The 1% Who Make Love Last: Putting in the Work Year After Year

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If our audience hears nothing else
out of this conversation, what do

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you want them to take away today?

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Ready?

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Yeah, I feel like
there's another takeaway.

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I feel like there's another takeaway.

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Let's say that and then
we'll add on to it.

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Okay, ready?

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Three, two, one.

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The grass is greener where you water it.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach
our full potential?

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Growing to the men we dream of being
while taking care of our responsibilities,

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working, being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big question.

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In this podcast, we'll help you
answer those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man Podcast.

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Welcome to the Fallible Man
Podcast, your home for all

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things man, husband, and father.

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Big shout out to Fallible Nation.

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That's our private community.

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There's more about that in the show
notes or the description and a warm

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welcome to our first time listeners.

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Hey, I know there's a lot out
there, so thank you for taking

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Tell us what you think of the show.

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We'd love to hear your opinion.

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My name is Brent and today my guests are
intimacy alchemist Meshack and Annabelle.

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Meshack, Annabelle, welcome
to The Fallible Man podcast.

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for having us.

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It's a pleasure.

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Thank you.

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And thank you for jumping
with the time differences.

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This is one of the cool things about
podcasting is we can be all over the

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world and still do these great things.

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Absolutely.

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Yeah.

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We're in this together.

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So how's your trivia?

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Ooh, trivia, I don't know.

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I can't say, I haven't done a trivia
quiz of any kind in many years.

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It's definitely not our remit.

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Let's do it, let's do it.

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Let's do it, let's go, let's go.

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Okay, here's the show trivia.

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Who is generally considered
the inventor of the motor car?

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Is it A.

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Henry Ford, B.

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Carl Benz, or C.

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Henry Leland?

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We did this the other day with the boys.

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I don't know if we did this.

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Now, I'm going to say, I feel like
it's a trick question, I think

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generally considered, however, and
that is the question, generally

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considered it would be Henry Ford.

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I think it's generally
considered that they said the,

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is it the sports place at all?

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The motor car, the motor car car in
general, I feel like it's Henry Ford.

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Who's generally considered that.

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Okay.

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Now guys, you know, the
rules play along at home.

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Don't cheat.

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Don't write.

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If you're driving,
please, that's not safe.

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And we'll come back to
that later in the show.

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Now you guys have listened to the show.

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So, you know, I'm not in introductions.

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So in your own words today,
in this moment, who is.

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Me, Shaq, and Annabelle.

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In this moment.

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Do you want to go first, baby?

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In this moment?

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Yes.

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We are autonomous beings.

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We are forever becoming.

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We are parents.

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We are spouses.

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We are lovers.

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We are thrill seekers.

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We are adulting.

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We are learning.

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We are unlearning.

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We're expanding.

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What else?

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I feel like you covered it.

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That was beautifully said.

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Yeah.

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That was beautifully said.

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I don't think I would add anything else.

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If you won 10 million tomorrow,
what would you spend it on?

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10 million dollars.

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Oh, I mean, there's so much that
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Wow.

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Um, there's so much that we would break it
up into, but I feel like You'd invest it.

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We would definitely invest it, but I feel
like if we're going for the fun answer, we

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would finally take the boys to Disneyland.

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Our sons to Disneyland.

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For sure.

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Yeah.

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Without any, without any concerns
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payments of this or payments of that.

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So that's for sure.

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And it would be on first, first class.

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And it would be at a five diamond resort.

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100 percent That's for sure.

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Okay.

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What is your favorite childhood memory?

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Do you know what's come up for me?

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Randomly.

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So we were talking about
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So after school, you know,
they've got after school programs.

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It's eating these, um, I don't
know what you call them in the U.

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S., but like these biscuits, digestives.

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Are you familiar with those?

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Like a baked biscuit.

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It's like the most basic one you can have.

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With like orange squash.

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And eating the rim where it was
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the squash until it's broke apart.

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Yeah.

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What?

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Wow.

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And being outside.

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Yeah, what's my favorite memory?

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Being a child, I feel like it's, I, at
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that was, I had really fond memories in
Kenya, and I think that going to school

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on a boat was a majorly fond memory, going
for, because we lived on a little island,

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and I went to school on another island, so
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take a boat, so I feel like that, that's
a major memory that comes to mind for me.

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Very different.

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See, and for those of us who are a
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there were islands around Kenya.

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Yeah, there are.

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That's, that's amazing.

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Is that like off the coast
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Um, I can't remember the exact
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geography, like the actual geographical
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uh, it's near Mombasa, which is one
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It's on the coast.

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It's Lamu.

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That's what the island was, but it's
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are concerned, closest to Mombasa.

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Okay.

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If I was to sit down and have
dinner with you guys and like the

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whole family, what is a funny story
your family would tell on you?

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Oh, God, a funny story.

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Tell on us.

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They'd be talking about us.

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So imagine my sisters, let's say
my sisters or your brother or

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whoever else were around the table.

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And they're just cracking up, talking
about this occasion between us.

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Gosh, I didn't, I didn't know
there was that time you wore

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that wig, that ginger wig.

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There was that.

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One of my sister's wigs, and
that was for my birthday.

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That was, I believe, six
years ago for my birthday.

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And we were at my mom's stroke
sister's house and my sister has a

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few weeks and I wore both of them.

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I wore a black wig and a brown wig like
Teen Wolf, but like, yeah, that's true.

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I've got pictures to prove this.

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I've got pictures to prove this Brent.

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So maybe I'll send you one after the show.

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They would definitely talk about that.

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Yeah.

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Oh, thank you for sharing that.

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That's a great visual.

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I'm genuinely like Teen Wolf.

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Annabelle is not exaggerating.

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That's right.

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We, we, we all have those great stories.

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I, uh, there, there is actually
photographic evidence of me.

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Going as a woman for Halloween in
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high school, I had hair all the
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So I actually legitimately went
as a woman for Halloween, like

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when I was 17 or something.

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Was it a woman of notoriety or
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Me and my best friend went as women.

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We were both, uh, competitive
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And so we went as women.

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With his girlfriend and the three of us
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like three, three lovely young ladies,
three lovely young ladies having a party.

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Just hanging out.

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I think the more disturbing fact was the
Taco Bell manager actually hit on me.

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Oh my days.

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Those days are gone, right?

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Yeah.

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My Taco Bell manager says.

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Not generally with the beard, right?

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It just doesn't.

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Hey.

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Hey.

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It's an interesting world
we live in sometimes.

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But yeah, we'll just send me the picture.

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We'll put it in the show notes.

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Nice little note in there.

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Download it would be a
Google drive link, right?

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And it'll be download this.

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Absolutely love to see that.

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That'd be good.

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What purchase of a hundred dollars or less
have you guys made in the last year that's

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had the biggest impact on your life?

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The purchase of one hundred
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there's, there's quite a few.

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I wasn't saying pull up
bar, but A pull up bar?

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I've been using my pull up bar
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month and a half since Annabelle
got it for me for my birthday.

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Oh, me and your mum were in cahoots.

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Yeah.

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Cause he's, he's really hard to buy for.

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So we have to go practical
with him all the time and he's

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been on there like the Hulk.

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Yeah, so the thing is, when Annabelle
says I'm hard to buy for, it's not

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that I don't appreciate presents, it's
more I'm a practical guy, so if, if

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I'm gonna have a present, I'm gonna
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practical as opposed to sentimental.

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So I would definitely say that that's
been a great present because I use

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it every single day without fail.

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And a ring light.

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A ring light's been great.

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Which is what we're using right now.

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Very helpful.

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Very.

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How many pull ups were you up to?

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I'm up to in one goal, wide grip, 15.

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That's huge, dude.

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That's, that's like top
1 percent right there.

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Less than 3 percent of the populace
actually works out regularly.

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I'm also a personal trainer.

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Uh, less than 3 percent of the American,
I can say the American, I'd say the,

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uh, first world nations, uh, less than 3
percent of the general populace works out.

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Three days a week or more.

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It's insane.

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And I'm over here, and we're over here in
our bubble because we work out regularly.

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Even though we don't have gym
memberships, we're just at home training.

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And it feels like, oh, this is
standard procedure and protocol.

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I feel so much better now.

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Wow.

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I feel so much better now.

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Being able to do 15 consecutive wide
grip pull ups, most people can't do one.

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Fewer people can do three.

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Once you're at where you can do
sets of 10, you're doing great.

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And that's the great thing, actually,
having done it so consistently now it's

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more or less like, right, I do my 15
and then I have a short break and then I

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can do another 10 shortly after, even if
it's on the middle grip and close grip.

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So it feels good to be building
up that conditioning as well.

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That's awesome.

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It's the fallible man, baby.

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The fallible man.

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Peas.

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Not far behind you.

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Biggest pet peeves.

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Oh, biggest pet peeves.

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Oh my god, I've got so many.

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Yawning.

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I don't know what it is.

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If I can see someone's tongue
when they yawn, I literally

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immediately want to throw up.

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So we were on the underground, the
subway here in London, the underground,

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and And it happens quite regularly, or
more regularly than one would expect,

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where someone on a, on a full carriage
would just be like It's like if you've

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seen, if you've seen a lion roar in
slow motion, it looks like that and it

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just An animal's like what, why, how,
when, where I just can't handle it.

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Yeah.

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I get it.

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Like any mouth sounds, sort of like any of
that, I literally unfold, I can't do it.

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Yeah.

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I would say mine is, after
a cooking spree at home, an

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untended to or unredeemed kitchen.

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So a kitchen which has onions
still on the chopping board.

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Which has plates and bowls still in it.

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After everyone's been fed.

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Yeah, that's a big pet peeve.

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And it's because I've actually
touted myself a master of

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cleaning as I go when I cook.

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So when I witness anything other
than that in our household, it

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really drives me up the wall.

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Can you tell this is a
regular topic of discussion?

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I can, I can.

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Oh, that's funny.

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What's one completely random fact
people don't know about you guys?

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I used to have one.

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Now I don't know.

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A random fact.

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I feel like most people don't
know that I did my 800 meter

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swimming badge when I was younger.

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So when I was about 10 or 11,
I did my badge for 800 meters.

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in front crawl, I believe.

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It was either front crawl or
breaststroke, so I don't think

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anyone knows that about me.

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Mine's not as exciting, but I once saw a
porcupine that was about two meters tall.

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In Ghana, in a zoo.

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I haven't seen one since.

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When was that?

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In the mid 90s?

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Yeah.

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I feel like it wasn't two meters tall.

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I feel like you were really short and
you thought it was two meters tall.

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was probably about half a meter.

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No, it was two meters tall
because the zookeeper was stood

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next to him and he was a man.

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And the only proof I have is that
my brother was there with me.

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So the question, is that a fun fact?

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It's about the porcupine,
or about you, that I saw it.

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Oh, right.

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Like I said, there's no wrong answers.

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I enjoyed this part of the show just
because I enjoy getting to know people.

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Oh, I love that, yeah, that
was awesome, I love that.

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So what is one thing everyone
should know before we dig into

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the subject matter for today?

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What is something that
everyone should know?

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Yeah, that, um We're not the
finished article and we're really

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passionate about providing tools
that work, that are tried and tested.

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and that what we're talking about
is possible for whoever wants it.

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Because we, we can say that unequivocally
because we've been there, we've done

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it, and we're still there, and we're
still doing it, and we know that

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it does work when you are working.

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Yeah.

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And it's, and it's a practice.

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All right, guys, we've been getting
to know Meshack and Annabelle

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a little bit, and just who they
are and connecting with them.

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In the next part of the show, we're
going to dive into 1 percent Love.

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What is it?

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What does a successful
relationship actually look like?

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All right, guys, welcome back.

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And the first part of the show,
we spent some time just getting

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to know who Meshack and Annabelle
are and seeing them as people and

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understanding a little bit about them.

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And this part of the show, we're
going to dive into 1 percent love.

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What is it?

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What are we talking about?

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What does a successful, success,
if I can say successful at 6

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something in the morning, what does
a successful relationship look like?

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Now, I, we'll, we'll start off guys with
just how long have you guys been together?

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Mmm, coming up to 20 years.

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Yeah?

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20 years.

364
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We've known each other
for, 22, 23 years now.

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Yeah, about to, we're about to go into
our 23rd year of knowing each other, but

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we've been together for nearly 20 and it's
been a hell of a ride, that's for sure.

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An amazing adventure.

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Good, that's what I was looking for.

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What does that mean?

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Yeah, 20, 20 years we've been together.

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Okay, well tell us a story.

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Tell, tell us the story
of Meshack and Annabelle.

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Well, first and foremost,
we met in a choir.

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We are both singers, still to this day.

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We still perform regularly.

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We do a lot of private events, a lot of
private parties, all across the world.

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And we met, nevertheless, when we
were about 15 or 16, in this choir,

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and we became really good friends.

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So we were friends for a few years, and
then there was this one pivotal night.

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which changed absolutely everything where
we were at a friend's house with a bunch

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of friends got on a Saturday night as we
did went over we're in our late teens at

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this point and something changed there
was a tension in the air tensions rose

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passions rose and the next thing we knew
we were like wait what what what's going

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on here and that's what began things
and Yeah, and then there was a series

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of ups and downs, and ups and downs.

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Make ups and break ups for
the first couple of years.

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Make ups and break ups, and
then we decided finally that

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we were going to be together.

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There was a lot of growth, and I think the
beautiful thing is, we have had some of

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our formative and pivotal years together.

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We've grown up together.

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And then we entered into, you know,
being girlfriend and boyfriend,

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and then it was fiancé, and then
it was spouses, business partners.

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And You know, we have parents as well.

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Parenthood.

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Oh, God, what a sale.

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Um, so yeah, that's,
that's been the journey.

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And there's just been a lot of
learning, as he said in the unlearning

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as well, growing into growing apart.

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Um, and it's a wonderful
cacophony of sorts that we have,

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that we call our life together.

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I love, I love that you guys have history.

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I think some of the most.

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Prolific couples that you meet have
this crazy mix up history where they're

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together and then they weren't it was good
It was not it was we were younger and then

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we did this and we were with this, right?

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They have these backstories of This
built a foundation for their for

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who they are It builds that history
together, which I think is incredibly

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important And, right, 20 years,
that's, that's nothing to sneeze at.

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I, uh, the, the competitive nature in
me went, I, I want to be like, Woooo!

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You got a seat.

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Yeah, right.

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Wow.

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Congratulations.

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Right, and that, that's what, that's what
blows my mind these days though, right?

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You go back two generations,
and you got couples that have

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been together 40, 50, 60 years.

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I understand that.

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Long relationships.

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And now people hit 20 of the years.

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They're like, Whoa, you've
been married forever.

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Like, uh, I went to my parents 45th, man.

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What are you talking about?

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And so that, that is part of the
reason we're having this conversation

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today is there are so many
relationships that struggle, right?

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I don't know if it's difference
in the way we're taught or the

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expectations, but so many relationships.

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don't have that lasting love.

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And so you guys talk about 1 percent
love website, part of your program.

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And so what is 1 percent love?

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1 percent love is essentially
You know, it's what 99 percent of

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people are not willing to do in
order to maintain the intimacy, the

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relationship, the joy, the partnership.

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It's when you see a couple and you see
them, they've got that bond, they've

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got a bond, there's a connection.

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And you can't really put it into words.

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It's that, it's, it's that kind
of, what do they call it in French?

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I don't even know.

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But it's the essence of that
togetherness, that connection.

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Um, with a couple.

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Yeah, and also when, when people see
this type of love between a couple or

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those who are in a partnership, they
say, Wow, how are they so in tune?

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How are they so connected?

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What is it that they've done to
generate or acquire this type of love?

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I want that.

446
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What do I need to do?

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So it's that type of love.

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And Annabelle said, as Annabelle said,
that really comes from being the 1

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percent who are willing to do what
it takes to Go the distance with each

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other and have it all with each other.

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Now guys, let's be really clear.

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With the audience, we're not talking that
nauseating puppy dog Crap you see in the

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first year or two like those those new
couples and that puppy dog phase that

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is like mauling each other all the time
in public and Making cutesy baby noises

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at each other and coming up with a plea.

456
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This is not what we're talking
about Yeah, this is, and, and

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that's what I was about to get onto.

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This is the, you know, the people that are
able to say, I love you, but I don't like

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you right now, but I love you and because
I love you, I'm willing to work on it.

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It's going through the grievances and
understanding each other and knowing that

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you're united in where you're going, not
necessarily where you're at right now.

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And it's choosing each
other over and over again.

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When you can't stand each other, when,
you know, when one of you's not having

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a good time, you When one of you are
having a great time, it's celebrating

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together and also needing space,
but knowing that like, we're a team.

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It's that, that's the difference.

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And you know, there's a place
for the gooey gooey thing, but

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you know, it has a sell by day.

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And we didn't want to hear that
when we first got together, but

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it definitely has a shelf life.

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Yeah, it has a shelf life.

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And it definitely has
a self by sell by day.

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If you don't have the framework
and your structure in place.

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to enable yourselves when you meet
the, or when you go past the honeymoon

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period, as they've termed it, if you
don't have the framework and tools to

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get you past that point and into a new
iteration of your relationship or sacred

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union, then that puppy dog, puppy eyes,
or whatever you would call it, that is

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definitely gonna have a sell by date.

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We've found that the reason, one of the
reasons why we can term it 1 percent

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love is because Even though we still
go through the same issues that people

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go through we've been able to and
this is why we call ourselves intimacy

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alchemist We've been able to alchemize
or transmute or transform the experiences

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We have yeah And actually enable us
to get back into a real intimate space

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where there are times and seasons where
we do have that That real touchy feely

485
00:23:52,159 --> 00:23:54,620
thing doesn't happen every season Right?

486
00:23:54,620 --> 00:23:56,450
There are seasons where it
doesn't, doesn't happen.

487
00:23:56,820 --> 00:24:00,930
But, we're a lot more intentional about
what we're crafting and creating with

488
00:24:00,930 --> 00:24:02,400
each other now, as opposed to before.

489
00:24:02,620 --> 00:24:02,950
Yeah.

490
00:24:03,010 --> 00:24:04,449
And that's what 1 percent love really is.

491
00:24:04,510 --> 00:24:07,730
It's like, you know, when you have a
disagreement with someone, and then,

492
00:24:07,780 --> 00:24:10,520
I don't know how many people think
like this, but it's like, okay, if we

493
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:14,875
can get through and past this, with
understanding and listening of each other.

494
00:24:15,784 --> 00:24:19,245
We could be stronger, it's that, and
knowing actually that we have that.

495
00:24:19,705 --> 00:24:23,435
We actually are like, okay, we're gonna
have this bit, we recognize it as a

496
00:24:23,435 --> 00:24:26,724
speed bump, and on the other side of
it, there's growth, and it's like, we've

497
00:24:26,734 --> 00:24:28,534
got more armor now for the next one.

498
00:24:28,945 --> 00:24:31,234
That's what it is, it's choosing,
and that's where we choose

499
00:24:31,234 --> 00:24:32,544
each other over and over again.

500
00:24:33,500 --> 00:24:37,490
I like that terminology that we choose
each other daily and over and over again.

501
00:24:38,090 --> 00:24:41,960
And, and I feel, I feel like the,
you know, before I get bagged on

502
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,210
for being the, I hate love guy.

503
00:24:44,250 --> 00:24:44,659
Okay.

504
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:53,434
There's a fine line between
that obnoxious puppy dog love.

505
00:24:54,225 --> 00:24:56,695
Because I've been accused of
not being able to be around

506
00:24:56,695 --> 00:24:57,685
my wife without touching her.

507
00:25:00,354 --> 00:25:03,344
And to me, I was like, thank, thank you.

508
00:25:03,394 --> 00:25:08,705
I'm not really sure how to, that's
a negative, but right after 22 years

509
00:25:08,705 --> 00:25:11,844
of marriage, I still, if we're in
the same room, if we're anywhere

510
00:25:11,845 --> 00:25:15,639
close to each other, and it doesn't
have to be a Like sexual touch.

511
00:25:15,710 --> 00:25:19,250
It's a, I want to, I'll have my
hand on her hip or on her shoulder.

512
00:25:19,740 --> 00:25:21,030
Uh, touching her hand.

513
00:25:21,270 --> 00:25:24,580
Like I can't be around her
and not be touching her.

514
00:25:25,470 --> 00:25:26,940
And so let me be really clear.

515
00:25:26,940 --> 00:25:29,699
I'm talking about that smoochy smoochy.

516
00:25:29,719 --> 00:25:33,189
And I love, I love couples have been
together for years that still kiss

517
00:25:33,189 --> 00:25:34,810
in public and hold hands in public.

518
00:25:34,850 --> 00:25:37,699
And they, you can see they're together.

519
00:25:37,699 --> 00:25:38,940
They want to be together.

520
00:25:39,260 --> 00:25:40,410
I'm not talking about that guys.

521
00:25:40,410 --> 00:25:44,049
I'm talking about that
obnoxious teenage nonsense.

522
00:25:45,060 --> 00:25:50,330
Where you're just following each other
in public, there is a difference, right?

523
00:25:50,330 --> 00:25:53,460
There's some, uh, maturity, right?

524
00:25:53,710 --> 00:25:56,730
We start to learn at some
point that that's just not

525
00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,350
what you do in general public.

526
00:26:00,350 --> 00:26:02,600
Now, what you do behind
closed doors, right?

527
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,090
When you walk through your house, if you
can't help them all each other, great.

528
00:26:05,199 --> 00:26:08,270
I'm glad there's that much
intimacy and that much excitement

529
00:26:09,470 --> 00:26:11,110
wherever you are in your marriage.

530
00:26:12,310 --> 00:26:12,970
Right.

531
00:26:13,995 --> 00:26:16,940
You know, let me just let me clarify
that because I feel like I'm gonna get a

532
00:26:16,940 --> 00:26:19,785
lot of hate and like Oh, he hates love.

533
00:26:20,335 --> 00:26:27,234
No I I adore my wife and I can't help
but be want to be with her and touch

534
00:26:27,235 --> 00:26:33,684
her and be near her But I just I I walk
around right and you see and we all

535
00:26:33,685 --> 00:26:38,590
see it You go to the store and you're
like, there's that Those teenagers

536
00:26:38,590 --> 00:26:44,105
making out, like, over a cart as they're
walking through, uh, Walmart in London.

537
00:26:44,105 --> 00:26:45,789
Oh yeah.

538
00:26:46,270 --> 00:26:47,480
Did you say Walmart?

539
00:26:48,139 --> 00:26:48,479
Yeah.

540
00:26:48,639 --> 00:26:48,939
Yeah.

541
00:26:49,380 --> 00:26:50,710
No, we've got Asda here.

542
00:26:51,190 --> 00:26:51,600
Asda.

543
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,849
So Asda was, was owned by Walmart.

544
00:26:54,879 --> 00:26:56,710
I don't know if it still
is, but it was at one point.

545
00:26:56,900 --> 00:26:59,920
But I have seen that ad for
literally just last week, didn't I?

546
00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:00,719
Yeah.

547
00:27:01,190 --> 00:27:02,440
They were killing each other.

548
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:04,646
I was like, get a room!

549
00:27:04,646 --> 00:27:06,485
I was happy for them.

550
00:27:06,485 --> 00:27:08,324
I was happy for them.

551
00:27:08,324 --> 00:27:09,059
Yeah, yeah.

552
00:27:09,439 --> 00:27:12,080
That's why I didn't want
to come off too harsh.

553
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:18,400
It's like, no, I love couples that have
been together for 10, 15, 20, 30, 40

554
00:27:18,410 --> 00:27:25,090
years that just are still so passionately,
and they saw that physical, like, draw

555
00:27:25,140 --> 00:27:28,459
to each other where they want to be
touching and they want to be kissing.

556
00:27:28,459 --> 00:27:28,980
It's so cute.

557
00:27:29,199 --> 00:27:31,324
Like, you've seen all Old
couple kissing in public.

558
00:27:31,324 --> 00:27:33,345
I'm just like, Oh, That's so cute.

559
00:27:33,395 --> 00:27:33,814
Oh my gosh.

560
00:27:33,885 --> 00:27:34,584
My favorite.

561
00:27:34,675 --> 00:27:35,054
Yeah.

562
00:27:35,054 --> 00:27:35,284
Yeah.

563
00:27:35,284 --> 00:27:36,605
You've got an image of that.

564
00:27:36,635 --> 00:27:37,865
It's my favorite.

565
00:27:37,895 --> 00:27:38,064
Literally.

566
00:27:38,074 --> 00:27:41,625
I have, I have a picture of an old couple
on the planet for such a long time.

567
00:27:41,625 --> 00:27:46,095
They're both wearing yellow American
apparel and I'm just like, Oh, I'm,

568
00:27:46,405 --> 00:27:48,294
I'm always looking at couples though.

569
00:27:48,375 --> 00:27:48,695
Right.

570
00:27:48,695 --> 00:27:48,915
Yeah.

571
00:27:49,254 --> 00:27:50,655
I, I look at, I just laugh.

572
00:27:50,815 --> 00:27:52,355
Uh, it's, it makes me smile.

573
00:27:52,365 --> 00:27:57,814
I was like, I hope that I am still
that passionate in my marriage.

574
00:27:58,344 --> 00:27:58,644
Yeah.

575
00:27:58,675 --> 00:28:00,004
That many years down the road.

576
00:28:01,110 --> 00:28:03,780
I look at that as something like, that's,
that's, that's a goal right there.

577
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:09,490
Work towards, I want you to always look
at my spouse and be like, yeah, baby.

578
00:28:10,959 --> 00:28:11,889
I married her.

579
00:28:14,115 --> 00:28:14,575
I feel like I'm worse.

580
00:28:16,735 --> 00:28:17,625
Yeah, I get it.

581
00:28:17,985 --> 00:28:19,075
I totally get it.

582
00:28:19,925 --> 00:28:24,545
No, it's just You need to really
develop yourself consistently because

583
00:28:24,545 --> 00:28:27,845
I feel like when you're consistently
developing yourself, and we've heard

584
00:28:27,845 --> 00:28:32,014
you talk on your previous episodes
about the importance of, and I remember

585
00:28:32,015 --> 00:28:36,255
even you talking about that, it's
like, if you're improving yourself,

586
00:28:36,255 --> 00:28:38,484
developing yourself consistently Yeah.

587
00:28:38,635 --> 00:28:42,405
Then naturally that, that essence of
attraction is always going to be present

588
00:28:42,405 --> 00:28:44,865
where you're going to be looking at
each other and thinking, Oh my goodness,

589
00:28:44,865 --> 00:28:49,135
like, wow, I made it big because this
individual is committed to their self

590
00:28:49,135 --> 00:28:54,895
growth is committed to the expanding
and becoming more refined, if you will.

591
00:28:56,364 --> 00:28:56,624
Yeah.

592
00:28:56,804 --> 00:28:57,094
Yeah.

593
00:28:57,775 --> 00:29:01,191
It's, uh, it's crazy is right.

594
00:29:01,191 --> 00:29:04,142
People don't understand
relationships or work.

595
00:29:04,142 --> 00:29:09,865
It's a choosing every single
day to put in the effort.

596
00:29:10,429 --> 00:29:17,179
And the intention and the lapse, I, I, I'd
say, I, I'd say in the gym firm, right,

597
00:29:17,179 --> 00:29:18,580
it's, it's, it's putting in the reps.

598
00:29:19,129 --> 00:29:19,370
Yes.

599
00:29:19,820 --> 00:29:20,439
Every single day.

600
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:21,639
Yep.

601
00:29:21,649 --> 00:29:23,320
I get that reference.

602
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,850
Yeah, we, we always refer
to it as a practice.

603
00:29:25,889 --> 00:29:28,909
Our sacred union at 1
percent Love is a practice.

604
00:29:28,909 --> 00:29:29,359
Yeah.

605
00:29:29,419 --> 00:29:31,169
You're consistently practicing.

606
00:29:31,169 --> 00:29:33,229
You're never the finished
or definite article.

607
00:29:33,610 --> 00:29:37,029
Every new day or new week or new month
or new year brings a new challenge

608
00:29:37,029 --> 00:29:42,329
or a new mountain to, to ascend to
or mountain summit to ascend to.

609
00:29:42,330 --> 00:29:42,423
Yep.

610
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,200
And you're practicing that you're
improving your, your muscle

611
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,870
memory and all these other things.

612
00:29:47,940 --> 00:29:50,860
And it's, and that's, and that's
the space we talk about, especially

613
00:29:51,030 --> 00:29:53,350
with people that intimacy is built.

614
00:29:53,820 --> 00:29:57,860
So sometimes people think of intimacy
is like sexual, but the intimacy,

615
00:29:57,860 --> 00:30:02,639
there's safe, there's, um, the
intimacy of safety of saying or

616
00:30:02,749 --> 00:30:04,069
sharing something with your partner.

617
00:30:04,695 --> 00:30:09,075
with your lover, as we refer to everybody,
and having them actually hear you,

618
00:30:09,115 --> 00:30:13,605
actively listen to you, and then the
intimacy of being a good receiver,

619
00:30:13,635 --> 00:30:15,565
a good recipient of the information.

620
00:30:15,954 --> 00:30:19,614
Now, that's something we're still
practicing, but once it clicked, it's

621
00:30:19,614 --> 00:30:24,955
like, oh, if I can feel safe to share
in my sacred union, and if I can

622
00:30:24,955 --> 00:30:29,985
practice receiving what's been told to
me, then we win, then we, I feel safe.

623
00:30:30,025 --> 00:30:31,245
That's so intimate.

624
00:30:31,334 --> 00:30:34,855
It just, it raises the, the
vibration between the both of you.

625
00:30:35,545 --> 00:30:37,475
And there's just something
so beautiful about that.

626
00:30:37,475 --> 00:30:42,005
And of course it manifests itself in the
bedroom or wherever else, but intimacy,

627
00:30:42,005 --> 00:30:47,085
there are so many little areas in which
you build it up every single day, like not

628
00:30:47,085 --> 00:30:52,274
reacting, you know, badly when you hear
something that your partner shared that's

629
00:30:52,284 --> 00:30:56,334
hard for them to share that may have, you
know, in everyday societal circumstances

630
00:30:56,474 --> 00:30:58,224
may have been like really hard.

631
00:30:58,635 --> 00:31:02,545
And sitting and just, and listening
and be a, and a good steward and a

632
00:31:02,545 --> 00:31:04,145
good house for what's being shed.

633
00:31:04,905 --> 00:31:08,545
Once we got that, you know, whilst
we were cultivating what we have now,

634
00:31:08,904 --> 00:31:13,954
it was like, Oh, okay, I feel safer
now, so I want to give more of myself.

635
00:31:14,864 --> 00:31:17,645
So that's where the intimacy is
built in those little moments.

636
00:31:19,445 --> 00:31:21,975
Now you guys use the term sacred unions.

637
00:31:23,515 --> 00:31:27,815
Let's, uh, let's dig into what do
you mean when you say sacred unions?

638
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:35,020
In a nutshell, the reason why we
distinguish a sacred union of 1 percent

639
00:31:35,020 --> 00:31:40,230
love from standardized phrasing of
relationship or relationships is because

640
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:47,475
we've ascertained through our experience
that it is It takes something more than

641
00:31:47,475 --> 00:31:48,825
just saying you're in a relationship.

642
00:31:48,865 --> 00:31:50,285
It takes more than that.

643
00:31:50,315 --> 00:31:53,445
It takes having a vision for each other.

644
00:31:53,485 --> 00:31:56,234
It takes having a vision for your union.

645
00:31:56,235 --> 00:32:02,104
It takes you being able to identify what
you're both committed to and then choosing

646
00:32:02,365 --> 00:32:05,185
to ultimately aim to have it all together.

647
00:32:05,235 --> 00:32:07,985
That's all the intimacy, the
connection, the adventure, the fun.

648
00:32:08,335 --> 00:32:12,624
And consistently go, almost create
this framework where you're going

649
00:32:12,634 --> 00:32:16,720
around Seasonally in the cycle of
experimentation where you're seeing

650
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:21,270
what you want next in your sacred
union You're seeing what you want to

651
00:32:21,270 --> 00:32:24,650
experience You've created as Annabelle
said that vulnerable safe space where

652
00:32:24,650 --> 00:32:30,000
you can share your your most intimate
dreams and fantasies and stuff and the

653
00:32:30,039 --> 00:32:34,330
reason why we call it a sacred union of
1 percent love because That takes a level

654
00:32:34,470 --> 00:32:37,500
of intention that on a standard level.

655
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:42,460
We don't see generally in relationships
there's a lot of in a lot of cases

656
00:32:42,460 --> 00:32:48,280
a lot of nonchalance and negligence
that come from simply saying, right,

657
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:52,439
we're in a relationship, or I'm in a
relationship, but in distinguishing it

658
00:32:52,460 --> 00:32:56,720
as a sacred union of 1 percent love,
we almost have to rise to the occasion.

659
00:32:57,269 --> 00:32:59,329
We have to say, well, we said that.

660
00:32:59,725 --> 00:33:04,215
Sacred unions of 1 percent love
are defined by this, this, this.

661
00:33:04,815 --> 00:33:07,405
We, as a characteristic,
say we want to have it all.

662
00:33:07,435 --> 00:33:10,035
We say we can have it all,
and therefore, we've got to

663
00:33:10,045 --> 00:33:11,565
be something distinct as well.

664
00:33:11,585 --> 00:33:15,795
Yeah, and just even having the word
sacred in there, this is not regular.

665
00:33:15,795 --> 00:33:20,864
This is something has to be
protected from the outside.

666
00:33:20,864 --> 00:33:25,055
The world may be going on out there with
all its kind of, you know, lions and

667
00:33:25,065 --> 00:33:27,845
tigers and bears, but inside here is safe.

668
00:33:27,864 --> 00:33:30,095
Inside here is exactly as we build it.

669
00:33:30,575 --> 00:33:34,745
And we built it for our elevation,
for our safety, for our intimacy,

670
00:33:34,745 --> 00:33:36,535
and it is a sacred space.

671
00:33:36,615 --> 00:33:36,945
Yeah.

672
00:33:36,995 --> 00:33:40,825
There's never anything from the
outside in we'd allow to disrupt what

673
00:33:40,825 --> 00:33:44,505
we've built inside the sacredness
of the, of the relationship.

674
00:33:44,515 --> 00:33:46,445
So that's why we refer
to it as a sacred union.

675
00:33:46,594 --> 00:33:50,795
And also, I'm really passionate
about and, uh, a fan of etymology.

676
00:33:50,915 --> 00:33:53,335
And looking at the root, and
etymology is the study of the

677
00:33:53,335 --> 00:33:54,535
history and origin of words.

678
00:33:54,535 --> 00:33:58,670
And looking at The word sacred,
it has the same root as sacrifice.

679
00:33:58,990 --> 00:34:04,120
And there's a level of sacrifice, and
it's not, uh, an undesirable sacrifice.

680
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,049
It's actually a joyous
sacrifice that we're making.

681
00:34:07,060 --> 00:34:11,139
We're making this sacrifice to, as you
put it in one of your previous episodes,

682
00:34:11,290 --> 00:34:15,960
humbling ourselves, being humble
enough to say, I don't know it all.

683
00:34:16,450 --> 00:34:20,140
I can learn something from my lover.

684
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:25,580
In fact, my lover, in fact, I've said
this many times, this Union is the

685
00:34:25,580 --> 00:34:31,590
greatest self developmental project
that we can work on because it, I've

686
00:34:31,590 --> 00:34:36,010
got eyes and ears from someone who loves
me in the same way that I love myself.

687
00:34:36,029 --> 00:34:40,270
I've got eyes and ears on me that enable
me to keep on expanding as a being.

688
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:44,140
So there's a sacrifice that comes
with the sacredness as well.

689
00:34:47,270 --> 00:34:50,090
Are all of you listening sold
that these two like each other?

690
00:34:55,020 --> 00:34:55,910
Have we made the point?

691
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:56,800
Have you gotten it?

692
00:34:57,495 --> 00:35:03,015
Uh, I, I laughed so hard when I was
doing the research and the prep for the

693
00:35:03,015 --> 00:35:08,115
show after we started emailing back and
forth and I was looking at your website

694
00:35:08,115 --> 00:35:12,415
and uh, enjoying what you had there
and looking at the way you guys define

695
00:35:12,434 --> 00:35:17,034
things and the way you talked about that
1 percent love where it's just like, you

696
00:35:17,034 --> 00:35:21,045
know, so obvious you look at the couple
and you're just like, wow, whatever

697
00:35:21,045 --> 00:35:22,925
they've, they've figured something out.

698
00:35:23,025 --> 00:35:23,285
Right.

699
00:35:23,285 --> 00:35:27,360
They, they just, They, they, I
don't know what it is, but they

700
00:35:27,500 --> 00:35:29,360
figured something out and I love it.

701
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:29,670
Right.

702
00:35:29,700 --> 00:35:31,590
I want that in my relationship.

703
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:34,680
And I was, I was reading through all that.

704
00:35:34,690 --> 00:35:40,730
I was like, okay, that sounds good
on the website, blah, blah, blah.

705
00:35:42,700 --> 00:35:44,999
But now just talking to you
guys for the last little while.

706
00:35:45,010 --> 00:35:46,680
I was like, okay, I get it now.

707
00:35:49,460 --> 00:35:54,220
They, they really are like, they're
together on this in so many ways.

708
00:35:55,260 --> 00:35:59,500
And that that intimacy of y'all's
relationship comes through when you are

709
00:35:59,620 --> 00:36:05,590
like talking together on the show and
relating the way you are in tune with

710
00:36:05,590 --> 00:36:07,100
each other and sync with each other.

711
00:36:07,549 --> 00:36:10,499
It really shows through now.

712
00:36:11,769 --> 00:36:12,890
Here's some of the guys listening.

713
00:36:12,890 --> 00:36:13,469
They may be like.

714
00:36:14,670 --> 00:36:15,050
Right?

715
00:36:15,050 --> 00:36:15,290
Yeah.

716
00:36:15,290 --> 00:36:15,580
This is

717
00:36:22,980 --> 00:36:24,180
and that's the truth of it.

718
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:25,299
That's the truth of it.

719
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:26,870
I love you guys are talking about that.

720
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:32,989
The choosing intimacy, the little, the
little choices that you choose, right?

721
00:36:32,999 --> 00:36:37,820
The, the secrets, the conversations, the,
the holding space for each other to be

722
00:36:37,820 --> 00:36:42,150
able to say something and not react badly.

723
00:36:42,150 --> 00:36:42,320
Right?

724
00:36:42,635 --> 00:36:46,405
There are so many little pieces
that are so critical to a

725
00:36:46,405 --> 00:36:48,215
really healthy relationship.

726
00:36:48,585 --> 00:36:51,965
And I love listening to you guys
talking about it because you're you're

727
00:36:52,015 --> 00:36:57,285
hitting all those marks going yes yet
and it's like we don't we don't sell

728
00:36:57,285 --> 00:37:01,444
that right you that doesn't sell in
Hollywood that doesn't sell on shows

729
00:37:01,444 --> 00:37:06,195
right I I have two daughters so I watch
a lot of Disney movies I'm watching

730
00:37:06,195 --> 00:37:11,430
less these days because Disney is doing
some weird crap but Yes, it is indeed.

731
00:37:11,940 --> 00:37:16,200
Uh, but one of the things, Frozen
cracked me up, like, Frozen made

732
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:17,750
me laugh out loud, actually.

733
00:37:17,830 --> 00:37:19,179
Mm hmm.

734
00:37:19,179 --> 00:37:23,240
Because Elsa comes to Anna and
is like, We're getting married!

735
00:37:23,240 --> 00:37:25,210
She's like, You just met him!

736
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:26,350
I love that!

737
00:37:26,350 --> 00:37:28,749
I love that narrative in there.

738
00:37:29,690 --> 00:37:34,180
I, I actually, like, literally
laughed out loud, because Disney

739
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,280
finally said the quiet part that
every adult has been saying for years.

740
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:42,545
It's like, You've known each
other for like two minutes.

741
00:37:43,195 --> 00:37:43,575
Literally.

742
00:37:43,745 --> 00:37:44,815
Y'all never had any conversation.

743
00:37:45,245 --> 00:37:47,725
Uh, well, Prince Charming and Snow White.

744
00:37:49,535 --> 00:37:53,607
He kisses a dead chick in a coffin and
they go off and live happily ever after.

745
00:37:53,607 --> 00:37:55,682
It's like, this is what's happening.

746
00:37:55,682 --> 00:37:57,410
But you know what, Brent?

747
00:37:57,410 --> 00:37:58,447
You've hit something.

748
00:37:58,447 --> 00:38:04,055
You've hit, you've hit on something
really important that this is the

749
00:38:04,055 --> 00:38:07,695
reason why, or at least partially
the reason, programming wise.

750
00:38:08,275 --> 00:38:11,105
It's part, it's partially the
reason why so many relationships

751
00:38:11,105 --> 00:38:12,175
break up prematurely.

752
00:38:12,915 --> 00:38:17,545
Now this is not saying that every
single partnership that, that is

753
00:38:17,545 --> 00:38:19,755
established is meant to last forever.

754
00:38:20,265 --> 00:38:23,934
But most folks are jumping off the
wagon way too early because they

755
00:38:23,935 --> 00:38:26,014
think, Oh, it didn't, it didn't happen.

756
00:38:26,074 --> 00:38:28,044
The happily ever after
thing didn't happen.

757
00:38:28,055 --> 00:38:29,854
Why is it that we've fallen out of love?

758
00:38:30,295 --> 00:38:31,325
It's because it's work.

759
00:38:32,065 --> 00:38:34,164
And it's self work.

760
00:38:34,165 --> 00:38:35,415
Self work indeed.

761
00:38:35,475 --> 00:38:39,454
What we always say is that we are
also the love of our own lives.

762
00:38:39,835 --> 00:38:43,555
Like, there are, and especially
to anyone who's listening who's

763
00:38:43,575 --> 00:38:45,744
single, it's like would you date you?

764
00:38:45,754 --> 00:38:47,314
Would you want to go
the distance with you?

765
00:38:47,314 --> 00:38:51,275
Do you know that you're, you know,
there's so much that's untapped in you.

766
00:38:51,745 --> 00:38:56,145
That relationship with you have with
yourself is the same self you're

767
00:38:56,145 --> 00:38:59,795
going to give to your friends, your
family, your co workers, your children.

768
00:39:00,365 --> 00:39:03,995
It's the same, so you have to keep pouring
into yourself so you're able to give.

769
00:39:04,015 --> 00:39:05,865
You can't give away what you don't have.

770
00:39:06,605 --> 00:39:10,725
So that whole thing of like, I don't,
we don't really subscribe to looking

771
00:39:10,725 --> 00:39:12,465
for the other half and now I'm complete.

772
00:39:12,475 --> 00:39:16,425
It's like, You're taking your both your
separate worlds and you're choosing

773
00:39:16,425 --> 00:39:21,505
to have them alongside each other and
that sometimes doesn't look pretty Like

774
00:39:21,545 --> 00:39:26,835
in year 10 we went through it We were
passing ships in the night in the same

775
00:39:26,855 --> 00:39:32,746
house and that thing of being able to
blame the other over and over again

776
00:39:32,746 --> 00:39:37,935
without first looking inside and saying
Where am I actually contributing to this?

777
00:39:37,975 --> 00:39:40,955
Have I got any limited beliefs
that I keep subconsciously bringing

778
00:39:41,395 --> 00:39:45,205
into my union that's actually
like tripping both of us up?

779
00:39:45,875 --> 00:39:47,625
It's such, that's the work.

780
00:39:48,215 --> 00:39:50,865
So, and you know, we can laugh
and joke now but you know,

781
00:39:50,865 --> 00:39:52,405
year 10 was rough for us.

782
00:39:52,465 --> 00:39:54,445
We literally almost called it a day.

783
00:39:54,864 --> 00:39:57,234
But when we realised that we loved each
other and that we were going to have

784
00:39:57,235 --> 00:40:01,705
to do work we had to figure anything
we'd ever heard or we'd ever seen.

785
00:40:02,085 --> 00:40:05,705
And also I mean, I can speak for
myself and I think I can speak for

786
00:40:05,705 --> 00:40:09,515
you when I say this maybe that we also
had to see each other with new eyes.

787
00:40:09,835 --> 00:40:15,475
We had to see that we are not the 18,
19 year olds that we got together as.

788
00:40:15,974 --> 00:40:16,725
This is a woman.

789
00:40:16,755 --> 00:40:18,565
The woman that I'm looking at is a woman.

790
00:40:18,565 --> 00:40:20,165
She's a mother of two.

791
00:40:20,195 --> 00:40:22,005
She has big dreams.

792
00:40:22,014 --> 00:40:22,924
She's creative.

793
00:40:22,924 --> 00:40:23,694
She's intelligent.

794
00:40:23,904 --> 00:40:24,874
She's intuitive.

795
00:40:25,485 --> 00:40:29,215
I need to start looking at her from
the perspective of this womanhood

796
00:40:29,255 --> 00:40:34,685
now and yeah, and that really helped
me to see her in, in a light where

797
00:40:34,725 --> 00:40:37,415
I wanted to be the best man for her.

798
00:40:37,794 --> 00:40:39,804
I didn't want to coast in
any way, shape or form.

799
00:40:39,825 --> 00:40:43,764
And obviously going back to what you
were saying, maybe about being the best.

800
00:40:44,055 --> 00:40:44,625
for yourself.

801
00:40:44,625 --> 00:40:47,425
And I think I've heard you say this
as well, Brett, in previous episodes.

802
00:40:47,425 --> 00:40:50,805
It's about being the very best
version of yourself for yourself,

803
00:40:51,005 --> 00:40:52,875
because you love yourself that much.

804
00:40:53,274 --> 00:40:55,614
And that will certainly spill
out into your sacred duty.

805
00:40:57,755 --> 00:40:58,104
I love it.

806
00:40:58,545 --> 00:41:00,135
Guys, we've been
discussing 1 percent love.

807
00:41:00,145 --> 00:41:00,744
What is it?

808
00:41:00,775 --> 00:41:03,025
What does a successful
relationship look like?

809
00:41:03,334 --> 00:41:06,305
You know what we even delved into
some extra here and just had some

810
00:41:06,305 --> 00:41:07,615
really kind of conversation about.

811
00:41:08,175 --> 00:41:11,795
There's a lot of work in
a successful relationship.

812
00:41:11,815 --> 00:41:13,215
That's what it looks like.

813
00:41:14,185 --> 00:41:16,365
Uh, and I love the vulnerability of that.

814
00:41:16,435 --> 00:41:18,185
You know, in year 10, it was struggles.

815
00:41:18,875 --> 00:41:23,084
Every couple I know who's made any
distance in their marriage will say

816
00:41:23,085 --> 00:41:29,084
there's a, there's a season or multiple
seasons where it's like, wow, I don't

817
00:41:29,084 --> 00:41:30,995
know if we're gonna make this, right?

818
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:35,370
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819
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intimate relationships with your partner.

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839
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All right, guys, welcome back.

840
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,550
In the last part of the show, we
were discussing 1 percent love.

841
00:42:27,550 --> 00:42:28,000
What is it?

842
00:42:28,010 --> 00:42:30,040
What is a successful, successful?

843
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:31,310
I just can't say that word today.

844
00:42:31,610 --> 00:42:34,700
Relationship actually really
look like, what does it entail?

845
00:42:34,710 --> 00:42:37,109
How does it work in this part of the show?

846
00:42:37,109 --> 00:42:40,650
We're going to dive into how you can
build a more intimate relationship

847
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:43,424
with your partner, your spouse,
whatever term you want to use.

848
00:42:44,395 --> 00:42:50,065
How can you build that real intimacy that
helps your love stay in the test of time?

849
00:42:50,985 --> 00:42:53,765
And we, we touched on
this a little bit, right?

850
00:42:53,765 --> 00:42:57,915
We've been talking about the realistic
way that relationships work, but

851
00:42:57,915 --> 00:42:59,465
we have men listening right now.

852
00:43:00,245 --> 00:43:02,724
And some women, I do have
some women listeners.

853
00:43:03,064 --> 00:43:03,924
Uh, thanks ladies.

854
00:43:03,925 --> 00:43:04,684
I appreciate that.

855
00:43:05,444 --> 00:43:08,495
I like to look at my demographics
and go, Hey, look, a couple of

856
00:43:08,505 --> 00:43:09,815
women actually do listen to me.

857
00:43:11,930 --> 00:43:16,550
But we have people listening right
now and they're looking at their own

858
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:22,270
relationships going I'm in a good
spot, but I want to be in a better

859
00:43:22,270 --> 00:43:28,570
spot because my relationship matters
or my relationship is Struggling right?

860
00:43:28,570 --> 00:43:30,199
We're going through that difficult season.

861
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:37,490
And so I really want to dig into You
guys suggestions on building that

862
00:43:37,500 --> 00:43:42,210
intimacy and you, you talked about, uh,
Annabelle, multiple levels of intimacy.

863
00:43:43,100 --> 00:43:45,030
And I think a lot of times we get lost.

864
00:43:45,030 --> 00:43:46,490
We hear that term intimacy.

865
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:48,550
And the first thing that
comes to mind is sex.

866
00:43:49,500 --> 00:43:54,209
And honestly, sex is one form of intimacy,
but there are so many forms of intimacy.

867
00:43:54,210 --> 00:43:55,350
So I'm glad you said that.

868
00:43:56,425 --> 00:44:00,455
That contribute to that part
of the relationship as well.

869
00:44:00,865 --> 00:44:05,135
How do we build that intimacy that
really connects us with our partner?

870
00:44:06,595 --> 00:44:09,875
Well, and that's such a, I'm
so excited by this question.

871
00:44:10,275 --> 00:44:11,135
So if I can cost.

872
00:44:11,790 --> 00:44:14,440
yourself, the listeners,
back to year 10 for us.

873
00:44:15,140 --> 00:44:19,070
What we had to do after we realized
that we were in a really rubbish,

874
00:44:19,110 --> 00:44:23,930
and we're gonna use clean English,
rubbish space, was then look at,

875
00:44:23,930 --> 00:44:27,710
okay, what does our rela What do we
want our relationship to look like?

876
00:44:28,339 --> 00:44:32,410
So, previously, our relationship
had consisted of the expectations of

877
00:44:32,430 --> 00:44:36,720
society, the expectations of family, what
we'd seen in the films, as we'd said.

878
00:44:37,550 --> 00:44:41,860
And we had one of the most freeing
conversations we'd ever had.

879
00:44:42,515 --> 00:44:47,495
and I sat and I listened to this man
share what he thought the relationship

880
00:44:47,905 --> 00:44:51,444
would look like for him to enjoy it,
for him to feel like it was grubbing,

881
00:44:51,735 --> 00:44:53,424
and I was given the room to do the same.

882
00:44:53,955 --> 00:44:56,735
And then we literally began
painting by numbers in various

883
00:44:56,775 --> 00:45:02,615
areas, career wise, personally,
as parents, as, you know, spouses.

884
00:45:03,235 --> 00:45:04,995
We broke everything down.

885
00:45:05,435 --> 00:45:09,224
Because what happens is, when a
relationship's broken down, those little

886
00:45:10,015 --> 00:45:15,075
Those little spaces that we spoke about as
the intimacy of, you know, communication,

887
00:45:15,105 --> 00:45:20,444
of sex, of, you know, wellness, all
of those places had been neglected.

888
00:45:20,695 --> 00:45:22,495
So what happens if you neglect something?

889
00:45:22,765 --> 00:45:27,565
Garden, gym, workout, everything starts
to soften and just slowly break down.

890
00:45:28,345 --> 00:45:31,975
So we had a conversation about what
our relationship would look like at

891
00:45:31,985 --> 00:45:33,975
its best, at its most functional.

892
00:45:34,415 --> 00:45:36,564
What places in the world
do we want to go and visit?

893
00:45:37,035 --> 00:45:38,855
You know, what foods did we want to try?

894
00:45:39,115 --> 00:45:40,755
How did we want to be spoken to?

895
00:45:40,755 --> 00:45:41,825
How did we want to dress?

896
00:45:41,875 --> 00:45:45,555
We broke everything down,
because everything was a mess.

897
00:45:46,375 --> 00:45:50,634
And from there, it became
work, and then it became fun.

898
00:45:51,415 --> 00:45:55,865
And we practiced, again, that practice
of like, okay, well, I want to try this.

899
00:45:56,385 --> 00:46:00,615
And it was listening and watching
my lover fill up and light

900
00:46:00,745 --> 00:46:02,345
up at what he wanted to do.

901
00:46:03,075 --> 00:46:06,785
And that, that's literally carrying us
through, it's carried us through beyond,

902
00:46:06,855 --> 00:46:10,915
you know, this extra 10 years we've
had, which has taken us up to 20 years.

903
00:46:11,465 --> 00:46:18,014
And the intimacy from that, that
vulnerable space that we had, I mean, I

904
00:46:18,014 --> 00:46:21,724
always say, we got here through blood,
sweat, and tears, quite literally.

905
00:46:21,725 --> 00:46:27,685
Um, and it was having that, and it's, and,
you know, every season, one thing we say

906
00:46:27,685 --> 00:46:32,064
in 1 percent Love is with every season
of yourself, take your love with you.

907
00:46:32,970 --> 00:46:37,440
And what that means is, in this season,
things might be really hard financially.

908
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:41,220
In this season, things might
be really hard mentally.

909
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:45,719
And what happens is our lover
ends up loving the last version

910
00:46:45,730 --> 00:46:46,989
of ourselves, the last iOS.

911
00:46:47,900 --> 00:46:51,920
And then they say things like, Oh,
you're not the person I used to know.

912
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:56,310
You know, I don't love you anymore
because you're not this person.

913
00:46:56,510 --> 00:46:59,410
And it's sometimes going,
well, who is in front of me?

914
00:46:59,470 --> 00:47:01,120
And how did this person get here?

915
00:47:01,855 --> 00:47:04,445
And it's consolidating
who you are and why.

916
00:47:04,805 --> 00:47:05,815
And they're going, okay, cool.

917
00:47:05,925 --> 00:47:08,235
Now I know who you are, let's
go into this next season.

918
00:47:08,995 --> 00:47:13,355
Rather than dragging this person that
they're not anymore through the marriage,

919
00:47:13,375 --> 00:47:17,545
calling it a marriage because you live
together or you share a friendship circle.

920
00:47:17,595 --> 00:47:18,595
No, that's not it.

921
00:47:19,234 --> 00:47:21,335
You've got to consolidate who they are.

922
00:47:21,625 --> 00:47:25,385
There may have been things that each of
you have experienced which have hardened

923
00:47:25,385 --> 00:47:26,655
your heart or softened your heart.

924
00:47:27,235 --> 00:47:31,565
And you need to be able to One, feel
safe enough to share that, and two, be

925
00:47:31,565 --> 00:47:36,105
brave enough to walk through the next
season now knowing who this person is.

926
00:47:37,275 --> 00:47:43,875
So that's another thing that's
really pivotal in having a sacred

927
00:47:43,875 --> 00:47:48,734
union that is strong and built, and
it's a practice of those things.

928
00:47:48,745 --> 00:47:49,494
It's like a thing.

929
00:47:49,925 --> 00:47:51,395
I'm not this person anymore.

930
00:47:51,485 --> 00:47:52,970
My lover is not this person anymore.

931
00:47:52,970 --> 00:47:53,915
They're this person.

932
00:47:54,515 --> 00:47:55,365
And adding to that.

933
00:47:56,095 --> 00:47:59,295
And I would say, Brent, just to add
on to what Annabelle said, and you

934
00:47:59,295 --> 00:48:04,595
said that beautifully, baby, it was so
expansive, is this, that the, there's

935
00:48:04,595 --> 00:48:08,295
a real important emphasis on self work.

936
00:48:09,195 --> 00:48:10,605
We can't stress that enough.

937
00:48:11,435 --> 00:48:15,645
If one of you, and we talk in our
Sacred Union Secrets, the first

938
00:48:15,645 --> 00:48:17,735
Sacred Union Secret is foundation.

939
00:48:18,085 --> 00:48:22,545
It's about building or rebuilding
a blueprint, building or rebuilding

940
00:48:22,545 --> 00:48:24,265
a foundation in your relationship.

941
00:48:24,644 --> 00:48:27,315
So that goes back, you're going
back to the drawing board and

942
00:48:27,315 --> 00:48:29,485
you're identifying your values.

943
00:48:29,875 --> 00:48:32,784
You're identifying your needs and your
desires and you're being clear on what

944
00:48:32,804 --> 00:48:38,095
you're committed to based on those,
those, the conclusions you've come to.

945
00:48:38,715 --> 00:48:44,620
But the emphasis on self work can never
be over emphasized because if one of you,

946
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:49,730
particularly as a core value base, is
committed to growing, is committed to,

947
00:48:49,820 --> 00:48:54,839
has a growth mindset, and is consistently
looking at the next way they can improve

948
00:48:54,839 --> 00:48:58,629
themselves, but the other one has
more of a fixed mindset and feels like

949
00:48:58,839 --> 00:49:02,910
they've learned everything they need to
know, they are the way they are, they

950
00:49:03,180 --> 00:49:08,680
are, their, their mental or emotional
constitution is the way it is, they can't.

951
00:49:09,285 --> 00:49:11,625
affect it, can't transform it in any way.

952
00:49:12,205 --> 00:49:16,805
You're fighting a losing battle, so
I would say as a starting point, you

953
00:49:16,815 --> 00:49:20,225
have to both be committed to self work.

954
00:49:20,255 --> 00:49:25,034
If you're to get the type of love we're
talking about, if you just want the run

955
00:49:25,035 --> 00:49:30,524
of the mill relationship that, you know,
is kind, it's all right, it's decent,

956
00:49:31,354 --> 00:49:32,544
that's not what we're talking about.

957
00:49:32,544 --> 00:49:36,235
What we're talking about is at
every point, you're able to reinvent

958
00:49:36,235 --> 00:49:41,420
yourself and your sacred union so
that You have levels of intimacy

959
00:49:41,420 --> 00:49:44,410
that you didn't have in the season
before or the season before that.

960
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:48,529
You're able to face every breaking
point and every breakdown and

961
00:49:48,530 --> 00:49:49,610
say there's something in this.

962
00:49:49,610 --> 00:49:54,739
There's a breakthrough on the other
side of this and there could only

963
00:49:54,739 --> 00:49:58,339
actually be a breakthrough with
this breakdown and breaking point.

964
00:49:58,599 --> 00:50:03,640
So let's work together on the same team
in order to get to the breakthrough.

965
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:07,410
And in fact, that's one of our mantras,
our mantra, which has served us so well

966
00:50:07,420 --> 00:50:09,180
over the last 12 years of being married.

967
00:50:09,705 --> 00:50:12,845
Is I love you and we're on the same team.

968
00:50:12,855 --> 00:50:14,145
We say that regularly.

969
00:50:14,145 --> 00:50:17,185
We have said that regularly over
the years and we've actually

970
00:50:17,185 --> 00:50:19,105
created a formula out of that.

971
00:50:19,795 --> 00:50:23,375
So yeah, but a formula
beyond that, which is.

972
00:50:24,050 --> 00:50:27,090
Yeah, just something that we
go deeper with on that point.

973
00:50:27,150 --> 00:50:29,890
But I love you, and
we're on the same team.

974
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:32,970
We're, look, we're, we've
got the same vision.

975
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:35,190
We are in this together.

976
00:50:35,769 --> 00:50:38,540
In spite of the way it feels right
now, let's say, hypothetically,

977
00:50:38,540 --> 00:50:39,669
you're having a breakdown.

978
00:50:40,439 --> 00:50:41,689
You are at breaking point.

979
00:50:42,020 --> 00:50:44,409
All right, this feels
terrible at the moment.

980
00:50:44,639 --> 00:50:45,739
It feels horrible.

981
00:50:45,949 --> 00:50:47,489
I hate what I'm feeling right now.

982
00:50:47,490 --> 00:50:54,309
I know that there's a mutual commitment to
seeing what's on the other side of this.

983
00:50:54,665 --> 00:50:58,345
That can only really come from
a self work centered place when

984
00:50:58,345 --> 00:51:00,085
you're both about this self work.

985
00:51:00,085 --> 00:51:02,645
So, I would say that in addition
to what Annabelle said as well.

986
00:51:04,594 --> 00:51:10,424
What do you guys tell your
clients to avoid, right?

987
00:51:10,424 --> 00:51:14,215
As much as we have the
list of do's, right?

988
00:51:14,235 --> 00:51:16,835
Things that are essential to
building that relationship.

989
00:51:18,244 --> 00:51:19,605
You guys work with couples.

990
00:51:20,685 --> 00:51:25,695
What are the essential don'ts that you see
that are just dragging relationships down?

991
00:51:27,175 --> 00:51:31,530
That's such an interesting one
because The couples we tend to work

992
00:51:31,530 --> 00:51:32,850
with are ones that are willing.

993
00:51:33,220 --> 00:51:36,930
They, they tend to be couples that,
they know that everything's a mess,

994
00:51:37,670 --> 00:51:42,150
but they're willing to do something
that they, that is not obvious to them.

995
00:51:43,269 --> 00:51:47,820
So what we try to do is
avoid blaming each other.

996
00:51:48,730 --> 00:51:53,790
We emphasize a lot on looking at
what the problem is and how both

997
00:51:53,790 --> 00:51:55,470
parties are contributing to that.

998
00:51:56,110 --> 00:52:00,470
Even if it's a 70 30 thing, because we
have to deal with what's in front of us.

999
00:52:02,310 --> 00:52:05,920
So there, I guess in that way,
there are more leaning towards

1000
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:06,970
the do's than the don'ts.

1001
00:52:07,610 --> 00:52:13,910
But equally, you touched on a great point
there, baby, that don't look at them as

1002
00:52:13,910 --> 00:52:16,330
if they're the contri contributing party.

1003
00:52:17,050 --> 00:52:19,349
Obviously there are
exceptions to the rule.

1004
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:23,510
where you do have some real imbalances
in relationships, where there are

1005
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,140
abusive relationships and stuff.

1006
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,350
We're not talking about that.

1007
00:52:26,590 --> 00:52:32,520
As a gen on a general base of scale,
most folks on most relationships

1008
00:52:32,609 --> 00:52:34,559
have two contributing parties.

1009
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:38,690
Which are affecting the way the
relationship's going so the first

1010
00:52:38,690 --> 00:52:43,080
thing that we would say don't do is
don't point the finger at them As if

1011
00:52:43,090 --> 00:52:47,110
you haven't contributed to this you've
contributed just as much if not more

1012
00:52:47,119 --> 00:52:52,709
In fact, I like to say this and that
we live in a realm in our universe

1013
00:52:52,709 --> 00:52:54,410
of paradox and polarity, right?

1014
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:58,600
So this isn't an absolute statement, but
statement, but I like to say this I've

1015
00:52:58,910 --> 00:53:03,440
I'm the reason why my relationships like
this Good or bad, I am the reason why.

1016
00:53:03,940 --> 00:53:08,410
And I like taking that stance
because it, it, it keeps me powerful.

1017
00:53:09,070 --> 00:53:17,229
If I keep on shifting the blame, and
my way of being is intimating that I'm

1018
00:53:17,240 --> 00:53:22,150
not, uh, I'm not the reason why things
are the way they are, then naturally

1019
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:23,680
I'm actually in a powerless position.

1020
00:53:24,510 --> 00:53:27,430
So don't be powerless by
sh by pointing fingers.

1021
00:53:27,810 --> 00:53:30,630
Look at yourself, look at how
you're contributing an impact in the

1022
00:53:30,630 --> 00:53:33,640
relationship, because that is the
only way that you're gonna actually

1023
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:34,919
be able to make a difference.

1024
00:53:35,710 --> 00:53:40,570
And that is, we never ever
paint that as an easy thing.

1025
00:53:40,700 --> 00:53:45,070
It feels uncomfortable and we're
always, always Very, very big on

1026
00:53:45,070 --> 00:53:48,370
saying, look, it feels uncomfortable,
but that's just what it is.

1027
00:53:48,370 --> 00:53:49,480
That is what it is.

1028
00:53:49,690 --> 00:53:51,520
Sorry, I'm just getting the charger on.

1029
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:53,970
Um, that's what it is.

1030
00:53:54,090 --> 00:53:59,829
So we, and that's where we'd encourage
the couples we work with to practice

1031
00:54:00,569 --> 00:54:07,820
that, that looking at themselves,
that uncomfortability going, oh,

1032
00:54:07,820 --> 00:54:12,840
I can see where I've actually, in
my silence, or even in where I've

1033
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:14,500
been vocal, where I've contributed.

1034
00:54:17,900 --> 00:54:21,100
Now guys, if this is resonating with you,
if you're really getting something out

1035
00:54:21,100 --> 00:54:26,095
of this, Be sure it helps out, leave us
a review, tell us that you enjoyed this

1036
00:54:26,095 --> 00:54:29,555
episode, that it's helping you, that
you're taking something away from it, uh,

1037
00:54:29,555 --> 00:54:32,105
leave us a comment on whatever platform
you are, click that like button, if you

1038
00:54:32,134 --> 00:54:35,674
happen to be on YouTube, all that good
social media nonsense, I'd love to hear

1039
00:54:35,674 --> 00:54:40,234
what you have to say about this show, you
guys know I hate that part of this, uh,

1040
00:54:40,475 --> 00:54:44,609
it's, it's like the pain in my existence,
putting this social media nonsense

1041
00:54:44,609 --> 00:54:47,979
out there, um, what are three steps?

1042
00:54:50,150 --> 00:54:55,260
That our listeners can take away from
this conversation to start implementing

1043
00:54:55,330 --> 00:54:59,130
building a more intimate and connected
relationship with their partner.

1044
00:54:59,930 --> 00:55:04,630
The first thing is always either start
from the drawing board, if you're

1045
00:55:04,769 --> 00:55:09,039
starting your relationship or in the
early stages, or if you've been in your

1046
00:55:09,039 --> 00:55:11,949
relationship for a considerable amount
of time, go back to the drawing board.

1047
00:55:13,495 --> 00:55:13,945
Simple.

1048
00:55:14,255 --> 00:55:15,505
Identify your values.

1049
00:55:15,505 --> 00:55:16,825
What do we mean by values?

1050
00:55:17,355 --> 00:55:21,775
That which inherently is important
to you, not the type of stuff where

1051
00:55:21,795 --> 00:55:23,095
it's like, Oh, that's important to me.

1052
00:55:23,135 --> 00:55:24,114
Oh, that's important to me.

1053
00:55:24,115 --> 00:55:26,345
No, actually, what is
it that makes you tick?

1054
00:55:26,864 --> 00:55:29,884
And this comes with some self
analysis and contemplation, right?

1055
00:55:29,885 --> 00:55:33,174
Which is why we're so big on the software,
because if you don't know yourself,

1056
00:55:33,174 --> 00:55:36,395
you're not actually going to be able
to be able to identify those things.

1057
00:55:36,395 --> 00:55:39,865
So it takes some experimentation, but
it means you both coming to the drawing

1058
00:55:39,865 --> 00:55:46,110
board and identifying and sharing
This is actually what makes me tick.

1059
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:49,010
This is really important
to me at a core level.

1060
00:55:49,530 --> 00:55:54,940
Like if this isn't on it, if this
core important aspect of myself

1061
00:55:54,980 --> 00:55:59,059
isn't on it, I don't know if we
can survive this and vice versa.

1062
00:55:59,299 --> 00:56:02,119
And that honesty is very important
because it puts you in a very

1063
00:56:02,410 --> 00:56:03,739
strong starting position.

1064
00:56:03,740 --> 00:56:05,570
So there's that as a first thing.

1065
00:56:06,365 --> 00:56:07,425
Do you want to add a second?

1066
00:56:07,595 --> 00:56:09,505
I was going to talk
about the disagreement.

1067
00:56:09,545 --> 00:56:12,855
So we reframe disagreements
as opportunements.

1068
00:56:13,625 --> 00:56:17,614
So they're an opportunity in
the moment to look at what keeps

1069
00:56:17,615 --> 00:56:21,754
coming up as a disagreement and how
you're disagreeing about the thing.

1070
00:56:22,315 --> 00:56:25,425
So if there's something that keeps
reoccurring and you keep disagreeing

1071
00:56:25,425 --> 00:56:28,235
about this thing, that's a topic
of discussion that you need to make

1072
00:56:28,235 --> 00:56:30,595
time to discuss in your sacred union.

1073
00:56:31,185 --> 00:56:33,900
The second is Your lens.

1074
00:56:33,910 --> 00:56:38,180
So my lens of Meshack is that he's
capable, that he loves me, that he's

1075
00:56:38,180 --> 00:56:39,870
on my team, that he's understanding.

1076
00:56:40,370 --> 00:56:44,980
If my lens or my view of him is that
he's committed to misunderstanding me,

1077
00:56:45,220 --> 00:56:50,110
he ain't put a dirt on the back of my
shoe, you know, how I talk to him, that,

1078
00:56:50,110 --> 00:56:51,290
that energy is going to be in there.

1079
00:56:52,050 --> 00:56:55,920
So I have to look at, you know, if
this disagreement keeps coming up,

1080
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:59,150
how is that I actually view the
person that I say I love every day?

1081
00:57:00,035 --> 00:57:02,845
And it's about really, really
being honest about that and

1082
00:57:03,195 --> 00:57:05,125
communicating that and as to why.

1083
00:57:05,775 --> 00:57:09,195
Oh, I actually think of you like
this, and it stemmed from that time

1084
00:57:09,445 --> 00:57:10,755
where you didn't hold the door for me.

1085
00:57:10,814 --> 00:57:11,094
Yeah.

1086
00:57:11,144 --> 00:57:14,274
Or you finished my food even though
I said I was hungry and I was tired.

1087
00:57:14,755 --> 00:57:16,635
Like, it could be silly
little things like that.

1088
00:57:16,895 --> 00:57:20,175
But you know, in saying that, it is
very important for everyone listening

1089
00:57:20,485 --> 00:57:24,765
to know, if you're not aware that
what Annabelle just said about it

1090
00:57:24,775 --> 00:57:26,285
stemmed from this little thing.

1091
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:32,020
Don't discount or don't underestimate
those little moments in the past in

1092
00:57:32,020 --> 00:57:36,769
your relationship or in the past with
in other relationships or friendships

1093
00:57:36,870 --> 00:57:40,660
where something's happened and it's
created a trigger point within you that

1094
00:57:40,670 --> 00:57:44,550
now you bring it into this new space and
you're getting triggered by your lover

1095
00:57:44,559 --> 00:57:49,290
in this new space thinking it's them
when in fact it's that which is which

1096
00:57:49,300 --> 00:57:52,910
is rooted in that little moment before
but they remind you of it based on what

1097
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:57,980
they say what the way they Look the way
they the expression they give so really

1098
00:57:57,990 --> 00:58:02,450
this is about again self worth self
evaluation really going in to see Right.

1099
00:58:02,450 --> 00:58:04,070
What are my triggers?

1100
00:58:04,100 --> 00:58:05,689
What are my emotions?

1101
00:58:06,210 --> 00:58:09,510
How do I react or respond to my
feelings and one of my favorite quotes?

1102
00:58:09,550 --> 00:58:13,020
Although I'm sure I've got many one of
them is that and this is particularly

1103
00:58:13,020 --> 00:58:18,920
for the men out there but not limited
to the men is Emotions make wonderful

1104
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:23,779
servants, but they make terrible masters
He tells that to our sons often and

1105
00:58:23,779 --> 00:58:27,490
it's a very important one Because our
emotions are the way through which we're

1106
00:58:27,510 --> 00:58:30,380
able to manifest many powerful things.

1107
00:58:30,750 --> 00:58:35,479
But if we allow them to, if we subject
ourselves to them and we allow them

1108
00:58:35,479 --> 00:58:37,900
to be our master, they run rampant.

1109
00:58:38,450 --> 00:58:42,570
So it's so important to be the
master of your emotions or feelings

1110
00:58:42,590 --> 00:58:44,190
and not the servant of them.

1111
00:58:44,660 --> 00:58:48,090
So that's reframing the
disagreements as opportunities to

1112
00:58:48,100 --> 00:58:49,800
look at what's actually going on.

1113
00:58:50,300 --> 00:58:51,229
And then the third.

1114
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:52,730
It's talking about the lens.

1115
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:53,600
The lens.

1116
00:58:54,090 --> 00:58:56,070
So that's kind of 2.

1117
00:58:56,110 --> 00:58:56,850
3, 2.

1118
00:58:56,940 --> 00:58:57,110
2.

1119
00:58:57,140 --> 00:59:00,640
Yeah, and then I gave the first,
which is about identifying values.

1120
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:01,569
So we've got three there.

1121
00:59:01,570 --> 00:59:06,608
Yeah, the lens is identify how
you and your relationship, sacred

1122
00:59:06,608 --> 00:59:08,370
union, are viewing your lover.

1123
00:59:08,429 --> 00:59:11,550
What lens is it that you're
viewing them through?

1124
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:17,560
And once you look at that, you can
then almost adjust the energy that you,

1125
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:22,860
you, you Start conversations with the
way you broach difficult subjects, the

1126
00:59:22,860 --> 00:59:27,759
way you celebrate the way you share
really, really monitor and take stock

1127
00:59:27,810 --> 00:59:29,890
of how you are viewing your lover.

1128
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,270
And that's a huge one.

1129
00:59:32,419 --> 00:59:32,799
Yeah.

1130
00:59:32,839 --> 00:59:35,180
And remember, it's a mutual practice.

1131
00:59:35,180 --> 00:59:38,020
You're both looking at each other
and communicating with each other.

1132
00:59:38,260 --> 00:59:39,550
Maybe we're on the same team.

1133
00:59:39,570 --> 00:59:40,190
I love you.

1134
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:42,860
We're on the same team,
let's practice this.

1135
00:59:43,060 --> 00:59:46,450
Let's treat it as the biggest game we've
ever played and let's practice this

1136
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:48,500
and practice to win the competition.

1137
00:59:50,350 --> 00:59:52,429
What's next for Mishaq and Annabelle?

1138
00:59:53,210 --> 00:59:54,409
Any big projects coming along?

1139
00:59:56,420 --> 01:00:00,420
Well, it's, it's about really being
able to have more conversations

1140
01:00:00,470 --> 01:00:03,350
like this, being able to speak
to folks that we've never spoken

1141
01:00:03,350 --> 01:00:05,190
to and really make a difference.

1142
01:00:05,190 --> 01:00:06,470
We really want to make a difference.

1143
01:00:06,470 --> 01:00:12,040
In fact, we, when we, prior to
getting into this game of intimacy,

1144
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:17,700
alchemy, and 1 percent love, We vowed
never to share our relationship with

1145
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:21,600
outsiders because we didn't want any
infiltration of energy to take place.

1146
01:00:21,810 --> 01:00:26,160
We didn't want any outside influence
to come and disrupt things.

1147
01:00:26,170 --> 01:00:28,210
So we said, no, we're going
to keep it to ourselves.

1148
01:00:28,490 --> 01:00:31,360
But there were a few real
serendipitous moments with friends.

1149
01:00:31,765 --> 01:00:35,235
And we've been asked for many
years how we are able to connect

1150
01:00:35,285 --> 01:00:38,255
the way we do, et cetera, on how
we've been together for so long.

1151
01:00:38,685 --> 01:00:42,385
And we've shared, but actually there
were a few serendipitous moments within

1152
01:00:42,385 --> 01:00:45,074
the last year where we were like,
no, we need to start sharing this.

1153
01:00:45,074 --> 01:00:48,234
So I think ultimately there are
many big dreams and goals and

1154
01:00:48,234 --> 01:00:51,315
aspirations we have, but we want
to make a difference to people.

1155
01:00:51,345 --> 01:00:52,085
And if that is.

1156
01:00:52,350 --> 01:00:55,820
on, in conversations like this,
or if it is within our program,

1157
01:00:56,330 --> 01:01:00,040
the main thing is that people feel
like, right, I've got something and

1158
01:01:00,180 --> 01:01:02,640
they can say, wow, 1 percent love.

1159
01:01:02,700 --> 01:01:04,090
I'm actually a 1 percent lover.

1160
01:01:04,270 --> 01:01:04,580
Yeah.

1161
01:01:04,620 --> 01:01:05,899
I'm actually a 1 percent lover.

1162
01:01:05,969 --> 01:01:09,180
We want to provide people with
something that, if we'd had this

1163
01:01:09,189 --> 01:01:14,180
in year 10, as it is now, and the
systems that we've created, we

1164
01:01:14,180 --> 01:01:15,580
would have got here a lot faster.

1165
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:18,940
So that's what we want to
be able to give to everyone.

1166
01:01:18,950 --> 01:01:20,790
We initially wanted it for our sons.

1167
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:22,570
You know, we're very big on legacy.

1168
01:01:22,570 --> 01:01:23,780
What do we leave behind?

1169
01:01:24,630 --> 01:01:29,209
And we just wanted them to know how to
talk to people, how to talk to themselves.

1170
01:01:29,879 --> 01:01:32,990
But to know that we can hand a
blueprint and a system that has been

1171
01:01:32,990 --> 01:01:39,260
tried, tested, and works to people
all over this planet warms our hearts.

1172
01:01:39,260 --> 01:01:41,490
That makes us even more passionate.

1173
01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:42,640
Sorry about that.

1174
01:01:43,100 --> 01:01:45,360
Even more passionate about our message.

1175
01:01:45,820 --> 01:01:46,510
So that's big.

1176
01:01:46,540 --> 01:01:49,630
So we want to, we want to connect
with more people like ourselves

1177
01:01:50,290 --> 01:01:53,330
all over the world who want to,
you know, we want to do retreats.

1178
01:01:53,330 --> 01:01:55,880
We want to meet other 1 percent
lovers across the world.

1179
01:01:56,250 --> 01:01:56,510
Yeah.

1180
01:01:56,590 --> 01:01:59,480
And just connect and share
and grow this community.

1181
01:02:01,500 --> 01:02:03,389
Where's the best place for
people to connect with you?

1182
01:02:05,620 --> 01:02:06,300
Instagram.

1183
01:02:06,570 --> 01:02:08,040
Primarily as it stands.

1184
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:11,330
We also have our website, which you've
all obviously mentioned, Brent, which

1185
01:02:11,330 --> 01:02:13,809
is at, which is the spoonerstate.

1186
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:14,210
com.

1187
01:02:14,340 --> 01:02:18,440
Oh, so that's the spoonerstate.

1188
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:21,349
So folks, anyone who's watching,
you can see how it's spelled there.

1189
01:02:21,499 --> 01:02:22,190
That is me.

1190
01:02:22,280 --> 01:02:23,300
I just cut my hair off.

1191
01:02:23,319 --> 01:02:24,259
Yeah, exactly.

1192
01:02:24,509 --> 01:02:28,720
And then our Instagram handle is at the
spoonerstate with the same spelling.

1193
01:02:28,740 --> 01:02:31,300
T H E S P double O N E R.

1194
01:02:31,575 --> 01:02:32,545
S T A T E.

1195
01:02:33,785 --> 01:02:34,335
Don't regret what we've got.

1196
01:02:35,135 --> 01:02:36,865
People mowing the lawn outside.

1197
01:02:37,725 --> 01:02:38,105
I know.

1198
01:02:38,285 --> 01:02:39,865
My neighbors do it at
the worst time, right?

1199
01:02:40,274 --> 01:02:41,614
It's pitch black outside.

1200
01:02:42,405 --> 01:02:45,675
It's 340 here, it's pitch black, and
we've got someone mowing the lawn.

1201
01:02:47,394 --> 01:02:53,025
I go, about the time I go to my backyard
to try and relax, like, I enjoy cigars.

1202
01:02:53,065 --> 01:02:57,395
So, when I really need to just
tune out for, like, an hour, like,

1203
01:02:57,525 --> 01:02:58,985
actually, truly take a break.

1204
01:03:00,005 --> 01:03:04,425
I'll, I'll go have a cigar every now
and then, and I'll go to my cigar, and

1205
01:03:04,425 --> 01:03:08,965
it might be evening or midday or like,
but whenever it's like, it's like magic.

1206
01:03:08,994 --> 01:03:11,795
I light my cigar to sit
down and try and relax.

1207
01:03:12,065 --> 01:03:15,024
My neighbor's like turns on his air
compressor and starts doing stuff

1208
01:03:15,025 --> 01:03:16,565
and it's just how it happens, right?

1209
01:03:18,325 --> 01:03:19,725
It's not just you guys.

1210
01:03:19,725 --> 01:03:20,765
It's, it's everywhere.

1211
01:03:21,050 --> 01:03:21,940
It's amazing.

1212
01:03:21,940 --> 01:03:24,720
It's another, another day in paradise.

1213
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:26,129
So sorry, sorry guys.

1214
01:03:26,129 --> 01:03:30,810
And guys, we'll have all of their links
down in the show notes or description,

1215
01:03:30,810 --> 01:03:32,680
whatever platform you're enjoying this on.

1216
01:03:33,249 --> 01:03:35,570
I promise we will have ways for
you guys to connect with them.

1217
01:03:35,860 --> 01:03:38,089
I doubt this will be our last crossover.

1218
01:03:38,150 --> 01:03:40,450
Now, I know this is what you
were really concerned about.

1219
01:03:41,375 --> 01:03:44,035
Who is generally considered
the inventor of the motor car.

1220
01:03:44,425 --> 01:03:45,955
You said Henry Ford.

1221
01:03:46,665 --> 01:03:48,965
The answer is Carl Benz

1222
01:03:54,284 --> 01:03:58,654
I believe so I'd have to I'd have to
verify that so don't quote me, but

1223
01:03:58,965 --> 01:04:05,755
I believe that yeah Okay, so hey,
you know what I if I if I wasn't

1224
01:04:05,755 --> 01:04:08,770
the guy asking the question I would
have guessed Henry Ford too Cause in

1225
01:04:08,770 --> 01:04:10,540
America, it's, it's Henry Ford, right?

1226
01:04:10,630 --> 01:04:16,270
That's, that's what
everybody, the model T right.

1227
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:17,440
Everybody knows that stuff.

1228
01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:20,410
Now, guys, I want you to take us out.

1229
01:04:20,660 --> 01:04:26,779
If our audience hears nothing else
out of this conversation, what do

1230
01:04:26,779 --> 01:04:28,740
you want them to take away today?

1231
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:34,040
Yeah, I feel like
there's another takeaway.

1232
01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:36,740
I feel like there's another takeaway.

1233
01:04:36,950 --> 01:04:39,190
Let's say that, and
then we'll add on to it.

1234
01:04:39,190 --> 01:04:39,740
Okay, ready?

1235
01:04:40,490 --> 01:04:42,229
Three, two, one.

1236
01:04:42,530 --> 01:04:45,549
The grass is greener where you water it.

1237
01:04:48,590 --> 01:04:49,139
I love it.

1238
01:04:49,740 --> 01:04:50,090
I love it.

1239
01:04:50,270 --> 01:04:51,449
You guys are, it's so cute.

1240
01:04:51,450 --> 01:04:52,970
You guys are in so much of a sync.

1241
01:04:54,950 --> 01:04:57,200
Guys, thanks for hanging
out with us today.

1242
01:04:57,320 --> 01:04:58,460
Thanks for giving us a chance.

1243
01:04:58,500 --> 01:04:59,700
I hope you enjoyed the show.

1244
01:05:00,180 --> 01:05:03,570
Be sure to reach out and connect
with Meshack and Annabelle.

1245
01:05:03,570 --> 01:05:04,600
We'll have all that for you.

1246
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:07,630
Be better tomorrow because what you do
today, and we'll see on the next one.

1247
01:05:09,220 --> 01:05:14,819
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1248
01:05:14,850 --> 01:05:17,629
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1249
01:05:17,629 --> 01:05:22,279
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1250
01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:22,790
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1251
01:05:23,300 --> 01:05:31,439
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