From Engineer to Elite Operator: Unlocking Your Warrior Spirit

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Don't tiptoe your way to death.

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Like, none of us are getting
out of this world alive.

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Don't tiptoe your way to death.

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Life is meant to be conquered.

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It's not meant to be lived.

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It's meant to be conquered.

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If you're feeling dead, empty,
unfulfilled inside like I was at 20

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years old in Iraq, there's something
inside of your heart that's calling you.

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You need to go after it in
order to actually achieve it.

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You have to build you.

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So focus on you, build personal
development into your life.

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Fuck if I can accomplish what
I've accomplished, you can too.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach our full
potential growing to the men we

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dream of being while taking care
of our responsibilities, working,

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being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big
question in this podcast.

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We'll help you answer
those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
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My name is Brent today.

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My guest is CEO of Conqueror
Academy, Jeremiah Salmon.

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Jeremiah, welcome to the
fallible man podcast.

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Brent.

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Thanks for having me, man.

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Excited to provide some
value to your audience guys.

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You are all in for a treat.

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Today, because when I deliver,
I try to over deliver and change

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your life in this one session.

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So I'm going to do my best.

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All right.

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Now that's a big, that's
a big boast right there.

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So we're going to hold you to
it, but I think we're not going

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to have any problems with that.

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Jeremiah, I like to start nice and easy.

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So how's your trivia skills?

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Trivia?

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Oh man, I honestly we'll find out, but,
uh, I only focus on a couple of things.

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I focus on improving myself every
single day, setting goals and winning

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and I shut everything else out.

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So we'll see.

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All right.

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Here, here's the trivia
question on the show guys.

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You play along at home.

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How many plays do people generally
believe that William Shakespeare wrote?

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Is it a 17 B 27 C 37 R D 47.

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How many do people believe they
probably believe you wrote the

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most, whatever the top number was.

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37.

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Okay, so 47 is your guess.

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All right, guys, you know the rules.

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Play along with us.

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Write it down.

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Unless you're driving, for God's
sake, don't write if you're driving.

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Remember your answer.

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Don't cheat.

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And, uh, we'll come back to that later.

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Now, Jeremiah, I'm not
big into introductions.

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No one gives a crap about accolades.

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So, in this moment, today, Yeah.

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Who is Jeremiah Sullivan?

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Man, a guy that's failed
forward, accomplished some

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victories, fought some battles.

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Improved himself tremendously from
a small, shy kid from a little town.

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I mean, um, I see myself as a, a
guy that's constantly just trying

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to push the needle and grow.

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I'm just a guy that is
obsessed with growth.

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Um, I come from a town of like 300 people.

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I, I, uh, hunted bears as a kid, grew up
in the mountains of Northern California.

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I was sheltered.

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Wanted to be an athlete, failed at
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college dropout, enlisted into the
military, was an enlisted engineer.

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So I wasn't even like
in a combat arms role.

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I was just in a support role.

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And, uh, when I got to Iraq at 20, I
turned 20 and 21 in Iraq, realized that

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I had quit on my dreams and really didn't
stretch myself in life and, and try to

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accomplish much after, after high school.

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And, uh, decided to change it
all, decided to go after a dream.

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I decided to become an infantry officer,
pursue a career in special operations.

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And after about seven years of chasing
that dream, I landed my dream job in

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the 75th Ranger Regiment as a strike
force one Ranger platoon leader.

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Uh, our platoon was selected to
go overseas in Afghanistan and go

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do high value target raids against
enemy combatants, the United States.

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So basically really bad dudes that
the president had visibility of.

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Um, and, uh, So I basically, you know,
I went from like, I always tell people

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the contrast here is when I first came
into the military, I was like playing

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flag football, not even that I was like
the water boy of the flag football team.

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And then when I, you know, one of
the apexes of my career, one of the

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highlights of it was serving the 75th.

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And so I made it to the NFL and then
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and basically play in the super bowl.

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So it was a huge transformation for me.

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After that, I became an
infantry company commander.

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I led 130 soldiers on my fourth
combat deployment to Afghanistan.

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And, uh, I had one to
Iraq, three to Afghanistan.

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After that deployment, I was
soul searching life, trying

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to figure out what was next.

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I ran a hundred miles
in the Colorado Rockies.

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And it was on that race that I decided
to get out of the military, um,

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chase my calling of building leaders.

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And I had already been coaching executives
while I was an active duty commander.

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And I just went all in on that And so
today, um, what I do is I help people

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and companies achieve their goals.

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I help them with mindset, leadership,
success, um, and just overall winning.

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You know, I think that winning is
like the highest form of respect

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for the people that believe in you.

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And I think that we live in a world
where people are constantly settling.

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And that's why a lot of
people are miserable in life.

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At least that's what it was for
me when I had settled and I had

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just kind of drifted in life.

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I found myself in Iraq.

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unhappy and just soul searching in life.

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And so the happiest times in
my life have come from periods

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where I'm chasing progress.

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I'm constantly trying to make progress.

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And so that's who I am today.

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And I'm a, I'm a husband.

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I, I have a dog my wife and we're here
in florida I'm originally from california

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and I just love to challenge myself and
continue to improve and improve others

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Jeremiah, if you won 10 million dollars
tomorrow, what would you spend it on?

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Uh 10 mil Spend or invest.

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What do you want me to do?

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Is this like that's your choice?

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Well, how would you spend so
many dollars if you won tomorrow?

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There's some, uh, I mean, I would
divvy it up just like I always do.

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I would follow the prof there's
a, this is a complex answer, but

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there's a book called profit first.

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I fall structure, but I would donate
some, I'd put some into the company.

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Um, and then I'd throw some more into
investments that I'm currently in.

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It's pretty simple.

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Philanthropy.

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I put some into philanthropy.

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I put some into the business, same
thing I do with all my money over time.

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Just.

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Just more of it, you know, what's
your best playground insult?

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Uh, plus best playground and
so I have high expectations

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with you being a military guy.

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Just let me put that out there.

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Best playground insult.

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Um,

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no, uh, The one that's ringing
is like, I know you are, but

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what am I, but is that an insult?

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I don't know if that's an insult.

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I got, I got none.

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What's yours?

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My best playground insult.

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Uh, I was always big
into, uh, fart knocker.

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That was always a big one for me.

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And I like, um, yeah, yeah.

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Booger eater, fart knocker.

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Dude, I don't know, man.

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That's a talk about some
curve ball questions.

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We hit, we like to
start with a little fun.

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What purchase of a hundred dollars or
less have you made in the last year?

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This had the most significant
impact on your life.

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Uh, meal prep.

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Yeah.

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Meal prep.

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So, um, you know, you get, I got
this company Nutri that I coach

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and mentored and they're a family
owned business that owns a, they,

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they have a, they have a handful of
restaurants and, and a food prepping

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business, but I order my meal prep.

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From that company.

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And that most of those orders are
under a hundred bucks and meal prep is

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a great way to make things efficient,
effective, and take care of your health.

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That's been a great investment.

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I love it.

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All right.

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What is your biggest personal pet?

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Biggest?

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I would say a top one is um, Well, one
that I'm currently on is my, I'm like

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OCD with my drinks in the refrigerator.

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So, like I gotta have all the
labels facing one direction

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inside of the refrigerator.

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That's like a big one right now.

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I'd totally mess you up if
someone just sticks it in there.

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Oh, big time.

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I'll like stop everything
I'm doing and fix it.

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What is an insult you've
received that you are proud of?

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Uh, being a jackass and you're
like, yeah, I'm good with that.

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Yeah.

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Well, I was told I wasn't going
to make much of a, an officer.

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When I first came into the military, I
said I was sat down and I was chasing

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a dream and I, I struggled with
believing in myself a lot as a kid.

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Big time, big time limiting beliefs.

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Didn't think I was very smart,
you know, struggled a lot, had

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imposter syndrome, fear of failure.

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And when I started pursuing my dream
of becoming an infantry officer,

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that was a big leap of faith for me.

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And then I found myself sitting across
the desk from a lieutenant colonel who

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was counseling me on my performance.

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And I was about a quarter of the
way on the way to this journey.

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And she was telling me
it was evaluation time.

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She was like, I don't think that you're
going to make much of an officer.

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And when she said that it was, she was
basically telling me that I wasn't,

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um, politically correct enough.

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I wasn't professional enough that
I was, uh, You know, kind of had

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too much of a chip on my shoulder.

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She told you it was, there was a lot
of reasons why she was saying that.

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And when she told me that I wouldn't
make much of an officer that gave me

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the fuel I needed to become a great one.

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What if, if I sat down with your
family at the dinner table, right?

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What story, a fun story they tell on you?

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I mean, most of the time, you know,
if you sit down with my family, you

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start talking about childhood stories,
we're going to, they're going to share

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bear hunting stories, totally like.

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You know, I was a kid.

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I always wanted to like do a good job.

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I wanted to be perfect, you know, and I
think a lot of people can relate to that.

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I didn't want to mess up.

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And even though I had so many
personal insecurities and flaws,

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like I messed up all the time.

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I just got really used to failing.

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But one of the things that I did
is I used to hunt with my dad.

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And I remember we went out and
got this, uh, I hunted a squirrel

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for like one of my first hunts.

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And after I caught the squirrel,
I shot him, you know, we

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ate everything that we kill.

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You know, I took it to the house
and I'm laying, I'm out there in

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the driveway and I was skinning it.

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But when I skinned it, it was
like, I was trying to be perfect.

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With every little like cut, you
know, I didn't want any stakes made.

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And so I don't know if that's a funny
story, but it's a unique story in that

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like kind of shaped my, my, it kind
of shows who I was as a kid and then

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like some dates that I have now, but it
was like trying to be perfect and just

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peeling back the skin of that squirrel and
just doing a really good job, you know.

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Um, I think that that was like a it
was a good it was a strength that I was

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like that But it was also a flaw because
when you go your whole life trying to

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be perfect You basically struggle with
imposter syndrome deep down inside.

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You know that you're not ever perfect
So you're trying to be perfect,

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but deep down you feel perfect.

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You didn't.

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So you constantly get like, even
when I was in special operations

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and when I stand in front of those
leaders in a billion dollar company,

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I'm like, you know, there's parts
of my childhood that come forward.

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I'm like, man, I don't
deserve to be up here.

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Who the hell am I?

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So I think that, um, you know, they, it's
not so much of a funny story as it is an

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example of like, you guys are out there,
all of us struggle with limiting beliefs.

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All of us struggle with wanting
to be something that we're

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greater than how we see ourselves.

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And you can't ever let
that stuff hold you back.

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Don't ever let it hold you back.

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Even if like, no, you just, you just have
to welcome the failure that comes from it.

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You know, what's your favorite ice cream?

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Oh bro.

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I haven't had ice cream in
fricking like 12 months, dude.

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Um, seriously, I went on this, like I
went on this, picked everything up in my

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life and I got down to 8 percent body fat.

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I haven't touched.

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We had pizza for the first time
in like a year and a half, two

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years, like a couple of weeks ago.

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Um, favorite ice cream is anything with
chocolate and peanut butter straight up.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, but don't bring, don't
say ice cream around me, bro.

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I'm trying to keep it tight.

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You know what I mean?

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What is one thing everyone should know
about you before we dig into the show?

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That if you want to achieve something
bigger in your life and you feel like

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success is meant for others and not you,
I'm a great example of somebody that

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believed the same thing and overcame the
challenge I went from small town, shy

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kid, not wanting to speak up in my class.

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To serving with the best and the best
in the 75th Ranger Regiment and special

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operations and then company commander.

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And now I'm a, I'm a successful
entrepreneur and I coach people

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all the way up to eight and
nine figures in, in business.

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I'm not very bright.

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I'm not the smartest, not the fastest.

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I'm just a guy that has gotten used
to confronting his insecurities, his

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challenges, and has accepted that success
is meant for whoever goes after it.

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Guys, we've been getting to
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bit in this part of the show.

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Uh, give you some insights into who he is
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to dive into story, mission, and purpose.

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Guys, welcome back.

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In the first part of the show,
we were just spending some time

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getting to know who Jeremiah is.

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In this part of the show, we talk
about story, mission and purpose.

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Now, Jeremiah, we we've talked
a little bit about your story.

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What was the jump off point?

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You said you joined the military
and you started in engineering.

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What was that jump off point that said,
I want to go combat and then move towards

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The upper echelon is like the 75th.

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Yeah, man.

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Um, there's a point in everybody's life
where they reflect on what the hell

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they're doing, you know, a lot of people
just like tiptoe their way to death.

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And for me, what ended up happening was
when I was in Iraq at 20 years old, I

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had a lot of time to think I had a lot
of time to reflect, and I was laying in

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the middle of this city, Baku by Iraq.

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And there was a gunfight going
on about a mile from my location,

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the 82nd airborne, we're going
through and clearing this village.

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And so I was reflecting a lot on life.

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Just, I was reflecting a lot on, you
know, what, just, you know, in high

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school, I wanted to be an athlete and
I was reflecting on failing at that.

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And then I was reflecting on failing
really in school and college.

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I went to a community
college and dropped out.

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And so I failed at that too.

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And so I was just reflecting on life.

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And as I'm sitting there and
I rack and the 82nd is going

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through clearing this village.

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I'm like, bro, you gave up on yourself.

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You didn't, you didn't
actually go after any dreams.

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You settled, you conformed, you drifted.

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And war will do that to you.

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War will make you think about life.

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It'll make you think about what's
important to you and time away.

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And time alone will make you think
about what's important to you.

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So as the 82nd was going through and
clearing that village, I was laying

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there in the middle of the night,
looking up at the stars and I'm like,

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what the hell am I doing with my life?

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And I had this warrior's call, you know,
everybody has a warrior's call inside

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of them, and that's just basically
a calling to do something greater

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than what you're currently doing.

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So there was this calling inside
of me and I said, you know, I

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shouldn't be over here, putting in
this patrol base as an engineer.

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I should be over there in that gunfight.

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And really what was happening
was my conscious was calling me.

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My conscience was telling me, bro, like,
go be the hero, go pursue the dream, go

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do something significant with your life.

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And I realized I had nothing to lose.

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You know, I saw people, we had,
we had an officer in our unit that

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was killed by a roadside bomb.

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He died in his early twenties.

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Great officer.

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Numerous guys in my unit
got hit by IEDs, blown up.

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And fortunately I didn't, I
wasn't exposed to any of that.

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I didn't, nothing happened to me, but.

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When there's chaos going on
all around you, you can't

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help but to reflect on life.

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And, uh, so that's what happened.

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And I made a commitment.

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I made a commitment to
go, you know what I said?

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I love some things about the military.

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I just got clear.

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I got clear about what I
wanted, what I didn't, what I

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liked and what I didn't like.

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And I said, I want more of the
military, more of these things.

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I like the service.

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I like helping people.

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I like making a difference.

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I like the competition.

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I like climbing the ranks.

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I like all that stuff.

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I don't really like this over here.

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I really don't care so much for my job.

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I mean, it's okay, but
it's not that great.

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It's not what I really want.

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Um, not only that, but if I keep
going this direction, I feel

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like I'm still kind of settling.

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So why don't I change directions?

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And so I decided to go back to
school and finish what I started

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because I don't like to quit shit.

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I decided to become an infantry officer
because I wanted to make a difference.

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I wanted to be in a position
where I could be impactful.

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And I decided to get
into special operations.

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Because I wanted to bet on myself.

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I wanted to give myself a shot.

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And so that's what ended up happening
and I pursued that dream and it was a

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long lonely road road But I achieved
it and the entire time I just like

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prayed to god every single night that
if he helped me get that job That I

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promised to pay it forward tenfold.

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And so I had to change everything man.

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I changed my entire life I changed me
from the inside out I mean, I didn't

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read a full book until my 20s and I
went and I read 42 books in 52 weeks You

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You know, I started, I had a hard time
with the army two mile run and then I'm

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running five miles, 12 mile ruck march.

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And, you know, I'm doing
that in close to two hours.

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Um, and then I went and I ran a
hundred miles in the Colorado Rockies.

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So like this, this was a whole
transformative experience for me.

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And when that happened, it
was like, I found peace, man.

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I found happiness.

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I, you know, progress creates happiness.

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Now, where was this in
your relationship, right?

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Because along the way, you're
married now, is that right?

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Yeah, I met my wife in Iraq, actually.

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Okay.

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So, how do you balance such a crazy,
busy position as an infantry commander?

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Because not everybody listening
necessarily understands the whole

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military structure, whether they, you
know, Been served or not, but that's,

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I mean, crazy position during wartime.

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So how do you balance that and
being a husband and deal with

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everything that comes with that?

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The key to balance in a
relationship is presence.

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But I had to learn that the
hard way, you know, the way that

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my relationship has survived.

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Like I met my, my wife in Iraq and we
were just friends and then I pursued

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her for about six months, you know,
trying to like take her out and to go

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on a date over there in Iraq and stuff.

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But anyways, it ended up, um,
we kicked it off and then we

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did, we've done long distance.

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Before we were married, we
were dating in the military.

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So she was on one, at one
base, I was at another.

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And then we did that for a few years.

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Then she, she got out, I was in
school, she moved in with me.

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Anyways, that continued to go on and on.

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And so our marriage 16 years has been
entirely fast paced, constantly moving.

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And there's been a lot
of failures on my part.

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Tons, you know, I remember I came
back from a deployment and, uh, I

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was still adjusting to society, you
know, coming back from, from Iraq

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and Afghanistan, it takes some, it
takes a while to get accustomed to

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the United States and the people.

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It just, you have a little, there's
an adjustment that has to happen.

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But anyways, what ended up happening
with me and her is that, um, I'm

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sitting on the couch one night with her.

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She's on one side of the couch.

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I'm on the other, I'm on my phone.

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She's on, she's kind of sitting there just
waiting, kind of like patiently waiting.

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The TV's on, but it's, the sound isn't up.

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And she's like, you're home,
but you're not present.

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And when she said that, I
realized, like, I got mad because

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I'm like, what do you mean?

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I'm not present.

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I'm here.

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And, you know, I like threw a little fit
and got defensive, but she was right.

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And so we got into a big argument,
but then we put a solution into place

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and I realized that she was right,
that I just wasn't being present.

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And so I realized after being
gone, multiple deployments, being

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gone during training exercises.

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And as a commander, you know, you're
as a, in the military, you're working

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24 seven, like your phone rings on
Sunday night at midnight, it rings

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Saturday at midnight, it doesn't stop.

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And when I was overseas in Afghanistan, I
had four platoons underneath my command.

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All of them were on, like two
of them were on the day shift.

463
00:23:47,599 --> 00:23:48,620
One was on a night shift.

464
00:23:48,620 --> 00:23:50,980
One was on a swing shift
and I was on all shifts.

465
00:23:51,540 --> 00:23:54,290
So like, you're constantly being pulled
in all these different directions.

466
00:23:54,290 --> 00:23:58,149
Like have, it's like having 130 kids,
newborns constantly pulling you.

467
00:23:58,149 --> 00:23:59,050
Hey dad, I need something.

468
00:23:59,050 --> 00:23:59,899
Hey dad, I need something.

469
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:07,350
And um, my point with all that is
that the key, if there's any threat

470
00:24:07,350 --> 00:24:11,409
of balance in managing relationships
in life, it's in presence.

471
00:24:12,859 --> 00:24:15,260
Your wife, your partner,
even if it's your husband.

472
00:24:16,650 --> 00:24:18,259
Most people don't need a lot of time.

473
00:24:18,259 --> 00:24:20,700
They just need undisturbed
present time with you.

474
00:24:22,100 --> 00:24:24,960
If you sit down with your wife for
15 minutes, it's more valuable to

475
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:29,360
her than 90 minutes of you sitting
down fucking off on your phone.

476
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:32,239
You know, the key is presence.

477
00:24:32,290 --> 00:24:33,179
That's where you find the balance.

478
00:24:34,725 --> 00:24:40,825
Now, I, I want to note here guys,
if you think dating is already

479
00:24:40,835 --> 00:24:45,895
hard, probably adding it into a war
zone while you are both deployed,

480
00:24:46,264 --> 00:24:47,964
just putting that out there.

481
00:24:47,964 --> 00:24:51,804
I know a lot of guys are struggling on
the dating scene and, uh, I can't even

482
00:24:51,805 --> 00:24:56,745
imagine all the complications that come
with the added characteristics of the

483
00:24:56,745 --> 00:24:58,245
way you guys started your relationship.

484
00:24:58,465 --> 00:24:58,745
Yeah.

485
00:24:58,745 --> 00:25:02,215
Well, the reason why people have a hard
time relate with relationships is because

486
00:25:02,215 --> 00:25:04,025
their relationship with themselves sucks.

487
00:25:05,810 --> 00:25:06,840
That's the real problem.

488
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:13,420
What I mean is like, when you don't value
yourself, when you have problems with

489
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,369
self doubt, when you have problems with,
you don't like who you see in the mirror,

490
00:25:17,750 --> 00:25:21,290
you have insecurities, you know, that
you're not doing as well as you should

491
00:25:21,290 --> 00:25:26,690
financially with your health, with your,
with your fitness, with every aspect

492
00:25:26,690 --> 00:25:29,540
of your life, and you're looking in the
mirror, you're unsatisfied with you.

493
00:25:30,650 --> 00:25:35,730
So what ends up happening is you seek
your validation in somebody else, and

494
00:25:35,730 --> 00:25:39,479
you're never going to find validation in
somebody else until you validate yourself.

495
00:25:40,375 --> 00:25:43,845
And so actually what ends up happening
with a lot of guys is because they

496
00:25:43,845 --> 00:25:47,504
don't love themself, they seek
for the validation in the girl and

497
00:25:47,504 --> 00:25:50,895
maybe they do get her for a little
while, but then they become needy.

498
00:25:52,175 --> 00:25:54,215
They become needy because
they want that validation.

499
00:25:54,215 --> 00:25:57,905
They constantly want the girl that to
make them feel better because they don't

500
00:25:57,905 --> 00:26:01,425
feel good about them and human beings.

501
00:26:02,510 --> 00:26:04,030
Only want what they can't have.

502
00:26:04,750 --> 00:26:08,830
So if you're a male and you're in
a, you're in a, in a relationship

503
00:26:08,830 --> 00:26:12,899
where you're being desperate, you're
wanting the girl all the time because

504
00:26:12,899 --> 00:26:14,049
you don't feel good about you.

505
00:26:14,050 --> 00:26:18,219
You're actually pushing her away
because she's picking up on your

506
00:26:18,220 --> 00:26:19,500
energy that you're desperate.

507
00:26:20,015 --> 00:26:25,125
And that you're not in a, you're,
you're not in a, you know, humans move

508
00:26:25,125 --> 00:26:26,275
towards what they're attracted to.

509
00:26:26,295 --> 00:26:28,375
So if you're being desperate,
you're not attractive.

510
00:26:28,375 --> 00:26:29,755
She's not attracted to you.

511
00:26:29,965 --> 00:26:31,385
She wants what she can't have.

512
00:26:31,685 --> 00:26:35,504
So you that in order for you to become
what she can't have or to become

513
00:26:35,504 --> 00:26:39,175
attractive, you have to become so good and
validate yourself at such a high level.

514
00:26:39,565 --> 00:26:41,545
That you're the most attractive
thing that she can see.

515
00:26:43,435 --> 00:26:47,805
So in a relationship, my wife and
I, we met as junior soldiers in the

516
00:26:47,805 --> 00:26:50,444
military, bro, 1500 bucks a month.

517
00:26:50,464 --> 00:26:51,415
That's what I was making.

518
00:26:51,615 --> 00:26:53,985
Before I joined the military,
I worked at a temp agency.

519
00:26:54,755 --> 00:26:54,924
Okay.

520
00:26:54,924 --> 00:26:57,094
I had tried to get a job
at Outback Steakhouse.

521
00:26:57,094 --> 00:26:57,955
They wouldn't hire me.

522
00:26:58,274 --> 00:27:01,574
So I got a job at a temp
agency making minimum wage.

523
00:27:02,054 --> 00:27:03,864
And then I'm in Iraq as an engineer.

524
00:27:03,925 --> 00:27:05,314
I'm a junior soldier with my wife.

525
00:27:05,824 --> 00:27:07,225
But now, look at the evolution.

526
00:27:07,245 --> 00:27:08,564
I've continued to grow and improve.

527
00:27:08,564 --> 00:27:12,264
So my relationship with my
wife has sustained because

528
00:27:12,284 --> 00:27:13,864
I have continued to grow.

529
00:27:14,914 --> 00:27:17,274
If I would have stayed the
same, she would have grown.

530
00:27:17,675 --> 00:27:19,774
And then I wouldn't be
attractive to her anymore.

531
00:27:20,145 --> 00:27:21,295
She'd want to go move on.

532
00:27:21,614 --> 00:27:25,645
So there's an obligation with the man
in the relationship to keep improving.

533
00:27:26,190 --> 00:27:29,130
So that he's remains
attractive to the woman.

534
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:36,820
It's like leadership, bro.

535
00:27:36,820 --> 00:27:36,880
Yeah.

536
00:27:36,970 --> 00:27:39,130
Like you do you really wanna
follow a leader that you're

537
00:27:39,130 --> 00:27:40,450
not like you don't respect.

538
00:27:40,570 --> 00:27:41,290
No, you don't.

539
00:27:43,490 --> 00:27:45,270
I'm so a woman doesn't, yeah.

540
00:27:45,270 --> 00:27:47,850
A woman doesn't wanna follow
a woman doesn't wanna follow a

541
00:27:47,850 --> 00:27:49,200
man that she doesn't respect.

542
00:27:50,340 --> 00:27:52,830
She doesn't, she's not attractive
to a man that she doesn't respect.

543
00:27:53,010 --> 00:27:57,540
So what you said was like, what's my
advice for guys in a relationship and

544
00:27:57,545 --> 00:28:01,560
they're dealing with trying to balance
the relationship, focus on presence.

545
00:28:02,615 --> 00:28:07,885
And then make yourself attractive to your
partner and constantly work on yourself.

546
00:28:07,885 --> 00:28:09,655
And I don't mean that bullshit
working on yourself where you're

547
00:28:09,655 --> 00:28:12,795
studying personal development
books and then not doing anything.

548
00:28:12,795 --> 00:28:16,425
I mean like really truly working
on yourself like confronting your

549
00:28:16,425 --> 00:28:20,384
weaknesses like looking yourself in
the mirror And realizing bro, like I

550
00:28:20,384 --> 00:28:21,695
don't like this this and this about me.

551
00:28:21,695 --> 00:28:22,264
You know what?

552
00:28:22,504 --> 00:28:24,645
I don't like the fact that
i'm not consistent in the gym.

553
00:28:24,685 --> 00:28:27,685
I don't like the fact that i'm not
eating healthy I don't like the fact that

554
00:28:27,715 --> 00:28:30,055
um, i'm people pleasing all the time.

555
00:28:30,104 --> 00:28:32,154
I don't like the fact that i'm
not being direct with people

556
00:28:32,155 --> 00:28:33,765
You And then fix those things.

557
00:28:33,765 --> 00:28:37,965
And when you do that, the woman
sees you and she's like, well, you

558
00:28:37,965 --> 00:28:40,615
develop a strong relationship with
yourself, which is attractive.

559
00:28:40,625 --> 00:28:42,965
Everybody wants to be
around that man or woman.

560
00:28:45,985 --> 00:28:48,254
So that's the key is the
keys you build yourself.

561
00:28:49,535 --> 00:28:51,444
That's the key to a
successful relationship.

562
00:28:52,204 --> 00:28:54,964
Now, Jeremiah, you have a
lot of insights in this.

563
00:28:56,135 --> 00:28:59,745
And in that comes from the fact that
you're a coach now that you have

564
00:28:59,745 --> 00:29:02,284
conquer Academy, we'll, we'll dig
into conquer Academy in a couple

565
00:29:02,284 --> 00:29:05,455
minutes, but you coach people.

566
00:29:05,835 --> 00:29:08,495
Into becoming a better version
of themselves and to growing

567
00:29:08,505 --> 00:29:09,715
with people they want to become.

568
00:29:10,075 --> 00:29:14,944
Yeah, and there are a lot of people
out there who want to grow they're

569
00:29:14,994 --> 00:29:18,254
scared of it or whatever But they
want to whether they want to admit

570
00:29:18,255 --> 00:29:22,814
it or not What are some of the common
problems that you run into right?

571
00:29:22,814 --> 00:29:26,255
I'm not going to ask for specific about
your clients, but you work with several

572
00:29:26,255 --> 00:29:31,685
people You work with quite a few people
look getting into the research So what

573
00:29:31,685 --> 00:29:36,095
are some of the common things that you
see over and over again with people?

574
00:29:36,105 --> 00:29:41,435
You Yeah, a lot of people spend
a long periods of time going in

575
00:29:41,435 --> 00:29:46,805
circles trying to get results in
their life when they haven't built

576
00:29:46,855 --> 00:29:49,125
a strong foundation for success.

577
00:29:49,775 --> 00:29:50,185
Okay.

578
00:29:50,425 --> 00:29:53,925
So I run into a lot of people
that are chasing, they want more

579
00:29:53,934 --> 00:29:56,084
money or they want to start up.

580
00:29:56,165 --> 00:29:59,795
And I said, I work with, I've worked
with eight, nine figure entrepreneurs,

581
00:29:59,795 --> 00:30:03,685
but I also work with people that are
nine to fives That are looking to get

582
00:30:03,685 --> 00:30:08,455
out of that or people that love their
job And they just want to feel better.

583
00:30:08,455 --> 00:30:11,205
They want to feel happier, you know
And they just want to become the best

584
00:30:11,205 --> 00:30:14,875
version of them while they're in that
job Like I got an it guy here in florida

585
00:30:14,885 --> 00:30:18,455
up in boca that just joined my program
last week He just he got out of a

586
00:30:18,455 --> 00:30:23,575
relationship and it just like destroyed
him And he and he fought he follows me

587
00:30:23,575 --> 00:30:26,035
on social media and he was like asking
me what to do And I told him I said

588
00:30:26,035 --> 00:30:29,960
bro right now you just need to rebuild
yourself You And become so fucking good

589
00:30:30,290 --> 00:30:33,890
that you don't care about that last
relationship that you value you More than

590
00:30:33,890 --> 00:30:35,920
you value you and in the relationship.

591
00:30:36,860 --> 00:30:38,720
And so now he's getting
absolutely chopped up.

592
00:30:38,770 --> 00:30:43,925
He's getting shredded So what I do with
people and I just take them through

593
00:30:43,925 --> 00:30:46,245
the process that helped me create me.

594
00:30:47,285 --> 00:30:51,415
And what I had to do was establish a
strong foundation for personal success.

595
00:30:53,085 --> 00:30:57,525
So when I, when I work with somebody, a
lot of times they're chasing something.

596
00:30:57,545 --> 00:31:00,915
They want, like you said, they want
a better relationship or they want

597
00:31:00,925 --> 00:31:04,735
more money or they want a different
job or they want to start a business.

598
00:31:05,705 --> 00:31:09,665
None of those things are sustainable
until you build the leader.

599
00:31:10,445 --> 00:31:15,045
Until you build the man or the, or
the woman, you build the person and

600
00:31:15,045 --> 00:31:19,655
you make them a high quality leader.

601
00:31:20,285 --> 00:31:24,035
Because in order for any business to
succeed, in order for any relationship,

602
00:31:24,035 --> 00:31:28,475
to succeed in any, in order for you to
make any long-term sustainable money and.

603
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,990
You have to become the person that builds
those things and have those things.

604
00:31:35,210 --> 00:31:37,990
So I'll use business as an example.

605
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,040
If you want to build a business,
which a lot of people do these

606
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,370
days, but they keep failing at it.

607
00:31:42,380 --> 00:31:43,820
They keep going in circles.

608
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,530
And the reason why is because they
haven't built themselves up into being

609
00:31:47,530 --> 00:31:48,850
the person that's mentally tough.

610
00:31:49,300 --> 00:31:51,320
That's consistent seven days a week.

611
00:31:52,095 --> 00:31:56,245
That's cut out the bad habits, like
drinking, partying, the lifestyle.

612
00:31:57,105 --> 00:32:00,565
They haven't worked on their personal
weaknesses, like people pleasing.

613
00:32:00,565 --> 00:32:02,835
How far in life do you think
that you're really gonna go?

614
00:32:03,185 --> 00:32:05,105
How far in business do you
think you're really gonna go?

615
00:32:05,505 --> 00:32:08,695
If you're not mentally tough, if you're
not disciplined, if you're not consistent,

616
00:32:09,185 --> 00:32:13,965
if you're not in shape, if you're not,
if you can't handle stress, how far

617
00:32:13,965 --> 00:32:15,135
do you think you're really gonna go?

618
00:32:15,145 --> 00:32:16,655
You're not gonna go very far.

619
00:32:17,855 --> 00:32:21,805
So, when I work with somebody, yeah, I
get, I get clear about what they want.

620
00:32:22,420 --> 00:32:24,170
But what I really do is I help build them.

621
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,280
So the common thing that I find
in a lot of people is that they're

622
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:28,720
chasing a symptom of the problem.

623
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,540
They don't, they feel lack inside.

624
00:32:30,540 --> 00:32:31,560
So they're chasing money.

625
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:33,760
They feel lonely inside.

626
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,180
So they're chasing the relationship.

627
00:32:35,820 --> 00:32:37,460
They feel unfulfilled inside.

628
00:32:37,460 --> 00:32:42,230
So they're looking for the new job,
but the solution to fixing all of those

629
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,460
problems, which is what I had to do
with myself is I had to work on me.

630
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,420
And so that person needs the foundation.

631
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,570
They need to train every
single day, seven days a week.

632
00:32:52,355 --> 00:32:55,285
They can have a recovery today in there
or two, that's fine, but you need to be

633
00:32:55,285 --> 00:32:56,895
working on your body every single day.

634
00:32:57,465 --> 00:32:59,255
You need a morning routine
that works for you.

635
00:32:59,415 --> 00:33:01,695
I teach, what I teach my
clients is body, mind, soul.

636
00:33:03,045 --> 00:33:06,055
Every single morning, you do something
for your soul, you do something for your

637
00:33:06,055 --> 00:33:08,275
mind, and you do something for your body.

638
00:33:08,275 --> 00:33:08,935
You get moving.

639
00:33:10,325 --> 00:33:12,914
And then you need to be studying
personal development every single day.

640
00:33:14,245 --> 00:33:18,855
And then you need to have a, uh, a
process or a program that you follow

641
00:33:19,175 --> 00:33:23,415
that validates you so that regardless
of your results, when you lay down

642
00:33:23,415 --> 00:33:25,545
at night, you feel good about you.

643
00:33:26,205 --> 00:33:28,335
I can have an absolute shit show of a day.

644
00:33:29,185 --> 00:33:33,445
I could, I could be failing
in, in all of my results.

645
00:33:33,970 --> 00:33:40,240
But if I have a process that I follow and
I know that if I check all those blocks

646
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:44,030
and I lay down at night, regardless of
the results that I have or don't have in

647
00:33:44,030 --> 00:33:45,980
my life, I'm gonna feel good about me.

648
00:33:46,180 --> 00:33:48,650
I can still be happy
regardless of my results.

649
00:33:49,735 --> 00:33:51,225
That's what a person needs to focus on.

650
00:33:51,225 --> 00:33:53,615
They need to build the
foundation for success.

651
00:33:54,945 --> 00:33:56,735
And that's what I find in a lot
of people that they don't have.

652
00:33:58,185 --> 00:34:00,065
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673
00:34:55,205 --> 00:34:59,915
What are the, I want to, I want
to keep going on this line.

674
00:34:59,995 --> 00:35:06,115
So what I hear is a lot of people don't
have the right mindset going into this.

675
00:35:06,145 --> 00:35:08,985
They don't, their mind's not right first.

676
00:35:09,485 --> 00:35:12,825
Uh, and

677
00:35:16,315 --> 00:35:18,705
one of the things I've
run into a lot of guys is.

678
00:35:19,550 --> 00:35:21,480
Teaching mindset, right?

679
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:26,450
Teaching people to get in that
right frame of mind to pursue these

680
00:35:26,450 --> 00:35:27,850
things that they really want to.

681
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:30,810
It's a lot of work.

682
00:35:30,810 --> 00:35:33,500
It's difficult for a lot
of people to get there.

683
00:35:33,630 --> 00:35:34,660
It's the hardest thing you'll ever do.

684
00:35:35,050 --> 00:35:40,640
And they start oftentimes with screwing
up with just even setting their goals.

685
00:35:41,990 --> 00:35:44,930
Um, now that's my experience
working with people.

686
00:35:45,665 --> 00:35:51,235
What do, what mistake do people start with
when they're setting these objectives?

687
00:35:51,535 --> 00:35:56,665
Is it just setting goals as a
conscious activity, achieving your

688
00:35:56,665 --> 00:35:58,305
goals as a subconscious activity.

689
00:36:00,495 --> 00:36:00,765
Okay.

690
00:36:00,795 --> 00:36:05,265
So your conscious mind is basically
like, it's your thinking mind.

691
00:36:05,265 --> 00:36:07,055
Whenever you want to apply
yourself to something, you

692
00:36:07,055 --> 00:36:08,245
can sit down and focus on it.

693
00:36:08,245 --> 00:36:08,615
Right.

694
00:36:08,925 --> 00:36:12,125
But your mind works is a lot like
an iceberg where the tip of the

695
00:36:12,125 --> 00:36:13,485
iceberg is your conscious mind.

696
00:36:14,095 --> 00:36:16,625
So if I teach you to shoot a gun for
the first time, you're going to really

697
00:36:16,645 --> 00:36:18,335
think about where your hands need to go.

698
00:36:18,700 --> 00:36:21,790
You're going to think about looking
down the crosshairs of the scope,

699
00:36:21,790 --> 00:36:25,840
or if it's just bore sites, you
just lining up the sites, right?

700
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,760
So you're going to apply conscious
thinking to that activity.

701
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:33,490
All right, but the bottom part of the
iceberg is your subconscious mind.

702
00:36:33,550 --> 00:36:36,670
This is where all of your
programs are stored, right?

703
00:36:37,180 --> 00:36:43,540
Your programs are all your habitual
habits, behaviors, and even self talk.

704
00:36:44,450 --> 00:36:44,720
Okay.

705
00:36:44,720 --> 00:36:48,190
Your subconscious mind is what
makes you make you when you're not.

706
00:36:48,635 --> 00:36:51,505
actively thinking, right?

707
00:36:51,735 --> 00:36:54,845
An example of a program that's
stored in your subconscious mind

708
00:36:55,115 --> 00:36:56,335
is the language that you speak.

709
00:36:57,485 --> 00:37:01,905
You don't have to think about speaking
English, you just do it, right?

710
00:37:02,215 --> 00:37:07,555
So your subconscious mind stores
all these programs that you learn

711
00:37:07,595 --> 00:37:12,825
in your life, and then you call
on them when you need them, right?

712
00:37:12,825 --> 00:37:15,205
That's why you can speak English
without thinking about it.

713
00:37:15,490 --> 00:37:17,850
You've absorbed it and
how did you learn English?

714
00:37:18,770 --> 00:37:20,300
You didn't learn it by
reading and writing.

715
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:25,380
You actually learned how to
speak English by absorbing it and

716
00:37:25,380 --> 00:37:28,140
listening to other people before
you were able to read and write.

717
00:37:29,890 --> 00:37:32,330
So your subconscious mind
is like a recording system.

718
00:37:32,330 --> 00:37:34,350
It constantly records your entire life.

719
00:37:34,650 --> 00:37:36,940
And so what's happened with a
lot of people is they've recorded

720
00:37:36,950 --> 00:37:38,610
bad habits their entire life.

721
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:44,670
They've recorded habits of Uh, when they
fail they stop trying or they've they've

722
00:37:44,670 --> 00:37:48,760
recorded habits of trying five days a
week, but not seven days a week And so

723
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:52,140
what ends up happening is as adults when
they realize that they want to change

724
00:37:52,140 --> 00:37:55,230
they want to be more consistent They
want to go after these goals that they've

725
00:37:55,230 --> 00:38:02,010
set they're bringing bad subconscious
habits To the new version of them and

726
00:38:02,010 --> 00:38:05,680
they haven't worked on them They haven't
gotten rid of the inconsistent habit

727
00:38:05,690 --> 00:38:09,939
that they have they haven't gotten rid
of the negative self talk habit that

728
00:38:09,940 --> 00:38:15,790
they have Okay Like most people's, holy
shit man, like most people's self talk.

729
00:38:16,550 --> 00:38:19,660
If you talk to people the way that
you talk to yourself, everybody here

730
00:38:19,660 --> 00:38:22,120
listening, you wouldn't have any friends.

731
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:27,630
Most people, like 90 percent of society,
talk shit to themselves all the damn time.

732
00:38:29,350 --> 00:38:32,470
So, how can you expect to get
anything done if you're constantly

733
00:38:32,470 --> 00:38:34,490
belittling and talking yourself down?

734
00:38:35,500 --> 00:38:38,490
How can you constantly go after your
goals when you tell yourself you're

735
00:38:38,490 --> 00:38:39,810
never gonna be able to achieve it?

736
00:38:41,370 --> 00:38:44,950
So when you set a goal,
that's a conscious activity.

737
00:38:44,950 --> 00:38:46,330
You can activate your conscious mind.

738
00:38:46,330 --> 00:38:49,070
You say, all right I'm gonna get clear
about what I want But then after you've

739
00:38:49,070 --> 00:38:53,870
created the goal, the problem is that
you've brought you to that process You

740
00:38:53,870 --> 00:38:57,000
brought your old patterns and behaviors
to it So what really has to happen

741
00:38:57,290 --> 00:39:03,420
is that person has to reprogram their
subconscious with a new program That sets

742
00:39:03,420 --> 00:39:04,930
them up for success with their goals.

743
00:39:05,450 --> 00:39:09,345
In other words They need to develop
consistent habits on a daily basis.

744
00:39:09,345 --> 00:39:10,025
They need to learn.

745
00:39:10,215 --> 00:39:12,365
And the way that you do this with
people is you just teach them how to

746
00:39:12,365 --> 00:39:14,795
develop good habits with basic shit.

747
00:39:15,315 --> 00:39:19,855
Like if teaching a person how
to train seven, you know, five

748
00:39:19,855 --> 00:39:21,385
days, six days, seven days a week.

749
00:39:21,820 --> 00:39:25,130
Is is a great way to teach them
consistency and once they start developing

750
00:39:25,130 --> 00:39:29,300
that in there with their body Then they
can be consistent in everything else

751
00:39:29,330 --> 00:39:35,060
relationships the business So you have
to literally rebuild a person in order

752
00:39:35,060 --> 00:39:38,510
for them to accomplish their goals And
that's why so many people fail they use

753
00:39:38,510 --> 00:39:42,320
a conscious activity to set the goal
But then the subconscious program is

754
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:48,015
in the way and it keeps pulling them
away from it Jeremiah, if, if somebody

755
00:39:48,015 --> 00:39:52,255
wanted to start now, they're hearing
this and they're going, I want more.

756
00:39:52,585 --> 00:39:54,095
I don't know how to get there.

757
00:39:54,465 --> 00:39:57,175
What are the first three
steps for someone to take?

758
00:39:59,735 --> 00:40:02,215
First three steps are you need
to confront your weaknesses.

759
00:40:03,245 --> 00:40:08,585
You're never going to get what you want
until you become who you know you can be.

760
00:40:10,435 --> 00:40:14,675
That's the thing is like,
the purpose of your goals is

761
00:40:14,675 --> 00:40:16,255
not to achieve, it's to grow.

762
00:40:17,835 --> 00:40:21,265
So if you want to get started, your focus
should not be on getting to the result.

763
00:40:21,565 --> 00:40:24,375
Your focus should be on building yourself.

764
00:40:24,965 --> 00:40:26,795
Into the person that achieves the goals.

765
00:40:27,625 --> 00:40:28,525
So how do you start?

766
00:40:28,545 --> 00:40:30,275
You need to have a real
conversation with yourself.

767
00:40:31,265 --> 00:40:34,985
You need to sit down be direct
with you Tell yourself where

768
00:40:34,985 --> 00:40:36,135
you're failing as a leader.

769
00:40:36,775 --> 00:40:40,235
Tell yourself that you know what
I have in my past I haven't been

770
00:40:40,235 --> 00:40:43,985
working as hard on me as I should
I have been skipping the gym I have

771
00:40:43,985 --> 00:40:45,685
been stuffing my face full of food.

772
00:40:45,685 --> 00:40:49,035
That's not good for me I have been
setting a bad example, but i'm

773
00:40:49,035 --> 00:40:54,835
going to dedicate the rest of my
life to fixing those weaknesses And

774
00:40:54,835 --> 00:40:56,215
weaknesses don't go away in a day.

775
00:40:56,215 --> 00:40:58,615
They take time and they take
failure You So you're going to

776
00:40:58,625 --> 00:41:00,445
fail you and stumble and fall.

777
00:41:01,275 --> 00:41:03,835
So if you want to get your life together,
number one, confront your weaknesses.

778
00:41:03,835 --> 00:41:05,255
Number two, embrace failure.

779
00:41:06,325 --> 00:41:08,385
Failure and success
are the same direction.

780
00:41:09,635 --> 00:41:14,035
So if you're not failing on health,
wealth, relationships, your career,

781
00:41:14,315 --> 00:41:15,935
you're not failing and progressing.

782
00:41:17,595 --> 00:41:18,575
You're staying stagnant.

783
00:41:18,575 --> 00:41:19,605
You're in complacency.

784
00:41:20,645 --> 00:41:22,685
You're in what I call is
the complacency quicksand.

785
00:41:22,925 --> 00:41:23,885
Feels nice and soft.

786
00:41:23,885 --> 00:41:25,015
Next thing you know, you can't get out.

787
00:41:26,075 --> 00:41:28,805
And then the last thing is
get your, build an environment

788
00:41:28,805 --> 00:41:30,045
that's conducive to your growth.

789
00:41:30,780 --> 00:41:34,900
The thing that that caused me to
transform from shy kid from a little

790
00:41:34,900 --> 00:41:39,740
town to ranger officer, then commander
was I got around the right people.

791
00:41:40,780 --> 00:41:42,050
I embraced fear.

792
00:41:42,050 --> 00:41:46,840
I was uncomfortable the entire
time I put my, but I put myself

793
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:48,360
in the rooms I needed to be in.

794
00:41:49,690 --> 00:41:55,810
I felt like that imposter, but when I
got in the room, My perception of myself

795
00:41:55,810 --> 00:41:59,580
changed and I rose to the occasion
and that's how leaders are forward.

796
00:42:00,690 --> 00:42:01,090
Okay?

797
00:42:01,460 --> 00:42:03,280
So everybody here, you need
to build an environment that's

798
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:04,230
conducive to your growth.

799
00:42:04,570 --> 00:42:07,370
The environment, an environment that's
not conducive to your growth is one where

800
00:42:07,370 --> 00:42:12,520
you have friends that are just as negative
as you ones that pull you towards self

801
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:15,240
destructive or self sabotaging behaviors.

802
00:42:15,970 --> 00:42:19,220
The world is set up to actually like pull
you away from your goals and destroy you.

803
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:20,290
You walk outside.

804
00:42:20,290 --> 00:42:22,000
If you're trying to get
in shape, what happens?

805
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,020
You go down the street, you go
buy 10 fast food restaurants that

806
00:42:25,020 --> 00:42:26,060
are literally trying to kill you.

807
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,630
You know, you're constantly being marketed
and sold shit to buy stuff that doesn't

808
00:42:30,630 --> 00:42:34,100
actually like make you feel better It's
just people trying to sell you shit

809
00:42:35,060 --> 00:42:37,730
and they're they're trying to take your
money So you live in a world where your

810
00:42:37,730 --> 00:42:41,500
environment is constantly trying to bring
you down So what you need to do is build

811
00:42:41,500 --> 00:42:45,010
up a team around you in an environment
That's conducive to your growth when

812
00:42:45,010 --> 00:42:48,400
i'm trying to get down to eight percent
body fat, which is what I just did 8.

813
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:52,830
6 I get rid of all the snacks in my house
because I don't want that temptation.

814
00:42:53,580 --> 00:42:57,280
I get everybody around me to know that I'm
going after this goal so that when I have

815
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,550
a weak moment, they help keep me on track.

816
00:43:00,810 --> 00:43:02,930
I don't want an, a fair advantage.

817
00:43:03,465 --> 00:43:06,045
When I'm approaching my goals,
I want an unfair advantage.

818
00:43:06,195 --> 00:43:09,725
Like when I was in the military,
they taught, I learned how

819
00:43:09,725 --> 00:43:10,925
to fight and win at war.

820
00:43:11,775 --> 00:43:14,815
One of the things they taught me
as an infantry officer was that if

821
00:43:14,825 --> 00:43:20,235
you want to win at war, you need
to bring three friendly forces for

822
00:43:20,235 --> 00:43:21,815
every one enemy that's out there.

823
00:43:21,815 --> 00:43:23,885
You need a three to one ratio.

824
00:43:25,025 --> 00:43:27,665
So when it comes to your goals and
when it comes to where you guys

825
00:43:27,665 --> 00:43:31,225
want, want to achieve in life,
Stack the odds in your favor.

826
00:43:31,245 --> 00:43:35,115
Three to one, get the coach, get
the mentor, get the friends, get the

827
00:43:35,115 --> 00:43:38,785
environment, get the house set up the way
that you want, get everything set up to

828
00:43:38,795 --> 00:43:43,695
force your growth and force you to grow
into the person that achieves your goals.

829
00:43:45,225 --> 00:43:46,395
Tell us about Conquer Academy.

830
00:43:47,305 --> 00:43:47,495
Yeah.

831
00:43:47,495 --> 00:43:50,205
Conquer Academy is my leadership and
high performance coaching company.

832
00:43:50,265 --> 00:43:52,285
We help people set goals, achieve them.

833
00:43:52,525 --> 00:43:53,825
We help them work on their leadership.

834
00:43:54,305 --> 00:43:56,205
My basic program is called the table.

835
00:43:56,715 --> 00:43:58,515
Um, in that program, we build you.

836
00:43:59,375 --> 00:44:00,845
We build you into the best version of you.

837
00:44:00,885 --> 00:44:05,005
It goes for like 300 a month, or you can
do like up to 2k for the entire year.

838
00:44:05,295 --> 00:44:07,185
It's a stepping stone for somebody.

839
00:44:07,745 --> 00:44:08,885
And then I got the winner's table.

840
00:44:09,775 --> 00:44:12,385
The winner's table is where I help you
build the dream life that you want,

841
00:44:12,415 --> 00:44:13,895
help you get out of your nine to five.

842
00:44:14,345 --> 00:44:17,375
Um, I teach you elite level mindset,
how to think your way to your goal.

843
00:44:17,375 --> 00:44:20,995
Using the mental Gerber, the mental
Gerber is a tool that I teach my,

844
00:44:21,055 --> 00:44:24,165
my students to help them accomplish
every goal that they set out.

845
00:44:24,655 --> 00:44:28,015
It includes things like your imagination,
your perception, your self talk.

846
00:44:28,820 --> 00:44:29,830
There's a bunch of different tools.

847
00:44:29,830 --> 00:44:30,990
There's nine tools inside of it.

848
00:44:31,130 --> 00:44:35,350
I teach you decision making how to
make fast decisions because most

849
00:44:35,350 --> 00:44:40,540
people aren't actually separated from
their goal by time they're actually

850
00:44:40,540 --> 00:44:43,180
separated by their goal by decision.

851
00:44:45,125 --> 00:44:48,525
Like if you make, if you eat, like
if you want to get in shape, right,

852
00:44:49,545 --> 00:44:52,225
is it time that's stopping you from
getting in shape or is it decision

853
00:44:52,225 --> 00:44:55,305
it's decision, the decision to go to
the gym, the decision to eat the right

854
00:44:55,305 --> 00:44:59,015
meal, the decision to hire the trainer
that you want to hire, whatever it is.

855
00:44:59,395 --> 00:45:01,655
So it's decision that
collapses the timeline to goal.

856
00:45:01,655 --> 00:45:04,875
So I teach decision making, um,
and we help build the dream life.

857
00:45:04,875 --> 00:45:06,095
And then I have one on one with me.

858
00:45:06,095 --> 00:45:10,155
So if anybody wants that, uh, extra
accountability, special treatment

859
00:45:10,155 --> 00:45:12,455
where they're just sitting down one
on one with me across time to achieve

860
00:45:12,455 --> 00:45:14,385
their goals and grow their companies.

861
00:45:14,945 --> 00:45:16,295
Uh, they have that option as well.

862
00:45:17,785 --> 00:45:19,635
What's the next big project for you?

863
00:45:20,865 --> 00:45:23,765
I've been doing more of this, like more
speaking, just telling my story on.

864
00:45:24,325 --> 00:45:25,135
podcasts.

865
00:45:25,595 --> 00:45:30,605
Um, and you know, I got
my conquer quest events.

866
00:45:30,605 --> 00:45:32,785
So I do in person leadership
events where we do.

867
00:45:33,675 --> 00:45:36,825
I teach mission planning, team
building, communication and

868
00:45:36,825 --> 00:45:38,115
decision making under pressure.

869
00:45:38,745 --> 00:45:44,035
And so I've been running those and my
next one is in California in January 12th.

870
00:45:44,865 --> 00:45:48,165
Um, we're gonna do a James Bond
theme double oh seven theme.

871
00:45:48,165 --> 00:45:50,805
So you're gonna shoot guns, jump
out of planes, drive fast cards

872
00:45:50,805 --> 00:45:52,095
and I'm gonna teach you leadership.

873
00:45:52,585 --> 00:45:54,325
And mission planning and
success along the way.

874
00:45:54,325 --> 00:45:56,815
So yeah, it's just, it's just
doubling down and building

875
00:45:56,815 --> 00:45:58,465
out the conquer quest events.

876
00:45:58,705 --> 00:46:02,175
It's helping more people improve their
lives and it's speaking more, getting

877
00:46:02,175 --> 00:46:06,125
on more podcasts and helping, you
know, sharing this message of just

878
00:46:06,525 --> 00:46:09,369
chasing the best version of you and
going after the things that you love.

879
00:46:10,090 --> 00:46:12,280
You know, you really want to go
after in life, chasing your dreams.

880
00:46:13,370 --> 00:46:17,100
Where's the best place for people
to find you just Instagram.

881
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:20,590
And guys, I answer, I'm
very hands on my Instagram.

882
00:46:20,590 --> 00:46:22,730
And if you guys message me, it's
going to be me that it responds.

883
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:28,850
Um, it's just Jeremy solvent,
J E R a M I A H S O L V E N.

884
00:46:29,250 --> 00:46:30,530
Jeremy solvent on Instagram.

885
00:46:30,740 --> 00:46:31,830
Let me know where you're coming from.

886
00:46:31,830 --> 00:46:35,950
Cause I've been getting on a few
of these shows and it'll help speed

887
00:46:35,980 --> 00:46:37,590
things up as far as rapport goes.

888
00:46:37,910 --> 00:46:39,040
Me and you getting to know each other.

889
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,140
I'll know where you're coming
from and kind of have an idea of

890
00:46:41,140 --> 00:46:42,335
where you're What's on your mind?

891
00:46:43,035 --> 00:46:47,795
So just say the fallible man, you know
podcast or whatever and um, Yeah, just

892
00:46:47,795 --> 00:46:50,265
send me a message on instagram and I
talk to everybody that comes through

893
00:46:50,265 --> 00:46:53,035
I'd love to meet you guys and help
you out in any way I can And of course

894
00:46:53,035 --> 00:46:56,475
guys, we'll have all those links for
jeremiah down in the show notes or the

895
00:46:57,005 --> 00:47:01,795
description whatever platform you're on
Now, I know you all actually give a crap

896
00:47:01,805 --> 00:47:06,665
about how many plays shakespeare wrote
Not really, but you know, it is a show.

897
00:47:06,675 --> 00:47:11,155
So, uh, the answer you guessed
47 This is the maximum answer.

898
00:47:11,155 --> 00:47:15,295
The answer is actually 37 You
Uh, it's a really big book.

899
00:47:15,295 --> 00:47:16,595
I have the complete works of Shakespeare.

900
00:47:16,595 --> 00:47:17,565
I've had it since I was a kid.

901
00:47:17,565 --> 00:47:20,375
It's like, it's huge.

902
00:47:21,155 --> 00:47:21,745
Go on.

903
00:47:21,755 --> 00:47:23,605
The question was how many, how many.

904
00:47:24,260 --> 00:47:27,430
Uh, do, do both, does most
people think he wrote, right?

905
00:47:27,710 --> 00:47:29,730
Or, or is it, how many did he write?

906
00:47:30,730 --> 00:47:33,490
Uh, the question is how many
people do, place, do most people

907
00:47:33,500 --> 00:47:34,650
generally believe he wrote?

908
00:47:34,750 --> 00:47:35,190
And the answer is 37.

909
00:47:36,410 --> 00:47:38,020
Oh, they believe 37.

910
00:47:38,020 --> 00:47:38,774
So there's a couple.

911
00:47:38,774 --> 00:47:39,690
How many did he write?

912
00:47:40,370 --> 00:47:44,679
Um, I want to say it's like 43.

913
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,300
He ghost wrote a couple under a pseudonym.

914
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:48,210
Okay.

915
00:47:48,410 --> 00:47:51,250
Aren't always, most people don't
know are attributed to him.

916
00:47:52,190 --> 00:47:52,630
All right.

917
00:47:52,700 --> 00:47:54,710
But you have to be like a
really big theater nerd.

918
00:47:54,710 --> 00:47:56,860
Like I was in high school to
know that most of the time.

919
00:47:57,100 --> 00:47:57,520
Yeah.

920
00:47:59,090 --> 00:48:04,340
Jeremiah, if the people listening
here, nothing else today.

921
00:48:04,830 --> 00:48:06,170
Absolutely nothing else of the show.

922
00:48:06,370 --> 00:48:08,970
What do you want them
to take away from this?

923
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:11,450
Don't tiptoe your way to death.

924
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:15,320
Like, none of us are getting
out of this world alive.

925
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:16,790
Don't tiptoe your way to death.

926
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:19,060
Life is meant to be conquered.

927
00:48:19,210 --> 00:48:20,220
It's not meant to be lived.

928
00:48:20,230 --> 00:48:21,240
It's meant to be conquered.

929
00:48:21,610 --> 00:48:25,370
If you're feeling dead, empty,
unfulfilled inside like I was at 20

930
00:48:25,370 --> 00:48:28,420
years old in Iraq, there's something
inside of your heart that's calling you.

931
00:48:29,370 --> 00:48:30,470
You need to go after it.

932
00:48:30,900 --> 00:48:34,100
And in order to actually achieve
it, You have to build you.

933
00:48:35,130 --> 00:48:37,710
So focus on you, build personal
development into your life.

934
00:48:38,410 --> 00:48:41,410
Fuck if I can accomplish what
I've accomplished, you can too.

935
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:43,960
And if you need help and
support, hit me up on Instagram.

936
00:48:43,970 --> 00:48:45,790
Cause I'll love to help
you out along the way.

937
00:48:46,295 --> 00:48:49,595
But, um, yeah, that's my message
is life's not meant to be lived.

938
00:48:49,595 --> 00:48:50,405
It's meant to be conquered.

939
00:48:51,565 --> 00:48:55,835
All right, guys, for Jeremiah and myself,
thanks for hanging out with us today.

940
00:48:55,835 --> 00:48:58,535
Be better tomorrow because of what you do
today and we'll see you on the next one.

941
00:49:00,125 --> 00:49:02,565
This has been the Fallible Man podcast.

942
00:49:03,195 --> 00:49:06,425
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man, husband, and father.

943
00:49:07,375 --> 00:49:09,765
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944
00:49:10,505 --> 00:49:13,194
Head over to www.

945
00:49:13,195 --> 00:49:13,705
thefallibleman.

946
00:49:14,205 --> 00:49:18,139
com for more content and get
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947
00:49:18,500 --> 00:49:22,875
I'm not takin I ain't waitin and
wishin I'm not takin I'm not takin