Discipline, Integrity and the Lost Art of Womanhood

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Today, we're coming at things
from a different perspective.

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At the end of this episode of the Fallible
Men podcast with Women's School founder,

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January Donovan, you will gain insights
into what makes high value men in the

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eyes of high value women, learn what
women want men to bring into families,

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learn about the negative pressures
women face that who want to have more

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traditional roles in their lives.

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Learn why a lot of women no longer have
domestic skills and have an idea of

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how high value men and high value women
can help build each other up better.

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Listen to this plea from
January and let's get into it.

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Lead us, lead us.

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We need you.

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We need men in our life to lead us.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach our full
potential growing to the men we

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dream of being while taking care
of our responsibilities, working,

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being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves.

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Well, that's the big
question in this podcast.

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We'll help you answer
those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man podcast.

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Today, my guest is bestselling
author and founder of the woman's

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school, a personal development
company for women, January Donovan.

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January, welcome to the
fallible man podcast.

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Welcome.

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Thank you for having me here.

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I'm so grateful and honored and
excited for our conversation.

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I'm, I'm excited.

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Uh, not a lot of women actually
reach out to me to be on the show

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because it is generally a men's show.

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But I think we have so much
to learn from each other.

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That's right.

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And I think it's time how we need
to break the walls and barriers.

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So we we're going to today, how's your,
uh, we, we start lighthearted here.

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So how's your uh, uh, ? How is,
it's too early in the morning here.

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Uh, how is your, I can't
even think of the word now.

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What's going on with me?

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The word is cool.

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How is your trivia?

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There we go.

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We'll get it out there somehow.

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I need more coffee.

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Apparently.

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How is my trivia?

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Yeah.

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How are your trivia skills?

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Not very good.

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Not very good.

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Not very good.

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Okay.

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So, I mean, I could try, you could
test it, but it's not very good at all.

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It's okay.

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It's okay.

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In which South American country
can you indulge in a tradition

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barbecue known as asado?

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Asado.

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Okay.

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Featuring a variety of
grilled meats and sausages.

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Is it A, Brazil, B, Argentina,
C, Columbia, or D, Peru?

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Brazil.

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All right, guys, you know,
the rules don't cheat.

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Don't jump ahead for God's sake.

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If you're driving, please do
not write down your answer.

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Just play along at home.

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We'll come back to that later.

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Now January, I don't do big introductions
because no one actually cares.

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In your own words today,
who is January Donovan?

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I'm a warrior for women.

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I'm a mom of eight.

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My faith is the most important part of me.

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I'm a teacher, um, and I am a devoted and
faithful wife to my husband of 18 years.

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You really say eight children?

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I have eight children, yes.

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You are incredibly brave, ma'am.

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Yeah, I'm really grateful.

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I want to If I could add that, I want
to redeem the narrative of motherhood

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as not something that was designed
to be hard, exhausting, draining.

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I think it's designed to not
just to give life, but to

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actually breathe life within us.

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And so, I am determined to rewrite the
story of motherhood in our culture today.

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I'm just thinking of when
my kids were born, uh, going

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through that process eight times.

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Wow.

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Just wow.

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My husband faints, Brent.

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So just so you know, he's, he cut the cord
on the fifth child, which cracks me up.

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And so I, I laugh because I'm like, I
drove my house to the hospital, which

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if you know him, he's the kindest,
strongest, like nothing bothers him.

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I go to labor.

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He is what I call what I normally
don't use the word hot mess.

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I was my wife's painkiller.

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Went with a local, but like
I had indentions in my arm.

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That's hilarious.

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Yeah.

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Small part.

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At point I bridged across the
hospital bed from rail to rail and

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she grabbed onto me so she could push.

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It's real.

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Yeah.

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I, I had finger
fingerprints and nail think.

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January, what is your
favorite childhood memory?

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Oh my God.

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First thing that comes into mind,
I had a very rich childhood.

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I lived, I grew up in the Philippines.

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It was a very poor country.

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I didn't see my parents for five years
because that's how they immigrated here.

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So as a little girl, I did a
lot of pondering by myself.

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And one of my earliest favorite
memories to go for a walk at the

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beach in the sunset by myself.

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And pick up starfish in the Philippines.

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You have this like starfish that's
kind of different than your other

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starfish here in two different colors.

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And I would talk to God.

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I, I, I was a very
strong memory as a child.

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And I think I was four or five years old.

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I kept doing it.

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It was just part of who
I think who I became.

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So that's a great memory for
me, just me in the ocean.

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Beautiful memory.

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Yeah.

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There's something magical.

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I, I took my daughters to the ocean two
years ago for the first time, uh, out

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and the, the ocean on what the Washington
coastline is not a warm beaches.

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It's, it's cold water.

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It's south Florida.

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Yeah.

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And, uh, but one of my daughter, my
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we would get up is I naturally
wake up earlier when I'm camping.

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We would get up and hike out to the beach
from our campsite and walk along during

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the lotus tide of the day and pick up
sand dollars and put live sand dollars

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back in the water and play with the
crabs, the big dungeon crabs on the beach

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and we just walk for an hour or more.

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It's just magical to me.

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I feel like the ocean makes you,
reminds you of your, how small

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you are and how vast and beautiful
the world is and how big it is.

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It's unconquerable, and
yet it's also so magical.

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I mean, there's just so many beautiful
things, I think, that the ocean

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presents, and there's depth, and
it's a whole world, and so I love it.

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It's like you can sit there for hours.

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Mm hmm.

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Oh, and just meditate on the
mystery behind the water, so.

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I could, I, that's my dream
is to live in the ocean.

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I, I, and to me, it's a, it's
a gift that keeps on giving.

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So you guys have a physical location
for your schools that are all online.

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So the woman's school is an online school.

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And the reason, you know, when I
was 21 and I don't know if this is

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a question here, quite, I don't want
to jump in, but there was, I, I never

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had somebody who taught me how to
be a woman and I suffered for it.

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I was a good girl and I ended up
being just depressed, anxious,

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not really, I hated who I was.

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And so, uh, they came into time of
my life where I met a mentor who

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basically said January, um, Do you
know the woman you want to become?

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And I said, No, I don't, you
know, I don't, I have no idea.

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And so let's design you.

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And so I met with her for three
and a half years and she helped me

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literally design the woman that I
never realized I could possibly be.

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And so from that, I think I was
born really the call to say, why

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don't we have a school for women
that taught women how to be a woman?

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So that we don't suffer unnecessarily
and we actually become who we

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were, who God created us to be.

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And so I drew out of school.

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I was 21 and said, we need
to have a school that trains

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women how to be a woman.

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I was 21.

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It was this crazy dream.

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And so eight kids later and just
kept fighting for this dream.

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And five years ago, it was very
clear, you know, that we could now

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have an online school for women.

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And that's really kind of how it evolved.

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I never knew.

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I just kept that dream close to my heart.

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I just, really believe in training women.

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I believe in training.

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I said, you train for, you know,
war, you go to bootcamp, you

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train as an athlete, but there's
no training on how to be a woman.

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And you expect us to live a life
that's fulfilled and fully alive.

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And it said, that's highway robbery.

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And so I just kept doing it.

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And so the school, I feel
like, you know, first they took

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God out of our school system.

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Now they're taking women out
of our school system and men.

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And so I think it was providential
and say, why don't we bring

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the school into the heart of
the home of both men and women?

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We actually have a man's school as well.

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And that's where the
online school kind of.

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really evolved and it's becoming a
grassroots effort, grassroots effort,

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to then train men and women in their
own homes in context of a community,

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which to me I think is a way forward.

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We, we have to replace the
current model of radical feminism.

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The emasculation of men and the only
way we do that is if we individually

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do our part by training who we are.

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So I was thinking, since it is an online
school, right, you don't actually have to,

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you said you'd like to live on the ocean?

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My friend Jen moved her
entire business to Costa Rica.

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I don't, I moved to Florida and it
goes out her back door and go surfing.

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But why not?

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You know, and that was, well, that was
even the reason why we, we, we draw my

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husband and I are big sort of dreamers
and I didn't know how to dream dreaming.

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I teach dreaming as a skill set.

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And so eight, uh, seven years ago
we thought, well, where could,

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where would you want to live if
there was no roadblocks set in

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the ocean somewhere in the ocean.

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And so you went one step closer
and we pulled our whole entire

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family out of Virginia, our
ecosystem and moved to Florida.

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To be close to the water because
I like we could broadcast into 43

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countries and that's where we're now
we're in 43 countries in just four

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years and I don't have to leave unless
I have speaking engagement, which is

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I'm very choosy about it because I
love being at home with my children.

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So, I think that's the gift of
the, of our current culture.

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That you, you know, my parents could
not be the Salem dad that they want

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to be but also fulfill, I think
their call in a way that doesn't

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compromise family, both men and women.

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And I think we have that privilege
now, and I really am grateful for it.

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What is your weapon of choice
for the zombie apocalypse?

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My mindset.

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Your mindset?

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Yeah, because I think it's the
only way we can actually fight

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the battle in front of us.

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is to actually become resilient,
knowing how to think about what we're

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thinking, and be resilient against
the external, um, attack against us.

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That's what I would say.

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Um, eat well.

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You gotta eat healthy.

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What if I sat down with your family, what
is one funny story they would tell on you?

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What is what?

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What funny story?

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What funny story would they tell on you?

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I like to prank people.

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Yeah?

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Anyway, I'm such a teacher and
I get so passionate and serious,

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nobody usually expects it from me.

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But I do.

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So I, I love, I have eight
children and it's, it's so fun.

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It's so alive.

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My home is alive.

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It's, I don't believe
in chaotic home life.

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I believe in peace and joy and sure
it's loud, sure there's moments of it,

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but I think that our home is sacred.

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And we need to redeem it.

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And I think that a woman has
a role to play in her own

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home and how she shapes it.

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And so I think that's
why women need training.

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Cause we don't know how to do that.

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We weren't born knowing how to, nor
are we trained to know how to do that.

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We're not trained how to honor a man.

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How did both take care of ourselves,
but also take care of a man and have

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children, how to cook a good, you
know, yummy meal for your husband at

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the same time, hold firm boundaries.

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I mean, you've got to, you've got to know
these skillsets that creates a home that

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makes your husband want to come home and
your children that requires training.

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You can eat one meal for the
rest of your life and only one.

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What would it be?

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Eggs, eggs, eggs, although I've
eaten 20 years, almost every day.

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What's one random fact that
people don't know about you?

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This is really hard for
public figures like yourself.

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What's one totally random fact
people don't know about you?

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Like, I can't eat peas.

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You can't what?

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I can't eat peas.

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I, I did an elimination diet trying to
figure out what was going on in my gut.

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Yeah.

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And apparently I can't eat English peas.

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Wow.

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That's kind of random.

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You're right.

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Nobody would have guessed that.

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I am petrified of squirrels and I teach
mindset and I teach my management.

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I can manage my mind really well,
except I haven't conquered the squirrel.

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I still don't like it.

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And I'm don't like lizards.

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Is it like a traumatic thing as a kid?

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Are you just?

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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So I, my first earliest memories,
I grew up in the slums of the

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Philippines, so rodents and rats.

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And I think my recollection is that
I had a rodent, I think crawl in my

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leg and I'm forever scarred, but I, we
didn't have squirrels in the Philippines.

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So that was my closest thing as
a rodent when I came to the U S.

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So I just think.

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I don't know.

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I, I, some trauma behind it.

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Fair enough.

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It's silly.

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It's so ridiculous.

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I know it, but still.

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I, so.

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I grew up, English peas were
the only thing I liked as far

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as vegetables when I was a kid.

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Turns out they're bad for me.

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That's wild.

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Right?

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Never, never.

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It was, I was on a, I went completely
carnivore and then back into keto

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and then I started adding vegetables
kind of one at a time, playing

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with them every now and then.

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And who knew, right.

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It was like the one vegetable
I ate as a child and

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never, ever would have guessed.

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I was like, why of all the vegetables?

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Why that one?

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Why am I favorite?

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Then I actually will eat.

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Um, what purchase of a hundred dollars
or less have you made in the last year?

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That's had the biggest
impact on your life.

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Courses, maybe, um, I don't know.

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I guess impact on my life speaking.

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So I've had to speak most of the
last 20 years because of the work

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that I do, but I don't like it.

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Um, but I actually took Simon
Sinek's speaking course, um, because

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I had to be on the same stage
with John Maxwell and Ed Milad.

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And I don't look for the stage.

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I use it because I believe in my mission.

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That was very helpful for me.

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Okay.

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That's legit.

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Hey, you know, speaking is the
number one fear in the world, like

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public speaking, number one fear.

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So I always think of the quote,
Vernon Howard, the cave you fear to

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enter holds the treasure you hold.

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And I kept that in my mind because.

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I always feel like the things that we are
afraid of are often really mask or really

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our purposes and that has become for mine.

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And so, um, you know, I speak
because I'm called in the gym.

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We say the exercise you don't want
to do is the one you probably should.

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Yep.

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That's the same idea.

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What is something everyone
should know before we dig in?

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About myself or just about the world?

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It's about you.

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I feel like, um, there's a new
feminism movement that's brewing to

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replace the old model of feminism.

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And I feel called to help women
replace that new movement.

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And that movement is
the woman that is whole.

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So we're replacing the
broken model of feminism.

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I'm creating a new one
called a whole new woman.

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All right, guys, we've been getting
to know January just a little bit,

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who she is a little bit about her in
the next part of the show, we're going

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to dive into entrepreneurship, school
purpose, and raising the bar guys.

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I can already hear the questions
about why I'm talking up to

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a woman about woman's school.

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Bear with me.

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I guarantee this conversation
is going to take time.

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We're going to roll response and be right
back with more from January Donovan.

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Welcome back in the
first part of the show.

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We just spent some time getting
to know who January Donovan is.

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And this part of the show, we're
going to dive into entrepreneurship,

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school purpose, and raising the bar.

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Now, January, you're a successful
speaker, author, entrepreneur,

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coach, wife, mother, podcaster.

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Did I miss anything?

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Nope, that's it.

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What do you do in your spare time?

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Wow.

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Um, so, I, I, I spend time with my family.

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And if I'm not, my spare
time is really in the ocean.

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I love that.

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That's my quiet time and
that's what I love to do.

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Um, I just love being with my family.

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I really do.

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So that's what I do in my spare time.

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Oh, I love to cook.

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So I'm a huge cook and my husband
really loves and much home when I cook.

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So I still cook almost every day.

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And in spite my crazy life, I have, you
know, I've help at home, can help me

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prepare, but then I'll do the clicking.

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So.

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You cook with your kids out of curiosity.

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I cook with my kids because competence
builds confidence and if they can own

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the kitchen, I can prepare them for life.

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I'm I'm a huge fan of
cooking with children.

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Okay, yeah, it gets messy,
but you have to teach.

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So I'm a big fan of cooking with
my children, but I also really

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make sure they know how to clean.

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So I tell my children in the kitchen.

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I make sure they cook as a clean.

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So I'm.

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You know, prep work all the way
up to cleanup work and the meal.

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So, and also just learning
to have conversation.

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While cooking and really raising
the bar for mealtime, you know, they

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said that we have now 30 percent of
Americans are opting out of dining table.

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The sacredness of family
life is no longer the norm.

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And so I think most children, as you
can see, are suffering this life of

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loneliness that makes them susceptible to.

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Evil makes them susceptible to being
manipulated, drugs, alcohol, and part

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of that is because families are not
actually, we don't have the infrastructure

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to be together on a daily basis.

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It's pretty passion on behalf of men who
are like, I, I pay a lot of attention to

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the fact that men and women aren't being
able to being taught to cook anymore.

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I've talked to so many people
from teenagers up who have

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no idea how to cook anything.

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I think it's such a vital life skill
that everybody should learn to cook.

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Uh, I know some men who would say, well,
you know, my wife cooks, can you cook?

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Because you need to pick up the ball.

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I'm a big fan of that.

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Uh, for our first anniversary, I
cooked my wife an eight course meal.

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Oh, you're a whole new
level, I would say, Brent.

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That would not be.

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Well, you know, I think we
have disregarded some of

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the most basic foundations.

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So when I think of cooking, it's
not just about, you know, You know,

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producing this meal, there has to be
sort of, what's the meaning behind it?

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And, you know, when you feed the
physical, you also nurture the spiritual.

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And I think that's how we
need to look at cooking.

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And we used to have home economics class.

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I did.

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I mean, maybe you did too.

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We had woodwork.

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And so I feel like we've erased that.

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And now we have an obesity problem.

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We have eating disorder.

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We have, you know, also crisis
and, you know, mental health.

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And I tell people what you
eat impacts your thoughts.

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We have evidence of that.

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But anything psychological it
gets, you know, is biological.

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So what you put in your body
impacts who you think and feel.

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And so we can't afford not to
actually fuel our body with good food.

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I would also add that I think men and
women should learn how to cook, but

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I also think that there is a place
for women to actually learn not just

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to cook, but actually to nurture.

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We don't have to be expert cook,
but we have to, as women use.

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you know, what we have in our home
to nurture people to fight actually

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the battle outside our homes.

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So I think women should
really learn how to cook.

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The problem with cooking is that women
don't have the skill of cleaning or

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prepping or a routine or boundaries
that actually helps them to create an

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ecosystem where cooking and eating and
nurturing becomes part of a way of life.

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And I will also add, we should
really learn how to cook for them.

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Like something that we, that's
special that we can have for him.

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And even though your husband, like my
dad knows how to cook, there's just that

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little place that makes it extra special
and say, I'm doing this and just for you.

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And I think that's just one way for
us to, I think, feed our man and

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feed that love and we've lost that
artistry and in womanhood, I believe.

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So you said that your mentor really kind
of set you on a path that you're on now.

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And you created the woman skull,
which honestly, like just from an

476
00:23:12,820 --> 00:23:18,360
outside perspective is incredibly
brave, uh, modern era because, right.

477
00:23:18,410 --> 00:23:21,080
I'm, I'm sure that you get attacked.

478
00:23:22,014 --> 00:23:27,925
By feminists left and right tell us
about the woman's school Let's be here.

479
00:23:28,215 --> 00:23:29,505
Yeah, you know, what's fascinating.

480
00:23:29,505 --> 00:23:33,824
So I find so when When we started
the woman's school, it was very

481
00:23:33,824 --> 00:23:36,974
specific to mindset and skill set
and as a matter of fact I don't even

482
00:23:37,204 --> 00:23:38,765
actually talk about the word feminism.

483
00:23:38,874 --> 00:23:44,245
I really don't because I find that I
didn't want the roadblock, language

484
00:23:44,245 --> 00:23:49,284
is a roadblock, and when the language
becomes divisive, they're not really

485
00:23:49,295 --> 00:23:52,335
willing to listen, when in reality,
they would probably be open to it.

486
00:23:53,115 --> 00:23:57,514
And so, when the Women's School really
started, it's just teaching women how

487
00:23:57,514 --> 00:23:59,754
to design every part of their life.

488
00:24:00,364 --> 00:24:04,665
And, what I'm seeing is that
there's actually universal hunger.

489
00:24:05,074 --> 00:24:09,024
For women to feel alive in who they
are in their mental, emotional,

490
00:24:09,024 --> 00:24:11,864
physical and spiritual health and their
friendship and their intimacy and their

491
00:24:11,864 --> 00:24:14,895
contribution, which is an extension
of their career and their wealth and

492
00:24:14,895 --> 00:24:16,084
their environment and their family life.

493
00:24:17,055 --> 00:24:19,454
Feminists and non feminists
actually it's a uniting front.

494
00:24:20,534 --> 00:24:25,245
And what I find is that if we just
replaced and gave women a language that

495
00:24:25,245 --> 00:24:27,114
wasn't so divisive, they actually want it.

496
00:24:27,324 --> 00:24:30,764
Who doesn't want to be peaceful
and joyful and fully alive?

497
00:24:31,034 --> 00:24:33,854
Who doesn't want to be admired as a
woman by the men you admire the most?

498
00:24:34,044 --> 00:24:35,904
Who doesn't want to have
meaningful friendship?

499
00:24:36,225 --> 00:24:39,195
Who doesn't want to feel as though
they're mentally, emotionally,

500
00:24:39,195 --> 00:24:40,355
physically, and spiritually fit?

501
00:24:40,425 --> 00:24:44,735
Who doesn't want to have an abundant
life where they have and their resources

502
00:24:44,735 --> 00:24:48,415
that's more than just enough to pay
the bills, but extra to actually

503
00:24:48,415 --> 00:24:51,320
support, um, You know, their family.

504
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:52,620
I think we all deeply desire it.

505
00:24:52,700 --> 00:24:54,170
The problem is that how?

506
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:56,240
And that's what the Women's School is.

507
00:24:56,250 --> 00:24:58,470
It's essentially a how to school, Brenton.

508
00:24:59,065 --> 00:25:00,275
I think we've been robbed of the how.

509
00:25:00,555 --> 00:25:01,465
That's the problem.

510
00:25:01,465 --> 00:25:02,995
It's like, go for your dreams.

511
00:25:03,325 --> 00:25:03,725
How?

512
00:25:04,285 --> 00:25:04,835
How do you dream?

513
00:25:04,835 --> 00:25:05,685
Dreaming is a skill set.

514
00:25:06,035 --> 00:25:08,375
Make sure that you plan your day.

515
00:25:08,405 --> 00:25:08,785
How?

516
00:25:08,834 --> 00:25:09,515
How do you plan?

517
00:25:09,765 --> 00:25:13,244
We make 35 decisions a day and
we do not have decision making

518
00:25:13,244 --> 00:25:14,405
skills in our school system.

519
00:25:14,794 --> 00:25:16,784
They tell us what to do,
but not how to do it.

520
00:25:17,644 --> 00:25:20,685
And so people are wondering,
something's wrong with you.

521
00:25:20,735 --> 00:25:22,665
I always tell women,
nothing is wrong with you.

522
00:25:22,695 --> 00:25:24,355
You've just never been shown how to do it.

523
00:25:25,315 --> 00:25:26,805
And that's what the woman's school is.

524
00:25:27,169 --> 00:25:30,330
We have to give women it's
not just about empowerment.

525
00:25:30,439 --> 00:25:31,409
It's about equipment.

526
00:25:31,629 --> 00:25:35,479
It's about discipline It's about sacrifice
because our world right now if you think

527
00:25:35,489 --> 00:25:43,840
about it is integrity the norm No, but
see a woman who lacks integrity suffers.

528
00:25:43,989 --> 00:25:47,770
She is not trusted She doesn't like
herself because she can't trust herself.

529
00:25:48,409 --> 00:25:51,875
Her relationships are chaotic She
wants to live a life of integrity.

530
00:25:51,885 --> 00:25:54,705
She doesn't know how to
live a life of integrity.

531
00:25:55,104 --> 00:25:56,264
Honesty is a skill set.

532
00:25:57,344 --> 00:25:59,205
Children don't necessarily
know how to be honest.

533
00:25:59,205 --> 00:26:00,134
We assume that they do.

534
00:26:00,625 --> 00:26:03,315
And so just because you're a born woman
doesn't know you know how to be a woman.

535
00:26:03,315 --> 00:26:04,625
And so that's what I would say.

536
00:26:04,625 --> 00:26:08,264
But I also think that there is sort
of where the last three years we have

537
00:26:08,265 --> 00:26:13,614
seen, I would say, a great awakening
of people that are seeing all the

538
00:26:13,614 --> 00:26:16,514
massive evil that's happening, all
the craziness and the corruption.

539
00:26:17,225 --> 00:26:21,595
And people that were sort of
resistance, resistant against, you

540
00:26:21,595 --> 00:26:26,285
know, what it means to be a woman
where you feel like it was vulnerable.

541
00:26:26,315 --> 00:26:29,275
I feel like right now the world
is actually ready and the world

542
00:26:29,275 --> 00:26:32,094
is saying, you know what, I know
I do not want to be undefined.

543
00:26:33,125 --> 00:26:36,444
I want to know that I'm valuable
as a man, and I want to be

544
00:26:36,444 --> 00:26:37,764
the first one to honor men.

545
00:26:38,315 --> 00:26:42,345
I do not want to be part of the, You
know, the problem of emasculating men.

546
00:26:42,605 --> 00:26:44,195
I'm not here to want to be a man.

547
00:26:44,415 --> 00:26:45,745
I'm not here to replace men.

548
00:26:46,035 --> 00:26:49,515
I want to be woman right next to a man
and rebuilding our culture together.

549
00:26:49,745 --> 00:26:54,064
I'm done with this old model
of feminism that, that really

550
00:26:54,064 --> 00:26:56,104
eradicates both men and women.

551
00:26:56,104 --> 00:26:58,145
Now it's gone to this radical extreme.

552
00:26:58,645 --> 00:27:03,315
We are tired I think the world is
hungry for a new model of women.

553
00:27:04,495 --> 00:27:07,995
I've actually been really
excited on social media to see.

554
00:27:09,375 --> 00:27:17,085
The younger women right in the,
who are hitting that 20 ish

555
00:27:17,105 --> 00:27:20,615
age who are starting to go.

556
00:27:21,315 --> 00:27:23,845
No, I don't want to go work full time.

557
00:27:24,225 --> 00:27:26,184
I want to have a household.

558
00:27:26,185 --> 00:27:27,554
I want to raise children.

559
00:27:27,584 --> 00:27:30,975
I, I don't want to go
to work all the time.

560
00:27:30,975 --> 00:27:34,885
No, I'm, I'm really would like a
man who takes care of things and,

561
00:27:36,625 --> 00:27:40,625
and it's been just a breath of
fresh air to see, uh, start to cycle

562
00:27:40,635 --> 00:27:43,685
back to something that I'm, I'm 44.

563
00:27:43,695 --> 00:27:44,294
So I would.

564
00:27:44,705 --> 00:27:47,465
To me, that's like a norm, right?

565
00:27:48,014 --> 00:27:52,085
Uh, those, those more traditional
concepts as people like to call

566
00:27:52,085 --> 00:27:58,115
them it to cycle back to something
that I see as a healthy normal.

567
00:27:58,305 --> 00:28:03,674
It's like women, women have this value
and these skills and this presence

568
00:28:03,674 --> 00:28:05,544
and this ability that men never will.

569
00:28:06,864 --> 00:28:07,314
Vice versa.

570
00:28:07,314 --> 00:28:09,864
We are, we are meant to work together.

571
00:28:09,870 --> 00:28:10,249
Mm-Hmm.

572
00:28:11,544 --> 00:28:11,665
. Right?

573
00:28:12,185 --> 00:28:14,554
I don't know how we keep
ignoring this concept.

574
00:28:15,245 --> 00:28:17,374
'cause you see this balance
everywhere in the world.

575
00:28:18,825 --> 00:28:22,125
Well, I think we have to look at the
history of the radical feminism and what

576
00:28:22,125 --> 00:28:27,110
they were trying to basically eradicate,
which is essentially the genders.

577
00:28:27,885 --> 00:28:31,265
You know, where the idea was that
we just want to be make sure we're

578
00:28:31,265 --> 00:28:35,745
all human, which was noble at some
degree, but essentially, it erased

579
00:28:35,815 --> 00:28:39,554
also our unique ability, both as men
and women and what we offer the world

580
00:28:39,554 --> 00:28:41,355
uniquely that cannot be replaced.

581
00:28:41,625 --> 00:28:44,085
But I think what we're seeing
right now is 2 radical extremes.

582
00:28:44,605 --> 00:28:50,554
Trying to find a way to actually find that
balance like any other movement or any

583
00:28:50,554 --> 00:28:54,274
other things in history when we look at,
you know, first woman could not vote, no

584
00:28:54,274 --> 00:28:59,374
choice, no voice, nothing to now, whatever
you want, whatever you feel like, and

585
00:28:59,374 --> 00:29:04,204
what we have right now is actual data
that they just came out right now and, um.

586
00:29:04,415 --> 00:29:07,314
Yale of, in spite of all the
opportunities and freedom that women

587
00:29:07,335 --> 00:29:08,774
have, women are actually unhappier.

588
00:29:09,044 --> 00:29:10,605
They did a recent study on it.

589
00:29:10,685 --> 00:29:11,044
Why?

590
00:29:11,044 --> 00:29:14,924
And we have to ask ourselves why, with
all the external achievements and freedom

591
00:29:14,924 --> 00:29:16,415
that we have, women are actually not free.

592
00:29:16,685 --> 00:29:20,375
So I think the new movement towards
sort of the center is interior freedom.

593
00:29:20,630 --> 00:29:23,730
Which I define the freedom apart
from external circumstances.

594
00:29:24,060 --> 00:29:28,420
So I think that's what we want as women is
that, you know, we want the true freedom

595
00:29:28,599 --> 00:29:32,580
that's not based on what we can produce
in the world, what we offer in the world.

596
00:29:32,900 --> 00:29:35,839
So we're just coming into, I think,
that medium, which I think is the

597
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:37,230
most exciting time to be a woman.

598
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,740
Because now we've got data
to prove it doesn't work.

599
00:29:41,130 --> 00:29:44,110
It does it doing whatever you
feel like, whatever you want, just

600
00:29:44,159 --> 00:29:48,389
because you can does not work,
it leads you to your own demise.

601
00:29:48,389 --> 00:29:51,410
And the idea of eradicating
men does not work.

602
00:29:51,450 --> 00:29:53,679
We need men, we need it
every step of the way.

603
00:29:54,199 --> 00:29:57,370
And so I think that the pushback.

604
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:02,980
Is based, I think, now on data
where before women push back, but

605
00:30:02,980 --> 00:30:07,110
they were completely ostracized for
it because data couldn't prove it.

606
00:30:07,110 --> 00:30:08,189
Now we can.

607
00:30:08,879 --> 00:30:12,550
And so I think that we're just
going to see this new surge.

608
00:30:12,940 --> 00:30:15,359
Um, the problem is that there is.

609
00:30:15,885 --> 00:30:21,715
A small, I would say very extreme
people that are really just hitting

610
00:30:21,755 --> 00:30:25,405
every institution of government,
replacing motherhood, birthing parent.

611
00:30:25,775 --> 00:30:30,565
I mean, this whole idea of transgender
is imploding in itself because now it

612
00:30:30,674 --> 00:30:34,484
is actually causing both men and women
to wake up and say, I don't want my

613
00:30:34,485 --> 00:30:35,945
daughters to be in the same bathroom.

614
00:30:35,945 --> 00:30:39,645
I mean, tell me, Brent, what would
you do if that man came into your

615
00:30:39,645 --> 00:30:42,295
nine year old daughter, 12 year old
in the same bathroom being like,

616
00:30:42,295 --> 00:30:43,585
no, I have the right to be here.

617
00:30:43,605 --> 00:30:43,875
I mean.

618
00:30:44,155 --> 00:30:46,355
He's not going to last long
with all these fathers.

619
00:30:46,405 --> 00:30:47,925
The fathers is saying no more.

620
00:30:48,635 --> 00:30:53,435
And so what we're seeing is that
it's evil implodes in itself.

621
00:30:54,245 --> 00:30:55,865
And that's what we are seeing right now.

622
00:30:55,925 --> 00:30:56,565
And so.

623
00:30:57,375 --> 00:30:58,325
We have to push back.

624
00:30:58,375 --> 00:31:03,715
And that's where my passion and I said,
if, if not you, then who, if we don't

625
00:31:03,715 --> 00:31:05,535
speak up, we won't have a country.

626
00:31:05,854 --> 00:31:07,195
We won't have men and women.

627
00:31:07,375 --> 00:31:11,605
They've done way too much to eradicate
both God, our genders in our country

628
00:31:11,805 --> 00:31:13,214
and radicalizing our institution.

629
00:31:13,394 --> 00:31:17,525
The only hope we have is a
grassroots movement towards actually

630
00:31:17,525 --> 00:31:18,915
becoming whole and fighting back.

631
00:31:19,855 --> 00:31:21,815
And so we don't have a choice.

632
00:31:21,875 --> 00:31:23,025
If we want a country.

633
00:31:23,730 --> 00:31:24,850
in the next five years.

634
00:31:25,270 --> 00:31:28,110
We don't have a choice if we want
safety for our children, our faith,

635
00:31:28,110 --> 00:31:31,110
to be able to practice our faith,
to be able to defend family life.

636
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:38,529
I mean, I can't stay silent in the
face of a massive attack on what

637
00:31:38,530 --> 00:31:40,419
it means for a man and a woman.

638
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:45,485
The fact that Men are afraid
to actually say, I want to be a

639
00:31:45,485 --> 00:31:49,775
man and I want to protect women
and without women attacking you.

640
00:31:50,715 --> 00:31:52,255
What has become of women?

641
00:31:52,845 --> 00:31:56,494
When they have become so
prideful, they are incapable of

642
00:31:56,495 --> 00:31:58,465
receiving the help of another.

643
00:32:00,165 --> 00:32:00,845
We don't want that anymore.

644
00:32:01,244 --> 00:32:03,245
We need men and we don't only need men.

645
00:32:03,344 --> 00:32:04,305
We want to honor men.

646
00:32:04,455 --> 00:32:05,605
We want to celebrate men.

647
00:32:05,705 --> 00:32:07,585
We don't want to just celebrate them.

648
00:32:07,735 --> 00:32:11,365
We want to put them in the rightful
place just because I can protect myself.

649
00:32:11,365 --> 00:32:12,894
That doesn't mean I want
my husband to protect me.

650
00:32:14,295 --> 00:32:16,085
And so that's, we're tired of it.

651
00:32:16,085 --> 00:32:17,555
So I'm seeing that shift.

652
00:32:17,555 --> 00:32:22,485
And I think actually I'm seeing
such a rise in men pushing back

653
00:32:22,485 --> 00:32:26,764
against the masculinization of
men and the sphere that, you

654
00:32:26,764 --> 00:32:27,734
know, you're going to get attack.

655
00:32:27,735 --> 00:32:30,284
It's like, where has the strong men gone?

656
00:32:31,095 --> 00:32:33,144
And I think we're seeing
them, they're rising.

657
00:32:33,145 --> 00:32:36,055
It's you, it's men that are saying,
no, I'm not putting up with this.

658
00:32:37,325 --> 00:32:38,519
I'm not putting up with this.

659
00:32:40,290 --> 00:32:41,980
You know, what's ironic, right?

660
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:47,570
As we look at the way things are, we,
we, we talk, use terms like liberal,

661
00:32:47,570 --> 00:32:49,179
conservative, right, left, right.

662
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,409
My biggest audiences are
in the most liberal states.

663
00:32:53,410 --> 00:32:58,450
This is not what you would
consider a liberal show.

664
00:32:58,859 --> 00:33:03,689
Uh, we have very conservative
values here, not overtly political.

665
00:33:03,719 --> 00:33:04,829
I'm not shy about it.

666
00:33:04,829 --> 00:33:06,319
It's just not what I
talked about on my show.

667
00:33:06,979 --> 00:33:09,809
Um, I've sat on a couple of
political shows and trust me, I will.

668
00:33:10,180 --> 00:33:17,140
Say exactly what I feel about this Uh,
but it's Like my biggest, my biggest

669
00:33:17,140 --> 00:33:19,430
audiences are in New York and California.

670
00:33:19,550 --> 00:33:20,180
That's crazy.

671
00:33:20,180 --> 00:33:21,260
That's really telling.

672
00:33:21,910 --> 00:33:22,320
Right?

673
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,159
That there's a hunger for it.

674
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:28,680
And I mean, and you know, here's
what I think about politics.

675
00:33:28,709 --> 00:33:32,529
I think that good people are not
in there because we've been so

676
00:33:32,529 --> 00:33:34,169
busy trying to raise our family.

677
00:33:34,549 --> 00:33:39,040
So we need to have, we need to put
good people in there, but that's not

678
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:40,140
where we're going to win this battle.

679
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:46,110
We have to win this battle soul per soul,
family per family, couple per couple.

680
00:33:46,730 --> 00:33:49,090
Because a lot of, you
know, what is it now?

681
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:52,460
30 percent of Gen Z don't believe in
marriage is why they probably don't know.

682
00:33:53,015 --> 00:33:56,755
Or haven't witnessed, because it hasn't
been modeled for them, what it means to

683
00:33:56,755 --> 00:34:00,515
be incredibly in love, alive in marriage.

684
00:34:00,555 --> 00:34:05,145
Because what is being advertised is
divorce, crazy chaotic motherhood,

685
00:34:06,024 --> 00:34:07,375
life ends when you're married.

686
00:34:07,385 --> 00:34:12,904
I mean, that's why we have to replace
that current model that's being pushed

687
00:34:12,925 --> 00:34:15,964
as a propaganda narrative and say,
where are the beautiful marriages?

688
00:34:16,045 --> 00:34:19,035
Because if we lived our marriage
so beautifully, if we understood

689
00:34:19,035 --> 00:34:22,934
what a beautiful woman is, more
women would want to be fully woman.

690
00:34:22,934 --> 00:34:22,994
Thank you.

691
00:34:23,620 --> 00:34:27,020
It's just that the model has
been so distorted, right?

692
00:34:27,020 --> 00:34:30,710
If they understood that family life
could be so abundant, so full, so

693
00:34:30,710 --> 00:34:35,700
enriching, and so full of joy that it's
not this stressful, hard, chaotic, then

694
00:34:35,700 --> 00:34:38,589
maybe more people would want to have
families and preserve it and defend it.

695
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,770
But we cannot have that unless we train
the woman, which is why I'm passionate

696
00:34:42,770 --> 00:34:45,970
about the, you know, the school we
have for, in the woman's school, in

697
00:34:45,980 --> 00:34:50,459
the man's school, because we really
need to train women to remodel the

698
00:34:50,460 --> 00:34:54,240
current model of family, of faith,
of being what it means to be a woman.

699
00:34:54,300 --> 00:34:55,370
We need a new model.

700
00:34:57,660 --> 00:35:00,479
Now guys, I promised you this
was going to go in a way that

701
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:01,670
was going to be worth your time.

702
00:35:03,190 --> 00:35:07,380
And we're, we've been leaning up
to this conversation as we move

703
00:35:07,380 --> 00:35:12,650
through with what January is doing
with women, because she's right.

704
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:17,179
This takes both sides
being in harmony together.

705
00:35:18,660 --> 00:35:20,919
You in getting ready for the show.

706
00:35:20,919 --> 00:35:23,859
One of the things you had written
down was we were created to live a

707
00:35:23,859 --> 00:35:25,980
life of meaning and contribution.

708
00:35:26,270 --> 00:35:29,070
Now you believe people are born
with a purpose and I do too.

709
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:30,880
We were holding a sink on that.

710
00:35:31,370 --> 00:35:34,400
I know a lot of men who
struggle with self worth.

711
00:35:35,170 --> 00:35:41,560
How do you help the women you work with
believe that they have that meaning

712
00:35:41,590 --> 00:35:44,450
and they were born for something?

713
00:35:45,010 --> 00:35:49,570
Because I know so many guys struggling
with this, but convincing other

714
00:35:49,579 --> 00:35:53,530
people that they were born for a
purpose, for a meaningful purpose.

715
00:35:54,855 --> 00:35:55,505
It's a great question.

716
00:35:55,505 --> 00:35:56,335
How do you handle that?

717
00:35:56,735 --> 00:35:57,365
Great question.

718
00:35:57,365 --> 00:36:01,125
So let's first understand how even
your self worth was shaped because that

719
00:36:01,125 --> 00:36:02,865
will then we can reverse engineer it.

720
00:36:03,305 --> 00:36:05,675
So let's just have kind of
a common understanding that

721
00:36:05,695 --> 00:36:07,395
every human life is valuable.

722
00:36:07,715 --> 00:36:09,855
Nobody will ever be you and
nobody will ever be you.

723
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,500
So the first thing that we need
to understand is how then did

724
00:36:13,500 --> 00:36:17,530
I come to understand that I am
actually a valuable human being?

725
00:36:17,540 --> 00:36:24,130
Well, we are objectively valuable, but
it was subjectively revealed to us,

726
00:36:24,649 --> 00:36:30,280
meaning if I had a dad who loved me more
when I, did well in basketball, I might

727
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,790
start to think that I'm valuable only
if and when I can produce great work.

728
00:36:34,620 --> 00:36:39,899
What if I, you know, I was in a group
of guys and all of a sudden what made

729
00:36:39,899 --> 00:36:42,590
me valuable is my popularity, right?

730
00:36:42,820 --> 00:36:45,200
And so I start to think
that, Oh, I'm valuable.

731
00:36:45,210 --> 00:36:47,690
I'm more important if and when
I'm popular, or I'm not actually

732
00:36:47,690 --> 00:36:48,950
important because I'm less popular.

733
00:36:49,530 --> 00:36:53,685
Or we are in this, you're in this culture
as a man and you realize, well, What

734
00:36:53,695 --> 00:36:57,165
makes you actually more important people
like you people love you people give you

735
00:36:57,165 --> 00:37:01,755
attention if you've got this whatever
perfect body right whatever the muscular

736
00:37:01,755 --> 00:37:06,864
body and so what's happening now Brent
is that we have conditioned both men

737
00:37:06,865 --> 00:37:10,695
and women to believe that their value is
based on what they can offer the world.

738
00:37:11,195 --> 00:37:12,235
It's subjective.

739
00:37:12,474 --> 00:37:12,824
Why?

740
00:37:12,845 --> 00:37:16,205
Because it was given to them
subjectively based on the

741
00:37:16,235 --> 00:37:18,965
people that revealed it to us.

742
00:37:19,535 --> 00:37:23,165
But also our school system, you
know, we value people who go to

743
00:37:24,395 --> 00:37:30,740
Ivy Leagues, get an A, and We place
conditions on somebody else's value.

744
00:37:30,750 --> 00:37:36,490
So what I am, so that's the first thing
is understanding how our self worth was

745
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:40,829
shaped subjectively so that you're sitting
here and you're like thinking to yourself,

746
00:37:40,849 --> 00:37:43,920
well, I always think that I'm more
important when I've got a strong body or.

747
00:37:44,815 --> 00:37:50,055
You know, I'm, I'm making X, Y, and
Z and that has become a programming

748
00:37:50,115 --> 00:37:51,335
in your subconscious mind.

749
00:37:51,335 --> 00:37:55,384
So our brain is like a computer,
it's like a program, right?

750
00:37:55,385 --> 00:37:59,265
So I know that this is a pencil because
from the moment I was three years

751
00:37:59,265 --> 00:38:03,294
old, I was told this was a pencil
through the process of repetition.

752
00:38:03,294 --> 00:38:05,325
It's literally forming
a wiring in my brain.

753
00:38:05,695 --> 00:38:07,795
So if I tell you this is a
phone, you're going to look at

754
00:38:07,795 --> 00:38:10,065
me bright and you're like, that
is obviously not a phone, right?

755
00:38:10,425 --> 00:38:14,005
So if I tell you your value is.

756
00:38:14,825 --> 00:38:19,295
Unconditional, nothing changes it, but
you have been told all these years,

757
00:38:19,305 --> 00:38:22,425
they're only valuable and more important,
only if and when you make this much

758
00:38:22,425 --> 00:38:25,225
money, your body's perfect, you're
going to tell me, no way, January.

759
00:38:26,215 --> 00:38:29,065
Because what's happening is that
those neurological programs comes

760
00:38:29,065 --> 00:38:31,615
into our 95 percent of our brain,
our subconscious conditioning.

761
00:38:31,885 --> 00:38:33,044
So it doesn't matter what I tell you.

762
00:38:33,965 --> 00:38:36,794
It matters how it was shaped
in your neurological wiring,

763
00:38:37,424 --> 00:38:38,804
just like you learn a language.

764
00:38:39,124 --> 00:38:40,045
So what's the solution?

765
00:38:40,045 --> 00:38:42,685
So right now, most of the world.

766
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,290
have been conditioned to believe that
they're only valuable if and when.

767
00:38:46,980 --> 00:38:48,100
Their performance, right?

768
00:38:48,240 --> 00:38:49,190
So what do we need to do?

769
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,680
Now, we have this beautiful tool in the
last 30 years that has really given us a

770
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,240
lot of ammunition called neuroplasticity.

771
00:38:56,500 --> 00:39:00,330
If people have had a stroke
before, they learn to walk again.

772
00:39:00,339 --> 00:39:00,569
Why?

773
00:39:00,570 --> 00:39:02,210
Because they're rewiring
back in their brain.

774
00:39:02,579 --> 00:39:07,535
So this model can tell us, well, If I
don't believe I'm worth it, if I feel I

775
00:39:07,535 --> 00:39:11,835
have a low self worth and I don't feel
I have a purpose, what we need to do is

776
00:39:11,835 --> 00:39:16,285
replace the conditioning in our brain,
literally, through neuroplasticity.

777
00:39:16,685 --> 00:39:17,605
So how do we do that?

778
00:39:17,715 --> 00:39:25,704
We rewire our brain and we say, I'm
valuable because I am, regardless.

779
00:39:26,795 --> 00:39:32,235
That needs to happen as a rewiring
formula, just like stroke victims.

780
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,240
Learn how to walk again, as if
you're learning a new language.

781
00:39:35,240 --> 00:39:37,420
If you spoke English right
now, it's like learning French.

782
00:39:37,420 --> 00:39:38,850
So it's a very neurological process.

783
00:39:38,850 --> 00:39:39,660
That's step one.

784
00:39:40,070 --> 00:39:42,840
Number two is that you have
to give yourself evidence.

785
00:39:43,550 --> 00:39:51,030
of your self worth, meaning you have to
look at, you know, your unique, I would

786
00:39:51,030 --> 00:39:58,149
say, experience of the world, your DNA,
your family that you're in, your aptitude,

787
00:39:58,150 --> 00:39:59,279
what you like, what you don't like.

788
00:39:59,279 --> 00:40:03,749
And you look at that combination and you
realize, Oh my goodness, like nobody's

789
00:40:03,749 --> 00:40:05,310
ever going to be this person in the world.

790
00:40:06,390 --> 00:40:09,370
Therefore, what I offer
in this world, nobody can.

791
00:40:10,020 --> 00:40:16,170
So when you just pause and actually give
yourself to think how valuable it is.

792
00:40:17,715 --> 00:40:20,925
to be who you are because nobody can
do what you do because of your unique

793
00:40:20,935 --> 00:40:26,115
combination, then you have to convince
yourself that you're so important

794
00:40:26,205 --> 00:40:27,295
because nobody will ever be you.

795
00:40:27,604 --> 00:40:31,915
So, and the third thing is that you
have to grow in competence, meaning you

796
00:40:31,915 --> 00:40:33,925
have to develop your skill after skill.

797
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,730
Confidence comes from competence, a lot
of time women say, I'm just not confident

798
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:39,000
or a man says, I'm just not confident.

799
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:40,290
Well, where does confidence come from?

800
00:40:40,510 --> 00:40:41,670
How do you become a great speaker?

801
00:40:41,910 --> 00:40:43,860
You develop speaking skills, competencies.

802
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:48,459
And so I tell men out there, if
you have a low self worth, number

803
00:40:48,460 --> 00:40:49,890
one, you have to rewire your brain.

804
00:40:50,139 --> 00:40:52,399
Number two, you have to give
yourself evidence of your value.

805
00:40:52,660 --> 00:40:55,470
Number three, you have to develop
skill set after skill set after skill

806
00:40:55,470 --> 00:40:57,070
set, which is why we need training.

807
00:40:57,370 --> 00:41:00,370
And then that process is actually going
to open the door for you to realize,

808
00:41:00,370 --> 00:41:03,350
wait a minute, I have a purpose.

809
00:41:03,350 --> 00:41:03,420
Thanks.

810
00:41:03,950 --> 00:41:07,900
I've got something good to offer
this world, but all of this is

811
00:41:07,900 --> 00:41:09,910
not going to make sense unless
actually you work through it.

812
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,390
It has to be a process.

813
00:41:12,390 --> 00:41:14,180
It's like, you're not
going to see yourself.

814
00:41:14,930 --> 00:41:18,850
You know achieve that gold medal unless
you actually start training for it.

815
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:27,740
About two years ago I posted my
most apparently controversial

816
00:41:27,770 --> 00:41:30,090
post On social media.

817
00:41:30,369 --> 00:41:35,410
I had no idea it was controversial
at the time, but people responded to

818
00:41:35,410 --> 00:41:41,540
it I had one person like I got flamed
hard Hmm, and it was a simple post.

819
00:41:42,030 --> 00:41:45,080
I think it was like ten things
every man should be able to do.

820
00:41:45,370 --> 00:41:52,720
Hmm And I had someone, I mean,
it's just go ballistic, right?

821
00:41:53,460 --> 00:41:54,820
Why, right?

822
00:41:55,030 --> 00:41:58,460
It's like, well, and, and I had
someone tell me, I was like, don't,

823
00:41:58,480 --> 00:41:59,639
don't even bother to engage them.

824
00:41:59,650 --> 00:42:03,109
Like I argued this out with
them knowing that it's a losing

825
00:42:03,110 --> 00:42:07,520
proposition until I started to put
it into context for the person.

826
00:42:07,860 --> 00:42:09,860
Because they didn't bother
to look at my channel.

827
00:42:09,860 --> 00:42:10,300
Right.

828
00:42:11,030 --> 00:42:13,640
They didn't bother to go,
Oh, he talks mainly to men.

829
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:15,240
So that's why he's addressing men.

830
00:42:15,910 --> 00:42:18,049
Holmes, like, look, honestly, I
think everybody should have these

831
00:42:18,049 --> 00:42:21,670
10 skills, but I talked to men.

832
00:42:21,670 --> 00:42:23,400
So my posts are addressed to men.

833
00:42:24,390 --> 00:42:29,039
They're like, Oh, it's like, and
these are all like basic skills.

834
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:29,450
Right.

835
00:42:31,530 --> 00:42:32,820
But they're basic.

836
00:42:33,210 --> 00:42:36,080
Uh, as you said, competencies, right.

837
00:42:36,420 --> 00:42:36,500
Yeah.

838
00:42:38,085 --> 00:42:44,385
Men used to stack as just part
of what we learn growing up.

839
00:42:44,395 --> 00:42:47,705
When we had classes like home ec,
when we were involved in things like

840
00:42:47,705 --> 00:42:51,185
the boy scouts, when we were at our
parents feet, learning, like I learned

841
00:42:51,185 --> 00:42:53,994
how to sew from my grandmother, right?

842
00:42:54,004 --> 00:42:55,864
They were basic competencies.

843
00:42:56,024 --> 00:43:01,015
Like I can sew my clothes because
I learned how it's in our house.

844
00:43:01,485 --> 00:43:06,185
We would patch holes instead of throw
away pants because pants were expensive.

845
00:43:07,240 --> 00:43:07,670
Right.

846
00:43:08,410 --> 00:43:10,340
Basic competence skills.

847
00:43:11,260 --> 00:43:16,590
I find more and more people, both men
and women, are just not collecting.

848
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:18,480
Yeah, no, we're not.

849
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:21,950
And often, I'll just say, Brian,
our wounds blind us from the truth.

850
00:43:23,350 --> 00:43:27,564
So, whatever, sometimes I've come, you
know, especially in my line of work,

851
00:43:28,055 --> 00:43:29,545
You've got people that resist it.

852
00:43:29,935 --> 00:43:32,725
You have to see, I have to see
it in their own wounds, you know?

853
00:43:32,725 --> 00:43:34,855
And it's not that we can't learn
from the feedback, cause I'm always

854
00:43:34,855 --> 00:43:38,244
learning from the feedback, but
really people are coming in and they

855
00:43:38,245 --> 00:43:39,585
resist and they fight, they scream.

856
00:43:39,855 --> 00:43:41,285
And then you have to look at wonder why.

857
00:43:42,314 --> 00:43:44,385
Oh, because it actually
hurts to hear the truth.

858
00:43:46,505 --> 00:43:50,655
And that's why often a lot of times
people, and I think social media is

859
00:43:50,655 --> 00:43:53,655
just a platform where we've lost grace.

860
00:43:54,415 --> 00:43:56,795
We can say whatever we
think and feel we've lost.

861
00:43:57,430 --> 00:44:02,020
This idea of communicating as a, as
a woman, as a lady, or even as a man,

862
00:44:02,570 --> 00:44:07,070
you know, where we can barf all over
our words without accountability.

863
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,930
We need to have a better
sense of discretion as a man.

864
00:44:12,930 --> 00:44:16,469
And that's why I feel like
we need training because

865
00:44:16,590 --> 00:44:17,560
we don't know how to do it.

866
00:44:17,570 --> 00:44:20,539
Matt, I mean, sometimes I look at
the things that women say on social

867
00:44:20,539 --> 00:44:25,089
media and, um, their response
is very telling of who they are,

868
00:44:25,090 --> 00:44:26,099
more importantly, who they're not.

869
00:44:27,549 --> 00:44:29,900
And so we have to, I have to
know who you're dealing with.

870
00:44:29,900 --> 00:44:33,500
And there's no standard of grace anymore.

871
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,380
Like a woman can say
whatever she feels, right?

872
00:44:36,380 --> 00:44:39,730
And there's no discretion.

873
00:44:39,730 --> 00:44:42,010
We've lost the sacredness of
what it means to be a woman.

874
00:44:43,580 --> 00:44:44,320
And I'm sure men.

875
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,500
This is a men, men are on the same path.

876
00:44:49,765 --> 00:44:52,895
We're seeing some really crazy things.

877
00:44:52,935 --> 00:44:56,795
Uh, I, I hate the term that I I've
seen the term Manosphere out there.

878
00:44:57,885 --> 00:45:03,865
And I listened to other guys talk who
are in the quote unquote Manosphere.

879
00:45:04,995 --> 00:45:11,054
And we have guys, you were talking
about that, you know, those extremes.

880
00:45:12,154 --> 00:45:14,625
It's the same thing where
we're hitting these extremes.

881
00:45:14,625 --> 00:45:17,235
I was like, okay, well,
we have guys who are.

882
00:45:17,630 --> 00:45:21,660
Okay, being walked all over, and then we
have guys who are thumping their chest,

883
00:45:21,660 --> 00:45:26,590
grunting, saying we should just eat red
meat and forget women and, uh, right?

884
00:45:27,210 --> 00:45:30,489
We don't have conversations anymore.

885
00:45:30,689 --> 00:45:34,160
We don't know how to have conversations,
and that's precisely my point.

886
00:45:34,790 --> 00:45:36,739
We don't know how to actually
talk to each other anymore.

887
00:45:36,750 --> 00:45:37,619
We don't have the skill.

888
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,600
It's like you only hang out
with people who believe in

889
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:42,540
the same things you believe.

890
00:45:42,930 --> 00:45:47,550
What, how, how are we ever going to change
the world if I can't break bread with

891
00:45:47,580 --> 00:45:52,280
people who have opposing beliefs and have
the humility to learn from them, but also

892
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,159
have the firm boundary to offer my belief?

893
00:45:55,705 --> 00:45:58,605
Without having to feel like we
need to be this emotional wreck.

894
00:45:58,625 --> 00:46:00,555
Part of the problem is that
we've lived in a world where

895
00:46:00,555 --> 00:46:01,815
there's no emotional command.

896
00:46:01,815 --> 00:46:03,335
Whatever you feel like becomes a God.

897
00:46:03,645 --> 00:46:06,075
And so women and men have
no command of their emotion.

898
00:46:06,345 --> 00:46:08,324
So everything gets heated
because there's no sense of

899
00:46:08,324 --> 00:46:09,615
reverence for the human person.

900
00:46:10,015 --> 00:46:11,405
And it's about how we feel and think.

901
00:46:11,745 --> 00:46:15,515
We've lost a sense of that's
interior self discipline.

902
00:46:15,875 --> 00:46:20,675
Both men and women, and that's why
I think the way forward has to be a

903
00:46:20,675 --> 00:46:24,845
new model of what a man and woman is,
where she's not a pushover, both men

904
00:46:24,895 --> 00:46:30,794
and women, but she's also, like you
said, not this incapable of listening

905
00:46:30,795 --> 00:46:32,245
to somebody outside of her own opinion.

906
00:46:33,614 --> 00:46:36,339
But see, to be that kind of person,
Brad, requires a lot of patience.

907
00:46:36,790 --> 00:46:39,160
Discipline, which is one
of my favorite words.

908
00:46:39,180 --> 00:46:43,090
I love the word discipline because
an undisciplined woman suffers, but

909
00:46:43,100 --> 00:46:48,439
so does an undisciplined man, and a
disciplined man can conquer the world

910
00:46:48,730 --> 00:46:53,100
and the heart of the woman he loves
an undisciplined man will squander it.

911
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:55,149
Discipline to me.

912
00:46:55,515 --> 00:46:56,865
makes a man out of a man.

913
00:46:57,995 --> 00:47:00,385
It, it, and it does for a woman.

914
00:47:00,885 --> 00:47:03,975
And I'll tell you, women resist
the word discipline, right?

915
00:47:03,975 --> 00:47:07,435
Because they resist anything
hard in a culture that wants

916
00:47:07,445 --> 00:47:08,474
immediate gratification.

917
00:47:08,474 --> 00:47:12,555
I'm like, behind a beautiful life
and a beautiful woman, not based

918
00:47:12,555 --> 00:47:16,234
on external, is a woman hard at
work on her interior discipline.

919
00:47:17,224 --> 00:47:19,374
And that truly is where fulfillment comes.

920
00:47:19,644 --> 00:47:21,045
It's where a beautiful marriage comes.

921
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:22,890
It's where our beautiful family comes.

922
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,370
It's where and how we are
going to actually defend our

923
00:47:26,370 --> 00:47:29,360
country into your discipline.

924
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:34,810
We have to revive words such as
discipline, integrity into your,

925
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:36,230
into your freedom is actually new.

926
00:47:36,630 --> 00:47:43,260
These things want us to almost
be kind of this honor, right?

927
00:47:43,289 --> 00:47:47,600
When you look at, when you look at the men
before and the women before, when you look

928
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,795
at the Greek, history and sure there's
a lot of baggage that comes with it.

929
00:47:51,135 --> 00:47:52,175
There was honor.

930
00:47:53,655 --> 00:47:55,855
Where's the honor of what it
means to be a woman and a man?

931
00:47:56,655 --> 00:48:01,005
I, I believe that we,
we're ready for that.

932
00:48:01,844 --> 00:48:04,605
We're ready for that new model
of manhood and womanhood.

933
00:48:05,004 --> 00:48:06,835
We are tired of what we have.

934
00:48:07,730 --> 00:48:11,540
We're just not offering a solution
and that's why I think, you know,

935
00:48:11,540 --> 00:48:15,090
in the women's school, I say, I
don't want another empowerment.

936
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:16,500
I want the solution.

937
00:48:16,569 --> 00:48:18,850
And the solution is you need
to be a woman of discipline.

938
00:48:19,740 --> 00:48:21,249
You have to conquer yourself.

939
00:48:21,519 --> 00:48:24,419
You have to, you can no longer
be a victim to your own emotion,

940
00:48:24,649 --> 00:48:25,539
to your past, to your present.

941
00:48:25,870 --> 00:48:32,860
You can redesign your life and make it
a life of both meaning and contribution.

942
00:48:33,540 --> 00:48:35,500
You can't design a beautiful
life as an end in itself because

943
00:48:35,500 --> 00:48:36,299
that's not even fulfilling.

944
00:48:36,300 --> 00:48:39,800
You can't just hoard all this materialism,
all these things that you want for

945
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,750
your sake because at the end of the
day, that also will be unfulfilling.

946
00:48:43,809 --> 00:48:47,940
And that's why women need to learn the
skill of living a life of contribution.

947
00:48:48,030 --> 00:48:48,870
You can't give what you don't have.

948
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,930
But see, the secret gift
of a woman is receptivity.

949
00:48:54,230 --> 00:48:55,500
We need to know how to receive.

950
00:48:55,500 --> 00:48:56,660
That's where our wombs are formed.

951
00:48:57,450 --> 00:48:58,420
That's how we have life.

952
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:01,380
We receive from a man and we nurture it.

953
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:03,910
And then what we give life from it.

954
00:49:04,240 --> 00:49:06,099
The problem is that we don't
know how to receive from men.

955
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:07,959
We don't know how to nurture it.

956
00:49:08,550 --> 00:49:10,109
Therefore we can't give
life back to the man.

957
00:49:12,260 --> 00:49:14,059
The hell that's where the battlefield is.

958
00:49:16,749 --> 00:49:17,109
Guys.

959
00:49:17,159 --> 00:49:21,990
We've been discussing school purpose,
raising the bar discipline, and just

960
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:25,250
changing up the modern story because.

961
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:26,740
It's just not working.

962
00:49:26,810 --> 00:49:28,510
All you got to do is look
around and you can see it.

963
00:49:29,030 --> 00:49:32,470
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989
00:50:41,460 --> 00:50:45,160
Guys walking back in the last part
of the show, we're discussing school

990
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:48,370
and purpose and raising the bar
on ourselves and discipline and

991
00:50:49,290 --> 00:50:51,630
how there seems to be a change.

992
00:50:51,710 --> 00:50:55,770
The time is right to grow into
the people we want to become.

993
00:50:56,250 --> 00:50:59,080
And this part of the show, we're going to
talk about building a high value world.

994
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:03,400
What that really is going to
entail is high value men who are

995
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:04,900
raising the bar for themselves.

996
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:09,960
And high value women coming together
to form high value societies.

997
00:51:10,700 --> 00:51:12,430
That's the, that's the
direction we've got to go.

998
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:14,510
I mean, the world's changing right now.

999
00:51:14,510 --> 00:51:16,159
Gym memberships are actually plunging.

1000
00:51:16,170 --> 00:51:17,570
They're at an all time low.

1001
00:51:18,270 --> 00:51:23,959
Men are abandoning the gym because
there are so many of these young TikTok

1002
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:27,880
generation girls who are going in and
setting up their phones just so they

1003
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:29,940
can shame men for looking at them.

1004
00:51:30,750 --> 00:51:33,549
But actually gym memberships
are plunging in the U S it's no

1005
00:51:33,549 --> 00:51:35,340
longer a sacred space for men.

1006
00:51:36,295 --> 00:51:41,235
Uh, it's become every, every guy is
terrified to get caught on camera.

1007
00:51:41,235 --> 00:51:47,135
Now, looking at some girl coming in
half naked, uh, which I still, as a

1008
00:51:47,414 --> 00:51:48,985
personal trainer will never understand.

1009
00:51:48,985 --> 00:51:52,945
You don't really, you don't have to
take off that many clothes to work out.

1010
00:51:53,575 --> 00:51:57,495
Um, there's a movement, uh, known as
the MIGTOW movement, men going their

1011
00:51:57,495 --> 00:52:00,325
own way, which I've been railing
against for the last couple of years.

1012
00:52:00,555 --> 00:52:02,085
I absolutely hate this movement.

1013
00:52:02,505 --> 00:52:03,545
And the concept is.

1014
00:52:04,700 --> 00:52:07,330
Women are basically good to
gratify yourself with and we

1015
00:52:07,330 --> 00:52:08,530
don't need them for anything else.

1016
00:52:08,620 --> 00:52:11,290
They're nothing but trouble guys.

1017
00:52:11,290 --> 00:52:15,669
These are, these are horrible things
going on, but all we see is the negative

1018
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,780
most of the time in the media, because
that's what makes a good media cycle.

1019
00:52:19,420 --> 00:52:23,669
January is sharing some amazing
things with what she's seen with her

1020
00:52:23,669 --> 00:52:26,240
clientele and the women around her.

1021
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:28,790
And we're doing some amazing things.

1022
00:52:29,180 --> 00:52:33,110
You guys are incredible because you're
here wanting to level up as men.

1023
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,120
And so today we want to change
that conversation together.

1024
00:52:36,710 --> 00:52:39,459
So January, here's the
game we're going to play.

1025
00:52:40,455 --> 00:52:43,205
We're going to talk about how to build
a high value society by helping each

1026
00:52:43,205 --> 00:52:47,185
other, but what we're going to do is
we're going to play a little ping pong.

1027
00:52:47,315 --> 00:52:51,955
I would love for you to share one
idea from a woman's perspective on how

1028
00:52:52,085 --> 00:52:54,135
we as men can help a woman level up.

1029
00:52:55,535 --> 00:53:00,314
And then I will share from a man's
perspective, how we as men are, how we

1030
00:53:00,314 --> 00:53:02,974
as, we'll see if I can say this right.

1031
00:53:04,224 --> 00:53:08,795
We can, uh, from a man's
perspective, a woman level up.

1032
00:53:09,635 --> 00:53:09,865
Okay.

1033
00:53:09,885 --> 00:53:10,915
So I would help.

1034
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:15,260
I would offer suggestions for men
or I would offer suggestions for

1035
00:53:15,260 --> 00:53:17,360
men from a woman's perspective.

1036
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:23,760
How do we help women level up and
how can then I'll offer a suggestion

1037
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,329
on how we can help women level up.

1038
00:53:27,300 --> 00:53:27,540
Great.

1039
00:53:27,940 --> 00:53:28,070
I love it.

1040
00:53:30,300 --> 00:53:35,050
So balls in your court from your
perspective, January, how is it

1041
00:53:35,270 --> 00:53:41,440
that from a woman's perspective,
men can help women level up?

1042
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:48,260
How can How can women help men level up?

1043
00:53:48,350 --> 00:53:56,380
Um, I would say discipline your mind
to discipline your eyes, discipline,

1044
00:53:56,600 --> 00:54:00,959
how you look at other women and
honor your current relationship.

1045
00:54:01,030 --> 00:54:01,819
That's one of them.

1046
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:03,900
Um, okay.

1047
00:54:05,260 --> 00:54:08,710
So discipline, we are loving
the word discipline today.

1048
00:54:09,629 --> 00:54:12,730
Just such a bad rap, but it's
such a valuable, valuable thing.

1049
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:16,030
Only a good man would think it's a bad
rap, only a bad part, you know, like a

1050
00:54:16,030 --> 00:54:18,850
man who doesn't understand the value of
it would think it's a bad reputation.

1051
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:22,310
You need to discipline our eyes.

1052
00:54:22,740 --> 00:54:23,410
Discipline your eyes.

1053
00:54:23,410 --> 00:54:23,680
Yeah.

1054
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:27,980
And it goes to don't
fall for fallen women.

1055
00:54:29,550 --> 00:54:34,019
What I mean by that is if a woman has no
command and self respect in the way she

1056
00:54:34,019 --> 00:54:37,400
carries herself, be very mindful of that.

1057
00:54:42,729 --> 00:54:47,370
One of the ways that women can help us as
men level up, and I'm going to get a lot

1058
00:54:47,370 --> 00:54:51,395
of guys who are going to be really pissed
that I said this, Reintroduce the mystery.

1059
00:54:53,085 --> 00:54:55,195
A little modesty goes a long way.

1060
00:54:56,255 --> 00:55:04,435
Um, don't, you know, if, if you aren't,
right, why are we going to level

1061
00:55:04,435 --> 00:55:07,885
up if we can get it all for free?

1062
00:55:09,824 --> 00:55:10,505
I love it.

1063
00:55:11,045 --> 00:55:12,615
The mystery of a woman.

1064
00:55:13,060 --> 00:55:15,300
needs to be in marriage.

1065
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:16,810
It doesn't actually end.

1066
00:55:17,090 --> 00:55:20,220
I actually teach women what
it's like to have reverence of

1067
00:55:20,220 --> 00:55:22,050
yourself in context of marriage.

1068
00:55:22,590 --> 00:55:23,419
You don't squander.

1069
00:55:23,419 --> 00:55:28,670
So yes, I don't, you know, I think
there's a mystery even physically, but

1070
00:55:28,670 --> 00:55:35,050
also I think intellectually, I think
that there a man should want to be

1071
00:55:35,050 --> 00:55:38,220
hungry to learn from you and vice versa.

1072
00:55:38,250 --> 00:55:41,190
If you're as a woman,
you're constantly learning.

1073
00:55:41,890 --> 00:55:42,370
And growing.

1074
00:55:42,370 --> 00:55:46,470
And so you have this such rich
conversation that makes a man

1075
00:55:46,500 --> 00:55:48,880
just want to be a better man
just by simply being around you.

1076
00:55:50,990 --> 00:55:51,750
I 100 percent agree.

1077
00:55:54,390 --> 00:55:56,820
How about another one for us?

1078
00:55:57,420 --> 00:55:59,220
How can we help y'all level up?

1079
00:55:59,910 --> 00:56:05,200
Um, cast a vision for us,
cast a vision of a future.

1080
00:56:06,059 --> 00:56:09,010
Um, what I mean by that,
honey, or whatever.

1081
00:56:10,090 --> 00:56:15,570
Um, what would, what would it be like,
where would we be in a year from now,

1082
00:56:15,570 --> 00:56:18,390
whether it's in your family, whether
it's a marriage or just the world.

1083
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:22,420
Let's say you're single out there,
cast a vision and say, I want to live

1084
00:56:22,420 --> 00:56:24,830
in a world where women were respected.

1085
00:56:25,350 --> 00:56:28,870
I want to be able to, you know, be in
a marriage where we were both inspired.

1086
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:33,670
So be a man of vision, sell us
on a vision of a world that's

1087
00:56:33,670 --> 00:56:34,720
better than our current world.

1088
00:56:36,220 --> 00:56:38,820
It's so attractive when
a man can pass a vision.

1089
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:47,150
I'm absolutely an advocate of men pursuing
their purpose before they pursue women.

1090
00:56:48,010 --> 00:56:51,239
Because if you're pursuing your
purpose, it will attract a woman

1091
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:52,679
who will pursue that with you.

1092
00:56:57,900 --> 00:56:58,240
Okay.

1093
00:56:59,899 --> 00:57:03,480
Don't go into a relationship
thinking you're going to change us.

1094
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:09,820
Instead, become a woman that inspires
us to want to change ourselves.

1095
00:57:10,030 --> 00:57:10,469
I love it.

1096
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:14,500
It's, it's the only way I think.

1097
00:57:14,870 --> 00:57:19,100
Women need to just stop and just
try to change a man and just change

1098
00:57:19,100 --> 00:57:20,800
themselves to be an inspiring woman.

1099
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:22,349
And that's the only way to change anyone.

1100
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,880
There's not, I always say, I'm like,
don't even put that thought in your head.

1101
00:57:29,169 --> 00:57:31,620
Don't, you know, don't even
just love them where they're at.

1102
00:57:32,689 --> 00:57:35,619
Live a life that's inspiring and make a
decision if this is a man for you or not.

1103
00:57:35,620 --> 00:57:39,440
But to change them and to hope
for that is a false reality.

1104
00:57:44,855 --> 00:57:47,705
I do invest in your life of wholeness.

1105
00:57:48,025 --> 00:57:52,325
And what I mean by that is be a man who
looks at every part of your life, not just

1106
00:57:52,325 --> 00:57:56,474
your wealth, but your family life, your
intimacy, your friendship, your physical,

1107
00:57:56,474 --> 00:58:02,514
mental, emotional health, and inspire
us by being very intentional about every

1108
00:58:02,514 --> 00:58:05,354
part of your life and how you want to
design it and how you want to conquer it.

1109
00:58:06,855 --> 00:58:09,965
Because that inspires us to also live
a life that feels whole, which means

1110
00:58:10,025 --> 00:58:14,975
every part of us is accounted for,
it's designed, and also it feels fully

1111
00:58:14,975 --> 00:58:21,100
alive, because It's not just my career,
it's not just, you know, my body

1112
00:58:21,100 --> 00:58:23,080
trying to be, you know, strong and fit.

1113
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:24,750
It's every part being valued.

1114
00:58:26,260 --> 00:58:27,010
That's inspiring.

1115
00:58:28,870 --> 00:58:30,030
It's a whole version of a man.

1116
00:58:31,530 --> 00:58:32,169
I like it.

1117
00:58:35,679 --> 00:58:36,819
Bring something to the table.

1118
00:58:37,459 --> 00:58:40,720
This is, this will take the steam out
of the big town movement so quick.

1119
00:58:41,380 --> 00:58:44,380
I've seen a guy who actually goes
around and asks women what they

1120
00:58:44,380 --> 00:58:45,860
bring to the table in a relationship.

1121
00:58:47,585 --> 00:58:54,585
Modern women in their pursuit to, uh,
feminism or whatever, what are you

1122
00:58:54,585 --> 00:58:56,205
bringing to the table in the relationship?

1123
00:58:57,255 --> 00:59:03,195
Have something, you may be a beautiful
woman, but you have to bring something

1124
00:59:03,195 --> 00:59:05,375
to the table besides just your beauty.

1125
00:59:06,975 --> 00:59:13,304
If you want a high value man, then
you have to be a high value woman

1126
00:59:13,304 --> 00:59:14,425
who brings something to the table.

1127
00:59:16,915 --> 00:59:18,875
You have to really be
investing in yourself.

1128
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:23,890
You know, to, to, to
continually do that my turn.

1129
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:24,530
Um,

1130
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,050
I would say, well, I'll do that next.

1131
00:59:30,140 --> 00:59:37,540
I would say pursue your woman,
conquer her, make her feel important.

1132
00:59:38,330 --> 00:59:40,409
Pursuit I think is a
beautiful word for a man.

1133
00:59:40,410 --> 00:59:44,759
Cause it really, I think is rooted
in their nature, in my opinion, to

1134
00:59:44,759 --> 00:59:50,010
conquer, to pursue, um, if you're
married out there and you're a dad.

1135
00:59:51,510 --> 00:59:55,470
Don't take those little things for granted
to make her feel important and special,

1136
00:59:55,950 --> 00:59:59,660
whether it's date night or making her
feel beautiful or those little things.

1137
00:59:59,919 --> 01:00:02,199
Never stop pursuing the
woman that you love.

1138
01:00:03,690 --> 01:00:05,280
Guys, this is something I can tell you.

1139
01:00:06,150 --> 01:00:10,020
As my wife and I are quickly approaching
our 23rd anniversary, this is something

1140
01:00:10,020 --> 01:00:12,510
I failed at for a long time, right?

1141
01:00:12,510 --> 01:00:15,439
This is something I had to reintegrate
into my life on my own journey,

1142
01:00:16,310 --> 01:00:23,280
was we hit that stride and I just
stopped actively pursuing my wife.

1143
01:00:24,069 --> 01:00:25,619
It took a good friend of mine.

1144
01:00:26,085 --> 01:00:28,255
Telling me is like, I've been
dating my wife for 20 plus years.

1145
01:00:28,255 --> 01:00:32,225
I was like, I am dropping the ball, right?

1146
01:00:32,235 --> 01:00:36,005
A hundred percent ladies.

1147
01:00:36,255 --> 01:00:37,134
Can I just say something though?

1148
01:00:37,134 --> 01:00:37,495
I'm sorry.

1149
01:00:37,495 --> 01:00:37,765
Right.

1150
01:00:38,395 --> 01:00:43,514
I was just going to say a woman also
needs to create the culture to be pursued.

1151
01:00:44,385 --> 01:00:48,375
Cause if you're naggy, if you're not
inspiring, if you're not learning anything

1152
01:00:48,375 --> 01:00:52,022
new, if your life is not lived with
also a vision and a purpose, then you're

1153
01:00:52,022 --> 01:00:56,490
not It's going to be hard to pursue you
if you don't make him feel important

1154
01:00:56,490 --> 01:01:01,440
or cook his favorite meal or dress up
for him, not for the world, for him.

1155
01:01:01,750 --> 01:01:03,129
Smell good before you go to bed.

1156
01:01:03,129 --> 01:01:06,220
I always tell women, put a perfume
before you go, but not for your sake.

1157
01:01:06,230 --> 01:01:08,340
But that's when you put
perfume for your man.

1158
01:01:09,095 --> 01:01:10,505
Be worthy of that pursuit.

1159
01:01:11,525 --> 01:01:13,765
Those little things goes a long way.

1160
01:01:14,025 --> 01:01:16,015
Beauty is often in the details.

1161
01:01:17,285 --> 01:01:19,735
And so don't lose sight in those things.

1162
01:01:19,735 --> 01:01:23,265
If his favorite thing is orange juice
in the morning, that's what you do.

1163
01:01:24,065 --> 01:01:25,615
He's the most important
person in your life.

1164
01:01:25,885 --> 01:01:30,345
Make sure that is actually,
um, that you practice it.

1165
01:01:30,645 --> 01:01:34,515
And especially when you have
children, when the priority becomes

1166
01:01:34,515 --> 01:01:37,114
your children, never lose sight
that your priority is actually

1167
01:01:37,114 --> 01:01:38,445
your husband before your children.

1168
01:01:39,235 --> 01:01:43,305
Never lose sight of that, right?

1169
01:01:43,305 --> 01:01:44,740
Just have to plug that in.

1170
01:01:44,740 --> 01:01:47,505
I like it ladies.

1171
01:01:47,505 --> 01:01:50,505
There's nothing that excessive
mileage adds value to.

1172
01:01:51,435 --> 01:01:55,785
Um, I, I saw a clip the other
day and the average 20 year old

1173
01:01:55,795 --> 01:02:00,855
has had over 20 plus partners.

1174
01:02:01,074 --> 01:02:01,915
That's unbelievable.

1175
01:02:02,005 --> 01:02:05,765
By the time they're like
20 to 21 in the modern era.

1176
01:02:06,545 --> 01:02:07,025
Okay.

1177
01:02:07,465 --> 01:02:10,525
Now I'm, I am a Christian.

1178
01:02:10,555 --> 01:02:12,195
I think you should try
and wait till marriage.

1179
01:02:12,245 --> 01:02:14,615
I'm not going to pretend that
I actually managed to do that.

1180
01:02:14,615 --> 01:02:14,749
Okay.

1181
01:02:15,550 --> 01:02:15,970
Okay.

1182
01:02:15,970 --> 01:02:19,760
I understand that, but there is
nothing in the world that high

1183
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:22,090
value mileage brings value to.

1184
01:02:23,370 --> 01:02:27,700
And I understand women want to be
liberated or whatever these days.

1185
01:02:28,699 --> 01:02:35,259
I was watching an interview with,
it was like, I think it was either

1186
01:02:35,259 --> 01:02:40,839
Charlie Kirk or Ben Shapiro, and he
was talking to some female porn stars.

1187
01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:46,130
And it's like, they, they're not
understanding why men don't want to

1188
01:02:46,130 --> 01:02:50,130
be involved with them as they exit
their careers or while they're still

1189
01:02:50,130 --> 01:02:51,120
in their careers and it's like,

1190
01:02:56,115 --> 01:02:59,545
I don't understand how this
is a hard value for you, uh,

1191
01:02:59,545 --> 01:03:01,965
or a hard concept, right?

1192
01:03:02,264 --> 01:03:03,065
So distorted.

1193
01:03:03,335 --> 01:03:06,384
And I won't say that guys,
you should be any different.

1194
01:03:06,745 --> 01:03:11,375
Like really, you should be trying to
save yourself for that forever person.

1195
01:03:12,385 --> 01:03:14,065
I'm not going to lie and say, I made that.

1196
01:03:14,475 --> 01:03:17,045
I wish I had, because my wife did.

1197
01:03:18,085 --> 01:03:18,785
What an honor.

1198
01:03:19,225 --> 01:03:27,795
And so, you know, high mileage doesn't
make anybody better in that area.

1199
01:03:28,965 --> 01:03:32,355
Uh, I know it's, you
know, Oh, we're liberated.

1200
01:03:32,435 --> 01:03:33,035
Screw that.

1201
01:03:33,295 --> 01:03:33,695
Right?

1202
01:03:34,095 --> 01:03:37,705
Hold something back and be worth the wait.

1203
01:03:38,635 --> 01:03:40,145
Well, I think it's even a slavery.

1204
01:03:40,545 --> 01:03:41,455
It's not to be liberated.

1205
01:03:41,455 --> 01:03:43,025
It's a false sense of liberation.

1206
01:03:43,600 --> 01:03:47,130
Because I'll even bring it down to
the reality that sure they can do

1207
01:03:47,130 --> 01:03:50,260
whatever you want when they're in
those closed doors They're insecure.

1208
01:03:50,690 --> 01:03:51,680
They don't like themselves.

1209
01:03:52,580 --> 01:03:54,339
They're wondering if this man
is ever gonna call them back.

1210
01:03:55,170 --> 01:03:56,440
They're disgusted who they are.

1211
01:03:56,950 --> 01:04:02,699
It is modern day Slavery to do whatever
you want, whatever you feel like with

1212
01:04:02,699 --> 01:04:07,510
whomever you feel like so don't sell
yourself a lie It doesn't feel good

1213
01:04:10,830 --> 01:04:11,130
guys.

1214
01:04:11,130 --> 01:04:14,070
I hope these tips are
Registering with you.

1215
01:04:14,070 --> 01:04:20,985
I hope they're helping now January
You work with women all the time,

1216
01:04:22,645 --> 01:04:26,335
and you're seeing their insecurities,
you're seeing their struggles.

1217
01:04:26,515 --> 01:04:36,765
What, what, what do you want to tell
men about interacting with them?

1218
01:04:40,024 --> 01:04:41,384
That's a great question.

1219
01:04:41,854 --> 01:04:44,854
That's a really, that's
a really great question.

1220
01:04:45,535 --> 01:04:46,785
Be patient with women.

1221
01:04:47,755 --> 01:04:53,275
They've been cast into the wolves,
some of you, but be patient with them

1222
01:04:53,275 --> 01:04:54,605
because nobody's showing them how.

1223
01:04:56,085 --> 01:04:58,145
Um, when every single time a woman comes.

1224
01:04:58,765 --> 01:05:01,255
and they have all these wounds
and it's not working, ask

1225
01:05:01,255 --> 01:05:02,925
yourself, who showed them how?

1226
01:05:03,155 --> 01:05:03,995
How to be kind?

1227
01:05:04,185 --> 01:05:05,005
How to be truthful?

1228
01:05:05,105 --> 01:05:05,985
How to be trustworthy?

1229
01:05:06,605 --> 01:05:07,435
How to firm boundaries?

1230
01:05:07,755 --> 01:05:09,765
Nobody's showing women how today.

1231
01:05:10,765 --> 01:05:14,365
Um, that's what I would say.

1232
01:05:14,434 --> 01:05:18,574
And um, don't lose, don't lose hope on us.

1233
01:05:20,735 --> 01:05:25,005
I think that when you lose hope, then
you just squander yourself as well.

1234
01:05:25,005 --> 01:05:26,485
And you don't think there's
good women out there.

1235
01:05:26,895 --> 01:05:32,835
Have hope that There's great women
out there who want to do something

1236
01:05:33,215 --> 01:05:36,335
meaningful with their lives, just
because the media tells you, you

1237
01:05:36,335 --> 01:05:43,024
know, this, um, is a recent influencer
that's been, I think, becoming famous.

1238
01:05:43,024 --> 01:05:43,725
Her name is Pearl.

1239
01:05:43,734 --> 01:05:45,145
I'm sure you know who she is, maybe.

1240
01:05:45,995 --> 01:05:49,735
Um, and I think men are resonating
with her because she's defending

1241
01:05:49,735 --> 01:05:52,985
men, and I think she does have a lot
of good points, but in her defense

1242
01:05:52,985 --> 01:05:54,385
of men, she's devaluing women.

1243
01:05:56,035 --> 01:06:01,605
And it's making us believe that all women
are just undisciplined and horrible.

1244
01:06:01,645 --> 01:06:04,755
And I'll say, then you've lost hope
in what it means to be a woman.

1245
01:06:05,785 --> 01:06:07,915
Therefore you've lost hope when it
means to be a man, because there's no

1246
01:06:07,925 --> 01:06:08,995
way we can do it without each other.

1247
01:06:10,145 --> 01:06:14,354
So don't lose hope on us and
be patient with our journey.

1248
01:06:15,255 --> 01:06:16,224
Um, don't settle.

1249
01:06:16,734 --> 01:06:17,374
I'd say.

1250
01:06:18,125 --> 01:06:21,325
Like, push back, don't settle
when men say, well, I can't,

1251
01:06:21,345 --> 01:06:24,525
when we become a victim of our
emotion, we're stronger than that.

1252
01:06:25,035 --> 01:06:29,125
Women are, don't, I always say, you
know, like, I, sometimes we make, women

1253
01:06:29,125 --> 01:06:32,445
make excuses that we just can't do it
because it's hard or we're just emotional.

1254
01:06:34,565 --> 01:06:35,144
Rise up.

1255
01:06:35,465 --> 01:06:38,145
And so we need men that's going to say,
no, that's, you're better than that.

1256
01:06:38,965 --> 01:06:41,075
You don't have to be a
victim to an emotion.

1257
01:06:41,085 --> 01:06:42,995
You don't have to be a victim
just because you're on your period

1258
01:06:43,015 --> 01:06:44,135
doesn't mean you can lash out at me.

1259
01:06:44,355 --> 01:06:45,065
That's not right.

1260
01:06:46,385 --> 01:06:49,195
Just because you had a bad day at work,
that doesn't mean you have to bleed.

1261
01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:54,380
Your negativity into our home life
push back against a lesser version of

1262
01:06:54,380 --> 01:07:00,250
a woman and that's how we raise the
standard for each other I love it.

1263
01:07:01,220 --> 01:07:03,950
What's next for january donovan
any big projects in the works?

1264
01:07:04,300 --> 01:07:05,220
Oh, gosh.

1265
01:07:05,300 --> 01:07:13,865
Um Yes, I am in the process of um I
really want to reintroduce the rise

1266
01:07:13,865 --> 01:07:19,155
of a new woman, which is Buckminster
Fuller, who designed the Epcot, said,

1267
01:07:19,155 --> 01:07:23,175
you can't, and I'm paraphrasing,
you can't find the current model.

1268
01:07:23,234 --> 01:07:25,344
You have to break it and
actually create a new model.

1269
01:07:26,225 --> 01:07:32,564
And so my vision is to write a book
and say, we cannot, the current

1270
01:07:32,574 --> 01:07:35,853
model of woman, the feminism and
what it's been is no longer workable.

1271
01:07:35,853 --> 01:07:37,107
We're fighting the wrong battle.

1272
01:07:37,107 --> 01:07:38,613
This is how it should be.

1273
01:07:38,613 --> 01:07:40,619
And this is all the fractions of feminism.

1274
01:07:41,110 --> 01:07:43,690
We need to reintroduce a
whole new model of women.

1275
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:50,360
And so that's in my, um, my
vision is the rise of a new woman.

1276
01:07:51,035 --> 01:07:52,015
Which is who is she?

1277
01:07:52,065 --> 01:07:54,555
Who is she in context
of our current world?

1278
01:07:54,555 --> 01:07:57,785
How will she fight this battle
for faith, family, and freedom?

1279
01:07:57,935 --> 01:08:01,005
How is she going to train herself to be a
warrior for truth, beauty, and goodness?

1280
01:08:01,255 --> 01:08:02,945
Who is she for, for men?

1281
01:08:02,954 --> 01:08:04,195
Who is she for family?

1282
01:08:04,425 --> 01:08:05,555
Who is she for our country?

1283
01:08:06,094 --> 01:08:09,795
How will we take all the good from all
we've learned in the past and incorporate

1284
01:08:09,795 --> 01:08:13,625
to this new woman, but take away also
all the bad that has also degraded us?

1285
01:08:15,345 --> 01:08:16,835
and allowed us to settle.

1286
01:08:17,435 --> 01:08:22,285
So that's, I think, the project for
me is to reintroduce a new woman.

1287
01:08:22,315 --> 01:08:27,865
I'm currently in the process of, um,
actually doing a live launch and it's

1288
01:08:27,865 --> 01:08:29,765
called the new woman masterclass.

1289
01:08:30,155 --> 01:08:33,274
And I'm introducing who is
she and teaching women how to

1290
01:08:33,295 --> 01:08:34,524
actually become that woman.

1291
01:08:34,974 --> 01:08:39,430
So first the masterclass, which the
vision For all women to have the

1292
01:08:39,430 --> 01:08:42,500
foundation of who this new woman is,
who is she, and the foundation of how

1293
01:08:42,500 --> 01:08:44,780
to be a woman, and then write that book.

1294
01:08:45,520 --> 01:08:51,350
And then hopefully off to Matt Walsh and
say, listen, can't talk about the problem.

1295
01:08:51,649 --> 01:08:52,370
Here's the solution.

1296
01:08:52,380 --> 01:08:56,520
This is how you become
a woman for such a time.

1297
01:08:58,060 --> 01:08:58,659
I love it.

1298
01:09:00,550 --> 01:09:03,220
Now, guys, let me give
you a little advice.

1299
01:09:03,980 --> 01:09:10,790
If what January is saying to you
is resonating with you, You cannot

1300
01:09:10,790 --> 01:09:12,530
just tell the woman in your life.

1301
01:09:13,020 --> 01:09:14,790
Hey, you need to check this woman out.

1302
01:09:16,690 --> 01:09:18,360
That's going to end badly

1303
01:09:22,740 --> 01:09:28,679
So you might share this podcast episode
with her right with that woman in your

1304
01:09:28,679 --> 01:09:35,100
life But telling a woman that she's doing
it wrong It's going to end badly for you.

1305
01:09:36,500 --> 01:09:39,630
I know I, I, for most of you don't
have to say that, but I have to

1306
01:09:39,630 --> 01:09:42,879
put it out there because someone's
going to like, leave me some flaming

1307
01:09:42,879 --> 01:09:47,780
comment about, Oh, I told my wife, she
needed to go check out January stuff.

1308
01:09:47,819 --> 01:09:56,429
And we're getting divorced now, you
know, don't, don't play that game.

1309
01:09:57,055 --> 01:09:59,505
January, where's the best place
for people to connect with you?

1310
01:10:00,035 --> 01:10:03,595
Um, so you can just find me
at the new woman masterclass.

1311
01:10:03,595 --> 01:10:07,975
com and that's kind of all in the whole
Um what this new woman is for such a

1312
01:10:07,975 --> 01:10:12,114
time as this but also on instagram I'm
january donovan in the woman's school.

1313
01:10:12,335 --> 01:10:12,525
com.

1314
01:10:12,525 --> 01:10:17,795
I think those are the best Places to at
least reach us for those two things guys

1315
01:10:17,795 --> 01:10:21,405
We'll of course have all of january's
links in the description show notes.

1316
01:10:21,405 --> 01:10:25,080
Whatever platform you're checking this
out on You Now, I know you're all really

1317
01:10:25,080 --> 01:10:28,240
concerned about what South American
country you can indulge in the tradition

1318
01:10:28,240 --> 01:10:30,050
known as asada, barbecue as asada.

1319
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:31,860
You said Brazil.

1320
01:10:31,860 --> 01:10:33,380
The answer is Argentina.

1321
01:10:33,380 --> 01:10:34,810
Ah, that was my other one.

1322
01:10:34,810 --> 01:10:40,239
Or you can just simply come to
where I live, which has a 97

1323
01:10:40,239 --> 01:10:42,930
percent Hispanic population, and
you can get great food anyway.

1324
01:10:43,745 --> 01:10:44,475
Oh, great food.

1325
01:10:44,475 --> 01:10:45,554
I love great food.

1326
01:10:45,635 --> 01:10:45,985
Oh, yeah.

1327
01:10:46,535 --> 01:10:54,154
We have the best Mexican food from all
areas of the Hispanic culture here in

1328
01:10:54,154 --> 01:10:57,885
town like mine, so I love a good food.

1329
01:10:58,335 --> 01:11:03,484
I have a friend who owns a grocery,
a Hispanic grocery, the deli case

1330
01:11:03,484 --> 01:11:05,054
there's the best restaurant in town.

1331
01:11:05,685 --> 01:11:09,145
Um, when I moved here, grandma and
grandpa, we're still in the kitchen,

1332
01:11:09,275 --> 01:11:10,905
kitchen, cooking things from scratch.

1333
01:11:12,065 --> 01:11:12,795
Amazing.

1334
01:11:13,995 --> 01:11:18,945
Now, January, if our listeners heard
nothing else in this entire conversation,

1335
01:11:19,114 --> 01:11:22,064
right, say they just tuned out.

1336
01:11:23,364 --> 01:11:25,305
What is the most important
thing you want them to hear?

1337
01:11:26,514 --> 01:11:30,115
Lead us, lead us.

1338
01:11:30,205 --> 01:11:30,615
We need you.

1339
01:11:31,715 --> 01:11:33,355
We need men in our life to lead us.

1340
01:11:36,020 --> 01:11:39,580
Guys for January and myself, thanks
for hanging out with us today.

1341
01:11:39,980 --> 01:11:42,730
Be better tomorrow because what you do
today, and we'll see you on the next

1342
01:11:42,730 --> 01:11:49,660
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1343
01:11:50,079 --> 01:11:53,349
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1344
01:11:53,349 --> 01:11:57,030
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1345
01:11:58,020 --> 01:11:58,520
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1346
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