285 --> 00:30:04,465
life that I know is holding me back.

631
00:30:05,345 --> 00:30:11,305
I know it's, it's affecting me mentally,
emotionally, spiritually, physically.

632
00:30:12,215 --> 00:30:15,145
And I know if I could change this
one thing, I think a lot of other

633
00:30:15,145 --> 00:30:16,895
things would change as well.

634
00:30:17,635 --> 00:30:20,805
And this is why I love fitness as
an example, because fitness is an

635
00:30:20,805 --> 00:30:22,655
activity that changes our health.

636
00:30:23,630 --> 00:30:24,600
Very quickly.

637
00:30:25,500 --> 00:30:27,410
It's not like you got to go to
the gym once and you're fit.

638
00:30:27,410 --> 00:30:28,080
I get that.

639
00:30:28,390 --> 00:30:31,110
But if we continuously move our
body a little bit every day and

640
00:30:31,110 --> 00:30:34,320
we're doing more than we did before
we decided to consciously make the

641
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,960
change to get healthier, you'd be
surprised how quickly the body adapts.

642
00:30:38,700 --> 00:30:41,320
Because, quite frankly, the body wants it.

643
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:42,940
It wants it.

644
00:30:42,950 --> 00:30:43,730
It wants to move.

645
00:30:43,740 --> 00:30:44,690
That's what our bodies are built.

646
00:30:44,810 --> 00:30:46,250
Otherwise, we'd be born with no legs.

647
00:30:46,310 --> 00:30:51,900
Okay, we got legs Okay, like we we
have the ability to be mobile right

648
00:30:51,940 --> 00:30:58,360
to amble to walk and so um Change is
interesting, but you know I'm gonna

649
00:30:58,360 --> 00:30:59,820
nerd out just for a second, right?

650
00:30:59,820 --> 00:31:01,590
And then I'd love to hear your
thoughts on this because I think you

651
00:31:01,590 --> 00:31:04,530
probably remember from the keynote
last year Uh, I did at your event.

652
00:31:05,140 --> 00:31:11,605
I I shared a gif of of movie scene From
Indiana Jones, and it's Raiders of the

653
00:31:11,605 --> 00:31:14,595
Lost Ark, and the first five minutes
of the movie is just classic, right?

654
00:31:14,595 --> 00:31:16,695
You see Indiana Jones working
his way through this tunnel.

655
00:31:17,795 --> 00:31:21,665
And he eventually gets to this idol, this
golden idol, and he gets the golden idol.

656
00:31:21,665 --> 00:31:24,125
And now he's got to escape because
all these booby traps are going off.

657
00:31:24,645 --> 00:31:28,205
But just before he's making his final
stretch to that cave entrance, this

658
00:31:28,215 --> 00:31:32,525
boulder that's like 10 times his size
starts to barrel down behind him.

659
00:31:32,525 --> 00:31:35,525
And he's holding on to this
gold idol with his life, right?

660
00:31:35,525 --> 00:31:38,385
And he's like, running, running,
running, trying to outrun this massive

661
00:31:38,395 --> 00:31:39,705
boulder that's just behind him.

662
00:31:40,895 --> 00:31:43,125
And then he gets out of
the cave and, all right.

663
00:31:43,490 --> 00:31:46,800
Ends up losing the idol to
Bellock, his archenemesis.

664
00:31:47,050 --> 00:31:52,090
Um, but regardless, this scene is
the metaphor for all of us and how we

665
00:31:52,090 --> 00:31:53,580
experience change most of the time.

666
00:31:54,790 --> 00:31:57,450
The change that we're trying
to avoid, or feel like we're

667
00:31:57,450 --> 00:31:58,800
trying to avoid, is the boulder.

668
00:31:59,285 --> 00:32:01,325
And we're afraid we're
afraid of the change.

669
00:32:01,345 --> 00:32:02,565
So let's run, run, run.

670
00:32:02,785 --> 00:32:05,885
And especially if we've worked so hard
to attain certain something in our

671
00:32:05,885 --> 00:32:09,945
lives, that goal that we've been working
towards, because here's the crazy part,

672
00:32:10,375 --> 00:32:12,465
whatever goal you achieve, it's great.

673
00:32:12,465 --> 00:32:13,605
You've achieved it right now.

674
00:32:13,685 --> 00:32:14,185
Awesome.

675
00:32:15,220 --> 00:32:20,780
Tomorrow, tomorrow's a new day,
you're not going to have that anymore.

676
00:32:20,790 --> 00:32:21,490
You already did it.

677
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:22,000
It's done.

678
00:32:22,050 --> 00:32:22,480
It's gone.

679
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:23,330
It's in the past now.

680
00:32:23,330 --> 00:32:24,070
Now moving forward.

681
00:32:24,100 --> 00:32:27,470
So what's you know, and so
we have to accept that these

682
00:32:27,470 --> 00:32:28,660
moments are constantly changing.

683
00:32:28,660 --> 00:32:30,180
Time is moving forward.

684
00:32:30,190 --> 00:32:33,480
It's not stopping and
we can't stop with time.

685
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,500
It's going to keep moving
whether you like it or not.

686
00:32:37,050 --> 00:32:40,370
And so learning how to have this more
comfortable relationship with change

687
00:32:40,370 --> 00:32:41,880
and not be so intimidated by it.

688
00:32:42,465 --> 00:32:45,685
Really involves doing a lot of reflection
and looking at our own lives and some

689
00:32:45,685 --> 00:32:48,395
of the traumatic changes that maybe
we've found ourselves navigating.

690
00:32:48,775 --> 00:32:51,845
And I will put forward that probably
a lot of those changes weren't

691
00:32:51,845 --> 00:32:52,925
ones that you signed up for.

692
00:32:53,745 --> 00:32:56,125
Did I sign up for my parents to
separate and divorce at age nine?

693
00:32:56,135 --> 00:32:56,875
No, of course I didn't.

694
00:32:57,905 --> 00:32:59,275
You know, it was out of my control.

695
00:33:00,375 --> 00:33:05,180
But the way I react and act accordingly
to that, That was in my control.

696
00:33:05,390 --> 00:33:09,250
Unfortunately, I didn't really do it from
a very healthy perspective, which, you

697
00:33:09,250 --> 00:33:13,680
know, I soon learned, you know, there's
lots of different types of changes that

698
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,750
were forced upon and I'm not saying,
you know, traumatic events are positive.

699
00:33:17,890 --> 00:33:18,540
Of course they're not.

700
00:33:18,550 --> 00:33:22,330
That's why we call them trauma,
but we can learn from those.

701
00:33:22,380 --> 00:33:23,260
We can move past them.

702
00:33:23,735 --> 00:33:26,865
But, and there's also wonderful people
out there and professionals that can help

703
00:33:26,865 --> 00:33:30,915
support us to navigate this, you know, and
I'm a big fan of that in the mental health

704
00:33:30,915 --> 00:33:34,075
space, you know, I had a psychologist
I worked with, I had a relationships

705
00:33:34,075 --> 00:33:37,935
counselor, therapist, like, over the last
20 years, I've invested in that stuff.

706
00:33:38,075 --> 00:33:38,515
Why?

707
00:33:39,295 --> 00:33:43,605
Because I wanted to change and I wanted
to do it well, you know, because I was

708
00:33:43,605 --> 00:33:47,335
tired of me trying to always do certain
changes and realizing I'm moving two steps

709
00:33:47,335 --> 00:33:50,905
forward, one step back, it felt like the
change was never happening fast enough.

710
00:33:50,905 --> 00:33:55,585
Transcribed Because I kept
basically sabotaging myself.

711
00:33:56,445 --> 00:33:59,725
And, uh, and that's why I'm a big
proponent for people working with

712
00:33:59,725 --> 00:34:04,225
coaches, with mentors, with people
that can help you navigate the change.

713
00:34:05,275 --> 00:34:08,695
Because you'll find that you get there
on the other side, and it's really nice

714
00:34:08,745 --> 00:34:12,475
because You've made a lot of microchanges
along the way, which sometimes

715
00:34:12,475 --> 00:34:13,625
you're not even aware are happening.

716
00:34:14,575 --> 00:34:16,445
But that's what a good
coach or mentor can do.

717
00:34:16,485 --> 00:34:17,795
They just guide us along.

718
00:34:18,365 --> 00:34:21,365
And uh, anyways, so yeah,
that's a little bit of that.

719
00:34:21,365 --> 00:34:22,215
What are your thoughts on that?

720
00:34:22,255 --> 00:34:25,165
You know, like what's, you know,
Brent, what's your biggest change

721
00:34:25,165 --> 00:34:26,035
that you've had to navigate?

722
00:34:26,035 --> 00:34:28,335
And I'm just curious, how do
you, based on what I just shared,

723
00:34:29,465 --> 00:34:30,575
how could you reframe that?

724
00:34:31,495 --> 00:34:34,065
Or perspectively, maybe there's some big
changes that you've gone through where

725
00:34:34,065 --> 00:34:37,625
you're like, oh boy, I don't even want to
remember that time, you know, but when you

726
00:34:37,625 --> 00:34:41,845
sort of start to reframe it and you try to
draw upon who you are as a result of that

727
00:34:41,845 --> 00:34:48,015
event happening, it's pretty empowering,
you know, because we can reframe past

728
00:34:48,045 --> 00:34:52,035
traumatic events to learn from them,
but also to recognize it's helped us

729
00:34:52,035 --> 00:34:53,625
develop the character of who we are today.

730
00:34:58,805 --> 00:34:59,165
Hmm.

731
00:34:59,605 --> 00:35:00,415
Leave, leave it to you.

732
00:35:00,415 --> 00:35:01,285
Throw me on the spot.

733
00:35:01,665 --> 00:35:02,505
I know, I know.

734
00:35:03,975 --> 00:35:06,435
. I feel like I've been on a pulpit
now for the last 10 minutes, so I was

735
00:35:06,435 --> 00:35:07,875
like, no, I gotta hear Brent talk Now.

736
00:35:07,875 --> 00:35:08,955
I'm got, I'm gonna take a step back.

737
00:35:10,185 --> 00:35:10,725
. I'm the host.

738
00:35:10,725 --> 00:35:12,195
I'm supposed to ask
questions, not the other way.

739
00:35:12,195 --> 00:35:12,765
Come on now.

740
00:35:12,945 --> 00:35:17,355
Uh, . Um, honestly, like the biggest
change was the start of the fallible

741
00:35:17,355 --> 00:35:22,605
man in, in recent history because I
had this come to Jesus moment where

742
00:35:22,605 --> 00:35:24,585
I had the Donna realization that.

743
00:35:26,020 --> 00:35:26,960
It was thrown in my face.

744
00:35:26,980 --> 00:35:28,380
I knew nothing about financial.

745
00:35:28,770 --> 00:35:31,560
Uh, I like financial acumen.

746
00:35:32,020 --> 00:35:33,390
Uh, I think that's the right word.

747
00:35:33,470 --> 00:35:37,700
I, my, my financial education
was just lacking so drastically.

748
00:35:39,130 --> 00:35:43,190
And so I spent a year
just educating myself.

749
00:35:43,745 --> 00:35:47,685
About money, how it works, how it
actually moves in the real world,

750
00:35:47,785 --> 00:35:52,085
different types of all these things I
never known about this world of money.

751
00:35:53,385 --> 00:35:57,225
And I got to the end of that.

752
00:35:57,235 --> 00:35:58,085
It's like, okay, right.

753
00:35:58,085 --> 00:36:00,165
And I, and I started doing my own
investing and stuff like that.

754
00:36:00,165 --> 00:36:04,185
And that was going really well, but
it was in that moment that I went.

755
00:36:05,195 --> 00:36:12,045
If I can do this, if I can teach myself
this, what have I been denying myself?

756
00:36:13,135 --> 00:36:15,095
What, what else can I teach myself?

757
00:36:15,095 --> 00:36:16,675
Where else can I go?

758
00:36:17,195 --> 00:36:19,315
If I can learn this thing,
I did not know at all.

759
00:36:19,325 --> 00:36:21,055
What else can I grow with?

760
00:36:22,335 --> 00:36:24,675
And that was when the outlook
on change started happening.

761
00:36:24,685 --> 00:36:26,205
That's where the fallible
man really happened.

762
00:36:27,295 --> 00:36:31,015
Uh, the whole, the whole movement
was I started my journey.

763
00:36:31,115 --> 00:36:31,735
It started with.

764
00:36:32,135 --> 00:36:36,785
Recognizing this disparity and
it terrified me like finding

765
00:36:36,785 --> 00:36:40,255
out I had no idea how, how money
actually works in the real world.

766
00:36:41,035 --> 00:36:43,445
Like, you know, I, I was
just the typical person.

767
00:36:43,445 --> 00:36:47,495
I went to work and I did my job and
I had a 401k that I didn't understand

768
00:36:47,495 --> 00:36:53,345
anything about and they deposited my
checks and right time for money, right?

769
00:36:53,485 --> 00:36:54,425
Cracking in those.

770
00:36:54,765 --> 00:36:56,895
60 hours, 70 hour weeks.

771
00:36:57,525 --> 00:37:01,665
And like, it was completely terrifying.

772
00:37:01,685 --> 00:37:05,045
It's like, I'm, I'm like a
monkey with a football, man.

773
00:37:05,045 --> 00:37:08,025
I, I got no idea about anything financial.

774
00:37:08,025 --> 00:37:09,545
I've never learned anything about money.

775
00:37:09,975 --> 00:37:11,375
No one ever taught me this.

776
00:37:11,975 --> 00:37:16,765
And it terrified me because like how I
knew in that moment, it's like, I don't

777
00:37:16,765 --> 00:37:18,425
have the money to retire at this rate.

778
00:37:18,425 --> 00:37:19,485
I will never retire.

779
00:37:19,485 --> 00:37:21,465
I will never be able to
walk away from working.

780
00:37:22,525 --> 00:37:26,045
Uh, there is no end to this
job thing for me at this way.

781
00:37:27,345 --> 00:37:33,145
And so that fear kind of forced
me into, I need to learn this.

782
00:37:34,465 --> 00:37:39,215
And then that forced me into realization
of, if I can learn this, if I can teach

783
00:37:39,215 --> 00:37:42,505
myself this, what more can I learn?

784
00:37:42,665 --> 00:37:43,515
How far can I go?

785
00:37:43,855 --> 00:37:44,865
What more can I do?

786
00:37:45,255 --> 00:37:45,745
Yes.

787
00:37:45,815 --> 00:37:49,905
And that's really launched this catalyst
for The Fallible Man and then started

788
00:37:49,905 --> 00:37:51,565
to take, it was such an epiphany.

789
00:37:51,565 --> 00:37:52,835
I want to take other people with me.

790
00:37:53,535 --> 00:37:55,185
Oh, Derek, I love that.

791
00:37:55,245 --> 00:37:56,265
I love that so much.

792
00:37:56,775 --> 00:38:01,945
And I, I had always been resistant
to change, but it's like, If I

793
00:38:01,945 --> 00:38:06,935
can, I can take change by the reins
and just go, I can learn this.

794
00:38:06,935 --> 00:38:07,815
I can do this.

795
00:38:07,815 --> 00:38:10,845
I can absolutely drive this
train where I want it to go.

796
00:38:13,205 --> 00:38:14,175
And so that was just.

797
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,510
I love that because, you know, when it
comes down to change and it sounds like

798
00:38:19,510 --> 00:38:22,950
you sort of work through these natural
questions, which I, I sometimes share, you

799
00:38:22,950 --> 00:38:28,090
know, these, these questions around change
and, uh, and I bet you, like, if I just

800
00:38:28,090 --> 00:38:32,900
share these three questions with you, you,
you will probably see that you naturally

801
00:38:32,950 --> 00:38:38,710
answered those questions for yourself in
intuitively based on the intention that

802
00:38:38,710 --> 00:38:40,580
you wanted to set to change something.

803
00:38:40,845 --> 00:38:42,515
You know, like when we recognize
there's something that we

804
00:38:42,515 --> 00:38:43,465
want to change, that's great.

805
00:38:43,475 --> 00:38:44,075
That's step one.

806
00:38:44,085 --> 00:38:46,495
At least we have the awareness that
there's something that we want to change,

807
00:38:46,965 --> 00:38:50,025
but then we got to get clarity so we can
have confidence to actually take the right

808
00:38:50,025 --> 00:38:51,665
action and keep making the right action.

809
00:38:52,375 --> 00:38:58,265
And you know, the, the first question
being, you know, can I do this?

810
00:38:58,585 --> 00:39:01,265
Like, can I actually do
the change that I want?

811
00:39:01,295 --> 00:39:03,645
And then, you know, once you get
clear on that, then it's question

812
00:39:03,675 --> 00:39:06,225
two is like, well, if I do it,
was it actually going to work?

813
00:39:07,415 --> 00:39:10,950
You know, like, But a lot of us have
certain experience where we've not

814
00:39:11,140 --> 00:39:15,430
positively or I should say successfully
navigated change and we feel like,

815
00:39:15,430 --> 00:39:16,830
you know, like, Oh, I'm a failure.

816
00:39:16,830 --> 00:39:17,930
I can't do this.

817
00:39:17,930 --> 00:39:22,460
And that limited, um, closed way
of thinking can really start to

818
00:39:22,500 --> 00:39:24,020
affect other areas in our life.

819
00:39:24,070 --> 00:39:27,990
And so that lack of confidence is a
big one for people not to even ever

820
00:39:27,990 --> 00:39:31,140
want to make a change, you know,
or being too intimidated by it.

821
00:39:31,140 --> 00:39:34,380
So first, can I do this, you know,
and if I do it, will it work?

822
00:39:34,380 --> 00:39:37,110
And then the last question, once
you got those two figured out.

823
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:43,090
Is is it worth it, you know, is it worth
all the effort or more importantly if

824
00:39:43,090 --> 00:39:46,560
it's personal and it's for ourselves
It's like look in the mirror and say to

825
00:39:46,740 --> 00:39:50,445
myself like Hey, am I worth the change?

826
00:39:50,475 --> 00:39:51,975
You know, and I got the mirror right here.

827
00:39:51,975 --> 00:39:54,015
So I'm looking at it like,
am I worth the change?

828
00:39:54,015 --> 00:39:58,175
You know, and that question
is not easy to answer.

829
00:39:59,125 --> 00:39:59,515
I'll tell you.

830
00:39:59,515 --> 00:40:06,675
As a, as a morbidly obese teenager, barely
15 years old, I honestly didn't feel of

831
00:40:06,675 --> 00:40:12,055
value because I didn't feel like people
valued me, liked me, and and myself.

832
00:40:12,055 --> 00:40:12,895
I didn't like me.

833
00:40:13,575 --> 00:40:15,555
And so to think like,
am I worth this change?

834
00:40:15,705 --> 00:40:17,145
Am I even worth getting healthy?

835
00:40:17,145 --> 00:40:17,146
But.

836
00:40:18,450 --> 00:40:21,280
I knew that I wanted to make the changes
and fortunately for me, there was

837
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:25,340
other people that believed I was worth
it that encouraged me and supported

838
00:40:25,340 --> 00:40:29,400
me and was there to, to offer that
support, even if, you know, without

839
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:33,890
me even asking for it, because I had
already made the commitment to myself.

840
00:40:33,890 --> 00:40:36,630
I want to make the change, but I
didn't really feel like I was worth it.

841
00:40:37,810 --> 00:40:39,970
And, you know, even after I
made the change, I still didn't

842
00:40:39,970 --> 00:40:41,050
quite feel like I was worth it.

843
00:40:41,060 --> 00:40:42,570
So, you know, there's
a lot to unpack there.

844
00:40:42,570 --> 00:40:45,020
And that's why I spent a lot of
time on the question three, because.

845
00:40:45,470 --> 00:40:47,120
It's not the easiest one to answer.

846
00:40:47,490 --> 00:40:50,540
And what I invite people to consider
if you find yourself challenged by

847
00:40:50,550 --> 00:40:53,030
that number three, if you find it
triggering or it's just like you feel

848
00:40:53,310 --> 00:40:54,840
inauthentic saying that about yourself.

849
00:40:55,570 --> 00:40:58,890
Recognize there's people in your life that
would answer hell yes, you're worth it.

850
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:03,800
There's communities out there that will
be like hell yes, you're worth the change.

851
00:41:05,780 --> 00:41:07,950
Find and align with those individuals.

852
00:41:08,410 --> 00:41:10,040
Belong to that community.

853
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,360
You know, because those are people
that have already probably started to

854
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,160
navigate that same change that you wanted.

855
00:41:15,780 --> 00:41:18,280
And they probably felt similar
to how you're feeling right now.

856
00:41:18,900 --> 00:41:21,450
And trust me, you get around people
like that, they'll empathize with you.

857
00:41:21,500 --> 00:41:25,570
They'll understand you and they'll be
able to support you as you start off

858
00:41:25,570 --> 00:41:26,870
on that journey of change as well.

859
00:41:27,750 --> 00:41:31,830
And really those is this, that's as simple
as I can break down change as far as that.

860
00:41:32,140 --> 00:41:37,030
Internal mechanism for starting to gain
the clarity and confidence you need to

861
00:41:37,030 --> 00:41:41,240
fully realize and lean into what you
need to do, because it actually comes

862
00:41:41,240 --> 00:41:43,970
down to doing something like Brent,
what you said, it's like, yeah, you can

863
00:41:43,970 --> 00:41:49,430
recognize that you've got this area, just
recognizing it doesn't make it better.

864
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:54,350
You know, it's like you go to a doctor
and the doctor's like, Hey, man, Oh,

865
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:55,700
geez, you got high blood pressure.

866
00:41:56,240 --> 00:41:56,580
Great.

867
00:41:56,610 --> 00:41:57,290
Thanks for telling me.

868
00:41:58,930 --> 00:41:59,850
Now what, right?

869
00:41:59,850 --> 00:42:01,870
Like, do you want to do something
about the high blood pressure?

870
00:42:01,870 --> 00:42:06,600
Like, like, there involves an action
afterwards to make the change.

871
00:42:06,610 --> 00:42:07,860
It doesn't happen by itself.

872
00:42:07,890 --> 00:42:08,990
Well, I guess some changes do.

873
00:42:09,010 --> 00:42:12,710
Because if you don't do anything, you sat
in bed all day, your body would change.

874
00:42:12,830 --> 00:42:13,670
It would deteriorate.

875
00:42:14,430 --> 00:42:14,930
You know?

876
00:42:15,230 --> 00:42:16,790
Because movement is important.

877
00:42:17,330 --> 00:42:19,760
Eating certain types of foods
are important, etc, etc.

878
00:42:19,770 --> 00:42:20,570
Anyways, I digress.

879
00:42:20,580 --> 00:42:24,220
But that's, that's sort of my
mini framework I like to suggest

880
00:42:24,220 --> 00:42:27,480
and offer people when they
start to want to make a change.

881
00:42:28,675 --> 00:42:29,385
It's interesting.

882
00:42:29,415 --> 00:42:35,155
I like that third question because this
is one that's been a struggle for me.

883
00:42:36,205 --> 00:42:36,655
Right.

884
00:42:37,205 --> 00:42:41,195
And, uh, so some of you guys
listening, you may not know.

885
00:42:41,845 --> 00:42:45,535
Dye is actually my business
coach besides being my friend.

886
00:42:45,595 --> 00:42:47,455
We, we have great conversations.

887
00:42:47,455 --> 00:42:51,275
Dye helps keep me on point and has
asked me some of these hard questions.

888
00:42:51,295 --> 00:42:53,835
I was not willing to ask myself.

889
00:42:54,415 --> 00:42:56,495
Uh, it actually made me laugh
as you were talking about it.

890
00:42:56,495 --> 00:43:01,085
Cause I had a guest a while back,
Luke Rossimo, and we were having a

891
00:43:01,115 --> 00:43:02,855
conversation after we finished recording.

892
00:43:03,710 --> 00:43:08,150
And he's like, you know, Berlin,
let me ask you a question, right?

893
00:43:08,150 --> 00:43:10,910
You keep hitting, you say, you
keep hitting this roadblock.

894
00:43:13,020 --> 00:43:15,540
Do you, he said, I don't
want you to answer.

895
00:43:15,540 --> 00:43:16,410
I want you to think about it.

896
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:22,950
Do you feel like you deserve that success?

897
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,180
He's like, I know the
knee jerk reaction is go.

898
00:43:28,180 --> 00:43:29,060
Of course I do.

899
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:31,450
He's like, but I want you to
actually sit with that one.

900
00:43:31,710 --> 00:43:38,220
For a few minutes, because, and I've had
a post it note on my desk for probably

901
00:43:38,220 --> 00:43:43,700
the last five months on the bottom of
my computer screen with that question on

902
00:43:43,700 --> 00:43:53,200
it, because I have lost sleep over that
question because I know consciously what

903
00:43:53,200 --> 00:44:03,610
I want in a lot of the ways I didn't think
I struggled with that self esteem issue.

904
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,630
I, I mean, I'm, I'm
usually my biggest fan.

905
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:06,120
I like me.

906
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:07,050
I think I'm pretty great.

907
00:44:07,430 --> 00:44:10,150
Everybody else may not, but I
think I'm pretty great, right?

908
00:44:10,150 --> 00:44:15,370
I'm, I'm my biggest fan usually,
but the amount of hours I spent

909
00:44:15,390 --> 00:44:21,110
staring at that note, I think a lot
of men struggle with this, right?

910
00:44:21,180 --> 00:44:23,700
We feel like we show
up for everybody else.

911
00:44:24,410 --> 00:44:28,000
We show up for the people we love or we
try to our, whether that's our partners,

912
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:32,110
our spouses, our kids, our friends,
we try and show up for everybody else.

913
00:44:33,545 --> 00:44:40,555
But when it comes time to show up for
us, a lot of times, whether we want to

914
00:44:40,555 --> 00:44:45,125
say it out loud or can even say it out
loud, because I've actually like looked

915
00:44:45,125 --> 00:44:49,775
at this with other people I know now,
and I have a friend and I feel like

916
00:44:49,775 --> 00:44:54,955
he's in that same boat where he doesn't
show up for himself the way he could.

917
00:44:56,105 --> 00:45:00,125
I don't think he believes he's worth
the effort to put into anybody else.

918
00:45:01,035 --> 00:45:03,255
And I didn't think that was
something I struggle with, but I

919
00:45:03,255 --> 00:45:06,425
think a lot of us men, when we get.

920
00:45:06,750 --> 00:45:07,750
Honest and vulnerable.

921
00:45:07,750 --> 00:45:12,680
As you were talking about earlier with
ourselves, don't feel like we deserve

922
00:45:12,690 --> 00:45:16,170
that kind of effort into ourselves.

923
00:45:17,410 --> 00:45:20,230
I think that's one of the reasons
we're, we're hard with change for us.

924
00:45:20,230 --> 00:45:24,980
We're we, we can deal with change for
other things, but changing for us,

925
00:45:24,980 --> 00:45:28,709
showing up for us to do those changes
that really move the needle in our lives.

926
00:45:29,140 --> 00:45:32,950
It's a lot of a struggle with
feeling like we're worth the effort.

927
00:45:35,290 --> 00:45:36,770
It's interesting that
you say that, Brenton.

928
00:45:36,770 --> 00:45:39,250
I think you're spot on
in many different ways.

929
00:45:39,250 --> 00:45:44,980
And so I remember when I was facilitating
Mentorship Monday meetings, so Mentorship

930
00:45:45,410 --> 00:45:50,790
Mondays, uh, in Bali and, um, you know,
we get a couple dozen guys showing

931
00:45:50,790 --> 00:45:53,830
up every Monday night and we'd sit
around this big table and, you know,

932
00:45:53,830 --> 00:45:58,140
we'd have food and then we'd open up
conversation with one simple question

933
00:45:58,140 --> 00:45:59,940
and like, what's alive and real for you?

934
00:46:00,005 --> 00:46:06,065
And instinctively, and intuitively,
a lot of men, once they go to the

935
00:46:06,065 --> 00:46:10,845
negative and the hard stuff, I'm going
to talk about all the challenges that

936
00:46:10,845 --> 00:46:12,045
I've got going on in my life right now.

937
00:46:12,045 --> 00:46:13,475
I'm going to talk about this and that.

938
00:46:13,515 --> 00:46:15,405
And so, and I mean, and it was great.

939
00:46:15,415 --> 00:46:16,315
That's what the space was there.

940
00:46:16,315 --> 00:46:19,445
It was there for us to practice being
more vulnerable and for opening up

941
00:46:19,445 --> 00:46:20,765
with what are we struggling with?

942
00:46:20,765 --> 00:46:22,965
Because as soon as you do that,
there's like three guys on the

943
00:46:22,965 --> 00:46:25,105
other side of the table, all putting
up their hands like, Oh my gosh.

944
00:46:25,670 --> 00:46:27,000
I'm dealing with that too.

945
00:46:27,620 --> 00:46:30,890
I didn't, and you know, then the other
guys are looking like, wait, you too?

946
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,790
And it's like, whoa, man, a bunch of
people are struggling with the same thing

947
00:46:34,790 --> 00:46:38,330
I'm struggling with, and here I thought I
was all alone in what I was dealing with.

948
00:46:39,370 --> 00:46:42,830
That's number one, but here's number
two, and this is where getting really

949
00:46:42,830 --> 00:46:48,240
to the point of what you just made, you
know, when I was creating the space,

950
00:46:48,410 --> 00:46:52,370
it wasn't just to talk about the hard
stuff, it was also to create a space

951
00:46:52,370 --> 00:46:55,330
where we could talk about the great
stuff that's going right for ourselves

952
00:46:56,020 --> 00:47:00,200
to celebrate those big milestones
that we've achieved, those goals that

953
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,670
we've set our sights on, those changes
that we've already initiated to make.

954
00:47:04,010 --> 00:47:05,680
And all of a sudden
we're seeing them happen.

955
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:07,940
Let's talk about that too.

956
00:47:09,310 --> 00:47:10,260
A lot of guys.

957
00:47:10,610 --> 00:47:13,540
They're more comfortable when they start
getting vulnerable to talk about the hard

958
00:47:13,540 --> 00:47:14,970
stuff than to talk about the good stuff.

959
00:47:15,900 --> 00:47:18,470
Because they're worried that the
other guys across the table, and this

960
00:47:18,470 --> 00:47:21,970
is our own internal belief systems
getting in the way, and maybe it's

961
00:47:21,970 --> 00:47:26,170
more based on North America type
of mindset, I don't know exactly.

962
00:47:26,240 --> 00:47:30,880
I'd have to do some deeper dives into
this, but we feel like we're bragging.

963
00:47:31,420 --> 00:47:32,180
We're showboating.

964
00:47:32,990 --> 00:47:35,800
You know, like how quickly we just say,
Oh, that guy's just talking about himself.

965
00:47:35,810 --> 00:47:37,370
You know, what a narcissist.

966
00:47:38,190 --> 00:47:43,580
So we have these sort of stigmatized
reactions to people that talk about all

967
00:47:43,580 --> 00:47:44,740
sorts of good things that are going.

968
00:47:45,270 --> 00:47:46,640
And I thought, that's a big problem.

969
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:52,330
If I can't celebrate the big milestone
moments that my good friends are

970
00:47:52,370 --> 00:47:55,880
achieving, and I can't feel good for
them authentically for achieving that?

971
00:47:56,230 --> 00:48:00,850
There's something not right in me,
you know, and that's how I see myself

972
00:48:01,430 --> 00:48:02,650
because I want to celebrate that.

973
00:48:03,250 --> 00:48:05,460
And if it was triggering me to
hear about other people doing good

974
00:48:05,460 --> 00:48:08,470
things, I have to ask myself, why
am I feeling so triggered by that?

975
00:48:09,980 --> 00:48:10,770
Is that jealousy?

976
00:48:10,770 --> 00:48:11,540
Is that envy?

977
00:48:11,540 --> 00:48:12,200
Like, what is that?

978
00:48:12,340 --> 00:48:13,880
Why do I have that emotion right now?

979
00:48:14,950 --> 00:48:18,620
And again, this internal idea,
and as you said too, is being

980
00:48:18,620 --> 00:48:19,729
vulnerable with yourself.

981
00:48:20,790 --> 00:48:24,310
And, uh, and so I, those are just a couple
observations I noticed after, you know,

982
00:48:24,310 --> 00:48:28,360
facilitating those groups for almost two
years, you know, like it was amazing to

983
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:33,180
see this and it's vulnerability isn't just
about being able to share the hard stuff.

984
00:48:33,180 --> 00:48:36,760
It's also being able to talk about
the good stuff in an authentic,

985
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:41,300
transparent, but also a more connected
way, you know, anyways, uh, that was

986
00:48:41,300 --> 00:48:45,680
just a couple of thoughts that came up
when you shared what you shared guys.

987
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:47,890
We've been, we've been
discussing chain and.

988
00:48:49,170 --> 00:48:52,470
We've been discussing change at a
very personal level, uh, understanding

989
00:48:52,470 --> 00:48:55,580
how it affects us emotionally,
mentally, how we feel about it.

990
00:48:56,260 --> 00:48:59,870
Uh, and, and I, I kind of teach you
guys earlier when I said that, you

991
00:48:59,870 --> 00:49:01,320
know, Dai does all the fills too.

992
00:49:02,700 --> 00:49:05,500
Sorry to sucker punch you, but
we're, we're talking all the fills

993
00:49:05,500 --> 00:49:09,340
today, because one of the important
things we're trying to get to is

994
00:49:10,210 --> 00:49:14,270
building a positive mindset towards
change and how we interact with it.

995
00:49:14,790 --> 00:49:17,630
And to do that, we're going to
have to dig a little deeper.

996
00:49:17,845 --> 00:49:21,435
Then some of us want to, and the next
part of the show, we're going to start

997
00:49:21,535 --> 00:49:26,225
diving into how to build that mindset,
that positive mindset, where we look at

998
00:49:26,225 --> 00:49:32,985
change and go, wow, what an opportunity,
what a chance instead of, Oh God.

999
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1018
00:50:22,830 --> 00:50:27,610
We've been discussing change in a, in a
very honest way, because let's face it.

1019
00:50:28,015 --> 00:50:31,715
Most of us are really uncomfortable with
the idea and the more real and impactful

1020
00:50:31,715 --> 00:50:37,075
that changes the more Uncomfortable
tends to become for a lot of us in this

1021
00:50:37,085 --> 00:50:41,165
segment of the show I really want to tap
into Dai's strengths here because Dai

1022
00:50:41,165 --> 00:50:45,225
is great at setting a positive mindset
about stuff It's one of the things that

1023
00:50:45,235 --> 00:50:49,555
he works with me on And it's one of the
things that I have benefited from just

1024
00:50:49,575 --> 00:50:56,820
in our relationship as friends is Dai
has this great outlook And so I've really

1025
00:50:56,820 --> 00:51:01,170
asked him to kind of tap into that today
as we go to the show of helping us build

1026
00:51:01,170 --> 00:51:08,180
a positive mindset towards change instead
of having this like just deep seated fear.

1027
00:51:09,410 --> 00:51:13,420
So why is mindset So important.

1028
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:18,960
Well, mindset is both conscious
and subconscious, right?

1029
00:51:18,970 --> 00:51:22,020
Like, I mean, if we're brutally
honest about it, the subconscious is

1030
00:51:22,020 --> 00:51:25,070
sort of that program that's running
in the background all the time.

1031
00:51:25,610 --> 00:51:28,830
I always love how people use that
sort of an analogy or simile, right?

1032
00:51:28,870 --> 00:51:31,530
Like, it's like this little
CPU and it's constantly going.

1033
00:51:32,290 --> 00:51:36,630
And what we don't realize, and maybe
people do realize this, but I mean, this

1034
00:51:36,630 --> 00:51:40,740
is going back 25, 26 years ago when Byrne
came out, was it, what was her name?

1035
00:51:41,430 --> 00:51:43,560
Rhonda Byrne, I think, wrote The Secret.

1036
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,350
And the book The Secret talked
about, really, manifestation.

1037
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:52,920
And what's really interesting is
manifestation, as much as we think,

1038
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:57,120
if I just keep thinking about what
I want, I'm going to get it all.

1039
00:51:57,260 --> 00:52:01,100
I'll just keep asking the universe and the
universe will give me whatever I ask for.

1040
00:52:01,900 --> 00:52:02,960
Sure, yes and no.

1041
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:05,830
Um, I mean, there's
obviously a limitation.

1042
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:08,780
If I just sit here asking, hey
universe, gimme, gimme, gimme.

1043
00:52:09,430 --> 00:52:12,680
I mean, I think I might be waiting
a while for some results, you know.

1044
00:52:13,070 --> 00:52:20,480
Um, subconsciously, there is actually a
term called reticular activation system.

1045
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:21,980
And it's this part of our brain.

1046
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:26,570
Where, when our brain recognizes
there's something that we want,

1047
00:52:26,980 --> 00:52:29,630
like really want, maybe we want
to make a certain type of change.

1048
00:52:29,970 --> 00:52:32,930
Maybe we want a new role,
you know, in our career path.

1049
00:52:32,970 --> 00:52:36,240
Maybe we want to save up a certain
amount of money so we can have

1050
00:52:36,340 --> 00:52:37,990
that summer family vacation.

1051
00:52:39,290 --> 00:52:43,250
Either way, we, we acknowledge that
there's something that we want.

1052
00:52:43,980 --> 00:52:47,810
And reticular activation system is
a little program that runs in our

1053
00:52:47,830 --> 00:52:51,670
subconscious where it will start to
keep an eye out just as we're living

1054
00:52:51,670 --> 00:52:53,470
our life, going by our day by day.

1055
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:58,910
Doing what we do, and it will start
to ping, literally ping us where

1056
00:52:58,910 --> 00:53:01,190
we'll start to recognize that thing.

1057
00:53:01,190 --> 00:53:02,690
And there's a wonderful example of this.

1058
00:53:02,980 --> 00:53:06,620
If you ever think back to the time
when maybe you've been shopping for

1059
00:53:06,620 --> 00:53:09,290
a new vehicle, maybe you're actually
looking for a new vehicle now, or

1060
00:53:09,290 --> 00:53:13,020
thinking about a certain model and
make and color that you want right now.

1061
00:53:13,580 --> 00:53:17,340
Well, as soon as you imply that
intention to yourself, That little

1062
00:53:17,450 --> 00:53:20,830
reticular activation system is all of
a sudden going to start recognizing.

1063
00:53:20,830 --> 00:53:21,280
Oh my goodness.

1064
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:22,110
There's that car again.

1065
00:53:22,540 --> 00:53:26,240
Like let's just say, you know, you want
to hit a certain level in Mary Kay.

1066
00:53:26,240 --> 00:53:29,800
I think they still give away the the pink
Cadillacs or maybe it's the pink Mercedes.

1067
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:30,220
I don't know.

1068
00:53:30,560 --> 00:53:34,900
But you know, there's this pink
Mercedes that you really want and it's

1069
00:53:34,900 --> 00:53:36,819
like all of a sudden it's like wow.

1070
00:53:37,170 --> 00:53:40,520
I see a lot of ladies out there
because you'll start to notice them.

1071
00:53:40,700 --> 00:53:43,720
They'll just pop up and be like, Whoa,
that's, that's, that's what I want.

1072
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,940
And it's really interesting
to see how this happens.

1073
00:53:46,940 --> 00:53:49,240
This little phenomenon called
the reticular activation.

1074
00:53:49,300 --> 00:53:51,360
So this is just one small thing.

1075
00:53:51,370 --> 00:53:57,000
That's part of this mindset, this mental
version or person that is us, right?

1076
00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,050
Like we're mental, physical, emotional.

1077
00:53:59,050 --> 00:54:01,160
We're all that in one bag of chips.

1078
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:01,430
Right.

1079
00:54:01,810 --> 00:54:08,920
And that mental awareness
is so critical because.

1080
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:13,080
It allows us to tap into our intuition
and be more mindful of the intuition.

1081
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:18,260
And then with that intentionally
move forward to do the things

1082
00:54:18,260 --> 00:54:20,800
that we know we ought to do to
make those changes realized.

1083
00:54:21,070 --> 00:54:22,830
And so this is just one way.

1084
00:54:22,830 --> 00:54:27,500
And I wanted to open with this first
Brent, because I think people will

1085
00:54:27,500 --> 00:54:30,120
recognize that they've had this
experience at some point in their lives.

1086
00:54:30,790 --> 00:54:32,700
You know, some seeds been
planted with them and all of a

1087
00:54:32,700 --> 00:54:33,830
sudden they start noticing boom.

1088
00:54:33,910 --> 00:54:36,670
Um, and it might be, you know, a
couple of weeks here and then all of

1089
00:54:36,670 --> 00:54:39,440
a sudden week there and oh, tomorrow
or this morning, I noticed it again.

1090
00:54:40,380 --> 00:54:42,980
I want people to recognize that because
this is just one of the phenomenal

1091
00:54:42,990 --> 00:54:45,290
things that makes up these minds of us.

1092
00:54:45,930 --> 00:54:48,670
There's so many little things going
on and we still don't understand it.

1093
00:54:48,670 --> 00:54:51,640
Look at neuroscience today versus
what neuroscience was 20 years ago.

1094
00:54:51,900 --> 00:54:53,460
It's like a completely different field.

1095
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:55,230
That's how quickly it's advancing.

1096
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,320
But the best part is, everybody,
Neuroscience has proven

1097
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:00,640
that change is possible.

1098
00:55:01,530 --> 00:55:02,640
And when is it possible?

1099
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:03,910
Whenever we choose to it.

1100
00:55:04,790 --> 00:55:09,660
But here's the thing, to maintain
the change, that takes time and

1101
00:55:09,730 --> 00:55:11,850
effort, consistency and frequency.

1102
00:55:13,130 --> 00:55:14,800
So that's why I always joke,
it's like, yeah, you can go to

1103
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,430
the gym once, it doesn't mean
you're going to hit your goal.

1104
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:20,579
And so, it's going to
be a continuous effort.

1105
00:55:20,860 --> 00:55:24,650
But eventually that path, let's say
we're on an unhealthy habits path.

1106
00:55:24,650 --> 00:55:26,270
And then there's this
healthy path it's path.

1107
00:55:26,270 --> 00:55:27,870
And they run parallel to each other.

1108
00:55:28,690 --> 00:55:30,240
This one looks like a little stream.

1109
00:55:30,540 --> 00:55:33,220
This one that's been unhealthy because
it's been 20 years of our life.

1110
00:55:33,220 --> 00:55:36,950
We've been eating what we want, doing what
we want, not paying attention to our body.

1111
00:55:36,950 --> 00:55:38,240
Maybe smoking a pack a day.

1112
00:55:38,470 --> 00:55:39,610
Well, we've got a freaking.

1113
00:55:40,145 --> 00:55:43,585
You know, just a typhoon of
water traveling down that one.

1114
00:55:43,995 --> 00:55:45,625
And all of a sudden we're like,
no, I want to get healthy.

1115
00:55:45,835 --> 00:55:49,615
Well, in our brain, this neural pathway
is now just a little trickling stream.

1116
00:55:50,555 --> 00:55:53,125
But if we keep focusing
on that, it will build.

1117
00:55:53,625 --> 00:55:55,145
We'll keep wearing that track in.

1118
00:55:55,715 --> 00:55:59,995
And the other cool part is, that big
typhoon of a river that's been taken over

1119
00:55:59,995 --> 00:56:02,245
the healthy, it will eventually diminish.

1120
00:56:03,570 --> 00:56:04,720
Is there an exact number of this?

1121
00:56:04,780 --> 00:56:07,260
Some people like to, like
to say that there is.

1122
00:56:07,260 --> 00:56:10,100
You'll hear people say it
takes 21 days to make a change.

1123
00:56:10,540 --> 00:56:14,420
Listen, I, you can literally
type in, in Google, how many days

1124
00:56:14,430 --> 00:56:15,890
does it take to create a habit?

1125
00:56:16,310 --> 00:56:18,440
You're gonna get 101 different answers.

1126
00:56:19,340 --> 00:56:21,360
And I'm gonna tell you,
they're all correct.

1127
00:56:21,810 --> 00:56:22,660
Every single one of them.

1128
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:26,720
For that individual that experienced
that change of that habit, obviously it

1129
00:56:26,740 --> 00:56:28,320
worked for them and maybe that was true.

1130
00:56:29,970 --> 00:56:31,980
Don't worry about how long it takes.

1131
00:56:32,375 --> 00:56:36,055
If it's important to you and the
results that you're aiming for are

1132
00:56:36,165 --> 00:56:40,355
important to you and worth the effort,
it's not like something you're going

1133
00:56:40,355 --> 00:56:42,175
to stop doing once you've achieved it.

1134
00:56:42,790 --> 00:56:44,020
Like, oh, I'm healthy now.

1135
00:56:44,100 --> 00:56:45,900
Well, I guess I don't have to
focus on being healthy anymore.

1136
00:56:46,630 --> 00:56:46,740
What?

1137
00:56:48,260 --> 00:56:50,780
You know, it's not it becomes
part of your lifestyle.

1138
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:55,660
So Those are just a few examples and
obviously we can go down into the weeds.

1139
00:56:55,740 --> 00:57:01,120
Uh brent as you want I I love the
example because all I think all of

1140
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:02,440
us have done that with a car, right?

1141
00:57:02,930 --> 00:57:08,880
I I bought a car A couple of months
ago, uh, we needed a second car

1142
00:57:10,030 --> 00:57:13,430
and I bought, uh, I want to say
it's a Jeep Liberty, I think.

1143
00:57:13,570 --> 00:57:14,070
Oh, cool.

1144
00:57:14,090 --> 00:57:14,680
Nice vehicle.

1145
00:57:14,870 --> 00:57:15,890
And yeah, right.

1146
00:57:15,890 --> 00:57:19,500
I bought a used Jeep Liberty, you
know, it's like 16, 000 miles or

1147
00:57:19,500 --> 00:57:20,410
something, I was really happy.

1148
00:57:20,410 --> 00:57:21,400
That's low for me.

1149
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:26,350
That's really, I generally buy older
cars, but I started seeing them like, I, I

1150
00:57:26,370 --> 00:57:28,460
never noticed the minute I bought it, man.

1151
00:57:28,460 --> 00:57:29,510
I've seen them everywhere.

1152
00:57:29,510 --> 00:57:29,850
Right.

1153
00:57:29,990 --> 00:57:30,730
Cause that's, you're.

1154
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:35,850
I'm incredibly aware of your new, and
then all of a sudden it's like, Oh,

1155
00:57:35,850 --> 00:57:37,700
look, everybody else drives these too.

1156
00:57:39,380 --> 00:57:42,710
I'm driving all over the state
in this thing going, Oh, I've

1157
00:57:42,710 --> 00:57:44,710
never used this car before, right?

1158
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:46,330
Even though this was a model.

1159
00:57:46,730 --> 00:57:47,330
Sure.

1160
00:57:48,070 --> 00:57:48,650
So I love that.

1161
00:57:48,650 --> 00:57:50,190
It's so powerful, man.

1162
00:57:50,300 --> 00:57:51,550
It's so powerful.

1163
00:57:51,940 --> 00:57:56,970
But the problem is, is that we can
also program the subconscious and it

1164
00:57:56,970 --> 00:57:58,480
may not lead us down the best path.

1165
00:57:59,110 --> 00:58:03,540
You know, like there's, and we, we
see this with people that may have

1166
00:58:03,540 --> 00:58:06,390
certain habits that they're completely
oblivious that they're doing.

1167
00:58:07,460 --> 00:58:10,590
I, I see this a lot with my nutrition
clients and, and listen, I've been there.

1168
00:58:10,590 --> 00:58:10,840
Okay.

1169
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,320
I'm not here to point fingers.

1170
00:58:12,330 --> 00:58:17,300
There's no shame or blame, but recognize
unmindful eating the eating that we

1171
00:58:17,300 --> 00:58:21,480
do, the snacking that we do, these
little bits of extra pieces that we put

1172
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:28,410
in our mouth throughout the day, they
add up, you know, and it's incredible.

1173
00:58:28,410 --> 00:58:32,570
Like I, I, I have this one guy and he's
got little kids and he's often responsible

1174
00:58:32,570 --> 00:58:34,610
with making dinner for his family.

1175
00:58:34,980 --> 00:58:39,530
And, uh, You know, he makes his kids
a separate meal, which for one, I

1176
00:58:39,530 --> 00:58:40,800
don't encourage people to do that.

1177
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:43,500
You know, your kids should eat what
you're eating because also it's

1178
00:58:43,500 --> 00:58:45,200
not worth you making two meals.

1179
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:47,040
Like it just what's in the butt.

1180
00:58:47,050 --> 00:58:49,030
My people always like, well, how'd
you get your kids to eat what you eat?

1181
00:58:49,535 --> 00:58:51,225
I go, well, we don't give
them a second option.

1182
00:58:51,895 --> 00:58:54,415
You know, like, you're going to
go hungry if you don't eat this.

1183
00:58:54,465 --> 00:58:58,255
And, um, because kids are finicky
at times, but trust me, if they're

1184
00:58:58,255 --> 00:58:59,055
hungry, they're going to eat.

1185
00:59:00,575 --> 00:59:04,245
My point with this being is that he would
be making, like, chicken nuggets for

1186
00:59:04,245 --> 00:59:07,735
the kids, meanwhile making his wife and
him, like, maybe see a plank sandwich, a

1187
00:59:07,735 --> 00:59:10,494
nice salad, which I'm like, my goodness,
feed that to the whole family, right?

1188
00:59:11,755 --> 00:59:15,905
He'd be snacking, you know, eating kids
chicken nuggets, not even realizing

1189
00:59:15,905 --> 00:59:18,445
they were doing it, or taking an extra
carrot stick and doing an extra dip of,

1190
00:59:18,485 --> 00:59:21,335
of, you know, whatever they were using,
baba ghanoush or something like that.

1191
00:59:21,615 --> 00:59:25,280
Anyways, and so This is
literally, uh, going on, but

1192
00:59:25,290 --> 00:59:27,100
you think this adds up, right?

1193
00:59:27,110 --> 00:59:28,740
A couple extra hundred calories a day.

1194
00:59:28,740 --> 00:59:31,460
Well, trust me, at the end of a
year, that could be, you know, four

1195
00:59:31,460 --> 00:59:34,390
or five, six pounds of extra weight
that we're now carrying because

1196
00:59:34,390 --> 00:59:36,560
of just that unmindful snacking.

1197
00:59:37,920 --> 00:59:40,180
And this is what I mean about
that reticular activation system.

1198
00:59:40,180 --> 00:59:43,550
It's, it's great to really give yourself
intention of things that you want to

1199
00:59:43,550 --> 00:59:47,070
positively change, but also recognize
that there might be some programs running

1200
00:59:47,070 --> 00:59:50,920
in the background that are impeding
how quickly those changes can happen.

1201
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:56,460
And those are just as important to
address, you know, and so I often refer

1202
00:59:56,460 --> 00:59:59,020
to people this start, stop, continue.

1203
00:59:59,660 --> 01:00:02,090
And what I mean by this, Brandon, I
think you've heard me, especially in

1204
01:00:02,090 --> 01:00:05,570
our coaching sessions before is because
we can become very, very overwhelmed.

1205
01:00:05,570 --> 01:00:08,030
And let's be honest, I know this
episode's airing by the time this

1206
01:00:08,030 --> 01:00:10,430
goes out, you know, we're a couple
of weeks away from the new year.

1207
01:00:10,430 --> 01:00:14,690
A lot of people are thinking, Oh man,
2024 brand new start, fresh start.

1208
01:00:15,010 --> 01:00:18,380
I got 132 things I want to do this year.

1209
01:00:18,770 --> 01:00:19,670
I want to change all this.

1210
01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:20,100
Okay.

1211
01:00:20,490 --> 01:00:22,915
For one, Pick three things.

1212
01:00:24,285 --> 01:00:27,875
One thing that's new that you're going
to start doing and do consistently.

1213
01:00:28,945 --> 01:00:33,445
One thing that you have been doing that
you know, oh boy, if I would just stop

1214
01:00:33,465 --> 01:00:37,445
doing that one thing, I also know just in
stopping that, I'd get some good results.

1215
01:00:38,765 --> 01:00:43,355
And then third is recognize things
that you are doing and do well that

1216
01:00:43,375 --> 01:00:47,125
are adding value to not only your life
and the lives of people around you.

1217
01:00:47,825 --> 01:00:49,055
Keep doing that one thing.

1218
01:00:49,835 --> 01:00:53,755
So pick one thing to start,
one thing to stop, one thing

1219
01:00:53,755 --> 01:00:54,635
that you'll continue doing.

1220
01:00:55,060 --> 01:00:56,090
Believe me, that's enough.

1221
01:00:56,730 --> 01:00:57,210
It's enough.

1222
01:00:57,900 --> 01:00:58,650
And start with that.

1223
01:00:59,410 --> 01:01:01,160
Start, stop, continue.

1224
01:01:01,730 --> 01:01:04,210
Really great way to have
very specific focus.

1225
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:07,990
But, you know, it also makes things a
little bit easier because it's really

1226
01:01:07,990 --> 01:01:10,600
like, I'm only starting one thing and the
other thing, I just don't have to do that.

1227
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:11,730
That's okay, I can do that.

1228
01:01:12,850 --> 01:01:14,090
And then this one thing I'm already doing.

1229
01:01:15,190 --> 01:01:15,750
It's amazing.

1230
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:17,650
It is just, uh, believe me.

1231
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:19,720
Anybody that's listening or watching
this, please, make your list

1232
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:21,150
of your start, stop, continues.

1233
01:01:21,210 --> 01:01:22,890
Have that intention for January 1.

1234
01:01:23,250 --> 01:01:24,880
Just go January 1 to the 31st.

1235
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:27,550
And if you make it to the 31st and
you still have that in mind, Trust

1236
01:01:27,550 --> 01:01:29,970
me, you've done better than 92 percent
of the other people in the world.

1237
01:01:32,460 --> 01:01:32,860
Drop the mic.

1238
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:36,600
Let's just say I'm not sure if I
should talk from there, but you

1239
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:41,030
know, I was laughing because you
were talking about your client.

1240
01:01:41,550 --> 01:01:43,170
Guys, there's a reason
they call it a dad bod.

1241
01:01:43,370 --> 01:01:45,160
Like, this is what happens to every dad.

1242
01:01:46,380 --> 01:01:51,960
We start making our kids snacks, having
snacks around the house for our kids.

1243
01:01:52,545 --> 01:01:55,025
And then here's, here's the
real thing that kills us.

1244
01:01:56,125 --> 01:01:57,705
Dads don't like to waste food.

1245
01:01:58,575 --> 01:01:59,655
That's so true, man.

1246
01:01:59,695 --> 01:02:04,105
So we eat our food, and then we
eat whatever our kids don't finish.

1247
01:02:04,545 --> 01:02:05,345
And are wasted.

1248
01:02:05,505 --> 01:02:10,195
So we don't have to throw it away, because
like, I'm, I'm not, gosh, especially

1249
01:02:10,195 --> 01:02:12,455
going out to eat, like at a restaurant.

1250
01:02:12,805 --> 01:02:13,215
Yeah.

1251
01:02:13,465 --> 01:02:17,415
I might as well just not order, and
just eat whatever my kids don't eat.

1252
01:02:18,595 --> 01:02:21,595
I'm not going to pay 15, 20 a plate.

1253
01:02:22,185 --> 01:02:22,665
Yeah.

1254
01:02:23,545 --> 01:02:23,895
And.

1255
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:25,690
Take a home because you know what?

1256
01:02:25,690 --> 01:02:27,380
I know my kids aren't going
to reheat the leftovers.

1257
01:02:27,380 --> 01:02:30,880
They're not, I just don't
like leftovers, right?

1258
01:02:30,900 --> 01:02:35,260
So I've had restaurants where I
actually went and only ordered

1259
01:02:35,260 --> 01:02:36,420
like the super small thing.

1260
01:02:36,420 --> 01:02:39,600
My wife's like that's not much food
for you I was like, yeah, but she's not

1261
01:02:39,660 --> 01:02:43,070
gonna eat all that and she's not gonna
eat all that and I know I'm going to

1262
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:47,960
Smart man smart, but it also adds up
right like that's the thing I bought

1263
01:02:47,970 --> 01:02:52,400
thing we start snack as we're taking
care of them and then we clean up after

1264
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:54,760
them And we still eat our full meals.

1265
01:02:54,760 --> 01:02:58,800
And all of a sudden we're, we're like
consuming twice the calories we used to.

1266
01:02:59,250 --> 01:03:02,290
And then we're all wondering why we got
a little bit bigger after we became dads.

1267
01:03:05,880 --> 01:03:07,530
Yeah, it's, uh, it's wild though.

1268
01:03:07,570 --> 01:03:10,350
Those little things that we do that we
don't even realize that we're doing.

1269
01:03:10,610 --> 01:03:13,700
And then, so, you know, as much as this
mindset of change that we've been talking

1270
01:03:13,700 --> 01:03:19,480
about, it's just recognizing and building
some awareness that there is something

1271
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:24,360
that if we change that one thing or start
to maybe improve on that one thing, it.

1272
01:03:25,100 --> 01:03:28,790
instantly is almost like a domino effect
where it affects other areas positively.

1273
01:03:29,350 --> 01:03:32,260
That's again, I know I keep harping
on the fitness thing because I

1274
01:03:32,420 --> 01:03:34,180
understand that health, you know, to be.

1275
01:03:34,990 --> 01:03:39,220
Healthy physically often will tie
into also being healthier mentally and

1276
01:03:39,220 --> 01:03:43,950
emotionally and spiritually, you know
Like I know if my physical body's in a

1277
01:03:43,950 --> 01:03:45,860
good place and I'm managing my energy.

1278
01:03:45,860 --> 01:03:50,420
Well, I'm feeling good I don't have a
lot of pains or aches and pains or you

1279
01:03:50,420 --> 01:03:55,180
know That lethargy that sometimes we
feel because our bodies are just maybe

1280
01:03:55,180 --> 01:03:59,800
taxed or dealing with chronic stress
from high stress lifestyle Well, you

1281
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:05,250
got to do something to offset that you
know, just maybe by working out Just

1282
01:04:05,250 --> 01:04:07,730
go for a walk for 30 minutes a day.

1283
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:10,940
Also on top of that, maybe
drink, you know, a gallon

1284
01:04:10,940 --> 01:04:12,170
of water throughout the day.

1285
01:04:12,300 --> 01:04:15,190
You know, like three to four liters for
those that are up here in the north.

1286
01:04:16,360 --> 01:04:21,660
You know, like it's small and
subtle, but it's the small and

1287
01:04:21,660 --> 01:04:25,380
subtle stuff that add up the quickest
when you compound it over time.

1288
01:04:26,590 --> 01:04:30,670
But the nice thing is it doesn't
take a huge amount of effort.

1289
01:04:31,625 --> 01:04:34,035
Because I always tell people this,
because I know that first step, it

1290
01:04:34,035 --> 01:04:40,445
requires a lot of, of power to create
the inertia to build the momentum.

1291
01:04:41,055 --> 01:04:43,915
An object at rest loves to stay at rest.

1292
01:04:44,005 --> 01:04:44,935
Thank you, science.

1293
01:04:44,965 --> 01:04:46,195
Isaac Newton, right?

1294
01:04:46,515 --> 01:04:49,525
Like, and to get that object moving.

1295
01:04:49,910 --> 01:04:53,450
It's going to take the most amount
of effort to go from zero to one.

1296
01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:59,800
Once it starts moving, it's amazing how
much easier it is to keep it moving.

1297
01:05:01,050 --> 01:05:07,300
And this applies to us in life, us
to changes in any area, same idea.

1298
01:05:07,310 --> 01:05:11,290
Don't fight science,
work with it, you know.

1299
01:05:11,640 --> 01:05:14,140
And you'll be, you'll be amazed like
Christy right now, you know, she's

1300
01:05:14,140 --> 01:05:17,110
gotten back into CrossFit and she
has a goal next year to get, you

1301
01:05:17,110 --> 01:05:20,270
know, she wants to do pull ups and
right now she's starting at zero.

1302
01:05:20,280 --> 01:05:23,350
We had some bands, you know, so we got
some bands in the bar and she's doing

1303
01:05:23,350 --> 01:05:26,610
that, but I'm like, Christy, just think
about when you get to that first one.

1304
01:05:26,930 --> 01:05:27,760
I mean, it's incredible.

1305
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:31,130
If you go from zero pull ups
and now you can do one hundred

1306
01:05:31,130 --> 01:05:33,380
percent improvement, Brent, right?

1307
01:05:33,770 --> 01:05:34,110
Big.

1308
01:05:35,110 --> 01:05:37,330
But the only time you ever get
a hundred percent improvement

1309
01:05:37,350 --> 01:05:39,200
is when you go from zero to one.

1310
01:05:40,430 --> 01:05:42,180
After that, it's diminishing returns.

1311
01:05:42,440 --> 01:05:44,510
You know, like, it just really is.

1312
01:05:44,510 --> 01:05:47,230
I mean, you're still improving, but it
will never be as drastic as when you

1313
01:05:47,230 --> 01:05:48,900
first committed to making the change.

1314
01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:53,820
I also bring this up because I think
some people's expectations of change

1315
01:05:54,300 --> 01:05:56,440
don't actually match what's possible.

1316
01:05:58,220 --> 01:06:03,240
And so having a mindset of understanding
and being accepting that any change is

1317
01:06:03,240 --> 01:06:06,480
good change, especially if it's moving
the needle in the right direction.

1318
01:06:07,215 --> 01:06:08,185
Don't beat yourself up.

1319
01:06:08,215 --> 01:06:08,905
Oh my goodness.

1320
01:06:08,965 --> 01:06:10,515
I didn't lose any weight this week.

1321
01:06:10,825 --> 01:06:14,405
Yeah, but you got five workouts in, you
ate really well, you had great sleep.

1322
01:06:14,835 --> 01:06:16,335
Who cares about the scale?

1323
01:06:16,695 --> 01:06:17,795
You crushed it this week.

1324
01:06:19,255 --> 01:06:23,385
But it's amazing how quickly we latch on
to certain things, and if we don't reach

1325
01:06:23,385 --> 01:06:27,575
those certain milestones, we start to feel
negative about ourselves, and instantly,

1326
01:06:27,635 --> 01:06:29,215
that subconscious sometimes takes over.

1327
01:06:29,245 --> 01:06:31,695
We'll go back to doing the things
that gives us instant comfort, which

1328
01:06:31,735 --> 01:06:36,035
aren't usually healthy things, and
that's where the self sabotage happens.

1329
01:06:36,930 --> 01:06:39,320
So I know I'm covering a bunch of
different topics here, but this is

1330
01:06:39,320 --> 01:06:42,680
all part of the same conversation,
you know, does that make sense?

1331
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:45,580
Actually, I really want you to
wade into this for a second.

1332
01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:46,300
Yeah.

1333
01:06:46,900 --> 01:06:50,670
Because with that mindset change, right,
as we're trying for this mindset change,

1334
01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:56,940
one of the things that you have an
uncanny ability for that I think a lot

1335
01:06:56,940 --> 01:07:03,280
of us would benefit from is how do we
start to look at the glass half full?

1336
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:05,340
Positive.

1337
01:07:05,510 --> 01:07:07,820
What are some steps we can
take to start to be more.

1338
01:07:08,155 --> 01:07:11,485
Because we have such negative
connotations for some of us that

1339
01:07:11,485 --> 01:07:14,305
we're coming from on change, right?

1340
01:07:14,455 --> 01:07:19,415
How do we start to like glass half
full positive outlook on this change?

1341
01:07:20,365 --> 01:07:22,335
How can we be blindly optimistic like die?

1342
01:07:22,355 --> 01:07:22,705
Okay.

1343
01:07:22,705 --> 01:07:30,955
Um, no, but I, I jest
with that, but, um, okay.

1344
01:07:32,205 --> 01:07:34,645
I thought it, but I didn't
say, I know, I know.

1345
01:07:34,705 --> 01:07:35,065
Totally.

1346
01:07:35,265 --> 01:07:40,255
Um, listen, there's an old saying
the way we do any, the way we do.

1347
01:07:41,000 --> 01:07:41,310
What is it?

1348
01:07:41,310 --> 01:07:43,150
The way we do anything is
the way we do everything.

1349
01:07:44,570 --> 01:07:48,200
And what they imply by that is, you
know, whatever you put into it is what

1350
01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:49,350
you're going to get out of it, basically.

1351
01:07:50,310 --> 01:07:52,790
And, and I think change
is very much that way too.

1352
01:07:53,400 --> 01:07:56,650
You know, we can sit around exploring
our thoughts and thinking, I'm

1353
01:07:56,790 --> 01:07:58,210
going to change this about my life.

1354
01:08:00,290 --> 01:08:00,780
Okay.

1355
01:08:01,230 --> 01:08:01,970
Oh, nothing changed.

1356
01:08:01,980 --> 01:08:02,440
Why not?

1357
01:08:02,610 --> 01:08:02,860
Hmm.

1358
01:08:02,860 --> 01:08:03,830
I don't know what's going on here.

1359
01:08:03,860 --> 01:08:06,310
Well, because we got to do something,
you know, we've got to take some action.

1360
01:08:06,850 --> 01:08:07,320
And.

1361
01:08:08,760 --> 01:08:12,160
This idea of looking at the
glass half full or half empty.

1362
01:08:12,180 --> 01:08:13,020
It's a choice.

1363
01:08:13,380 --> 01:08:14,560
It is always a choice.

1364
01:08:14,560 --> 01:08:17,290
Like I have a choice to either
have that perspective or not.

1365
01:08:18,340 --> 01:08:25,450
And what I found is really helpful for
people and this is really, really helpful.

1366
01:08:25,450 --> 01:08:28,560
I honestly feel is the first
thing you do in the day has to

1367
01:08:28,560 --> 01:08:29,710
be something positive for you.

1368
01:08:30,850 --> 01:08:32,290
It's got to be something
positive for yourself.

1369
01:08:32,290 --> 01:08:37,140
I mean, you are with yourself every day,
24 7, for your entire life, you know,

1370
01:08:37,490 --> 01:08:41,030
from the day we come onto this planet to
the time we leave it, we are ourselves,

1371
01:08:41,040 --> 01:08:44,510
you know, like, we're in our own bodies,
we've got this worldly view, self

1372
01:08:44,510 --> 01:08:50,050
perspective, I mean, it's us, we've got
to take full accountability for ourselves.

1373
01:08:50,650 --> 01:08:54,690
And so I invite people, the very first
action that you do in the morning, when

1374
01:08:54,690 --> 01:08:59,390
you're getting out of bed, you should
be jumping out of bed with gusto,

1375
01:08:59,530 --> 01:09:01,460
alright, with a zip in your step.

1376
01:09:02,105 --> 01:09:06,445
You get out of bed, you literally dismount
like you're dismounting the pommel

1377
01:09:06,445 --> 01:09:08,495
horse at the Olympics for a gold medal.

1378
01:09:08,755 --> 01:09:11,835
You know, you got the IOC there and
they got a bunch of cards and they're

1379
01:09:11,835 --> 01:09:14,395
going to hold up tens for you based on
how you got out of bed in the morning.

1380
01:09:15,545 --> 01:09:18,025
I know people are laughing
at me, but here's the deal.

1381
01:09:18,475 --> 01:09:22,035
How many of us hit the snooze button
one, two, twenty two times, you know?

1382
01:09:22,035 --> 01:09:24,525
Like, we hit that snooze
button, we keep hittin it.

1383
01:09:24,925 --> 01:09:28,205
Maybe we have four different alarms
just because we know ourselves so well.

1384
01:09:28,205 --> 01:09:30,125
I'm gonna snooze the first
three and I know when I hear

1385
01:09:30,125 --> 01:09:31,495
the fourth one, I gotta get up.

1386
01:09:32,275 --> 01:09:33,575
Gotta start my day.

1387
01:09:33,885 --> 01:09:35,355
I have to do this.

1388
01:09:35,825 --> 01:09:37,440
Oh, woe is me.

1389
01:09:38,030 --> 01:09:39,880
That is how we start our day.

1390
01:09:41,040 --> 01:09:41,780
That sucks.

1391
01:09:42,570 --> 01:09:43,040
All right.

1392
01:09:43,330 --> 01:09:46,300
Pretty hard to look at anything
being half full versus half empty.

1393
01:09:46,300 --> 01:09:50,170
When the first thing you do in the
day is already negative and hard.

1394
01:09:50,555 --> 01:09:56,625
And oh my goodness, oh, so I don't
care how bad life's going or how

1395
01:09:57,055 --> 01:09:59,355
shitty stuff is like get out of bed.

1396
01:09:59,745 --> 01:10:04,995
Enjoy that you have the opportunity
to get out of bed with your body able

1397
01:10:04,995 --> 01:10:10,175
as it is and acknowledge that today's
going to be a freaking amazing day.

1398
01:10:10,285 --> 01:10:11,835
And I want you to say that to yourself.

1399
01:10:13,015 --> 01:10:15,985
And then you look at the IOC and
you're like, yes, I got a 10.

1400
01:10:17,945 --> 01:10:19,465
Where's my gold medal, right?

1401
01:10:19,645 --> 01:10:21,065
And then go about the day.

1402
01:10:21,575 --> 01:10:23,425
Literally, just starting
with that one little thing.

1403
01:10:23,425 --> 01:10:25,575
I know it seems silly, and
at the very least, it might

1404
01:10:25,575 --> 01:10:26,735
crack a smile on your face.

1405
01:10:26,735 --> 01:10:28,935
Your spouse might be looking,
What the hell are you doing?

1406
01:10:29,575 --> 01:10:30,885
They're gonna laugh at you too.

1407
01:10:31,525 --> 01:10:33,725
But what is the beautiful
thing is laughter.

1408
01:10:34,045 --> 01:10:37,075
If you look at all the data, and
again, going back to science.

1409
01:10:38,415 --> 01:10:42,165
It releases positive endorphins
into our mind, right?

1410
01:10:42,235 --> 01:10:44,175
Dopamine, a little bit of serotonin.

1411
01:10:44,185 --> 01:10:45,995
The body starts to feel a bit better.

1412
01:10:45,995 --> 01:10:48,505
It elevates our blood, our pulse a bit.

1413
01:10:49,035 --> 01:10:50,265
You know, that's good.

1414
01:10:50,295 --> 01:10:51,415
We feel alive.

1415
01:10:52,215 --> 01:10:58,675
If you start your day like that, trust
me, you've already set the momentum, and

1416
01:10:58,675 --> 01:11:00,445
now you just gotta keep doing the rest.

1417
01:11:00,625 --> 01:11:04,830
Because going from zero to one,
Takes a lot of effort going

1418
01:11:04,830 --> 01:11:07,260
from sleep prone to standing up.

1419
01:11:07,310 --> 01:11:09,820
That's going to be probably your
biggest, most exertion that you have

1420
01:11:09,820 --> 01:11:10,960
to do first thing in the morning.

1421
01:11:12,170 --> 01:11:13,720
So why not do it the best that you can?

1422
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:17,300
And I know this seems
really silly, but it is.

1423
01:11:17,450 --> 01:11:19,740
It is silly, but why not?

1424
01:11:20,230 --> 01:11:22,570
You know, what's the worst that
can happen if you try this?

1425
01:11:23,810 --> 01:11:24,400
Like nothing?

1426
01:11:25,210 --> 01:11:28,450
Like you're only got stuff to gain,
but you'll see that these small

1427
01:11:28,450 --> 01:11:30,850
literal interactions, you start
looking at other things that way.

1428
01:11:32,600 --> 01:11:36,360
It's incredible how quickly things will
shift and you'll start to see things

1429
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:39,210
differently, but more importantly, you're
sort of seeing yourself differently.

1430
01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:44,880
And that's where the really big changes
will start to manifest when you connect

1431
01:11:44,880 --> 01:11:49,250
with that, you know, and just be grateful,
man, you get to get up every morning.

1432
01:11:49,895 --> 01:11:53,315
You get to get out of bed, you
know, but you know, for me, I

1433
01:11:53,315 --> 01:11:55,695
choose to get out of bed before
my alarm every freaking morning.

1434
01:11:56,705 --> 01:11:57,505
Obnoxiously.

1435
01:11:57,515 --> 01:12:01,475
So my wife will tell you, you
know, but that's how I start

1436
01:12:01,475 --> 01:12:02,705
my day and I'm going, man.

1437
01:12:02,705 --> 01:12:05,245
I mean, if you watch my stories on
Instagram, it's like, I'm up at three

1438
01:12:05,245 --> 01:12:07,335
30 in the morning and I'm like, I
got a couple hours before I coach and

1439
01:12:07,345 --> 01:12:08,875
I'm just like, I want to go coach.

1440
01:12:08,915 --> 01:12:09,255
I want to go coach.

1441
01:12:09,255 --> 01:12:10,005
I want to go coach.

1442
01:12:10,005 --> 01:12:12,005
You know, like, I love it, man.

1443
01:12:12,295 --> 01:12:12,745
I love it.

1444
01:12:13,335 --> 01:12:14,815
So what are your thoughts on that, Brent?

1445
01:12:14,855 --> 01:12:16,155
Are you going to start dismounting?

1446
01:12:16,865 --> 01:12:19,395
I'm thinking of double pike position.

1447
01:12:19,820 --> 01:12:22,010
With a half twist in the morning.

1448
01:12:22,920 --> 01:12:23,780
Do that's too cool.

1449
01:12:25,340 --> 01:12:27,590
You're one of the only people I know
who actually gets up before I do.

1450
01:12:29,310 --> 01:12:29,890
Cracks me up.

1451
01:12:29,890 --> 01:12:30,710
Cause I get up four.

1452
01:12:31,460 --> 01:12:31,800
Oh yeah.

1453
01:12:32,100 --> 01:12:33,040
So three 30.

1454
01:12:33,050 --> 01:12:33,220
Yeah.

1455
01:12:33,620 --> 01:12:34,610
Chris, three 30 to four.

1456
01:12:34,610 --> 01:12:35,830
I should say three 30 to four.

1457
01:12:35,890 --> 01:12:37,640
I wake up somewhere in that window.

1458
01:12:37,830 --> 01:12:38,140
So.

1459
01:12:38,485 --> 01:12:39,535
Christie loves you a lot.

1460
01:12:39,595 --> 01:12:39,895
That's it.

1461
01:12:39,955 --> 01:12:41,095
That's all I gotta say about that.

1462
01:12:41,635 --> 01:12:46,045
I, I have to be a little bit during the
weekdays 'cause she works early in the

1463
01:12:46,045 --> 01:12:50,635
morning, so her sleep is pretty valuable,
uh, for her and, and our relationship.

1464
01:12:50,635 --> 01:12:55,245
Mind you, uh, . So I, I have had to
be a little bit more conscious when

1465
01:12:55,245 --> 01:12:57,765
I dismount, but she knows what's up.

1466
01:12:59,215 --> 01:13:03,085
You guys, we, we, you know, we, we kick
around things on the show all the time.

1467
01:13:04,370 --> 01:13:05,280
On the face value.

1468
01:13:05,280 --> 01:13:09,800
Someone might see as silly, but if
you've listened to the show for any

1469
01:13:09,800 --> 01:13:16,500
length of time, you know, that most of
the time we're only one small tweak away

1470
01:13:16,500 --> 01:13:17,660
from the direction we want to be going.

1471
01:13:18,530 --> 01:13:18,820
Right.

1472
01:13:18,830 --> 01:13:20,700
It's not a huge thing.

1473
01:13:21,390 --> 01:13:23,470
A lot of you guys who are listening
to this show, I've been listening

1474
01:13:23,470 --> 01:13:26,900
to the show for a while, or some
of you who are newer, maybe, maybe

1475
01:13:26,900 --> 01:13:28,790
not as long, but you'll find out.

1476
01:13:29,805 --> 01:13:30,735
You're already moving.

1477
01:13:30,735 --> 01:13:34,975
If you're listening to the show, you're
already in the movement of moving

1478
01:13:34,975 --> 01:13:36,285
your life in a positive direction.

1479
01:13:36,935 --> 01:13:37,915
That's already part of your goal.

1480
01:13:37,925 --> 01:13:40,285
You wouldn't be listening to the show
because that's what we talked about.

1481
01:13:41,385 --> 01:13:46,435
So we all know that we're usually
just one small tweak or two away

1482
01:13:46,435 --> 01:13:51,045
from really hitting some velocity
in our personal development.

1483
01:13:52,205 --> 01:13:54,275
And so it may sound a little silly.

1484
01:13:54,545 --> 01:13:55,195
Hey, I'm not going to lie.

1485
01:13:55,245 --> 01:13:57,765
It sounds a little silly to
me, but I'm also having great

1486
01:13:57,805 --> 01:13:59,425
images in my head right now.

1487
01:13:59,940 --> 01:14:02,950
Of like during, cause I used to, I was
a competition diver in high school.

1488
01:14:03,230 --> 01:14:03,890
Oh, dude.

1489
01:14:03,950 --> 01:14:04,320
Okay.

1490
01:14:04,340 --> 01:14:05,690
Well, you're gold all the way.

1491
01:14:05,880 --> 01:14:08,930
So I'm, I'm having these great
images of me, like, you know, doing

1492
01:14:08,930 --> 01:14:15,710
a front two and a half off with
a twist and Sarah just looking at

1493
01:14:15,710 --> 01:14:17,760
me going, what is wrong with you?

1494
01:14:17,970 --> 01:14:18,330
Yeah.

1495
01:14:18,330 --> 01:14:21,460
I know you guys are a little competitive.

1496
01:14:21,520 --> 01:14:23,400
The next thing you know, she's gonna
be like, yeah, I can beat that.

1497
01:14:23,650 --> 01:14:24,030
Right.

1498
01:14:24,030 --> 01:14:27,760
Oh no, that, that would end with
me like laying on the floor broken.

1499
01:14:27,790 --> 01:14:28,250
Cause I got it.

1500
01:14:29,260 --> 01:14:36,870
My room, it would end badly, another
hospital trip, another scar, but you

1501
01:14:36,870 --> 01:14:40,110
know, Tony Robbins says, you know,
where your energy or sorry, where

1502
01:14:40,110 --> 01:14:43,240
your attention goes, your energy
flows, you know, and, and maybe it

1503
01:14:43,240 --> 01:14:45,850
wasn't him that said it originally,
but I know dispenses it as well.

1504
01:14:45,850 --> 01:14:48,270
There's a number of those guys
in sort of that space that

1505
01:14:48,410 --> 01:14:49,220
say that same sort of thing.

1506
01:14:49,220 --> 01:14:51,840
But it's true when you think about
it, you know, like, where does most of

1507
01:14:51,840 --> 01:14:53,180
our attention goes throughout the day?

1508
01:14:54,340 --> 01:14:54,650
Right?

1509
01:14:54,920 --> 01:14:57,090
Because whatever is getting your
attention, that's usually where most

1510
01:14:57,090 --> 01:14:58,200
of your energy is going as well.

1511
01:14:59,000 --> 01:15:02,890
And so, I do invite people, and this
is more so on the things to stop.

1512
01:15:02,930 --> 01:15:05,030
Remember we talked about starting,
stopping, and continuing.

1513
01:15:05,030 --> 01:15:08,400
So if you just started getting out of bed,
first thing you do in the morning, Boom!

1514
01:15:08,630 --> 01:15:11,910
Sets you with those positive endorphins,
so you're like, Okay, whatever the

1515
01:15:11,910 --> 01:15:15,640
day's got for me, I'm ready for it, I'm
excited, I'm pumped, It's gonna be fun.

1516
01:15:15,640 --> 01:15:19,130
And I know it, listen, You gotta
fake it till you make it, okay?

1517
01:15:19,190 --> 01:15:21,000
You might be fighting that and
thinking, Oh, I don't really feel it.

1518
01:15:21,080 --> 01:15:22,000
Just keep doing it.

1519
01:15:22,160 --> 01:15:24,860
You will get to a place where all
of a sudden it's just automatic.

1520
01:15:25,450 --> 01:15:27,520
And it believe me, it will happen.

1521
01:15:27,530 --> 01:15:27,970
Okay.

1522
01:15:28,220 --> 01:15:32,410
And, and it will be fun, trust me, because
you'll see a lot of other positions, but

1523
01:15:32,650 --> 01:15:33,910
then we talk about something to stop.

1524
01:15:33,920 --> 01:15:38,000
Well, pick up your mobile phones,
go to the screen time function.

1525
01:15:39,530 --> 01:15:42,550
And I'm sorry to bring this up, but,
and this is just for your phone.

1526
01:15:42,550 --> 01:15:46,820
We're not talking about computer
screens, TV screens, iPads.

1527
01:15:46,870 --> 01:15:49,440
I'm talking about just your mobile device.

1528
01:15:49,450 --> 01:15:50,710
You go to screen time on that.

1529
01:15:51,100 --> 01:15:53,160
It will tell you how much time
you spend on certain apps.

1530
01:15:53,715 --> 01:15:56,075
Um, how much time you spend
looking at the screen.

1531
01:15:56,715 --> 01:15:59,045
I mean, it's pretty incredible
what it will tell you.

1532
01:16:00,215 --> 01:16:04,085
I would like to invite people,
stop using so much screen time.

1533
01:16:05,235 --> 01:16:06,445
Alright, make that your goal.

1534
01:16:06,485 --> 01:16:09,855
It's like, if you're at right now, 3 hours
a day on your device, like the typical

1535
01:16:09,895 --> 01:16:12,645
North American, cut that to 90 minutes.

1536
01:16:13,870 --> 01:16:15,460
Now, if you run your business
and that's a big part of your

1537
01:16:15,460 --> 01:16:18,250
business, that's different, but
I'm talking about personal use.

1538
01:16:18,310 --> 01:16:21,890
So, uh, I mean, I don't know, I
don't get paid to watch Netflix.

1539
01:16:21,890 --> 01:16:23,640
I mean, mind you though,
Hey, Netflix, I'm for hire.

1540
01:16:23,640 --> 01:16:24,790
You want to pay me to watch your stuff?

1541
01:16:24,820 --> 01:16:29,550
Uh, I'm here, but you know, most
part, a lot of those social apps.

1542
01:16:30,035 --> 01:16:32,405
Are not intended for
business for most people.

1543
01:16:32,825 --> 01:16:36,375
Those would be where I would say, try to
reclaim some of that time for yourself.

1544
01:16:37,265 --> 01:16:41,695
That would be a wonderful habit to create
where you just stop consuming as much.

1545
01:16:42,685 --> 01:16:44,255
Because all of a sudden now
you're like, Oh, I do have

1546
01:16:44,255 --> 01:16:45,545
time to do a bunch of things.

1547
01:16:45,555 --> 01:16:48,005
Like that little side hustle
I've been wanting to start.

1548
01:16:48,055 --> 01:16:48,395
Jeez.

1549
01:16:48,395 --> 01:16:49,875
I just got back 90 minutes a day.

1550
01:16:50,975 --> 01:16:53,875
Here's something that I want people
to realize if you're like the typical

1551
01:16:54,625 --> 01:16:58,455
human being and listen, I'm guilty of
this too Like I'm not I'm not immune

1552
01:16:58,455 --> 01:17:02,215
to this either But I am very mindful of
it and I take note of this frequently

1553
01:17:02,645 --> 01:17:05,785
because when I find myself down in the
dumps or my anxiety starts to spike

1554
01:17:05,785 --> 01:17:08,185
it's usually because I haven't been
doing the things that I know if I do

1555
01:17:08,185 --> 01:17:13,295
more of it keeps my anxiety in a better
place Watch too much screen time.

1556
01:17:13,335 --> 01:17:14,255
I feel all wound up.

1557
01:17:14,295 --> 01:17:14,955
I feel tense.

1558
01:17:14,955 --> 01:17:15,715
I feel stressed.

1559
01:17:15,985 --> 01:17:19,585
It's incredible, especially if some of the
content I'm watching isn't very positive,

1560
01:17:19,615 --> 01:17:23,015
which is unfortunately pick up any
social media platform in the news today.

1561
01:17:23,505 --> 01:17:27,395
I mean, the algorithm feeds us negative
crap all the time, unfortunately, you

1562
01:17:27,395 --> 01:17:29,195
know, so it's hard to get away from it.

1563
01:17:29,915 --> 01:17:31,475
But those two little things.

1564
01:17:32,825 --> 01:17:39,145
Will make an immense amount of
difference and it's wild, but if you

1565
01:17:39,795 --> 01:17:42,685
protect the again, I'm going back
to science and data here, right?

1566
01:17:42,685 --> 01:17:43,525
The scientific method.

1567
01:17:43,525 --> 01:17:44,195
What is that about?

1568
01:17:44,825 --> 01:17:47,795
You measure inputs goes
into the black box.

1569
01:17:47,795 --> 01:17:50,135
We know what's in there, but then
we see what comes out of the black

1570
01:17:50,155 --> 01:17:53,955
box, the outputs, the results from
putting those things into the box.

1571
01:17:54,565 --> 01:17:55,845
Well, we're the box.

1572
01:17:56,485 --> 01:17:58,215
We put stuff into our lives.

1573
01:17:58,615 --> 01:18:00,985
Is it creating the outputs
or the results that we want?

1574
01:18:01,425 --> 01:18:03,985
Because if it isn't, maybe we should
start looking at what the inputs are.

1575
01:18:05,430 --> 01:18:08,040
If you're finding yourself more
negative mindset orientated, more

1576
01:18:08,040 --> 01:18:12,820
closed minded, you know, rather
than growth mindset orientated.

1577
01:18:13,250 --> 01:18:16,010
Well, maybe look at how you're
feeding your mind every day.

1578
01:18:17,020 --> 01:18:18,430
Who are you associating with?

1579
01:18:19,370 --> 01:18:21,030
What kind of media are you consuming?

1580
01:18:21,770 --> 01:18:24,620
You know, who is your
mentor right now in life?

1581
01:18:24,990 --> 01:18:26,660
Who are your five closest friends?

1582
01:18:27,480 --> 01:18:32,410
You know, are they always people
that, you know, are you the net sum

1583
01:18:32,410 --> 01:18:33,920
of those five like Jim Rohn says?

1584
01:18:33,920 --> 01:18:36,370
Or are you sort of the outlier?

1585
01:18:37,405 --> 01:18:38,775
Because if you're the
outlier, that's okay.

1586
01:18:39,385 --> 01:18:43,205
There came a place when I gave
up alcohol, I had to re configure

1587
01:18:43,565 --> 01:18:44,905
my entire social network.

1588
01:18:45,755 --> 01:18:48,185
Because I recognized most of the people
I used to hang out with was only based

1589
01:18:48,185 --> 01:18:49,775
on this predicate of having drinks.

1590
01:18:51,765 --> 01:18:52,805
I don't want to drink anymore.

1591
01:18:53,205 --> 01:18:55,545
So I had to reassess, who are my friends?

1592
01:18:55,675 --> 01:18:56,125
You know?

1593
01:18:56,345 --> 01:18:57,355
Who do I want to surround myself?

1594
01:18:57,355 --> 01:18:59,995
So I wanted to surround myself
with other people that it wasn't a

1595
01:18:59,995 --> 01:19:01,505
requirement to be a drinker to hang out.

1596
01:19:02,685 --> 01:19:03,055
You know?

1597
01:19:03,265 --> 01:19:03,375
Woo!

1598
01:19:03,885 --> 01:19:04,395
Amazing!

1599
01:19:04,455 --> 01:19:05,785
All of a sudden things started to change.

1600
01:19:05,825 --> 01:19:06,235
You know?

1601
01:19:06,635 --> 01:19:11,945
Um, so sorry, I am, I'm sort of rambling
here, but this is all very important

1602
01:19:11,955 --> 01:19:15,285
stuff when it comes to our mental output,
but you'll notice that I'm not talking

1603
01:19:15,285 --> 01:19:17,895
about anything that costs money, right?

1604
01:19:17,925 --> 01:19:20,765
This is all accessible to anybody
and everybody at any given time.

1605
01:19:21,985 --> 01:19:25,515
But also, I hope you recognize I'm
giving you full autonomy for yourself.

1606
01:19:26,885 --> 01:19:29,445
I'm not saying you gotta go hire a
coach to help you get out of bed with

1607
01:19:29,445 --> 01:19:30,735
a hop, skip, and a jump in the morning.

1608
01:19:31,725 --> 01:19:34,045
You know, I'm not here saying
you need a coach to tell you

1609
01:19:34,045 --> 01:19:35,125
how much to use your phone.

1610
01:19:36,045 --> 01:19:37,675
Like, these are things
that you can self govern.

1611
01:19:38,485 --> 01:19:39,825
Take accountability for it.

1612
01:19:40,225 --> 01:19:41,775
Start with those little things.

1613
01:19:41,865 --> 01:19:44,445
And watch out, because great
things are gonna happen!

1614
01:19:44,795 --> 01:19:47,835
Because we're changing the inputs,
which is going to affect the out.

1615
01:19:50,175 --> 01:19:50,765
Yeah, no.

1616
01:19:50,825 --> 01:19:51,165
Yes.

1617
01:19:51,245 --> 01:19:51,595
Okay.

1618
01:19:53,525 --> 01:19:57,515
Actually guys, this is really resonating
with you and I really hope it is.

1619
01:19:57,775 --> 01:20:01,195
And you like put more
positive in your life.

1620
01:20:02,125 --> 01:20:05,935
And what has someone walk
with you with this die?

1621
01:20:05,935 --> 01:20:07,335
Tell us about the 2 percent solution.

1622
01:20:08,325 --> 01:20:08,745
Thank you.

1623
01:20:08,765 --> 01:20:09,655
Well, good plug now.

1624
01:20:09,665 --> 01:20:10,245
All right.

1625
01:20:10,415 --> 01:20:14,295
Uh, well, I wrote that book, the whole
life fitness manifesto many years ago, and

1626
01:20:14,295 --> 01:20:18,295
it was all geared around helping people
leverage 2 percent of every 24 hours.

1627
01:20:19,410 --> 01:20:21,170
Because that's for those doing the math.

1628
01:20:21,170 --> 01:20:22,300
It's actually like 28.

1629
01:20:22,350 --> 01:20:23,020
4 minutes.

1630
01:20:23,680 --> 01:20:24,680
I round up, okay?

1631
01:20:24,900 --> 01:20:28,510
So it's 30 minutes a day is basically
2 percent of your 24 hour day.

1632
01:20:28,510 --> 01:20:31,260
It doesn't seem like very
much when you say that.

1633
01:20:31,260 --> 01:20:34,940
It's like, hey, can you give me 2 percent
of your day for you to be healthier,

1634
01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:36,380
mentally, emotionally, and spiritually?

1635
01:20:37,100 --> 01:20:38,790
Everybody's like, Oh, yeah, I can do that.

1636
01:20:38,800 --> 01:20:39,400
It's only 2%.

1637
01:20:39,400 --> 01:20:40,490
And then I say it's 30 minutes.

1638
01:20:40,510 --> 01:20:42,430
Oh, I don't have 30 minutes.

1639
01:20:43,480 --> 01:20:44,000
It's amazing.

1640
01:20:44,310 --> 01:20:46,040
I just I've caught people in that, right?

1641
01:20:46,040 --> 01:20:46,630
It's pretty funny.

1642
01:20:46,910 --> 01:20:49,220
Um, but I know we all have 30 minutes.

1643
01:20:49,220 --> 01:20:54,140
But the problem is we sort of run aground
trying to think about, well, how do I

1644
01:20:54,170 --> 01:20:56,550
best use this 30 minutes for my self care?

1645
01:20:57,400 --> 01:20:58,970
And that's where the book
was geared around just giving

1646
01:20:58,970 --> 01:21:00,090
people a simple blueprint.

1647
01:21:00,595 --> 01:21:05,435
Of how to utilize that 30 minutes very
intentionally to create certain results

1648
01:21:05,435 --> 01:21:08,855
because I was giving them suggested
inputs, the outputs happened just

1649
01:21:08,855 --> 01:21:12,825
because you did the work, you know,
it was moving your body for 15 minutes

1650
01:21:12,825 --> 01:21:15,945
a day, following that up with five
minutes of mindful meditation, followed

1651
01:21:15,945 --> 01:21:18,895
by 10 minutes of intentional personal
development, where you listen to a

1652
01:21:18,895 --> 01:21:23,775
great podcast like friends, you know,
like, and you spend that 30 minutes

1653
01:21:23,785 --> 01:21:28,855
for yourself, non negotiable every
day, do that for 28 days and tell me

1654
01:21:28,935 --> 01:21:31,155
life hasn't improved in so many ways.

1655
01:21:32,525 --> 01:21:35,075
Now, going forward on this, it's been
many, many years since that book was

1656
01:21:35,075 --> 01:21:39,535
published, uh, had lots of successful
individuals that have had, and when I say

1657
01:21:39,535 --> 01:21:42,495
successful individuals, people that have
achieved certain success in certain areas

1658
01:21:42,495 --> 01:21:46,795
of their life, especially around health,
mental health, and spiritual health,

1659
01:21:47,245 --> 01:21:51,165
because they started to make these changes
to their physical health, all right?

1660
01:21:52,145 --> 01:21:56,525
And I launched a podcast just recently
called The 2 percent Solution,

1661
01:21:56,535 --> 01:22:00,425
which is all about highlighting
different ways that people can get

1662
01:22:00,425 --> 01:22:04,915
the most out of this daily input of
2 percent non negotiable self care.

1663
01:22:04,925 --> 01:22:07,095
I have great guests on.

1664
01:22:07,095 --> 01:22:08,085
Brent's coming on, by the way.

1665
01:22:08,245 --> 01:22:13,715
Uh, you know, and uh, I also have, uh, my
own episodes where Monday's Motivational

1666
01:22:13,935 --> 01:22:17,215
is to help people set up their week to
make it amazing, you know, cause it's

1667
01:22:17,215 --> 01:22:18,825
these five to seven minute little hits.

1668
01:22:19,275 --> 01:22:21,345
To get your mindset in the
right place for the week ahead.

1669
01:22:21,595 --> 01:22:24,935
Friday is Fit Tip Friday, which
helps you start your weekend

1670
01:22:24,935 --> 01:22:25,885
with the healthiest foot forward.

1671
01:22:25,885 --> 01:22:28,205
Because I'll tell you, most
people are great Monday to Friday.

1672
01:22:28,205 --> 01:22:30,105
And then it seems like they
want to take a vacation from

1673
01:22:30,105 --> 01:22:31,395
their lifestyle on the weekends.

1674
01:22:32,435 --> 01:22:34,695
And, you know, and when people say, I
just don't feel like I'm getting results.

1675
01:22:34,695 --> 01:22:36,545
And it's like, well, what
do you do on the weekends?

1676
01:22:36,665 --> 01:22:38,845
Oh, oh, OK.

1677
01:22:39,775 --> 01:22:42,495
And so, again, it's getting people
into that mindset for the weekend.

1678
01:22:42,735 --> 01:22:43,875
Again, another five to seven minute hit.

1679
01:22:43,875 --> 01:22:44,805
And in the middle of the week.

1680
01:22:45,500 --> 01:22:48,680
You know, we get to have a great interview
with somebody that can come on and talk

1681
01:22:48,690 --> 01:22:52,750
about what's their 2 percent solution
That's helped them get to where they

1682
01:22:52,750 --> 01:22:54,840
are in life that consistent habit.

1683
01:22:54,940 --> 01:22:58,660
That's 30 minutes or less a day That's
been instrumental and then creating the

1684
01:22:58,660 --> 01:23:01,710
results that they've been experiencing
And we get to share all those tips

1685
01:23:01,710 --> 01:23:05,250
tricks and actionable items on the
show and that's what it is 2 percent

1686
01:23:05,270 --> 01:23:07,010
solution Thanks for asking Brent.

1687
01:23:07,070 --> 01:23:10,380
Oh, yeah, this is the first time I was
actually able to be able to talk about

1688
01:23:10,380 --> 01:23:12,040
it on a podcast So that was really cool.

1689
01:23:12,700 --> 01:23:17,255
Well, you know, I couldn't turn down
the opportunity right there Natural.

1690
01:23:18,135 --> 01:23:21,385
Guys, I will have all of Dai's
links where you can find him,

1691
01:23:21,385 --> 01:23:22,615
where you can connect with him.

1692
01:23:22,885 --> 01:23:24,565
Be sure and check out his social media.

1693
01:23:24,575 --> 01:23:28,195
I was loving watching you and
Christy have a hands on competition.

1694
01:23:28,625 --> 01:23:29,035
Thank you.

1695
01:23:29,055 --> 01:23:29,755
On your post the other day.

1696
01:23:30,785 --> 01:23:30,875
Yeah.

1697
01:23:31,055 --> 01:23:31,355
Yeah.

1698
01:23:31,455 --> 01:23:33,605
I watched through the whole clip to see.

1699
01:23:34,495 --> 01:23:35,985
You saw the victory
dance at the end of that.

1700
01:23:36,075 --> 01:23:36,375
I did.

1701
01:23:37,965 --> 01:23:42,755
So we will have all of Dye's links and I
know you guys are all like losing sleep

1702
01:23:42,755 --> 01:23:46,995
over the idea of Which character on
tropical thunder was based off of russell

1703
01:23:46,995 --> 01:23:48,575
crowe daniel day lewis colin farrell?

1704
01:23:48,915 --> 01:23:49,955
You guessed tug speedman.

1705
01:23:49,965 --> 01:23:55,255
The answer is kirk lazarus b What what
I didn't so now, you know when you

1706
01:23:55,255 --> 01:23:58,865
go back and watch it now You can like
like look for the little tips Right.

1707
01:23:59,155 --> 01:24:01,405
I had no idea that that's who they
were based on though And that actually

1708
01:24:01,405 --> 01:24:05,825
makes a lot of sense now that you say
it, you know, like The characters in

1709
01:24:05,825 --> 01:24:07,665
that show are so funny, man, right?

1710
01:24:07,675 --> 01:24:09,205
So funny, like so funny.

1711
01:24:09,205 --> 01:24:11,835
It's just so out there It's
Tom Cruise in it as well.

1712
01:24:11,835 --> 01:24:13,075
Did he do a little scene in it?

1713
01:24:13,195 --> 01:24:14,295
Yeah, he's less Grossman.

1714
01:24:15,265 --> 01:24:15,965
So he was less.

1715
01:24:16,285 --> 01:24:23,115
I'm trying to remember That's right
Cruise the most un Tom Cruise movie

1716
01:24:23,115 --> 01:24:26,755
Tom Cruise has ever done What's
the other one where he reappeared

1717
01:24:26,755 --> 01:24:28,285
as that that same character again?

1718
01:24:28,295 --> 01:24:32,675
There was another movie where he was that
character Um, or a variation of that.

1719
01:24:32,855 --> 01:24:33,645
Gosh, what was it?

1720
01:24:34,895 --> 01:24:35,925
It's gonna drive me nuts now.

1721
01:24:35,925 --> 01:24:39,095
But I saw him reprise a similar role
in a different movie as a cameo.

1722
01:24:39,705 --> 01:24:42,765
And he was playing like a, uh,
uh, Oh gosh, I'll have to find it.

1723
01:24:42,785 --> 01:24:45,885
Anyways, you're Thank you for
the flashback down memory lane.

1724
01:24:45,895 --> 01:24:47,945
I'm gonna totally watch
Tropical Thunder this weekend.

1725
01:24:48,865 --> 01:24:52,445
Dai, if our audience heard
nothing else today, what do

1726
01:24:52,445 --> 01:24:53,135
you want to leave them with?

1727
01:24:57,815 --> 01:25:02,625
You know, the the number one thing
I gotta say, whether you like it

1728
01:25:02,625 --> 01:25:05,295
or not and whether you believe it
or not, I'm just gonna tell you.

1729
01:25:05,380 --> 01:25:09,450
Whatever change you feel is
important for you to make.

1730
01:25:10,530 --> 01:25:11,110
You're worth it.

1731
01:25:12,120 --> 01:25:12,580
You're worth it.

1732
01:25:13,340 --> 01:25:17,070
Don't let anybody tell you otherwise, you
know, you were born into this life and

1733
01:25:17,070 --> 01:25:19,410
you are entitled to live a great life.

1734
01:25:19,490 --> 01:25:21,300
You are just by being here.

1735
01:25:21,510 --> 01:25:28,510
We're all entitled to that and good to
great, you know, anybody can be good.

1736
01:25:30,120 --> 01:25:31,040
But greatness takes work.

1737
01:25:32,270 --> 01:25:33,210
You're worth the effort.

1738
01:25:33,640 --> 01:25:34,420
You can achieve it.

1739
01:25:34,760 --> 01:25:35,870
It's going to be uncomfortable.

1740
01:25:36,070 --> 01:25:38,900
But believe me, when you get
to the other side of that.

1741
01:25:39,160 --> 01:25:39,830
Oh, man.

1742
01:25:41,310 --> 01:25:43,880
You can be so happy about yourself,
but more than that, you're going to

1743
01:25:43,880 --> 01:25:47,380
realize that any change in the future
is that much more possible for you.

1744
01:25:48,895 --> 01:25:49,475
You're worth it.

1745
01:25:49,895 --> 01:25:50,735
Make the change.

1746
01:25:52,945 --> 01:25:57,965
Guys, on behalf of myself and die,
go check out the 2 percent 2 percent

1747
01:25:57,965 --> 01:26:03,045
solution podcast, plug in another positive
impact on your life during this week.

1748
01:26:03,605 --> 01:26:08,625
Have a Merry Christmas and we'll be
better tomorrow because what you do today.

1749
01:26:10,445 --> 01:26:14,745
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1750
01:26:14,775 --> 01:26:16,895
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1751
01:26:17,655 --> 01:26:19,865
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1752
01:26:20,820 --> 01:26:23,500
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1753
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1754
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