Alex Sanfilippo: The 3 Essential First Steps to Make Your 2024 Goals a Reality

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You owe it to yourself, become the best
version of yourself to live life at

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the fullest is something that, that you
really deserve and that you should do.

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And I feel that so many of us in
society today, we just kind of settle

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for what society puts in front of us.

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But if you sit down and reflect and
think about what you want, I think you'll

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realize it's not only counterculture, but
it's just really different than what maybe

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you're used to in your daily routines.

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And so my thing is just sit back and
really think about Hey, what is it

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that really wanted this life and start
taking tangible steps, little things

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every day to start getting closer to it.

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Because I find that the more we do this
more intentionally are with our time,

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the more we really get out of life.

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And I just am so sad seeing people
that aren't making it there.

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So I encourage you reflect,
do this thing, get out there.

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And I just think that you'll
learn to enjoy life more than

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you ever even thought possible.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach
our full potential?

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Growing to the men we dream of being
while taking care of our responsibilities,

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working, being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big question.

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In this podcast, we'll help you
answer those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man Podcast.

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Welcome to the Fallible Man
Podcast, your home for all

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things man, husband, and father.

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Big shout out to Fallible Nation.

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A warm welcome to our
first time listeners.

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Hey, We know you have a lot
of options when your time.

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So thanks for checking us out.

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Be sure and leave us some
feedback on the show.

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We'd love to hear from you.

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My name is Brent today.

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My special guest is entrepreneur,
software founder and podcast host.

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Alex Sanfilippo.

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Alex, welcome to the Fallible Man podcast.

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Brent, thank you so
much for having me, man.

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Really an honor to be here with you today.

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Alex, I love having my friends on and
it's so, this is so long overdue, dude.

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I'm so glad you're here today.

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Thanks for taking the time.

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How's your trivia?

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Man, I mean, I listen, I'm
a listener to your podcast.

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You and I are friends, like you said,
so, uh, I know this question's coming.

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And I just have to be honest, man.

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My trivia is just so awful.

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Um, but let's go.

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I'm, I'm ready.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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I got one.

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I got a good one for you.

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When were the Guy Fawkes and
the Gunpowder Plot discovered?

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Is it 1505, 1605, 1705, or 1805?

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I have no idea.

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1705 is what I'm gonna go with.

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I'm gonna go with 1705.

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I don't know why.

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I feel like I've heard that date before.

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And so I'm like, maybe
that's, maybe that is it.

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Or you're trying to trick me
and you're just picking a date.

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If it is like a meaningful date
as it is, I should know what it

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stands for, but let's go with that.

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1705, final answer.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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Do you know who Guy Fawkes is?

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Not really.

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I know.

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I mean, I've heard it, but I
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I can't.

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Are you a movie guy?

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Huh?

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Are you a movie guy?

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No.

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Okay.

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V for Vendetta was all about the
Guy Fawkes gunpowder, uh, plot.

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So.

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5th of November.

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And I don't know the date.

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I don't know like the year.

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That's the thing, right?

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Isn't it Remember, Remember the 5th
of November, wasn't that it, right?

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Yeah, and I only know it's from, okay,
so I do know that movie and I've seen

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it, but that's the only thing I know,
so like, Anything beyond that, which

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I just don't know anything about, so
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1705 and we're gonna go with that.

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Let's see if that works
out for me, alright?

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All right, guys, you know,
the rules don't cheat.

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Don't pause.

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Don't go ahead.

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Remember your answer.

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If you're driving, please
don't stop and write it down.

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And we'll come back to that a
little bit later in the show.

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Now, Alex, in your own words,
who is Alex Sanfilippo?

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I'd say this a man on a mission.

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And what I mean by that is I'm
somebody who is seeking fulfillment

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in life and fulfillment can mean
something different to each of us.

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So for me, it just ties directly
into my core values, which is first

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and foremost, to follow Jesus.

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Uh, it's to love well, it's to
serve first, and to bring the joy.

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Those are four things that I
believe that, that the creator,

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that God put on my heart.

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And so for me, I'm a man on a mission
to fulfill, to have fulfillment in my

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life, and it's through those four things.

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And uh, if, if I can dive a little
bit more into that, like the way that

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that happens is fulfillment in life I
find comes from meaningful experience.

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And meaningful experience comes
from us having enough energy

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to get off the couch, right?

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To be healthy enough to not be
stuck in a bed, uh, to make sure

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we're using our time wisely.

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And for many of us, like, things like,
uh, TV, movies, uh, playing on our

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phones, those are things that take
up a lot of our, a lot of our time,

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and I don't want that to be my life.

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So for me, I say, okay, as long as I'm
increasing my energy, I'm prioritizing

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my health, uh, I'm gonna make sure
that I use my time to build meaningful

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experiences with people I care about.

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And when I do that, I'm
more fulfilled in life.

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So again, it's, it's all about
following Jesus, loving, well

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serving first and bringing joy.

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And that to me is my mission that I'm on.

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Love it.

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I love it, man.

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If you could have any superpower,
what would it be and why?

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So I'll go back to, I'll go to
a movie cause that's the only

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way I know how to describe it.

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There was a movie called
jumper, uh, years back.

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Um, I don't even know who was in it.

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The main guy was, he also played
Anakin Skywalker, I'm a Star Wars

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nerd, so that's who he played.

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By the way, trivia, if you would
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man, I would have been ready to go.

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Um, but so the whole idea of like a
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that can see a picture of somewhere,
or if they've been somewhere before,

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at any point they can just think
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from where they are to that place.

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And I think that'd be a
sweet superpower, man.

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I'd love to be like, right when I'm done
with this, like, I think I need a break.

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Maybe a margarita on a beach somewhere.

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I would, I would go straight
over to Mexico, right?

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Sit on the beach, have a drink and then,
and then fly back in for my next call.

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Right.

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Like basically come back in.

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Uh, also jobs would be easy.

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I could be like a, a very
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If you're like, Hey, this has
got to get to, to China tomorrow.

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It's gotta be there and be like, cool.

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I'll do it in the next five minutes.

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If you give me this much money.

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Right.

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So, uh, I also found a job with my ideal
superpower of being a quote unquote

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jumper as it's called, which just means.

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Transporting it in real time
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previously or seen previously.

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I love it.

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That's I've never heard that before, too.

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Nice.

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I was worried.

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You have so many episodes, man.

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And like, I've heard some
really creative ones on here.

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I was like, this has got to have
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to be the first on that one.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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You are absolutely the first on that one.

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Most people go strict like
Marvel or DC or something there.

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Invisibility is really
popular, which kind of.

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Concerns me just a little bit too.

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I've always found that
to be a little bit odd.

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I'm like, do you want to like
stand behind me and watch me?

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Like I'm really boring.

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I promise, you know, like, right.

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I, I mean, I saw the invisible
man, the original and the remakes.

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And it's like, that, that kind of
always ends badly every time, man.

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Yeah.

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Are you a morning person or a night owl?

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Uh, by discipline, a morning person,
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own accord, a night person for sure.

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If you could learn or master,
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what would it be and why?

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There's so many of these.

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Like, there are just so many.

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I've always thought it'd be cool to
be like, just an incredible musician.

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And, and like, I've
played guitar and stuff.

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I'm not great, but like, we've all met
those people that can like, pick up a

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guitar and be like, I heard a song 20
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And they like, just like, by memory, hum
it a little bit and they can play it.

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I've always thought that'd be really cool.

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So if I can master just being like a
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and like blow your mind with my voice
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that would be a pretty cool thing.

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That would be, I, yeah, I, I had a
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years and he'd pick up a guitar and
started playing stairway to heaven.

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I'm like, shut up.

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You're like, come on, man.

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And we've all met those
people that can do that.

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And you're like, how, why?

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But you know what?

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Here's the thing.

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I always just say like, God didn't
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knows that that would really pull
me out of living a humble life.

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Like I would be so, I always
joke, I'm like, if I could sing,

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I wouldn't even talk anymore.

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I would just sing everywhere
and it'd annoy everybody, right?

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Um, but by the way, quick side note
here, uh, Brent did an incredible

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solo episode when he wasn't feeling
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where he was talking about humility.

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And I just mentioned it, you got
to go back and check that out.

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I think that's why sometimes we don't get
these gifted things that we want, because

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God knows we can't handle it, right?

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That's what I believe, at least.

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So, uh, for me, as cool as it
sounds, I'm okay with not being that

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expert musician to blow everyone's
mind every second of the day.

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Yeah, I gotta admit, I think, uh, if
I had that ability, I'd definitely

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be in a totally different place.

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So maybe there's a plan to that.

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Maybe, maybe.

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Alex, what purchase of 100 or less
have you made in the last year that's

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had the biggest impact on your life?

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I'm gonna like kind of cheat
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Uh, and it's funny.

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It goes right along with
lines with what I just said.

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I've been playing guitar forever,
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play ukulele, which sounds weird.

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Uh, but I was like, I want to buy ukulele.

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So I sold, uh, an acoustic guitar I had.

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And the difference between that and the
ukulele was just under a hundred dollars.

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So I'm going to count that as
my hundred dollar purchase.

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So it's a, it's a ukulele that I
just got and I've absolutely loved

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it because like a guitar, the size
of it, I have to like sit a little

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bit more upright to play ukulele.

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I've been like laying down playing it.

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And uh, This past weekend, um, I
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going back to Meaningful Experience.

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We just like, wanted to have a good time
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So like, we, a group of us went and stayed
in an Airbnb just an hour south of us.

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And I brought the ukulele.

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And the kids loved it and everyone
was like, this is just such a

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fun little thing that you brought
for us to, to hang out with.

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So that was a really, to me, a
meaningful purchase that I made.

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Okay.

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And for all of you who don't
know, Alex lives in the

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beautiful sunny state of Florida.

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And so when he says he's like,
just been chilling, I'm picturing

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you laying in a hammock.

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It wasn't that.

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I get it now.

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Yes.

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I do live in Jacksonville, Florida.

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We went to St.

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Augustine, Florida.

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It was fun, but there was no like
hammocks and like the beach and

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I referenced margaritas earlier.

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There was none of that.

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So it was just a chill, fun time.

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Well, isn't, isn't, it's like
I live in Washington, right?

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Everywhere in Washington is Seattle
if you don't live in Washington.

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Right, right.

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Oh, you live in Seattle?

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No, no, I really don't.

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I don't.

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If you live in Florida, obviously
you either live in the swamp

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or you live on the beach.

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It's one of the two.

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It depends.

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If you've never visited people,
here's what I've learned.

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People from other countries in the
United States are like, Oh my goodness,

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like do you live on the beach?

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Do you ride dolphins to work?

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You know, like just assume
it's something crazy like that.

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And people that have been here
are like, Oh, do you, do you get

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like bit by an alligator every
day or eaten by mosquitoes?

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And I'm like, yeah, that's
actually more accurate.

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Yes.

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Um, but it's something in the middle of
those two things for everybody's knowledge

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who hasn't been around here before.

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Man, I used to live in Fort Walton Beach.

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I was stationed in Fort Walton Beach
at the end of my military career.

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I'd go back.

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Yeah, there's the picture that bit
out that I'm envisioning of what some

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people think of Florida for sure, right?

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Oh, yeah.

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Yeah, the base was right on like
we had our own private beaches,

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beautiful white sand beaches,
crystal blue waters to me for sure.

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Yeah.

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What are you most proud of in your life?

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I mean, there's a lot of things,
but I do think that, um, This is a

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weird one, uh, to say, but, uh, my
relationship with God is the most

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important thing to me in my life.

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Um, and really, like, I want to
be like, well, I found Jesus, but

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the truth is, like, like, Jesus
found me, saved me, and all that.

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So, like, I don't know if I
can even take credit for that.

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Beyond that, because I don't
know if that really counts,

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would be, uh, pursuing my wife.

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Uh, and, and really just realizing
that she was the woman that I

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wanted to spend my life with.

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Uh, that was, that, that's been a,
a great journey, uh, we've been on.

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Since we've been married,
uh, a time, uh, since.

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When did we get married?

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2012 is when we got married and uh, it's
just been an incredible journey thus far

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and we continue to pursue each other and
communicate well and it just makes for a

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really great marriage so I'd say that's,
that's probably the most important thing.

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Uh, an answer I can take a
little bit more credit for.

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Let's put it that way.

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You know what, both
are very valid answers.

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There's no wrong answer in this
first segment of the show, right?

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And yeah, there, there's . Well,
there is possibly one wrong answer.

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The very first one could be wrong.

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1705, hold onto it.

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But that could be wrong.

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What's one random fact that
people don't know about you?

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Uh, that I'm not an athlete and I, I
bring that up because I, I regularly

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get asked like, what sports do I play?

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What, what I do?

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Any of those things I can, I work
out and I like that, but I'm, I'm

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really not very like flexible.

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Like I can't even do CrossFit
without just destroying every

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bone in my body and joint my body.

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Right.

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And, and so like, I never really
have been, but it's funny.

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Like I like to play pickup sports,
you know, not great at them.

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I just think it's a fun thing to do.

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Uh, and it's regular that I get picked
first because people take a look at me and

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they're like, Oh, he's going to be good.

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And I always am like, you just
wasted a really good pick.

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Like I'm fine with being the last pick.

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That's what I understand.

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That's like my lane.

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Right.

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Uh, so like something that people don't
realize people just assume that I'm

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an athlete and it's funny I've been on
a lot of podcasts people like so what

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sports do you play and stuff like I'm
like, you know I do play soccer but like

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not at the level people are imagining
which I think is really funny So that

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that's something people don't really
know about me is I'm kind of um, I'm I'm

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not like a great musician I'm not like
a great athlete or anything like that.

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But I business is just kind of my
thing and That's what I feel like God

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made me good at so it's really where I
focus my time and energy That's funny.

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You know, if it makes you feel better, I
never looked at you and went, uh, athlete.

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Well, thank you.

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I appreciate that.

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It's funny, the first time I met you
though, I was like, this dude lifts.

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And like, and I was right
on that though, right?

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Although I've been out of the gym
the last couple of months as I've,

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I've been working on other stuff.

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And it's like, Oh, like my, my body is
telling me, man, what is wrong with you?

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Get back to the weight.

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You got, you shave the Mohawk.

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You trim your beard.

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You're not lifting super heavy.

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I don't know, man.

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What's going on here?

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I know.

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We need to flip the script here.

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Maybe I need to interview
you to see what's going on.

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Intervention.

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Maybe it's a man today, right?

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It's a midlife crisis, Alex.

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What's one thing somebody, everybody
should know about you as we dig

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into the meat of this conversation?

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Yeah, it's, um, it's a, although I'm
an entrepreneur, I'm a business guy,

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I'm not, um, I would never consider
myself to be anything like a shark

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or somebody who's overly ambitious.

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Uh, I I've decided to create a
lifestyle business that starts with

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serving others, going back to those
core values I was sharing earlier.

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Uh, love well is served first
or two that I'll bring in there.

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And that's very important to
me in business, more so than

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the, my bottom line, right?

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Or what paycheck I bring in.

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As a matter of fact, I'm a, I'm a
very odd type of entrepreneur because

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I'm really not motivated by money.

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Um, and I never have been.

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Some people have been like,
hey, that's really going to

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limit you as a salesperson.

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When I used to be in sales and
corporate years ago, that's

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going to limit you in this way.

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But I just found that, man,
if I can just love and serve

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people and that can be my focus.

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Money can become a byproduct and
that's great, but really there's just

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so much more fulfillment in that.

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And so I just think it's important
for people to know that like whatever

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we get into today, that like at the
day, I'm not thinking about, well,

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is this podcast going to convert?

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No, I'm thinking, is it
going to help serve somebody?

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Can it help someone, is it going
to help a man on their journey?

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Make it a little bit further, right?

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Uh, can I just have a good
time, a meaningful experience

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with my friend Brent, right?

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And so that's what I really like,
always like people to know because

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I just, I'm a software founder.

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And I think that so many people get
this wrong concept of what we are.

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And maybe we've, maybe we deserve it and
have earned it because I feel like there

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maybe are some, some people that are
not like me in, in the software space,

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but, uh, I do wish that maybe people
would give me the benefit of the doubt

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that, hey, let's give this guy a shot.

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Maybe he's not out to like steal
every penny we've ever made.

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Right.

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So, um, I think that would be a really
important thing for people to know.

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Guys, we've been spending just a little
bit of time getting to know who Alex is

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in case you weren't familiar with him.

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Uh, I've had Alex and his wife, Alicia on
the show once, but this is long overdue.

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Like I said, I've been looking forward
to this and the next part of the show,

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we're going to dive into clarity,
direction, and success in the coming year.

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As hey, 2024 is knocking on a door and
I want to make sure that you guys are

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equipped to have your best year ever.

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We're going to roll our sponsor and
we'll be right back with more from Alex.

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Now, before we go any further,
I wanted to share with you guys.

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I don't always tell you how
much I love doing my podcast.

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Like I passionately love what I'm doing.

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And one of the things that makes my
life better as a podcaster is to work

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with a company like grow your show,
grow your show is a one stop podcast.

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Do it all.

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Now I use grow your show for my
marketing, but grow your shows,

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literally a one stop shop.

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You can record your episode
and just drop it off with them.

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And they take it from there.

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It's amazing.

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If you are interested in picking
up podcasting as a hobby, or maybe

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you're looking to expand your business
and use podcasting in that aspect.

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Talk to my friends over at Grow Your Show.

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Adam will take care of you.

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I guarantee it.

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I trust him.

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He's my friend.

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He's my business colleague and I
wouldn't trust anybody else with my show.

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Guys, welcome back.

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The first part of the show, we spent some
time just getting to know who Alex is.

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In this part of the show, we're
going to discuss clarity, direction

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and success in the coming year.

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If I can talk, we'll see if that works.

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Now, Alex, for a point of reference,
because, uh, some of our listeners met

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you on that couple show we did with you
and your wife and the rest of the crew.

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And that was kind of crazy chaotic,
but I don't feel like that really

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got to tell people what you do.

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You said you're working software, but
let's get a little more clarity here.

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Tell us about your company,
your podcast and your mission.

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Yeah, sure, man.

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Um, so first off my, my company is
called pod match and it's a software

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that connects podcasts, guests,
and hosts together for interviews.

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So not listeners, actual guests.

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So, uh, what that basically means is
it works like a dating app, but instead

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of connecting people for dates, it
connects them for podcast interviews.

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So an example, if you're somebody,
again, I live in Florida.

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So we'll talk about, we'll
talk about the beach, right?

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If you're a surfer and
you're like, you know what?

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I want to be a guest on a podcast.

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Like I'm being a podcast
guest today with Brent, right?

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Uh, I want to be a guest on a podcast.

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I talk about surfing.

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You basically tell pod
match that and pod match.

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We'll find a host that
says, Hey, I'm looking for a

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surfer to come on my podcast.

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It'll match you two together.

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In our software, you can message
each other, you can schedule,

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uh, you never have to exchange
an email if you don't want to.

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And the whole idea was to simplify
the podcast guest and host booking

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process because it can be a lot.

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Uh, there's a lot of administration
that goes into it and the idea was how

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much can our system take away from that?

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And just get these ideal
people together faster.

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And at the end of the day, the goal is
so that those podcast guests and hosts

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together can collaborate and release
interviews, podcast episodes, right?

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That really serve the world that
really make it a better place.

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And, uh, that's just what I believe in.

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I believe in the power of podcasting
and that's why we've just decided to,

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to build out this pod match software.

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And, uh, that, that's what I do on
the, on the software side of things

466
00:18:30,369 --> 00:18:32,719
and, uh, it's, it's absolutely a blast.

467
00:18:32,729 --> 00:18:34,329
So, uh, Brent, there's more to that.

468
00:18:34,340 --> 00:18:35,749
What else did you want
me to answer on that?

469
00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:38,200
And let me, let me put it out there, guys.

470
00:18:38,860 --> 00:18:44,010
Uh, this is where I get 95 percent
of my guests as a podcast host.

471
00:18:45,070 --> 00:18:45,500
Thank you.

472
00:18:45,539 --> 00:18:49,010
Like this, this is such
a phenomenal software.

473
00:18:49,445 --> 00:18:53,205
I get, I want to say like I said,
95 percent of my guests exclusively

474
00:18:53,655 --> 00:18:57,385
from Podmatch because I meet
such quality people on there and

475
00:18:57,385 --> 00:18:58,514
it's such a quality platform.

476
00:18:58,514 --> 00:18:59,774
So that's been awesome.

477
00:19:00,044 --> 00:19:03,274
Tell us a little bit about
your podcast as well.

478
00:19:03,845 --> 00:19:06,285
You know, it's so much about podcasts
and sometimes I mix it all together.

479
00:19:06,285 --> 00:19:07,714
So thank you for reminding me.

480
00:19:07,715 --> 00:19:09,139
I'm like, there was
something else in there.

481
00:19:09,370 --> 00:19:13,344
Yeah, so my podcast is called
Podcasting Made Simple, and it is for

482
00:19:13,344 --> 00:19:15,230
podcast guests and for podcast hosts.

483
00:19:15,230 --> 00:19:17,390
So basically, if you're looking to
level up or you're looking to figure

484
00:19:17,390 --> 00:19:20,970
out how to do this thing well on either
side of the mic, it's gonna be for you.

485
00:19:21,130 --> 00:19:23,870
I've had some really amazing guests,
including Brent being one of them,

486
00:19:24,010 --> 00:19:25,240
who just absolutely crushed it.

487
00:19:25,450 --> 00:19:26,769
Uh, you can find that pretty easily.

488
00:19:26,769 --> 00:19:28,580
So Podcasting Made Simple,
and if you just type in Brent,

489
00:19:28,580 --> 00:19:29,790
you're gonna find his episode.

490
00:19:29,980 --> 00:19:32,720
Um, I, I actually highly recommend
that one for anyone who's listened to

491
00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:35,729
this, cause it's just, you'll get more
of what you love about Brent in that

492
00:19:35,730 --> 00:19:37,390
episode, and it's just him by himself.

493
00:19:37,855 --> 00:19:39,885
I think it was like a 16 minute
episode or something like that.

494
00:19:39,885 --> 00:19:42,805
If I remember it correctly and
just crushed it, it was like a, it

495
00:19:42,805 --> 00:19:45,555
was like a Ted talk for people who
want to crush it in podcasting.

496
00:19:45,565 --> 00:19:47,475
So that's my show podcasting made simple.

497
00:19:47,475 --> 00:19:51,294
The software, uh, is, is pod
match and just having a blast

498
00:19:51,294 --> 00:19:52,415
doing all things podcasting.

499
00:19:52,464 --> 00:19:53,634
It's literally all I do, man.

500
00:19:53,864 --> 00:19:55,245
Uh, but I, I really enjoy it.

501
00:19:55,965 --> 00:19:57,405
And this is okay.

502
00:19:57,405 --> 00:19:58,915
So let me back up here.

503
00:19:58,925 --> 00:20:01,505
Podmatch is one of your softwares.

504
00:20:02,215 --> 00:20:07,635
Uh, Alex actually has a complete
software suite for podcasters.

505
00:20:08,230 --> 00:20:12,210
So if you're interested in being
in podcasting or being a guest on

506
00:20:12,219 --> 00:20:15,420
podcast, Alex is your go to solution.

507
00:20:17,250 --> 00:20:17,639
Thanks, bro.

508
00:20:17,659 --> 00:20:18,879
I appreciate that plug right there.

509
00:20:20,379 --> 00:20:25,440
Oh, I use multiple products
that you put out, so credit

510
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:26,660
where credit is due, right, man?

511
00:20:26,660 --> 00:20:27,199
I love it, man.

512
00:20:27,199 --> 00:20:27,719
Thank you, dude.

513
00:20:27,869 --> 00:20:29,020
It really means a lot to me, man.

514
00:20:29,070 --> 00:20:30,310
I know we met through all that.

515
00:20:30,330 --> 00:20:32,690
It's just been such a Like, one of
the biggest gifts for me is just

516
00:20:32,690 --> 00:20:33,940
getting to meet some incredible people.

517
00:20:33,950 --> 00:20:35,740
Like, mind blowing.

518
00:20:35,750 --> 00:20:36,210
Anyway, man.

519
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,039
And like, since then, I've
listened to your podcast.

520
00:20:38,059 --> 00:20:39,860
I'm like, man, I found
a podcast to listen to.

521
00:20:40,205 --> 00:20:42,395
Cause this guy just showed up one
day and was like, Hey, this is cool.

522
00:20:42,395 --> 00:20:42,825
Thank you.

523
00:20:43,075 --> 00:20:46,054
I was like, your podcast is
sweet, you know, like, thank you.

524
00:20:46,215 --> 00:20:47,544
So anyway, I appreciate you, man.

525
00:20:48,645 --> 00:20:51,355
So this is not your first business.

526
00:20:51,355 --> 00:20:52,495
You are an entrepreneur.

527
00:20:52,965 --> 00:20:56,875
Tell us a little bit about your
first business and how you fell

528
00:20:56,875 --> 00:20:58,165
in love with entrepreneurship.

529
00:20:58,884 --> 00:20:59,355
Yeah, man.

530
00:20:59,375 --> 00:21:02,195
I mean, earlier we were talking
about, uh, how like not much of a

531
00:21:02,195 --> 00:21:03,575
musician, not much of an athlete.

532
00:21:03,585 --> 00:21:04,945
That's kind of been my whole life.

533
00:21:05,004 --> 00:21:07,985
And I'd say I was a pretty self aware kid.

534
00:21:08,365 --> 00:21:10,794
So when we go to 10 years old, uh, I.

535
00:21:11,145 --> 00:21:12,015
I realized that point.

536
00:21:12,025 --> 00:21:14,365
Hey, man, like my friends are good
at things I'm just not good at,

537
00:21:14,365 --> 00:21:17,475
but for the first time something
clicked and it happened to be a

538
00:21:17,475 --> 00:21:19,985
business more or less for if you can
call it a business at 10 years old.

539
00:21:19,985 --> 00:21:23,274
But what happened is I was out on the golf
course because we lived across the street

540
00:21:23,275 --> 00:21:25,965
from a golf course and all the parents
in neighborhoods that don't go play in

541
00:21:25,965 --> 00:21:28,974
the golf course, which meant all the kids
met on the golf course every day, right?

542
00:21:28,974 --> 00:21:30,495
That's just right.

543
00:21:30,735 --> 00:21:31,865
Like there was no other route.

544
00:21:32,245 --> 00:21:35,185
Um, so we were out there one day, there
was a golf ball sitting there and none

545
00:21:35,185 --> 00:21:38,495
of, none of us were really golfers
were all like eight to 10 years old or

546
00:21:38,495 --> 00:21:39,625
eight to 12 years old, whatever it was.

547
00:21:39,625 --> 00:21:39,745
Right.

548
00:21:39,745 --> 00:21:40,345
And I picked it up.

549
00:21:40,715 --> 00:21:42,315
And I was like looking at it,
and I was getting ready to

550
00:21:42,475 --> 00:21:43,745
chuck it in the water, probably.

551
00:21:43,995 --> 00:21:46,465
Uh, and a golfer rolls by on a cart,
and he just yells, and he's like, Hey

552
00:21:46,465 --> 00:21:48,265
kid, what does that golf ball say on it?

553
00:21:48,535 --> 00:21:50,575
It's like I walk over,
I said, Titleist Pro B1.

554
00:21:51,105 --> 00:21:52,705
And he goes, I'll give you 3 for it.

555
00:21:53,295 --> 00:21:54,905
And I gave him the ball and he gave me 3.

556
00:21:54,955 --> 00:21:56,945
And for the first time ever,
this light bulb went off.

557
00:21:56,945 --> 00:22:00,275
And I was like, I watch golfers hit these
balls in the water every single day.

558
00:22:00,275 --> 00:22:02,885
And I bet if we can get them, I bet more
than this one guy wants to buy them.

559
00:22:03,105 --> 00:22:05,315
So I grabbed all the kids
together, the rest of us, right?

560
00:22:05,564 --> 00:22:07,895
And I was like, hey, you go find some.

561
00:22:07,905 --> 00:22:08,564
You look for them.

562
00:22:08,574 --> 00:22:09,214
You're going to clean them.

563
00:22:09,215 --> 00:22:10,404
We're going to put them in these bins.

564
00:22:10,425 --> 00:22:12,905
We'll separate and we'll figure out which
ones are worth money, which ones aren't.

565
00:22:13,125 --> 00:22:15,215
And then on Saturday morning,
we'll come out here and sell them.

566
00:22:15,555 --> 00:22:16,809
And we did that every day.

567
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,980
Like twice a week, we'd go
find balls, we'd clean them.

568
00:22:20,010 --> 00:22:21,640
And then Saturday morning we'd sell them.

569
00:22:21,670 --> 00:22:25,340
And we did that every Saturday for,
I don't know, probably a year or two.

570
00:22:25,540 --> 00:22:27,360
And that was my first like
introduction to business.

571
00:22:27,360 --> 00:22:30,110
And it might sound kind of crazy,
but like, again, a light bulb went

572
00:22:30,110 --> 00:22:31,920
off of, wow, I understand this.

573
00:22:31,929 --> 00:22:34,210
Like I understood how to, to
rally other kids together.

574
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:35,679
I understood how to talk to adults.

575
00:22:35,690 --> 00:22:38,260
Like I actually learned as a 10
year old kid negotiating with

576
00:22:38,370 --> 00:22:39,440
adults, because believe it or not.

577
00:22:39,975 --> 00:22:41,095
They don't all just think you're cute.

578
00:22:41,095 --> 00:22:42,004
I think you stole a golf ball.

579
00:22:42,004 --> 00:22:43,045
They hit in the water last week.

580
00:22:43,045 --> 00:22:43,285
Right.

581
00:22:43,504 --> 00:22:45,315
Sometimes they're like, that
ball has my initials on its mind.

582
00:22:45,315 --> 00:22:46,865
I'm like, it's yours for 3.

583
00:22:46,885 --> 00:22:48,355
I, I fetched it for it, you know?

584
00:22:48,415 --> 00:22:51,614
So, uh, but learning to do all that
actually taught me some really cool

585
00:22:51,625 --> 00:22:53,395
skills and it really set me up for a life.

586
00:22:53,810 --> 00:22:56,280
Of understanding business
and entrepreneurship and just

587
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,880
realizing what it is I love to do
and what I was actually good at.

588
00:22:59,900 --> 00:23:01,490
Did you, did you grow up in Florida?

589
00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:02,460
Yes.

590
00:23:02,510 --> 00:23:02,740
Oh yeah.

591
00:23:02,740 --> 00:23:03,620
Born, raised Florida.

592
00:23:03,649 --> 00:23:03,899
Yep.

593
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:04,980
Okay.

594
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,050
So you little farther
North than alligators.

595
00:23:08,060 --> 00:23:10,750
Cause I've been on some
interesting greens in Florida.

596
00:23:11,725 --> 00:23:15,725
No, there was, there was alligators,
uh, water traps sound a little, they're

597
00:23:15,725 --> 00:23:18,895
a little more hazardous if you've never
played golf in that part of the world.

598
00:23:18,905 --> 00:23:20,115
Yeah, for sure.

599
00:23:20,125 --> 00:23:23,075
So there was these things called like ball
retrievers and it would like extend out

600
00:23:23,075 --> 00:23:25,945
like 20 feet and you just be able to see
in the water and you like scoop them up.

601
00:23:25,945 --> 00:23:31,905
So, uh, mom was always a little nervous
about like water moccasins and alligators.

602
00:23:31,905 --> 00:23:34,015
Cause yes, those, those
do exist quite a bit.

603
00:23:34,325 --> 00:23:37,575
We, we saw them pretty much twice
a week, both times we went out,

604
00:23:37,575 --> 00:23:38,445
they'd be out there with us.

605
00:23:38,515 --> 00:23:42,735
So I was driving through
one of the bases in Florida.

606
00:23:43,514 --> 00:23:47,345
Uh, on my way to something I was
visiting a different, but another

607
00:23:47,345 --> 00:23:51,014
base while I was down there, there's
this beautiful Greenway Park in the

608
00:23:51,024 --> 00:23:53,825
middle of the base that you got,
it's got a bridge over a water and

609
00:23:54,175 --> 00:23:55,544
it's like this gorgeous green lawn.

610
00:23:55,544 --> 00:23:59,084
I'm looking at that going like, there's
no, there's nobody picnicking there.

611
00:23:59,084 --> 00:24:01,144
There's nobody, you know,
there's no kids playing there.

612
00:24:01,144 --> 00:24:02,794
I'm like, what, what is going on?

613
00:24:03,635 --> 00:24:05,755
And I just, just moved to Florida.

614
00:24:06,605 --> 00:24:09,725
And I was coming back a couple of
hours later across that same bridge

615
00:24:09,735 --> 00:24:14,145
and I see this alligator right along
the edge of the water going, I'm

616
00:24:14,145 --> 00:24:16,474
like, Oh, that explains so much.

617
00:24:16,685 --> 00:24:17,654
That explains a lot.

618
00:24:18,125 --> 00:24:19,705
A kid is just a snack for that thing.

619
00:24:19,855 --> 00:24:20,355
So yeah.

620
00:24:23,034 --> 00:24:23,995
Oh, that's funny.

621
00:24:26,044 --> 00:24:26,314
Yeah.

622
00:24:26,314 --> 00:24:30,055
I had a friend who went golfing in
Florida and had that experience.

623
00:24:31,314 --> 00:24:32,754
Yeah, we've all, we've all seen it.

624
00:24:32,764 --> 00:24:35,334
Sometimes I don't know why, but like
that same golf course, sometimes

625
00:24:35,334 --> 00:24:37,834
you go out to a tee and there's
just a, a gator like sitting on

626
00:24:37,834 --> 00:24:40,584
the, I'm sounding like Florida, man.

627
00:24:40,584 --> 00:24:42,145
So we got, we got to keep
this thing rolling, man.

628
00:24:42,145 --> 00:24:43,784
I can't like, it's not that bad.

629
00:24:43,784 --> 00:24:45,604
I don't have a pet alligator
in case anyone was wondering.

630
00:24:45,604 --> 00:24:45,894
All right.

631
00:24:45,945 --> 00:24:48,524
So it's really not, it's
just one of those things.

632
00:24:49,174 --> 00:24:52,584
It's like, I live in the desert and
there's a certain thing to live with.

633
00:24:52,774 --> 00:24:57,454
It's like, uh, I checked my backyard
for rattlesnakes and stuff like that.

634
00:24:57,525 --> 00:24:57,865
Right.

635
00:24:58,225 --> 00:25:01,385
It's funny, like, a couple months ago
I was in Denver, and uh, there's this

636
00:25:01,415 --> 00:25:03,955
beautiful, like, lake, and there's
like, people in it and stuff like that,

637
00:25:03,955 --> 00:25:05,885
and my buddy's like, oh, this is like,
one of our favorite spots to swim.

638
00:25:05,915 --> 00:25:08,395
And it was like, a lake, and there's
forests around it, and I was like,

639
00:25:08,795 --> 00:25:09,954
y'all got any gators in there?

640
00:25:10,425 --> 00:25:13,205
And he's like, no, dude, I was
like, what about water moccasins?

641
00:25:13,265 --> 00:25:14,604
He's like, there's no snakes here.

642
00:25:14,724 --> 00:25:17,274
I was like, So you tell me
like, I was like, well, so what,

643
00:25:17,475 --> 00:25:18,705
what can eat you in that water?

644
00:25:18,705 --> 00:25:20,865
And he's like, dude, there's nothing
in that water that will hurt you.

645
00:25:20,865 --> 00:25:21,855
I was like, Oh, wow.

646
00:25:22,064 --> 00:25:23,524
No wonder there's like
a hundred people in it.

647
00:25:23,524 --> 00:25:23,834
Right.

648
00:25:24,165 --> 00:25:26,534
I'm like in Florida, that would
be like, there'd be signs up.

649
00:25:26,534 --> 00:25:27,754
Don't touch this water.

650
00:25:27,845 --> 00:25:32,774
You know, any, any live because you
get, you get up in parts of Colorado.

651
00:25:32,774 --> 00:25:34,864
You got moose in the water
and all kinds of things.

652
00:25:35,075 --> 00:25:35,225
Yeah.

653
00:25:35,225 --> 00:25:36,205
I heard that those are dangerous.

654
00:25:36,205 --> 00:25:39,325
They won't eat you, but
they will make your day bad.

655
00:25:39,495 --> 00:25:39,815
Right?

656
00:25:39,835 --> 00:25:40,525
No kidding, man.

657
00:25:40,555 --> 00:25:41,135
Wild stuff.

658
00:25:42,955 --> 00:25:44,955
No, Alex, you've had multiple.

659
00:25:45,985 --> 00:25:49,475
Uh, business endeavors over the years,
what do you feel like separated the

660
00:25:49,475 --> 00:25:53,814
ones that went well, in your opinion,
versus the ones that weren't so great?

661
00:25:54,965 --> 00:25:58,404
Uh, preparation is the first thing
I'd mentioned, like really thinking

662
00:25:58,405 --> 00:26:00,944
through it and testing things.

663
00:26:01,274 --> 00:26:04,054
So preparation, part of preparation
to me is actually testing.

664
00:26:04,264 --> 00:26:05,915
And I think a lot of people
don't really think of that.

665
00:26:05,915 --> 00:26:09,915
They kind of like will prepare in their
basement or on their whiteboards forever.

666
00:26:09,915 --> 00:26:10,064
Right.

667
00:26:10,064 --> 00:26:11,114
And they're kind of like, cool,
this is what I'm gonna do.

668
00:26:11,145 --> 00:26:13,014
And they, they launch it
and stuff like that, right.

669
00:26:13,429 --> 00:26:16,120
And that's because part of your
preparation needs to be testing.

670
00:26:16,370 --> 00:26:18,439
And that's where you need to actually
talk to other people to see, okay,

671
00:26:18,439 --> 00:26:19,820
is this actually what people want?

672
00:26:20,199 --> 00:26:22,770
And so what I've learned is the
things that have worked well for

673
00:26:22,770 --> 00:26:26,139
me are the things that actually
verified the fact, okay, yes, people

674
00:26:26,139 --> 00:26:27,610
were asking for this, they want it.

675
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:29,409
And I think a lot of us
don't do that because we're

676
00:26:29,409 --> 00:26:30,470
afraid someone will steal it.

677
00:26:31,079 --> 00:26:31,649
People are busy.

678
00:26:31,679 --> 00:26:32,989
No one's going to steal your ideas.

679
00:26:33,020 --> 00:26:34,439
Like no one, no one has time for it.

680
00:26:34,580 --> 00:26:35,590
More energy, right?

681
00:26:35,889 --> 00:26:38,969
Um, and so what I've, what I found
is just like get it out there and

682
00:26:38,969 --> 00:26:40,149
people are like, wow, this is so cool.

683
00:26:40,149 --> 00:26:41,379
People have, no one else
has done this before.

684
00:26:41,379 --> 00:26:42,149
It's like, okay, cool.

685
00:26:42,465 --> 00:26:45,175
If I keep on hearing that, then
maybe I'll, I'll give this a shot.

686
00:26:45,435 --> 00:26:47,985
And so for me, like still this day,
the products that work versus the

687
00:26:47,985 --> 00:26:50,585
ones that don't are the ones that I
don't just assume are going to work.

688
00:26:51,025 --> 00:26:54,004
It's the ones that as quickly as humanly
possible, I get it in front of other

689
00:26:54,004 --> 00:26:56,025
people to see the response that I get.

690
00:26:56,325 --> 00:26:58,675
Um, and that's been the difference all
the way through and everything I've done.

691
00:26:58,675 --> 00:26:59,575
And I, I did a.

692
00:27:00,084 --> 00:27:02,625
a sprint and corporate
for 15 years as well.

693
00:27:02,824 --> 00:27:06,064
And same things, same thing, our product
launches that went well versus the ones

694
00:27:06,064 --> 00:27:08,594
that didn't, or our new offerings that
went well, the versus the ones that

695
00:27:08,594 --> 00:27:12,024
didn't were the ones that we tested and
we really prepared for versus just kind of

696
00:27:12,024 --> 00:27:14,725
like ready aim or ready fire aim, right.

697
00:27:14,725 --> 00:27:15,854
Like versus that method.

698
00:27:16,114 --> 00:27:18,314
Um, that's been the difference
for me along the way.

699
00:27:18,315 --> 00:27:27,204
Now, how did you, you're on your
goals when you decided to go into this

700
00:27:27,304 --> 00:27:32,725
podcasting thing and make products
for the podcasting space, which.

701
00:27:33,505 --> 00:27:34,315
We're so needed.

702
00:27:34,325 --> 00:27:35,825
So, you know, well done.

703
00:27:35,825 --> 00:27:38,905
You tested it apparently, cause
you had clarity in that when you

704
00:27:38,905 --> 00:27:40,775
realized like this doesn't happen.

705
00:27:41,415 --> 00:27:42,025
Oh my goodness.

706
00:27:42,075 --> 00:27:42,584
Like, sorry.

707
00:27:42,895 --> 00:27:45,794
I, I laugh sometimes cause some
of your products is like, why

708
00:27:45,795 --> 00:27:47,694
did no one else ever do this?

709
00:27:49,715 --> 00:27:53,355
But when you decided to move
into the podcasting space as a

710
00:27:53,395 --> 00:27:59,015
business, uh, and, and build stuff
for that, how did you get clear?

711
00:27:59,430 --> 00:28:01,370
on that's what you wanted to do.

712
00:28:02,790 --> 00:28:04,780
So it all started with going back to that.

713
00:28:04,950 --> 00:28:06,800
I did, again, 15 years in corporate.

714
00:28:06,910 --> 00:28:09,939
And when I was getting to the end of that,
the reason I even left corporate, because

715
00:28:09,940 --> 00:28:13,520
I actually really enjoyed it, was because
the company I was with went public.

716
00:28:13,919 --> 00:28:16,790
And when that's the goal, so I'm
not trying to downplay that at all.

717
00:28:16,799 --> 00:28:17,580
That was the goal.

718
00:28:17,609 --> 00:28:19,090
I was on that mission with people.

719
00:28:19,610 --> 00:28:21,180
It was an amazing experience.

720
00:28:21,180 --> 00:28:25,080
But once we got there, I started
feeling more like a cog in the system

721
00:28:25,230 --> 00:28:26,880
than somebody actually making impact.

722
00:28:27,169 --> 00:28:29,320
And at the end of the day, I think the
difference between someone who wants

723
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,179
a corporate job and an entrepreneur,
like, to be an entrepreneur, is they

724
00:28:32,179 --> 00:28:33,530
want to feel like they have impact.

725
00:28:33,940 --> 00:28:37,160
And many people that work in corporate,
they're what I would call an intrapreneur.

726
00:28:37,170 --> 00:28:38,620
That's like an actual
term now, apparently.

727
00:28:38,789 --> 00:28:40,230
But you're an entrepreneur
in an organization.

728
00:28:40,239 --> 00:28:43,009
You want to be there for the
impact, not just the paycheck.

729
00:28:43,050 --> 00:28:44,559
You want to be there
for something to happen.

730
00:28:44,839 --> 00:28:49,510
And when I lost that feeling, I knew
I wanted to move into something else.

731
00:28:49,790 --> 00:28:50,930
And I just knew it was time.

732
00:28:50,930 --> 00:28:54,339
And so, like, it was bittersweet the
day I left, but, um, the thing is,

733
00:28:54,339 --> 00:28:55,470
I didn't know what I wanted to do.

734
00:28:55,490 --> 00:28:57,200
So, I started a podcast.

735
00:28:57,615 --> 00:29:01,145
Back then, cause I was like, I want to
talk to people who have successfully

736
00:29:01,145 --> 00:29:04,805
left a nine to five job to find
out how they did it, what they did.

737
00:29:04,805 --> 00:29:05,105
Right.

738
00:29:05,425 --> 00:29:08,864
And so to, to way simplify
what I learned in a hundred and

739
00:29:09,564 --> 00:29:11,145
159 episodes is what it was.

740
00:29:11,415 --> 00:29:13,425
Uh, yeah, it was, it was great.

741
00:29:13,425 --> 00:29:13,604
Yeah.

742
00:29:13,604 --> 00:29:16,755
And it's funny cause, um, podcasting
made simple uses the same feed.

743
00:29:17,005 --> 00:29:20,775
So if you go back to podcasting made
simple and listen to the first 159

744
00:29:21,305 --> 00:29:24,865
episodes, it's called creating a brand,
which is like the art of creating a brand.

745
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:28,600
And, uh, anyway, so I learned what
it takes to be an entrepreneur.

746
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,850
And I don't mean any disrespect to
these hundreds of people that gave

747
00:29:31,850 --> 00:29:34,900
me their time, but I'm gonna way
simplify it because I think it'll tie

748
00:29:34,900 --> 00:29:35,870
into what we're talking about here.

749
00:29:36,139 --> 00:29:37,500
Um, it's four steps.

750
00:29:38,289 --> 00:29:39,999
Step one, find an area of passion.

751
00:29:40,559 --> 00:29:42,009
So find a passion, right?

752
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:44,429
The next thing is to get into
the community that's involved

753
00:29:44,429 --> 00:29:45,390
in that area of passion.

754
00:29:45,940 --> 00:29:49,380
The third thing is to find
a problem, a simple problem

755
00:29:49,700 --> 00:29:50,500
that they're struggling with.

756
00:29:50,790 --> 00:29:52,639
And the fourth thing is to
offer a solution that problem

757
00:29:52,639 --> 00:29:54,009
as fast as humanly possible.

758
00:29:54,565 --> 00:29:57,605
And again, that way oversimplifies
entrepreneurship, but.

759
00:29:58,165 --> 00:29:59,255
That's, that's what I had learned.

760
00:29:59,335 --> 00:30:03,285
And so for me, I was like, you
know what, excuse me, I'm becoming

761
00:30:04,385 --> 00:30:05,705
passionate about podcasting.

762
00:30:06,055 --> 00:30:06,975
Like really love it.

763
00:30:06,975 --> 00:30:07,995
So I got into the community.

764
00:30:07,995 --> 00:30:11,705
I started speaking at the conferences,
doing some educating with people,

765
00:30:11,705 --> 00:30:13,825
just meeting other podcasters
like you, you know, like getting

766
00:30:13,825 --> 00:30:14,885
to meet just amazing people.

767
00:30:15,940 --> 00:30:19,590
And so like my passion followed
by me being in the community, then

768
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:23,560
led me to actually, um, trying
to solve a problem for them.

769
00:30:23,830 --> 00:30:25,950
And the best way to do that is
just to ask questions, right?

770
00:30:25,950 --> 00:30:29,290
And so what I did, I'll never forget
it, I was actually in Orlando,

771
00:30:29,290 --> 00:30:32,470
Florida for a conference, PodFest
is what it was specifically.

772
00:30:32,975 --> 00:30:36,655
And, uh, so I was there and when I
got off stage, anyone who would talk

773
00:30:36,655 --> 00:30:38,495
to me because typically people will
say, Hey, thanks for being here.

774
00:30:38,495 --> 00:30:39,125
Thanks for speaking.

775
00:30:39,125 --> 00:30:39,345
Right?

776
00:30:39,345 --> 00:30:40,155
Like people are just nice.

777
00:30:40,475 --> 00:30:42,455
Um, I asked each of them, Hey, what
is it that you're struggling with?

778
00:30:43,525 --> 00:30:47,945
So again, um, I was in the community and
now I'm like finding out feedback and

779
00:30:48,455 --> 00:30:51,265
people said a lot of different things,
but 100 people said the same thing, which

780
00:30:51,265 --> 00:30:54,885
was I'm having trouble finding guests
for my show or ideal guests for my show.

781
00:30:54,885 --> 00:30:56,445
I can't figure out who's
the next person in my show.

782
00:30:56,445 --> 00:30:57,545
I'm always stressed about it, right?

783
00:30:57,715 --> 00:30:59,835
Like I heard all these variations
of it, but I knew coming back.

784
00:31:00,205 --> 00:31:01,585
That was a problem we're solving.

785
00:31:01,865 --> 00:31:04,985
And from there, I just built out
an MVP of Podmatch, like didn't

786
00:31:04,995 --> 00:31:05,995
have a name or anything like that.

787
00:31:06,155 --> 00:31:08,085
I just said, Hey, does this work?

788
00:31:08,665 --> 00:31:10,685
And people were like, you
should have a logo, right?

789
00:31:10,905 --> 00:31:12,025
You have like 10 spelling errors.

790
00:31:12,035 --> 00:31:13,055
I'm like, I didn't ask you that.

791
00:31:13,135 --> 00:31:14,515
Does this do what you asked me to do?

792
00:31:14,515 --> 00:31:16,265
And I got their contact
information at that event.

793
00:31:16,265 --> 00:31:18,625
So it's the same hundred people
that I met there, basically,

794
00:31:18,625 --> 00:31:19,265
so they're struggling with it.

795
00:31:19,580 --> 00:31:21,360
And sure enough, and that's
how we decided to build it out.

796
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,790
And that was what led me from
corporate to just podcaster to being a

797
00:31:25,820 --> 00:31:27,840
podcast industry and software person.

798
00:31:30,730 --> 00:31:34,160
Now it's funny, cause I've talked to
a lot of entrepreneurs over the years

799
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,600
on the show now, and I I'm with you.

800
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,170
I don't think you, I don't think it
cheapens their experience, but really

801
00:31:41,180 --> 00:31:44,040
that, that, I think you hit the high
points on that with the four point.

802
00:31:44,410 --> 00:31:45,420
That's very fair.

803
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:52,300
Um, and, and honestly, I overlooked
part of setting up any plane as.

804
00:31:53,810 --> 00:31:56,350
Is there that need for it?

805
00:31:56,370 --> 00:31:57,810
Is there that market for it?

806
00:31:57,810 --> 00:31:58,110
Right?

807
00:31:58,550 --> 00:32:01,990
You can call it a need or you can
call it a market, but a lot of

808
00:32:01,990 --> 00:32:06,940
people have really great ideas, but
they don't have a market for that.

809
00:32:06,940 --> 00:32:09,510
I, you, you can have the best
idea in the world that people

810
00:32:09,510 --> 00:32:14,440
don't need it or want it, you're,
you're not going to go far with it.

811
00:32:15,090 --> 00:32:15,590
Yeah, man.

812
00:32:15,890 --> 00:32:16,180
Yeah.

813
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,030
You know, somebody gave me this advice
as well, which I thought was really smart

814
00:32:19,340 --> 00:32:23,390
and it's human nature to want to complain,
which is weird to hear, but like it is.

815
00:32:23,820 --> 00:32:25,100
Part of many of our lives.

816
00:32:25,410 --> 00:32:28,840
And so he told me, he's like, Hey
man, don't just look for the problem.

817
00:32:28,850 --> 00:32:30,260
People are complaining about validate.

818
00:32:30,260 --> 00:32:31,520
That's a problem they want solved.

819
00:32:31,940 --> 00:32:33,880
And what he meant was he's like,
man, some people just like to

820
00:32:34,730 --> 00:32:36,140
like complain about random things.

821
00:32:36,140 --> 00:32:40,160
Like, Oh man, I wish that this,
this app would work better.

822
00:32:40,210 --> 00:32:41,670
And then you're like, Oh,
well, here's a better version.

823
00:32:41,670 --> 00:32:42,980
They're like, nah, I
don't really want that.

824
00:32:43,020 --> 00:32:45,780
And it's because they don't, they don't
actually care enough to solve the problem.

825
00:32:45,780 --> 00:32:47,970
They just want to complain
about the problem.

826
00:32:47,970 --> 00:32:48,240
Right.

827
00:32:48,430 --> 00:32:50,000
So yeah, there's a lot of
insight that has to go into it.

828
00:32:50,010 --> 00:32:50,610
That's what kind of, we're like.

829
00:32:51,075 --> 00:32:54,455
Planning preparation that comes into
play and testing it again, right?

830
00:32:54,745 --> 00:32:58,125
Um, so like the guy who told me that
I thought that was a really brilliant

831
00:32:58,335 --> 00:33:01,825
like thought like so I now I think twice
I'm like, oh there's an idea there.

832
00:33:01,825 --> 00:33:04,355
I'm like Yeah, that sounds
like human nature just wanting

833
00:33:04,355 --> 00:33:05,335
to complain about something.

834
00:33:05,345 --> 00:33:07,295
No one actually wants
to solve that problem.

835
00:33:07,505 --> 00:33:10,045
Like, or no one cares enough
to, like, take any steps to

836
00:33:10,045 --> 00:33:11,225
solve it for themselves even.

837
00:33:11,245 --> 00:33:14,495
So, for what that's worth, that's a little
sidebar there that, just a little hack

838
00:33:14,495 --> 00:33:15,815
that I've learned over the years as well.

839
00:33:16,225 --> 00:33:17,955
Oh no, that's, that's incredibly valuable.

840
00:33:18,115 --> 00:33:21,415
Um, so, trust me, some of my early
ideas, that was some of those power

841
00:33:21,415 --> 00:33:25,070
lesson learns, and some of the things
like, ah, I want, This is a great idea.

842
00:33:25,070 --> 00:33:28,740
It's like, does everybody else think
is a great idea and actually want it?

843
00:33:29,010 --> 00:33:29,420
Right.

844
00:33:30,250 --> 00:33:32,200
The determining factor, by
the way, is a person's wallet.

845
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,510
They bust out their wallet
and they say, yeah, sure.

846
00:33:34,510 --> 00:33:35,820
Here's my credit card information.

847
00:33:36,020 --> 00:33:39,020
Then, you know, you have something,
but if someone's like, uh, because

848
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,630
sometimes the people that say this
is the best idea ever, I love it.

849
00:33:41,630 --> 00:33:42,060
And you're like, cool.

850
00:33:42,060 --> 00:33:42,520
We pay for it.

851
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:43,350
They're like, no.

852
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:44,450
And you're like, wait a minute.

853
00:33:44,930 --> 00:33:45,300
What do you mean?

854
00:33:45,300 --> 00:33:46,860
Like, oh, well, it's great for
other people, but not for me.

855
00:33:46,860 --> 00:33:48,130
It's like, does everybody say that?

856
00:33:48,130 --> 00:33:48,460
Right.

857
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:51,530
So yeah, there's a lot there on the
entrepreneurship side, which I know isn't

858
00:33:51,530 --> 00:33:54,440
our main focus today, but hopefully those
little tips help somebody out there.

859
00:33:54,935 --> 00:33:57,955
Well, you know, in the direction we're
heading today, it will actually benefit.

860
00:33:57,955 --> 00:33:58,375
So that's fine.

861
00:33:58,375 --> 00:34:06,775
So actually out of curiosity, what
was your business prior to this?

862
00:34:06,775 --> 00:34:08,395
You said, you said you were
in the corporate world.

863
00:34:08,975 --> 00:34:09,265
Yeah.

864
00:34:09,325 --> 00:34:11,345
So yeah, 15, I was in
the aerospace industry.

865
00:34:11,715 --> 00:34:14,395
Uh, worked with a lot of, it was
like military contracts and stuff

866
00:34:14,395 --> 00:34:15,615
like that and government contracts.

867
00:34:15,635 --> 00:34:19,795
And so we were doing parts manufacturing
for, um, below the atmosphere aircraft.

868
00:34:20,370 --> 00:34:22,140
And, um, a lot of it, it's funny.

869
00:34:22,170 --> 00:34:23,440
It's, it was an interesting career.

870
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,330
I can't share most of it, but it's not
interesting anyway, because they're,

871
00:34:26,330 --> 00:34:27,580
they're like signing this stuff.

872
00:34:27,580 --> 00:34:29,940
When I was, I was, I was, uh, on the C
suite of the company and they're like,

873
00:34:29,940 --> 00:34:30,980
Hey, you can't talk about this stuff.

874
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:32,330
And I made a joke.

875
00:34:32,330 --> 00:34:34,480
I'm like, no one wants to
hear this stuff anyway.

876
00:34:34,490 --> 00:34:35,250
It's not interesting.

877
00:34:35,250 --> 00:34:35,580
You know, like.

878
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:36,880
This is super boring.

879
00:34:37,020 --> 00:34:38,880
It was, it was fun work
and I really liked it.

880
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,200
Like the whole mechanics of
how that all that stuff worked.

881
00:34:41,530 --> 00:34:45,300
Um, but yeah, so it was basically
aerospace industry, parts manufacturing,

882
00:34:45,300 --> 00:34:49,650
and me personally, uh, I worked behind
a computer most that time, uh, doing

883
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,170
running commercial operations division.

884
00:34:51,170 --> 00:34:53,710
So I ever saw five departments
of the company at its height.

885
00:34:53,710 --> 00:34:55,970
I started at part time and stuff
like that, but work my way up.

886
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:58,030
And, uh, that's, I was
really good at that.

887
00:34:58,030 --> 00:35:00,500
Like operations make sense to
me, streamlining our processes,

888
00:35:00,500 --> 00:35:02,840
making sure we're profitable
or things that just, I really.

889
00:35:03,210 --> 00:35:03,660
Enjoyed.

890
00:35:03,670 --> 00:35:06,090
So I sat by the computer and
open Excel basically all day

891
00:35:06,090 --> 00:35:06,990
and just played around in it.

892
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:08,570
So it was a cool career though.

893
00:35:08,570 --> 00:35:09,190
I had a good time.

894
00:35:09,740 --> 00:35:11,110
I get it totally.

895
00:35:11,770 --> 00:35:17,180
My, in my last job, that was one of the
things I did frequently was overhauling

896
00:35:17,180 --> 00:35:19,420
and smoothing and streamlining and.

897
00:35:19,505 --> 00:35:21,205
Yeah, I enjoyed it.

898
00:35:22,055 --> 00:35:22,575
I don't know.

899
00:35:23,325 --> 00:35:25,675
Maybe there's something wrong with us or
maybe there's just something organized

900
00:35:25,675 --> 00:35:26,955
in our heads about things like that.

901
00:35:27,275 --> 00:35:27,615
I don't know.

902
00:35:27,615 --> 00:35:29,005
I think God just made us this way, man.

903
00:35:29,385 --> 00:35:30,455
Someone's got to do it, you know?

904
00:35:30,455 --> 00:35:33,535
I feel the same way about people
in the medical field, by the way.

905
00:35:33,795 --> 00:35:35,245
I'm so thankful for what they do.

906
00:35:35,635 --> 00:35:39,035
Man, if I see somebody getting
cut open, I look away, you know?

907
00:35:39,555 --> 00:35:41,105
And there's like, oh wow, look at this.

908
00:35:41,105 --> 00:35:42,595
I'm like, nah, I don't want to see it.

909
00:35:42,595 --> 00:35:43,661
Everyone's got their own field.

910
00:35:43,661 --> 00:35:45,505
I feel like we all play a role, right?

911
00:35:46,385 --> 00:35:47,095
Oh yeah, oh yeah.

912
00:35:47,725 --> 00:35:49,365
So Alex, we're going to
pivot just a little bit here.

913
00:35:49,375 --> 00:35:51,765
Let me ask you, do you do
new year's resolutions?

914
00:35:52,815 --> 00:35:55,015
Do I like set new year's
resolutions for myself?

915
00:35:55,025 --> 00:35:55,465
I mean, right.

916
00:35:55,465 --> 00:35:59,185
Like, um, that's not something
I actually have done much of.

917
00:35:59,235 --> 00:36:02,325
I like to, and it's just because
I don't like the word resolution.

918
00:36:02,325 --> 00:36:03,865
Cause I feel like, I don't know why.

919
00:36:03,865 --> 00:36:05,935
I feel like almost everyone
fails with them and I'm not

920
00:36:05,935 --> 00:36:06,765
trying to be rude or mean.

921
00:36:06,775 --> 00:36:09,265
Like, but if it's like a resolution,
I'm like, can that be taken seriously?

922
00:36:09,575 --> 00:36:12,245
I like, I like actionable goals.

923
00:36:12,425 --> 00:36:17,035
And so I more so go that route to
set those goals versus just saying.

924
00:36:17,515 --> 00:36:19,645
I'm gonna lose 10 pounds this year, right?

925
00:36:19,835 --> 00:36:20,865
I'm not trying to be rude or mean.

926
00:36:20,865 --> 00:36:23,790
I just find it like We don't
really go much past that.

927
00:36:23,790 --> 00:36:26,960
It's so trendy to say that that no one
actually holds you to it because it's

928
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:28,390
just like the culture that we're in.

929
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,400
But if you say, you know what, I've
got a goal in the next eight weeks,

930
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:34,020
I'm going to accomplish this then eight
weeks after them accomplish that, right.

931
00:36:34,020 --> 00:36:37,200
And you like, actually, I was like, okay,
that doesn't feel like the resolution

932
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:37,750
everyone else is talking about.

933
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,220
That's an actual, like tangible goal.

934
00:36:40,380 --> 00:36:44,610
So to answer your question, no, I try
not to do resolutions, but I do some

935
00:36:44,630 --> 00:36:46,230
serious goal setting and reflecting.

936
00:36:47,355 --> 00:36:50,505
I've found in my experience talking
to people about things like this,

937
00:36:52,035 --> 00:36:56,535
it's the more organized goal oriented
people who are less likely to

938
00:36:56,555 --> 00:36:58,295
set you, you have two categories.

939
00:36:58,295 --> 00:37:02,435
You got people who just don't care and
then you have like us who are very goal

940
00:37:02,435 --> 00:37:05,625
focused and have goals all year long.

941
00:37:05,785 --> 00:37:07,055
You know, we're different phases of.

942
00:37:07,615 --> 00:37:10,475
A half a dozen different goals
as we're processing through.

943
00:37:11,355 --> 00:37:12,875
Uh, those are the two categories.

944
00:37:12,875 --> 00:37:16,295
People who just really don't care and
people who are already living, setting

945
00:37:16,295 --> 00:37:20,685
goals all the time and chasing those
goals are like New Year's resolution.

946
00:37:20,775 --> 00:37:23,035
I already got like 20
things on my plate, man.

947
00:37:23,035 --> 00:37:24,115
My goals are set for the year.

948
00:37:24,115 --> 00:37:24,935
What are you talking about?

949
00:37:25,225 --> 00:37:25,615
Right.

950
00:37:26,065 --> 00:37:26,205
Yeah.

951
00:37:26,275 --> 00:37:28,635
The interesting thing that you
just shared there as well is, um.

952
00:37:29,465 --> 00:37:32,185
With goals, I also try not just to
set them at the beginning of the year.

953
00:37:32,205 --> 00:37:33,765
Like I do, I, I do that quarterly.

954
00:37:33,765 --> 00:37:36,545
So every quarter, every 90 days I
go back and reflect and update and

955
00:37:36,545 --> 00:37:38,455
change because we're always evolving.

956
00:37:38,695 --> 00:37:41,065
So like the goals I might with
great intention set at the beginning

957
00:37:41,065 --> 00:37:43,565
of the year, in three months from
now, I'd be like, this doesn't make

958
00:37:43,565 --> 00:37:44,825
any sense to accomplish anymore.

959
00:37:44,835 --> 00:37:46,975
And we have to give ourselves permission
to say, you know, I'm going to update

960
00:37:46,975 --> 00:37:48,665
this and I'm gonna do something else.

961
00:37:48,855 --> 00:37:51,605
The problem with resolution, somebody
was sort of like get six months in,

962
00:37:51,605 --> 00:37:54,725
like I haven't been able to do it,
but you know, next year I'll set more,

963
00:37:54,965 --> 00:37:56,275
I'll set something else and do it then.

964
00:37:56,275 --> 00:37:56,435
It's like.

965
00:37:57,310 --> 00:37:58,870
Why do you have to wait
till a certain date?

966
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:02,610
You know, like why does that date
have so much weight like that?

967
00:38:02,610 --> 00:38:05,070
You aren't willing to even start
something until you like circle

968
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:06,150
back around and try again.

969
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,830
You can pick up wherever you
are, whatever day you're in.

970
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:13,680
Like the day this comes out, whatever day
it is, you can set new goals on this date.

971
00:38:13,900 --> 00:38:14,950
You don't have to be like, Oh, cool.

972
00:38:15,130 --> 00:38:16,944
I got two weeks to set
goals because that's.

973
00:38:17,545 --> 00:38:20,435
That's when the, that's when the world
allows us to set new goals, right?

974
00:38:20,625 --> 00:38:21,665
It doesn't have to be that.

975
00:38:21,665 --> 00:38:23,965
And so for me, I don't just even look
at the beginning of the year is like,

976
00:38:24,285 --> 00:38:26,105
this is the only time I can do this.

977
00:38:26,155 --> 00:38:29,025
It's Hey, every 90 days, I'm
going to revisit this and figure

978
00:38:29,025 --> 00:38:30,715
out what it is I want to change.

979
00:38:31,975 --> 00:38:33,275
So let me show you some stats.

980
00:38:33,275 --> 00:38:33,765
You're gonna love this.

981
00:38:33,765 --> 00:38:34,575
I'm a stat guy.

982
00:38:34,695 --> 00:38:35,155
Oh, me too.

983
00:38:35,155 --> 00:38:35,845
I can't wait, man.

984
00:38:35,855 --> 00:38:36,285
Let's go.

985
00:38:36,285 --> 00:38:37,160
38.

986
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:41,525
5 percent of us adults set new
year's resolutions every year.

987
00:38:42,575 --> 00:38:46,389
59 percent of those are
young adults, 18 to 34.

988
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:53,270
And they make up the largest demographic
set of those goldmate of that 38%, 48

989
00:38:53,270 --> 00:38:57,980
percent want to exercise more, making it
the most popular new year's resolution.

990
00:38:57,990 --> 00:38:59,690
The top three are all health related.

991
00:39:00,650 --> 00:39:06,050
23 percent quit in the first
two weeks and only 36 percent

992
00:39:06,050 --> 00:39:07,350
make it past the first month.

993
00:39:08,630 --> 00:39:11,270
9 percent and I've heard this
one a couple of different.

994
00:39:11,870 --> 00:39:15,510
So nine, eight to 9 percent
actually successfully fulfill

995
00:39:15,510 --> 00:39:16,770
their new year's resolution.

996
00:39:17,190 --> 00:39:20,480
While most people quit by the 19th
of January, the biggest group.

997
00:39:23,585 --> 00:39:25,405
That's, those are wild.

998
00:39:27,525 --> 00:39:28,595
Every single year.

999
00:39:28,835 --> 00:39:30,305
Go, go back and listen to that again.

1000
00:39:30,305 --> 00:39:31,275
Just, just listen to that.

1001
00:39:31,395 --> 00:39:34,095
So at the end of the day, it's only 9
percent that are actually making it.

1002
00:39:34,095 --> 00:39:34,705
And most of them.

1003
00:39:35,150 --> 00:39:36,280
Quit within 19 days.

1004
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:36,760
Is that right?

1005
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:37,620
Like that's kind of like that.

1006
00:39:38,010 --> 00:39:39,690
That is so wild to me, man.

1007
00:39:40,140 --> 00:39:40,860
And that's up.

1008
00:39:41,030 --> 00:39:44,590
Like I said, I actually go through, I,
I look up these stats every single year.

1009
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:46,400
Like I said, I'm a stat nerd.

1010
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,590
So these, these things
fascinate me somewhat.

1011
00:39:48,990 --> 00:39:51,470
So even before I was podcasting,
I actually would look up

1012
00:39:51,470 --> 00:39:52,650
these stats every year.

1013
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:57,420
And that's, uh, it was like down
to 7 percent being successful.

1014
00:39:58,030 --> 00:40:01,170
And I think depending on the
poll, you read it probably still.

1015
00:40:01,170 --> 00:40:02,670
It's that's why I said, yeah.

1016
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,660
The stat I found was nine, uh,
I'm going to say it's at seven

1017
00:40:06,660 --> 00:40:09,000
to nine percent because it kind
of fluctuates a little bit.

1018
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,490
But I've been looking
at these up for years.

1019
00:40:11,490 --> 00:40:12,980
So I laugh every time I read them.

1020
00:40:12,980 --> 00:40:14,260
It's like, wow.

1021
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,860
Cause we get towards new year's
every year and people, I hear

1022
00:40:17,860 --> 00:40:19,220
the same thing every year, right?

1023
00:40:19,220 --> 00:40:21,870
People start talking about,
oh, in the next year.

1024
00:40:22,050 --> 00:40:23,160
And that's my first response.

1025
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:25,770
What you said is like, why'd
you wait till January 1st?

1026
00:40:27,650 --> 00:40:28,090
I'm sorry.

1027
00:40:28,090 --> 00:40:28,780
Is that a priority?

1028
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:31,030
Why did you wait for
January 1st to do that?

1029
00:40:31,530 --> 00:40:32,270
It's a magic day.

1030
00:40:32,270 --> 00:40:32,920
You know that, right?

1031
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:34,140
So apparently.

1032
00:40:35,405 --> 00:40:40,325
Something happens, the moon and stars
align, but it cracks me up, right?

1033
00:40:40,675 --> 00:40:46,105
So many people who aren't even necessarily
goal oriented people just randomly go,

1034
00:40:47,405 --> 00:40:48,525
Yeah, this is what I'm going to do.

1035
00:40:49,365 --> 00:40:50,855
And the top three are all health related.

1036
00:40:50,855 --> 00:40:51,725
One's mental health.

1037
00:40:51,725 --> 00:40:56,085
One's physical health, weight loss
is I think the number one, uh, but a

1038
00:40:56,085 --> 00:41:01,495
lot of people are back in the gym and
as a personal trainer, like I hate

1039
00:41:01,535 --> 00:41:07,355
that part of the year from January
1st till about the end of February.

1040
00:41:08,435 --> 00:41:12,005
Because by March, 99 percent of
the people who came in on those

1041
00:41:12,005 --> 00:41:13,275
New Year's resolutions are gone.

1042
00:41:13,555 --> 00:41:14,155
So I don't care.

1043
00:41:14,155 --> 00:41:20,295
You know what man, it's, it's, it's
interesting that we, we talk about

1044
00:41:20,295 --> 00:41:21,485
again, going back to that date.

1045
00:41:21,845 --> 00:41:24,215
And if you think about it,
like, when are people eating the

1046
00:41:24,215 --> 00:41:25,375
worst when it comes to health?

1047
00:41:25,375 --> 00:41:28,355
And probably even like mentally
and emotionally the most unhealthy.

1048
00:41:29,435 --> 00:41:31,415
Not trying to be like bring
up a whole different topic.

1049
00:41:31,415 --> 00:41:34,055
But like sometimes even being around
families and stuff like that can really

1050
00:41:34,065 --> 00:41:35,325
bring up some of that wrong stuff.

1051
00:41:35,715 --> 00:41:39,925
And so like, I, here's something I'm
big on, man, is like, if I have a

1052
00:41:39,925 --> 00:41:41,765
goal coming up that I know I'm going
to start working on, like, what can

1053
00:41:41,765 --> 00:41:43,325
I do now to position myself for it?

1054
00:41:43,585 --> 00:41:46,035
It's just like, if you're like,
okay, in two weeks, we're going to

1055
00:41:46,045 --> 00:41:50,425
start, my kid's going to start, uh,
playing soccer in the evenings, right?

1056
00:41:50,425 --> 00:41:51,945
It's like, okay, well, let's
start clearing our evenings

1057
00:41:51,955 --> 00:41:52,905
now to get ready for it.

1058
00:41:52,925 --> 00:41:54,555
That's, that's something that
we do that we're proactive with

1059
00:41:54,595 --> 00:41:55,525
because like, okay, it's coming up.

1060
00:41:55,885 --> 00:41:56,925
Why don't we do that with our goals?

1061
00:41:57,185 --> 00:41:59,535
And so we were like, they hit that,
that January 1st day, like, okay,

1062
00:41:59,535 --> 00:42:02,365
time to lose weight, time to get
healthy mentally, physically, right?

1063
00:42:02,675 --> 00:42:03,045
All that.

1064
00:42:03,365 --> 00:42:06,415
Why don't you start the beginning of
December to be like, you know what?

1065
00:42:06,585 --> 00:42:08,285
I'm gonna take small
steps every single day.

1066
00:42:08,475 --> 00:42:11,295
I'm going to go for a 15 minute
walk every day leading up to it.

1067
00:42:11,295 --> 00:42:14,535
That way, when you get to the, the, if
you will start date of your goal, you're

1068
00:42:14,565 --> 00:42:16,325
already way ahead of everybody else.

1069
00:42:16,725 --> 00:42:18,975
And it's just like, you start
building that habit, that muscle.

1070
00:42:18,975 --> 00:42:21,375
And I think that would cause
you to succeed a lot more.

1071
00:42:21,695 --> 00:42:23,975
And so for me, I don't even
look at like, typically when I

1072
00:42:23,975 --> 00:42:25,445
write down a goal, it's funny.

1073
00:42:25,445 --> 00:42:27,775
Cause Alicia's like, haven't you
been doing that for like six months?

1074
00:42:27,775 --> 00:42:30,505
I'm like, yeah, but now I'm just going
to kick it in high gear, but I'm ready.

1075
00:42:30,525 --> 00:42:31,575
You know, like I'm primed.

1076
00:42:31,575 --> 00:42:32,315
I'm ready to go.

1077
00:42:32,685 --> 00:42:37,365
And typically, I don't, none of the
goals I said are like overly ambitious.

1078
00:42:37,795 --> 00:42:40,135
Uh, and I, I know I talked about
earlier, but like in a, in a different

1079
00:42:40,135 --> 00:42:44,605
way, I'm not like, it's to quadruple
the amount of time I spend in the gym,

1080
00:42:44,615 --> 00:42:46,035
you know, like, it's nothing like that.

1081
00:42:46,035 --> 00:42:49,015
It's like, hey, I want to, I want
to implement 10 extra minutes every

1082
00:42:49,015 --> 00:42:52,585
day of fitness or I want to end
work five minutes early every day.

1083
00:42:53,035 --> 00:42:54,815
And it's like, man, people are
like, that sounds really easy.

1084
00:42:54,815 --> 00:42:57,475
I'm like, maybe, but doing that
consistently for the next 90

1085
00:42:57,475 --> 00:42:59,085
days will ensure that it's easy.

1086
00:42:59,405 --> 00:43:01,045
And then I can take off five more, right?

1087
00:43:01,495 --> 00:43:04,345
And then so if I do that every 90 days,
that's 20 extra minutes of my day,

1088
00:43:04,345 --> 00:43:06,705
every 20 extra minutes every day for me.

1089
00:43:07,055 --> 00:43:09,395
Then I'm not working if I go with
that like work example, right?

1090
00:43:09,645 --> 00:43:12,175
And so I just think like starting right
away with the small little things,

1091
00:43:12,175 --> 00:43:15,085
knowing what it is that you want, whether
you're like, quote unquote, a goal person

1092
00:43:15,085 --> 00:43:17,205
or not, it's just a good discipline.

1093
00:43:17,205 --> 00:43:18,635
It's all about that consistency.

1094
00:43:18,635 --> 00:43:21,815
And the sooner you can start being
consistent, the sooner it becomes a

1095
00:43:21,815 --> 00:43:23,115
habit and becomes part of your life.

1096
00:43:24,470 --> 00:43:27,700
And actually this is a perfect segue
because guys, one of my biggest

1097
00:43:27,720 --> 00:43:30,900
goals with this episode, one of
the reasons I wanted to have Alex

1098
00:43:30,900 --> 00:43:35,160
on is Alex is really good at this.

1099
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:40,750
This is one of his really big
strengths is building successful

1100
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,370
goals and executing on those.

1101
00:43:43,860 --> 00:43:47,970
And one of my goals with this
episode is help you guys have a more

1102
00:43:47,970 --> 00:43:52,700
successful 20, 20, 24, as this episode
wraps out the year, I'm wanting

1103
00:43:52,700 --> 00:43:54,870
to equip you guys the best I can.

1104
00:43:55,290 --> 00:43:58,000
So that your 2024 is the
year you want it to be.

1105
00:43:58,510 --> 00:44:03,390
So we're going to dig into how to
actually execute on all this stuff.

1106
00:44:03,390 --> 00:44:05,370
We've kind of hedged
in there a little bit.

1107
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,570
We've been discussing clarity
and direction, success, getting

1108
00:44:08,570 --> 00:44:12,440
to know what that actually
looks like and how we get there.

1109
00:44:12,670 --> 00:44:15,090
And the next part of the show, we're
going to dive into how to apply this

1110
00:44:15,250 --> 00:44:18,950
in your life, be more successful
and have the best 2024 ever.

1111
00:44:19,355 --> 00:44:20,115
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1132
00:45:04,050 --> 00:45:04,500
Welcome back.

1133
00:45:04,510 --> 00:45:07,950
In the last part of the show, we discussed
clarity and direction and success.

1134
00:45:08,310 --> 00:45:09,210
And a bigger view.

1135
00:45:09,210 --> 00:45:13,970
We talked about how Alex has had
experience with that in his own life as

1136
00:45:13,970 --> 00:45:18,330
an entrepreneur and what kind of helped
and what didn't and a lot about Florida.

1137
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:19,180
Cause that's my fault.

1138
00:45:19,220 --> 00:45:24,030
I sidetracked that guys in this part of
the show, I want to talk about how to

1139
00:45:24,030 --> 00:45:29,030
apply some of these things to make this
year the most successful year of your

1140
00:45:29,090 --> 00:45:31,520
life, because we all do that, right?

1141
00:45:31,890 --> 00:45:33,440
Even though I'm not a big.

1142
00:45:34,705 --> 00:45:39,605
New year's resolution person gets the
wheels for a lot of people thinking in

1143
00:45:39,605 --> 00:45:41,845
a way that we're not usually thinking.

1144
00:45:41,855 --> 00:45:43,845
And I want you to be able
to take advantage of that.

1145
00:45:44,735 --> 00:45:46,535
So Alex, when you're.

1146
00:45:47,395 --> 00:45:48,615
Choosing a new mission, right?

1147
00:45:48,655 --> 00:45:53,285
When you chose podcasting,
that was a good goal for you.

1148
00:45:53,435 --> 00:45:56,965
How do you start to formulate that, right?

1149
00:45:56,965 --> 00:45:59,625
How do you start to create
clarity with a mission and a goal

1150
00:45:59,625 --> 00:46:01,845
and a dream when you have them?

1151
00:46:02,935 --> 00:46:06,525
It all, it all really starts with why
you're wanting to go that route anyway.

1152
00:46:06,625 --> 00:46:09,725
Um, starting with why, I know there's
like a book called that and stuff.

1153
00:46:09,725 --> 00:46:12,765
I'm not referring to that necessarily,
but just in general, sitting down and

1154
00:46:12,765 --> 00:46:15,215
figuring out why you're wanting to do
something and why you even think that

1155
00:46:15,215 --> 00:46:17,845
idea is there and if it's worth exploring.

1156
00:46:18,135 --> 00:46:20,455
Is a really important part of the process.

1157
00:46:20,555 --> 00:46:23,495
And so the way I like to do
that is I take pen and paper.

1158
00:46:23,705 --> 00:46:26,595
So my phone is not around me,
my computer is not around me.

1159
00:46:26,825 --> 00:46:28,405
I'm not in my normal environment.

1160
00:46:28,575 --> 00:46:31,925
Typically, I go somewhere where
I feel most inspired or that

1161
00:46:31,925 --> 00:46:34,505
I just feel creative, right?

1162
00:46:34,845 --> 00:46:36,895
And I sit there and I
sit alone, pen and paper.

1163
00:46:37,335 --> 00:46:38,495
And I just start writing it out.

1164
00:46:38,495 --> 00:46:40,385
Like, okay, what, like, why this?

1165
00:46:40,415 --> 00:46:41,525
Like, why am I thinking this?

1166
00:46:41,535 --> 00:46:42,725
Where would this potentially go?

1167
00:46:42,725 --> 00:46:44,405
What would this
potentially lead to, right?

1168
00:46:44,765 --> 00:46:46,955
And I'm, I'm not just talking
about like the money and the

1169
00:46:46,955 --> 00:46:47,765
different things like that, right?

1170
00:46:47,765 --> 00:46:50,025
And I'm like saying, okay, cause
again, going back to like how we

1171
00:46:50,025 --> 00:46:52,305
started this thing off, I talk about
fulfillment in life being what I'm after.

1172
00:46:52,305 --> 00:46:52,975
That's, that's me.

1173
00:46:52,975 --> 00:46:54,095
I'm a man on a mission for that, right?

1174
00:46:54,345 --> 00:46:57,085
How does this lead me closer
to fulfillment in life?

1175
00:46:57,525 --> 00:46:59,825
And so that's like the big
picture thing is writing it down.

1176
00:47:00,175 --> 00:47:03,975
And I'll be real half the time I do, I
do that practice every 90 days still.

1177
00:47:04,305 --> 00:47:08,125
And, um, part of the, part of the
thing that like always blows my mind

1178
00:47:08,125 --> 00:47:10,925
is like, I've got this little idea in
my head and when I go write it down.

1179
00:47:11,510 --> 00:47:13,060
I read it out and I'm
like, this is so silly.

1180
00:47:13,100 --> 00:47:16,180
I'm like, why, I didn't even think I
even wanted to do this at all, right?

1181
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,910
And so I kind of look at him
like, nah, I'm good, right?

1182
00:47:19,240 --> 00:47:20,120
But I got it out.

1183
00:47:20,140 --> 00:47:21,280
So now it's not stuck in my head.

1184
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,460
It's like, oh man, I think
I want to do this, right?

1185
00:47:23,810 --> 00:47:26,060
And I think that so many of us, we just
let it all float around in our head.

1186
00:47:26,070 --> 00:47:28,350
We're like, man, there's like 50
things I think I want to do in my life.

1187
00:47:28,690 --> 00:47:31,870
And the reality is you look, if you
like sat down, did this practice,

1188
00:47:31,870 --> 00:47:33,740
you'd be like, there's actually
only like two or three things that

1189
00:47:33,740 --> 00:47:34,960
actually really matter to me, I think.

1190
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,530
Um, but that, that to me is the start
of all practices isn't setting goals,

1191
00:47:38,540 --> 00:47:41,510
setting timelines, it's just sitting
down and like really hashing out.

1192
00:47:41,710 --> 00:47:43,090
What is this thought that I have?

1193
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:46,900
Cause here's the thing that like, it's
the, um, the productivity expert, David

1194
00:47:46,900 --> 00:47:52,090
Allen says your head is for having ideas,
not for, uh, not for like storing them

1195
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:54,400
and not for like expanding on them, right?

1196
00:47:54,450 --> 00:47:57,090
The, this is just the,
where ideas come from.

1197
00:47:57,340 --> 00:47:59,640
And from there, it's up to you to
do the discipline work of writing

1198
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,300
it out, thinking through it a little
bit more while documenting it.

1199
00:48:02,300 --> 00:48:05,210
That way your head isn't just
stuck with all this stuff, right?

1200
00:48:05,565 --> 00:48:07,735
And so that's where I
always recommend beginning.

1201
00:48:08,705 --> 00:48:11,955
That has been a hard
lesson for me for a year.

1202
00:48:12,315 --> 00:48:16,425
It took me years and years to
catch on to actually taking

1203
00:48:16,425 --> 00:48:17,585
the time to write things down.

1204
00:48:17,845 --> 00:48:22,845
Like I'd have all these ideas and
it took me years to understand

1205
00:48:22,885 --> 00:48:24,745
if I didn't like write them down.

1206
00:48:25,615 --> 00:48:28,905
Even if I don't have time to expand on
them right then and really develop them.

1207
00:48:29,745 --> 00:48:32,385
I will pull out my phone
like my Google Notes is full.

1208
00:48:32,945 --> 00:48:34,475
So many pages in Google Notes.

1209
00:48:35,275 --> 00:48:39,615
Where I have an idea,
I'm like, yeah, right.

1210
00:48:39,855 --> 00:48:44,195
I was on the road the other day and I was
going to get my friend from the airport.

1211
00:48:44,285 --> 00:48:50,535
And I, and I have this idea and it's like
such clarity, 40 miles of driving, such

1212
00:48:50,535 --> 00:48:54,965
clarity and I stopped to get a coffee
mainly as an excuse to sit in my car

1213
00:48:54,965 --> 00:48:59,145
for five minutes and get off the road
and like type all this up real quick.

1214
00:49:00,305 --> 00:49:03,145
The cliff notes version, so
I could go back to it later.

1215
00:49:03,145 --> 00:49:06,465
So I didn't forget on the
way back from that trip.

1216
00:49:07,535 --> 00:49:13,620
Um, That idea of getting it out of your
head, even if you can't deal with it

1217
00:49:13,620 --> 00:49:19,970
now, get it out of your head, then put
it where somewhere you can work on it.

1218
00:49:19,980 --> 00:49:22,560
I love the fact that you'd get
your phone out of the equation.

1219
00:49:23,970 --> 00:49:24,840
Yeah, I do.

1220
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,440
Because me being, I like statistics
like you, I like analytics.

1221
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:30,130
The first thing I do, I'm
like, has someone created this?

1222
00:49:30,420 --> 00:49:31,850
Has someone created
something like, like this?

1223
00:49:31,850 --> 00:49:33,120
I'm like, but I'm not there yet.

1224
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:33,310
Right?

1225
00:49:33,310 --> 00:49:34,740
Like, this is not that part of it.

1226
00:49:34,970 --> 00:49:35,290
And I.

1227
00:49:35,645 --> 00:49:38,715
Listen, if you're not like me and you're
like, I wouldn't look that type of thing

1228
00:49:38,715 --> 00:49:41,065
up, then maybe you're fine having your
phone around for music or whatever.

1229
00:49:41,065 --> 00:49:44,575
But for me, I just know my natural
tendencies is like to start exploring it

1230
00:49:44,585 --> 00:49:46,475
and getting way, way, way ahead of myself.

1231
00:49:46,855 --> 00:49:49,645
And so for me, it's just about writing
down and man, but I'll be real,

1232
00:49:49,645 --> 00:49:52,445
most of those ideas, again, that
aren't good, they're in a journal,

1233
00:49:52,465 --> 00:49:53,905
no one's ever going to see that.

1234
00:49:54,185 --> 00:49:56,795
And I've thrown away many of
those journals that are full of

1235
00:49:56,795 --> 00:49:59,235
ideas I've just decided, like,
really didn't make any sense.

1236
00:49:59,285 --> 00:50:01,395
I, that was just my brain thinking, right?

1237
00:50:01,725 --> 00:50:03,885
And processing and some people are
like, Oh, why would you get rid of that?

1238
00:50:03,885 --> 00:50:05,815
I'm like, it doesn't have
any weight or meaning.

1239
00:50:05,845 --> 00:50:08,695
It was me just going through it and
it's never coming back and that's fine.

1240
00:50:08,985 --> 00:50:11,995
But I do, if it's an idea I
actually have merit to, the next

1241
00:50:12,005 --> 00:50:13,355
step I do is I tell somebody.

1242
00:50:14,065 --> 00:50:17,515
And I just typically will tell a friend,
be like, Hey, can I like, just read this

1243
00:50:17,515 --> 00:50:21,275
to you again, not look at my, my scratch,
like I'm scratching all over paper.

1244
00:50:21,275 --> 00:50:21,445
Right.

1245
00:50:21,445 --> 00:50:23,435
Cause yeah, it's usually a mess.

1246
00:50:23,435 --> 00:50:25,295
Like when my brain just
like lets it all out.

1247
00:50:25,295 --> 00:50:25,555
Right.

1248
00:50:25,795 --> 00:50:27,475
Um, but I'll just run it by them.

1249
00:50:27,475 --> 00:50:30,975
And the thing that I've learned is
speaking, it does one of two things.

1250
00:50:30,995 --> 00:50:31,385
One.

1251
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:35,490
Gets me more on fire for
it, uh, or two makes me like

1252
00:50:35,490 --> 00:50:36,700
literally say out loud to them.

1253
00:50:36,720 --> 00:50:40,170
This is a really stupid You know, like
because now i'm like actually trying to

1254
00:50:40,180 --> 00:50:43,230
coherently process and i'm like, okay
wait this I like what I wrote on paper,

1255
00:50:43,230 --> 00:50:45,990
but now that I'm saying it, this sounds
really silly and like nothing to do.

1256
00:50:46,240 --> 00:50:47,880
And sometimes you're like,
Oh, no, it sounds cool.

1257
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:51,900
Other times when I use the right friend
as it's like this sounding board, they're

1258
00:50:51,900 --> 00:50:54,780
like, yeah, man, I don't think, I don't
know even what you're saying right now.

1259
00:50:54,780 --> 00:50:55,100
Right.

1260
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:56,890
And so typically that just
kind of goes in that list.

1261
00:50:56,890 --> 00:50:59,340
But if it's one that the person I'm
getting excited talking about it,

1262
00:50:59,350 --> 00:51:00,560
they're like, wow, this is really cool.

1263
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:02,060
I put it into a folder.

1264
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:05,380
I then transcribe the, the, uh, go into
a little bit more detailing pewter.

1265
00:51:05,380 --> 00:51:07,380
I put it in a folder and
I'll look at it later.

1266
00:51:07,565 --> 00:51:10,795
I'm not going to let it disrupt the
current goals that I'm working on,

1267
00:51:11,015 --> 00:51:14,235
but in 90 days, or if it's 30 days
from now or 60, because every nine

1268
00:51:14,245 --> 00:51:15,185
days I'm reviewing this, right?

1269
00:51:15,215 --> 00:51:18,585
However far along in that process, I
wait till that 90 day period is over.

1270
00:51:18,825 --> 00:51:21,455
And then I go back and review
this again and say, okay, is this

1271
00:51:21,455 --> 00:51:22,765
in line with what I'm doing now?

1272
00:51:22,785 --> 00:51:23,585
Is this for later?

1273
00:51:23,585 --> 00:51:25,345
Is this for somebody else, right?

1274
00:51:25,345 --> 00:51:27,045
Like what, what is this that I have here?

1275
00:51:27,245 --> 00:51:28,655
And that's when I'll go
back and review that.

1276
00:51:28,655 --> 00:51:31,875
And then I end up again, just
pen and paper somewhere alone.

1277
00:51:32,115 --> 00:51:33,505
Uh, but that is part of the process.

1278
00:51:33,820 --> 00:51:37,320
And typically, there's things that like,
I have in this, most of them are actually

1279
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:38,380
books at this point, which is funny.

1280
00:51:38,380 --> 00:51:41,300
Like, I'd like to write books in the
future, but I know that's in the future.

1281
00:51:41,470 --> 00:51:42,680
I'm not jumping ahead of myself now.

1282
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:46,070
There's some that I'm like, Hey, I'll do
this when I'm in my mid forties, right?

1283
00:51:46,070 --> 00:51:48,050
Like, and I just know like,
that's when I want to do this.

1284
00:51:48,060 --> 00:51:48,960
And that's much later.

1285
00:51:49,230 --> 00:51:53,140
But again, I got the idea out, ran it by a
friend, and put it in a folder somewhere,

1286
00:51:53,140 --> 00:51:54,640
and I'll do that later type of thing.

1287
00:51:54,860 --> 00:51:58,920
And I just think that again, that practice
is great for just clearing your mind

1288
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,500
and staying focused on the main thing
that you have in front of you right now.

1289
00:52:02,775 --> 00:52:10,875
I, I was listening and it was, it's
so funny, people, you tend to surround

1290
00:52:10,875 --> 00:52:14,745
yourself with, it's like our thought
process would work on so many levels in

1291
00:52:14,745 --> 00:52:19,045
the same, same path I was listening to you
talk about, you know, first you write it

1292
00:52:19,055 --> 00:52:25,235
down and then if it's good enough, you,
you say it out loud to somebody, uh, as

1293
00:52:25,235 --> 00:52:26,772
a former minister and a speaker, right.

1294
00:52:26,772 --> 00:52:28,805
And you've done a lot of
speaking over the years.

1295
00:52:29,815 --> 00:52:32,205
That's how most, if you guys don't speak.

1296
00:52:32,850 --> 00:52:35,920
You probably don't know, that's how
actually most good speeches start.

1297
00:52:36,620 --> 00:52:41,160
They start on paper and then you
run through them out loud and it's

1298
00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:42,080
just coming out of your mouth.

1299
00:52:42,090 --> 00:52:46,170
You're like, no, no, I don't
like the way that line flows.

1300
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:50,040
I would start out when I, when I was
a minister, I would start out with

1301
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:53,290
my sermon and I get it all on paper.

1302
00:52:53,720 --> 00:52:58,010
And then I'd preach through it
probably eight times before Sunday,

1303
00:52:58,010 --> 00:52:59,340
just preaching to empty pews.

1304
00:53:00,010 --> 00:53:02,240
And my sermon would start
at like an hour and a half.

1305
00:53:03,390 --> 00:53:05,240
It'd be 20 minutes by the time I was done.

1306
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,880
I got like highlighters and
I'm scratching stuff out.

1307
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:09,490
I'll preach there.

1308
00:53:09,490 --> 00:53:12,220
I'm like, no, I don't know that.

1309
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:12,930
No, that's dumb.

1310
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:14,010
Oh, this would be a better example.

1311
00:53:14,140 --> 00:53:14,510
Right.

1312
00:53:15,450 --> 00:53:19,620
But writing something down really
lets it flush out, but then you

1313
00:53:19,620 --> 00:53:23,050
start speaking through it and it's
amazing when you say it out loud,

1314
00:53:23,050 --> 00:53:25,760
you're like, what was I thinking?

1315
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:28,060
Right.

1316
00:53:28,130 --> 00:53:28,950
I've been there a lot.

1317
00:53:29,690 --> 00:53:30,520
Glad I'm not alone.

1318
00:53:31,410 --> 00:53:32,900
No, no, no, no.

1319
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:33,520
Alex.

1320
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,030
One of the things I think is
really important for us to

1321
00:53:36,030 --> 00:53:37,614
flush out a little bit here is.

1322
00:53:38,145 --> 00:53:42,235
Defining success, because a lot of
people have different ideas of what

1323
00:53:42,235 --> 00:53:45,505
success really looks like in their goals.

1324
00:53:46,595 --> 00:53:50,525
So how do you define success when you're
putting together a goal or a plan?

1325
00:53:51,675 --> 00:53:55,175
Man, first and foremost, it's getting
1 percent better myself every day.

1326
00:53:55,425 --> 00:53:57,775
Like I'm competitive,
but with Alex, right?

1327
00:53:57,775 --> 00:53:58,665
And that's it.

1328
00:53:58,785 --> 00:54:00,995
And so I think that first and
foremost, we need to take other

1329
00:54:01,315 --> 00:54:02,915
things and people out of the equation.

1330
00:54:03,205 --> 00:54:06,425
And one of the most common problems I
see in today's world that we're very

1331
00:54:06,425 --> 00:54:08,275
social media driven, very media driven.

1332
00:54:08,650 --> 00:54:15,200
And so we are very quick to compare,
compare 20 and be like, Oh man, I'm

1333
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,010
going to lift heavier, like Brent does,
but like, look how much weight he lifts.

1334
00:54:18,020 --> 00:54:18,840
How am I going to get there?

1335
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,220
And it's like, well, Brent
didn't just start this yesterday.

1336
00:54:21,240 --> 00:54:21,730
You did.

1337
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:22,190
Right.

1338
00:54:22,430 --> 00:54:25,940
So start off just getting 1 percent
stronger, 1 percent better every day.

1339
00:54:26,430 --> 00:54:28,953
And the more that you can
do that, eventually you end

1340
00:54:28,953 --> 00:54:30,044
up where you want to be.

1341
00:54:30,395 --> 00:54:34,105
But I think first and foremost, man,
this, this thing starts with you taking

1342
00:54:34,105 --> 00:54:37,035
others out of the equation, looking
internally and saying, what can I do

1343
00:54:37,055 --> 00:54:39,315
every day to just get 1 percent better?

1344
00:54:39,365 --> 00:54:40,885
I don't need these exponential leaps.

1345
00:54:40,885 --> 00:54:43,345
I don't need to be all
these things tomorrow.

1346
00:54:43,375 --> 00:54:45,885
I need to just be here today, right?

1347
00:54:46,055 --> 00:54:46,945
I don't know, man.

1348
00:54:47,525 --> 00:54:49,375
I know you're a trainer
and stuff like that.

1349
00:54:49,635 --> 00:54:51,395
Is that any advice that
you give along the way?

1350
00:54:51,395 --> 00:54:54,155
I'm actually very curious myself what you
would, how you'd answer this question.

1351
00:54:55,195 --> 00:54:58,265
Especially when it comes to things
like training that are long games.

1352
00:54:59,220 --> 00:55:07,880
I'm, I'm a hard proponent of incremental
growth, uh, is the term I use.

1353
00:55:08,380 --> 00:55:09,610
I'm, I'm huge.

1354
00:55:09,610 --> 00:55:12,940
Like I, it is something I'm focused on
with the fallible man when I'm talking to

1355
00:55:12,940 --> 00:55:15,100
people about personal development, right?

1356
00:55:15,100 --> 00:55:16,920
It's one choice today.

1357
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:19,290
Make one choice today that
makes you better tomorrow.

1358
00:55:19,590 --> 00:55:20,010
Right?

1359
00:55:20,065 --> 00:55:22,880
That's, that's 365 days
of growth right there.

1360
00:55:23,870 --> 00:55:25,610
Uh, and in the gym, it's the same thing.

1361
00:55:25,910 --> 00:55:28,790
When I'm training somebody, I'll
have people who are like, oh my

1362
00:55:28,820 --> 00:55:29,720
God, I'm not getting any better.

1363
00:55:29,720 --> 00:55:30,110
I was like, yes.

1364
00:55:30,110 --> 00:55:30,470
You are.

1365
00:55:31,150 --> 00:55:32,380
Like, well, the weights aren't going up.

1366
00:55:32,590 --> 00:55:33,790
No, that's fine.

1367
00:55:34,590 --> 00:55:39,130
But you took less rest between
your sets, the reps went up easier

1368
00:55:39,230 --> 00:55:41,000
than they did last week, right?

1369
00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:45,760
I see that from the outside, and that's
a measure of success for me as a trainer

1370
00:55:45,760 --> 00:55:52,810
watching people I work with is, oh look,
you aren't as dead after 5 sets of, you

1371
00:55:52,810 --> 00:55:56,460
know, 225 as you were last week, right?

1372
00:55:56,750 --> 00:56:00,420
By that 5th set of 225, like,
last couple reps you're dying.

1373
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:01,190
Right.

1374
00:56:01,610 --> 00:56:04,570
This week, it actually really
wasn't that hard for you to

1375
00:56:04,570 --> 00:56:06,340
get that last rep, you know.

1376
00:56:06,350 --> 00:56:10,890
So now Now we're shortening that
time between sets and so right there

1377
00:56:10,890 --> 00:56:15,500
are lots of ways to measure that I
think that's one of those being an

1378
00:56:15,510 --> 00:56:17,130
analytic guy like yourself, right?

1379
00:56:17,170 --> 00:56:17,930
That's one of those.

1380
00:56:18,515 --> 00:56:22,995
Data points, I think the more data
points you can put around your goals,

1381
00:56:24,675 --> 00:56:31,545
it gives you multiple ways to measure
success as opposed to one single linear.

1382
00:56:31,955 --> 00:56:33,255
This is what success looks like.

1383
00:56:34,605 --> 00:56:34,795
Yeah.

1384
00:56:34,795 --> 00:56:36,605
And a lot of that is, I love
that you share that, man.

1385
00:56:36,605 --> 00:56:39,145
It made me think about like, I'll,
I'll use this metaphorically, but

1386
00:56:39,215 --> 00:56:42,085
don't get on the scale every day,
physically don't do it either.

1387
00:56:42,350 --> 00:56:45,920
But the thing is like, I can remember like
talking to people that like were investing

1388
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:47,460
in training at the beginning of the year.

1389
00:56:47,460 --> 00:56:47,730
Right.

1390
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:48,890
And a lot of them would stop.

1391
00:56:48,890 --> 00:56:50,760
They're like, I didn't lose
a single pound in a week.

1392
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:52,620
I'm like, are you looking every day?

1393
00:56:52,660 --> 00:56:55,390
I'm like, results happen over time.

1394
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:55,650
Right.

1395
00:56:55,650 --> 00:56:59,550
Like they, and so for all of us, like
metaphorically speaking, same thing,

1396
00:56:59,550 --> 00:57:02,860
like 1 percent better doesn't look
like much different, like difference.

1397
00:57:02,860 --> 00:57:03,634
But when you wake up.

1398
00:57:04,015 --> 00:57:08,265
In 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, a year
later, if you're doing that consistently,

1399
00:57:08,265 --> 00:57:09,375
you're going to notice a difference.

1400
00:57:09,375 --> 00:57:13,385
And so for me, the way that I like to,
to set the right goals, to build out

1401
00:57:13,385 --> 00:57:17,765
the goals is saying, okay, what can I
do every day to get one step further?

1402
00:57:17,945 --> 00:57:20,495
And the thing is, if you're like, well,
my goal doesn't really work like that.

1403
00:57:20,495 --> 00:57:21,155
I'm writing a book.

1404
00:57:21,165 --> 00:57:24,155
It's like, well, can you
write 500 pages or 500 pages?

1405
00:57:24,185 --> 00:57:24,395
Wow.

1406
00:57:24,395 --> 00:57:26,055
500 words a day, right?

1407
00:57:26,055 --> 00:57:26,695
Can you do that?

1408
00:57:27,075 --> 00:57:28,885
And if people are like,
oh yeah, I can do that.

1409
00:57:29,475 --> 00:57:31,475
Then then great, that should be the goal.

1410
00:57:31,475 --> 00:57:34,725
And so for me, I don't even
look at the end goal too much.

1411
00:57:35,175 --> 00:57:37,115
I want to know where I'm going,
have some direction, right?

1412
00:57:37,155 --> 00:57:38,755
And I think that that
course is always changing.

1413
00:57:38,755 --> 00:57:42,495
But I really want to look at is what
is the daily action that Alex needs

1414
00:57:42,495 --> 00:57:45,965
to make room for in order to get this
end result that he eventually wants?

1415
00:57:46,435 --> 00:57:48,025
So how can I do this every single day?

1416
00:57:48,025 --> 00:57:50,765
Because here's it, at the end of the day,
man, it's already said, but consistency

1417
00:57:50,765 --> 00:57:52,715
is really the winner every single time.

1418
00:57:52,955 --> 00:57:55,165
What can you do consistently in your life?

1419
00:57:55,615 --> 00:57:57,215
And I think that that's
really key to all this.

1420
00:57:57,215 --> 00:57:59,285
So it's again, having the end goal, right?

1421
00:57:59,605 --> 00:58:01,735
But saying, okay, now
how, let me backtrack.

1422
00:58:01,745 --> 00:58:04,205
How do I make this a little individual
thing I do every day and how do I create

1423
00:58:04,205 --> 00:58:05,825
margin for it so I can do it consistently?

1424
00:58:05,825 --> 00:58:09,055
So it's not just once a week or once every
other week that we're doing that, right?

1425
00:58:09,375 --> 00:58:11,425
And so the gym is an easy example of this.

1426
00:58:11,845 --> 00:58:15,475
If you're like, I want to lose 10 pounds
and you don't set time aside every

1427
00:58:15,475 --> 00:58:18,025
day to work out, you're just working
out whenever you can, you're, you're

1428
00:58:18,025 --> 00:58:19,305
not going to hit that goal, right?

1429
00:58:19,305 --> 00:58:21,405
If you work out twice a
month, it's not going to help.

1430
00:58:21,775 --> 00:58:23,115
It's not going to get you closer to it.

1431
00:58:23,115 --> 00:58:23,825
You'd be better off.

1432
00:58:24,215 --> 00:58:26,955
Spending 10 minutes a day, if that's
all you can do, but building that into

1433
00:58:26,955 --> 00:58:30,255
your schedule, because you will notice
a difference after a set amount of time.

1434
00:58:31,885 --> 00:58:35,245
When you're setting goals, uh, one
of the things that I've experienced

1435
00:58:35,245 --> 00:58:39,795
with people is they set these
large, ambiguous goals, right?

1436
00:58:39,805 --> 00:58:42,065
That's, I think that's one of the,
actually the biggest downfalls of New

1437
00:58:42,065 --> 00:58:48,265
Year's resolutions is people go, I'm
going to lose 25 pounds or I'm, I'm

1438
00:58:48,265 --> 00:58:49,475
going to go to the gym five days a week.

1439
00:58:49,475 --> 00:58:52,225
And these are people who have never
been in the gym in their lives.

1440
00:58:52,655 --> 00:58:53,075
Right?

1441
00:58:53,485 --> 00:58:58,755
So it's this large, ambiguous goal, and
I think it sabotages a lot of people.

1442
00:58:58,755 --> 00:59:01,095
So how do you set a goal correctly?

1443
00:59:02,285 --> 00:59:05,445
This is going to sound super
weird, but I make a goal to make

1444
00:59:05,455 --> 00:59:07,585
all of my goals non outcome based.

1445
00:59:08,585 --> 00:59:09,565
And it sounds really weird, right?

1446
00:59:09,565 --> 00:59:10,795
Non outcome based goals.

1447
00:59:11,015 --> 00:59:11,475
Yes.

1448
00:59:11,545 --> 00:59:15,095
Maybe again, going back to like my,
my, my reflection, my vision time,

1449
00:59:15,385 --> 00:59:16,935
maybe I want to lose 20 pounds, right?

1450
00:59:17,195 --> 00:59:20,855
But I don't want to give myself a
goal that requires an outcome from

1451
00:59:20,855 --> 00:59:23,685
me instead of non outcome based
goal to me means, you know what?

1452
00:59:24,180 --> 00:59:28,030
I know that this will happen
automatically if I work out 12 minutes

1453
00:59:28,030 --> 00:59:30,250
a day and stop drinking soda, right?

1454
00:59:30,900 --> 00:59:32,990
I did the math, figured it
out, talked to a trainer.

1455
00:59:33,130 --> 00:59:34,290
That's all it takes to do that.

1456
00:59:34,470 --> 00:59:39,870
So now my goal is just every single day, I
avoid soda and I work out for 12 minutes.

1457
00:59:40,370 --> 00:59:41,820
I'm not tying myself to an outcome.

1458
00:59:41,820 --> 00:59:43,730
I might not even share the outcome, right?

1459
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:47,050
I might share it when I get there, but
I'm just gonna say, How many days in a

1460
00:59:47,050 --> 00:59:48,540
row have I worked out and not drank soda?

1461
00:59:48,885 --> 00:59:50,305
And to me, that's a
non outcome based goal.

1462
00:59:50,305 --> 00:59:51,865
And even my business, I do the same thing.

1463
00:59:52,085 --> 00:59:54,235
People are like, Oh, do you
have like a, in software, we

1464
00:59:54,235 --> 00:59:56,075
call it MRR and ARR, which is.

1465
00:59:56,430 --> 00:59:58,510
Monthly reoccurring revenue
and annual reoccurring revenue.

1466
00:59:58,510 --> 01:00:00,220
I'm like, no, I don't have any of that.

1467
01:00:00,430 --> 01:00:03,710
I'm like, my only goal is to, to help
people get podcast interviews out.

1468
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:05,390
And my goal is to have a
hundred of those a day.

1469
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:07,510
And that's actually on
the homepage of podmatch.

1470
01:00:07,510 --> 01:00:07,670
com.

1471
01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:08,980
If you go there and scroll
down, I'll show you how many

1472
01:00:08,980 --> 01:00:10,270
interviews happened last 24 hours.

1473
01:00:10,510 --> 01:00:12,130
I don't even look at the
back end of our stuff.

1474
01:00:12,130 --> 01:00:15,960
Because if I see a hundred interviews
happen today, check, I'm done, right?

1475
01:00:16,090 --> 01:00:18,160
My goal is just to help
people get to that point.

1476
01:00:18,465 --> 01:00:20,415
And everything else happens automatically.

1477
01:00:20,415 --> 01:00:23,325
Sure, I have a desire to make a
salary for myself and stuff, right?

1478
01:00:23,325 --> 01:00:26,185
Like, I want that to happen,
but it will happen automatically

1479
01:00:26,375 --> 01:00:27,605
based off these smaller things.

1480
01:00:27,605 --> 01:00:28,965
And I know that some of these
goals, you're like, well, there's

1481
01:00:28,965 --> 01:00:31,255
an outcome because you're not doing
this or you're doing that, right?

1482
01:00:31,565 --> 01:00:35,365
Sure, but as close as you possibly
can to a non outcome based goal is the

1483
01:00:35,375 --> 01:00:36,825
best thing that you can actually set.

1484
01:00:36,825 --> 01:00:41,265
Instead of this huge thing, because I'll
be real, losing 20 pounds, like, just

1485
01:00:41,275 --> 01:00:45,415
going back to that example, that is it,
for anybody, that is a really tough task.

1486
01:00:46,135 --> 01:00:49,775
But it's not hard to not drink
soda for 30 days in a row, right?

1487
01:00:50,125 --> 01:00:52,495
You only have one thing to do
every day, not drink soda, right?

1488
01:00:52,495 --> 01:00:53,535
And that is going to help.

1489
01:00:53,535 --> 01:00:57,475
So again, for me, I go to, I try
to build out as best I can, non

1490
01:00:57,485 --> 01:00:58,835
outcome based goals for myself.

1491
01:01:00,115 --> 01:01:05,225
And I want, Oh guys, let me point out one
of the things he didn't say in that, but

1492
01:01:05,225 --> 01:01:08,135
he said was all those goals are specific.

1493
01:01:09,285 --> 01:01:10,515
A hundred interviews a day.

1494
01:01:10,655 --> 01:01:12,545
That's that's very specific.

1495
01:01:13,385 --> 01:01:15,795
That's not, and it's not a
million interviews a day.

1496
01:01:15,835 --> 01:01:17,895
It's not a whole bunch of interviews.

1497
01:01:18,635 --> 01:01:21,255
A hundred interviews in the day, right?

1498
01:01:21,885 --> 01:01:25,565
Non outcome based, but
it's still very specific.

1499
01:01:26,585 --> 01:01:27,945
And it's something that's achievable.

1500
01:01:28,115 --> 01:01:30,485
If you're familiar with the
platform, it's absolutely achievable.

1501
01:01:31,035 --> 01:01:36,335
Uh, but it gives them a measurement
and it's still specific.

1502
01:01:37,405 --> 01:01:38,365
It's realistic.

1503
01:01:38,495 --> 01:01:39,485
It's achievable.

1504
01:01:39,860 --> 01:01:41,250
I, I'm a big fan of the concept.

1505
01:01:41,330 --> 01:01:43,640
You've seen the acronym
for smart goals, right?

1506
01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:45,200
Smart, measurable, blah, blah, blah.

1507
01:01:45,710 --> 01:01:49,900
We we've talked about them on the
show before, but it's not just this

1508
01:01:49,900 --> 01:01:54,750
ambiguous, I want to have the best
software out there for podcasters.

1509
01:01:55,970 --> 01:01:57,380
It's still very measurable.

1510
01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:00,870
It's still very realistic, right?

1511
01:02:00,870 --> 01:02:07,700
He can build to get those things done,
but he's not just going, ah, right.

1512
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:09,520
I, I, it drives me insane.

1513
01:02:09,550 --> 01:02:10,040
I see this.

1514
01:02:10,040 --> 01:02:12,050
So every, every new years, I see this.

1515
01:02:12,590 --> 01:02:15,260
Guys like I'm gonna I'm gonna work out
start working out five days a week or at

1516
01:02:15,260 --> 01:02:18,480
least four Have you ever been in a gym?

1517
01:02:19,790 --> 01:02:23,140
Like no, no, I'm not
throwing shade brother.

1518
01:02:23,140 --> 01:02:26,870
It's not a judgment It was when
was the last time you worked out?

1519
01:02:26,930 --> 01:02:28,390
Oh, I worked out all
the time in high school.

1520
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:34,090
You're 45 That's been a hot minute.

1521
01:02:34,100 --> 01:02:34,920
Do you understand?

1522
01:02:36,165 --> 01:02:37,775
All the details involved with that.

1523
01:02:37,805 --> 01:02:40,865
That's like, you know, putting
time in your schedule five days a

1524
01:02:40,865 --> 01:02:46,035
week, travel time, gym time, right?

1525
01:02:46,065 --> 01:02:52,055
That's that alone is a major shift
for anybody to put in four or five

1526
01:02:52,055 --> 01:02:54,965
days work, uh, worth of gym time.

1527
01:02:55,615 --> 01:02:59,405
Cause most people don't work out
at home, but they don't ever, Oh,

1528
01:02:59,405 --> 01:03:00,360
I'm going to start working out.

1529
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:02,030
Okay, well, where's the gym?

1530
01:03:02,810 --> 01:03:04,160
How long does it take you to get there?

1531
01:03:04,570 --> 01:03:05,990
What part of the day are you going to go?

1532
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:07,370
How long are you going to spend there?

1533
01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:10,120
How long does it take you to clean up
and go on to the next thing, right?

1534
01:03:10,170 --> 01:03:16,610
These little pieces that are
just, and, and, you know, no

1535
01:03:16,610 --> 01:03:18,040
wonder so many people fail, right?

1536
01:03:18,920 --> 01:03:21,480
And you know what you're saying, and
I'm glad you brought that point up, but

1537
01:03:21,490 --> 01:03:23,800
unspecific goals yield unspecific results.

1538
01:03:24,260 --> 01:03:27,300
And when I, when I, I get pitched
software ideas all the time,

1539
01:03:27,300 --> 01:03:28,310
just because I'm in software.

1540
01:03:28,670 --> 01:03:31,380
And when people just are like, I
want to like help people and it'll

1541
01:03:31,380 --> 01:03:32,700
probably be like this and like that.

1542
01:03:32,970 --> 01:03:34,860
And there's no real like direction for it.

1543
01:03:34,860 --> 01:03:38,690
I'm, I'm always very hesitant to
like invest any time to help them.

1544
01:03:38,690 --> 01:03:40,560
Not because I'm being rude or mean,
but I'm like, I don't think you've

1545
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:42,040
spent enough time to figure this out.

1546
01:03:42,455 --> 01:03:43,845
And that's, that's the thing right there.

1547
01:03:44,295 --> 01:03:47,555
If you've taken the time to figure
out what it is that you really want

1548
01:03:47,585 --> 01:03:50,395
and that how, what you need to do to
get there, your goal will be specific.

1549
01:03:50,815 --> 01:03:52,235
And so challenge yourself with this.

1550
01:03:52,245 --> 01:03:54,155
You're hearing this today and
you're saying, Oh, I feel like

1551
01:03:54,155 --> 01:03:55,375
my goals aren't super specific.

1552
01:03:55,385 --> 01:03:58,245
It probably means you don't understand
where it is that you want to go well

1553
01:03:58,245 --> 01:04:00,055
enough, or at least how to get there.

1554
01:04:00,055 --> 01:04:02,265
And if you need to seek
wise counsel on it, do it.

1555
01:04:02,265 --> 01:04:05,135
But the more specific your goal is,
the more likely it is that you're

1556
01:04:05,175 --> 01:04:07,635
going to achieve it because there's
actually something tangible, right?

1557
01:04:07,975 --> 01:04:11,670
Uh, Example, I always hear people,
like in my in, in podcasts be like,

1558
01:04:11,670 --> 01:04:12,690
I just wanna help more people.

1559
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:15,040
I'm like, okay, I don't
know what that means.

1560
01:04:15,070 --> 01:04:15,310
You know?

1561
01:04:15,310 --> 01:04:16,600
Like, I, I really don't
know what that means.

1562
01:04:16,600 --> 01:04:18,310
Are you talking about helping
people cross the street?

1563
01:04:18,660 --> 01:04:21,510
Are you talking like, what is
it that, that, that, that means?

1564
01:04:21,840 --> 01:04:25,080
Like, can you define that really well,
and I find that most people can't, I'm

1565
01:04:25,080 --> 01:04:27,210
not trying to be rude or mean that,
that people have trouble with it, but

1566
01:04:27,210 --> 01:04:30,330
the, again, if you figure out exactly
your lane and then what you're able

1567
01:04:30,330 --> 01:04:31,230
to do and you're like, you know what?

1568
01:04:31,625 --> 01:04:36,285
My job is to help five people every day
through the content that I'm creating

1569
01:04:36,295 --> 01:04:38,975
be able to level up as a man, right?

1570
01:04:39,185 --> 01:04:41,745
Like to be able to really figure out
what it means to be a better husband,

1571
01:04:41,745 --> 01:04:43,005
father, whatever it might be, right?

1572
01:04:43,245 --> 01:04:45,615
If you can really quantify it to
that level, I'm like, okay, now

1573
01:04:45,615 --> 01:04:49,635
you have my interest because you
have a specific goal in mind.

1574
01:04:49,645 --> 01:04:52,365
And that's, that makes it achievable
if you actually have something, right?

1575
01:04:52,675 --> 01:04:54,565
Uh, if my goal is just
to be happier in life.

1576
01:04:55,095 --> 01:04:56,265
It's pretty generic.

1577
01:04:56,455 --> 01:04:58,515
All I have to do is go watch more
movies and I'll, I'll get there.

1578
01:04:58,525 --> 01:04:59,105
Does that count though?

1579
01:04:59,145 --> 01:04:59,435
Right?

1580
01:04:59,495 --> 01:05:03,505
So I'm going to, I'm going to play
that part back for myself later.

1581
01:05:03,505 --> 01:05:04,425
Write down what you said.

1582
01:05:05,535 --> 01:05:06,145
I love it, man.

1583
01:05:06,355 --> 01:05:09,985
If there's, if there's anything
ambiguous about my plan, it has

1584
01:05:09,985 --> 01:05:13,885
always been that, like I've had
so many of my coaches, Brent, you

1585
01:05:13,885 --> 01:05:15,155
need to get more specific, right?

1586
01:05:15,155 --> 01:05:19,875
You need to get more specific
because I, I'm bad about guys.

1587
01:05:19,875 --> 01:05:20,865
I'm talking to myself here too.

1588
01:05:20,905 --> 01:05:22,245
Because lofty goals.

1589
01:05:22,425 --> 01:05:24,575
I said these lofty goals and do not get.

1590
01:05:25,715 --> 01:05:27,225
Clarity on them.

1591
01:05:27,225 --> 01:05:29,275
So this is as much for
me as it is for you guys.

1592
01:05:29,965 --> 01:05:31,505
Uh, but that was well stated.

1593
01:05:31,505 --> 01:05:32,275
I like that.

1594
01:05:33,355 --> 01:05:36,285
Replay that part right now.

1595
01:05:37,745 --> 01:05:40,725
We've talked about both
of us are analytic guys.

1596
01:05:40,935 --> 01:05:44,365
Um, and so I don't want to spend too
much time on this, but you keep hearing

1597
01:05:44,365 --> 01:05:45,985
that come out of our mouths guys, right?

1598
01:05:46,875 --> 01:05:52,555
You, you have analytics, I
believe probably just a ridiculous

1599
01:05:52,555 --> 01:05:55,555
level for both of your podcasts
and for your business, right?

1600
01:05:57,845 --> 01:05:58,855
Points of measurement.

1601
01:05:59,725 --> 01:06:04,315
In, in 20 degrees and,
you know, just everywhere.

1602
01:06:05,075 --> 01:06:09,295
Uh, I was actually having a conversation
about podcast analytics with a friend

1603
01:06:09,295 --> 01:06:10,955
of mine who just started his podcast.

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01:06:11,875 --> 01:06:15,465
And he's, he's been wanting to do this
for years and he's finally launched.

1605
01:06:16,405 --> 01:06:18,755
But he was like, Hey, where
do you guys track this?

1606
01:06:18,755 --> 01:06:19,355
Blah, blah, blah.

1607
01:06:19,385 --> 01:06:21,875
Cause he knows a couple of us
in our group who are podcasters.

1608
01:06:21,875 --> 01:06:24,045
And it's like, uh, right.

1609
01:06:24,550 --> 01:06:27,730
Looking for those numbers,
guys, measurable things,

1610
01:06:27,770 --> 01:06:30,490
crackable things, get achieved.

1611
01:06:32,310 --> 01:06:36,080
If you can quantify your goals
with crackable, measurable data.

1612
01:06:36,770 --> 01:06:38,400
So give yourself waypoints.

1613
01:06:38,510 --> 01:06:41,230
If you want to succeed at
them, give yourself waypoints.

1614
01:06:41,480 --> 01:06:42,280
What does it look like?

1615
01:06:42,470 --> 01:06:46,340
Understand what that success is and
understand how to track those as they go.

1616
01:06:46,910 --> 01:06:49,570
Now, we have to start landing this plane.

1617
01:06:49,570 --> 01:06:55,860
So, Alex, from your experience,
okay, for our audience.

1618
01:06:56,345 --> 01:06:59,175
If they're wanting to start
2024 off, cause this is, this

1619
01:06:59,185 --> 01:07:00,165
is the new year's episode.

1620
01:07:01,540 --> 01:07:06,530
They're looking to launch 2024 off and
be successful at their goals, right?

1621
01:07:06,980 --> 01:07:09,370
And of course they have to
pick their own goal, right?

1622
01:07:09,420 --> 01:07:13,320
We, we, we can't find them a goal
for that, but what are the first

1623
01:07:13,420 --> 01:07:18,360
three steps they need to do to
make that goal successful in 2024?

1624
01:07:19,260 --> 01:07:21,630
The very first thing that these
three steps need to do, if you want

1625
01:07:21,630 --> 01:07:24,650
your goals to succeed in 2024, the
first three things you need to do.

1626
01:07:24,880 --> 01:07:26,380
Number one is before the goal.

1627
01:07:26,700 --> 01:07:27,680
And it's to make room.

1628
01:07:28,900 --> 01:07:32,780
There's a, there's a concept called
necessary endings, which means what got

1629
01:07:32,780 --> 01:07:34,970
you here won't get you further, right?

1630
01:07:35,250 --> 01:07:37,770
And so the whole idea is like, you've
picked up things in your life that

1631
01:07:37,770 --> 01:07:40,720
you've done, they've served you to this
point, but they're not going to serve

1632
01:07:40,720 --> 01:07:43,280
you, or at least the law of diminishing
return will say that they're not going

1633
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:44,840
to serve you as well moving forward.

1634
01:07:45,110 --> 01:07:46,750
And that's what I call a necessary ending.

1635
01:07:47,060 --> 01:07:49,370
The first thing before you even
try to set a goal is you have to

1636
01:07:49,370 --> 01:07:51,010
remove some things from your plate.

1637
01:07:51,445 --> 01:07:53,465
You need to have more margin, right?

1638
01:07:53,495 --> 01:07:55,315
Like, so you have to
actually clear things.

1639
01:07:55,565 --> 01:07:58,105
It's like, imagine if you're just
piling all your stuff on a table,

1640
01:07:58,105 --> 01:08:01,455
eventually you can't put anything else
on it because it's too full, right?

1641
01:08:01,775 --> 01:08:03,775
But if you just push all this
stuff off, not that you'd

1642
01:08:03,775 --> 01:08:04,685
want to do it that way, right?

1643
01:08:04,875 --> 01:08:06,975
You don't have room to
set something else down.

1644
01:08:07,205 --> 01:08:08,795
You want to think of your life that way.

1645
01:08:08,795 --> 01:08:11,935
So step one is to make sure that
you're first off saying, okay, what

1646
01:08:11,935 --> 01:08:13,465
is a necessary ending in my life?

1647
01:08:13,755 --> 01:08:16,615
What is something that maybe has
served me or maybe even not served you?

1648
01:08:16,615 --> 01:08:17,905
Like let's, let's just call it that too.

1649
01:08:17,945 --> 01:08:20,095
Things that you're doing that you
know are not serving you well.

1650
01:08:20,540 --> 01:08:24,530
Find those things, make room and now
say, okay, that's step one, right?

1651
01:08:24,550 --> 01:08:25,840
Now I have space.

1652
01:08:26,150 --> 01:08:29,720
Step two, as we're talking about today
is just get really specific with what

1653
01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:30,910
it is that you want to accomplish.

1654
01:08:30,910 --> 01:08:33,750
So do that reflecting time, figure
it out, write it down, get really

1655
01:08:33,750 --> 01:08:37,130
specific with the goal, but don't
just keep the goal in front of you.

1656
01:08:37,130 --> 01:08:39,920
And I think that's the mistake you will
put on the mirror, lose 25 pounds, right?

1657
01:08:40,260 --> 01:08:44,020
No say today, I will work out for
12 minutes and not drink soda.

1658
01:08:44,480 --> 01:08:46,900
And I always got to wait because
it's just the easiest one.

1659
01:08:46,900 --> 01:08:48,100
I know it's the most common goal as well.

1660
01:08:48,100 --> 01:08:48,350
Right.

1661
01:08:48,650 --> 01:08:52,180
But that's what you want to write down
and somewhere hidden tucked away in a

1662
01:08:52,180 --> 01:08:56,150
notebook that you on a set date, you put
your calendar to review is the bigger

1663
01:08:56,180 --> 01:08:57,730
goal that you have right to review that.

1664
01:08:57,730 --> 01:09:00,790
Make sure you still want it, which
you might realize when you're doing

1665
01:09:00,790 --> 01:09:02,990
this, you're not drinking soda and
you're working out 12 minutes a day.

1666
01:09:02,990 --> 01:09:05,390
I'm just using those times as example,
not saying that's what you should do.

1667
01:09:05,690 --> 01:09:08,675
You might notice after a month, You lose
10 pounds and you're like, you know what?

1668
01:09:08,705 --> 01:09:10,995
I would look really bad
if I lost 25 pounds.

1669
01:09:10,995 --> 01:09:12,015
Like I'd be too skinny.

1670
01:09:12,495 --> 01:09:14,305
Now the goal is already hidden away.

1671
01:09:14,305 --> 01:09:15,405
So when you get to it,
you're like, you know what?

1672
01:09:15,615 --> 01:09:16,325
This was ridiculous.

1673
01:09:16,325 --> 01:09:17,745
It only needs to be 15, right?

1674
01:09:17,945 --> 01:09:20,885
You now know that, but what's written
down in front of you is the daily

1675
01:09:20,885 --> 01:09:22,715
repeatable action that you can do.

1676
01:09:23,015 --> 01:09:24,805
The third thing is to get
out there and tell somebody.

1677
01:09:25,540 --> 01:09:26,640
There's a lot of data around this.

1678
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:29,620
I didn't prepare, uh, the
actual, like, statistic of it.

1679
01:09:29,840 --> 01:09:32,420
Uh, I don't, I, me and Brent
both love that, so I'm trying

1680
01:09:32,420 --> 01:09:33,450
not to get too deep into it.

1681
01:09:33,630 --> 01:09:36,810
But I know it's a very high percentage
just by telling people what you are

1682
01:09:36,830 --> 01:09:38,650
going to do, what your intentions are.

1683
01:09:39,110 --> 01:09:42,320
Makes it that much more likely
that you actually achieve it.

1684
01:09:42,430 --> 01:09:44,590
So write it down and then tell somebody.

1685
01:09:44,790 --> 01:09:47,870
And I don't mean go to be like, this is
the year I'm gonna lose weight, right?

1686
01:09:48,040 --> 01:09:51,220
No, get really specific and don't
even post it as a New Year resolution.

1687
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:55,330
Say, I realize for my long term health,
for my family, for my future family, for

1688
01:09:55,330 --> 01:09:58,920
my job, for everything that I'm doing
in my life as a man, that I would be

1689
01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:00,980
better off if I were 15 pounds lighter.

1690
01:10:01,180 --> 01:10:04,330
What I am committed to doing is
working out every single day for 12

1691
01:10:04,330 --> 01:10:05,930
minutes and not drinking any soda.

1692
01:10:06,190 --> 01:10:07,870
For this entire year, right?

1693
01:10:07,980 --> 01:10:09,270
No sodas in this.

1694
01:10:09,370 --> 01:10:10,560
And so I'm committing to that.

1695
01:10:10,680 --> 01:10:13,270
And I ask that some of you that really
care about me, hold me accountable

1696
01:10:13,270 --> 01:10:14,700
and check in on me with this.

1697
01:10:15,355 --> 01:10:18,255
That is a terrifying thing to do that
I just shared right like I summarize it

1698
01:10:18,255 --> 01:10:22,155
really easily, but I'm telling you if
you make this margin get really specific

1699
01:10:22,175 --> 01:10:25,075
with that goal and focus on the daily
action that's required to achieve the

1700
01:10:25,075 --> 01:10:28,705
bigger goal that's logged away somewhere
right and then you tell people about that

1701
01:10:28,855 --> 01:10:34,385
in a very personal not like New Year's
resolution right in a very very specific

1702
01:10:34,385 --> 01:10:37,535
way that it just feels raw that feels
like man this person's so serious they're

1703
01:10:37,535 --> 01:10:40,645
passionate to do this when you share
it that way and you bring people in his

1704
01:10:40,645 --> 01:10:45,170
accountability I'm telling you like you
are you It's, it's not a guarantee, but

1705
01:10:45,170 --> 01:10:48,140
it's pretty darn close to a guarantee
that you are going to reach that goal.

1706
01:10:48,140 --> 01:10:51,560
As long as you stay committed every
single day and remain consistent with it.

1707
01:10:51,590 --> 01:10:53,860
And so those are the three things
that I would, I would end with Brent.

1708
01:10:55,315 --> 01:10:57,675
Alex, where's the best place
for people to connect with you?

1709
01:10:58,405 --> 01:10:59,685
Everything I do is at podmatch.

1710
01:10:59,685 --> 01:11:00,045
com.

1711
01:11:00,305 --> 01:11:02,095
And if you're like, man, I'm
not interested in podcasting,

1712
01:11:02,095 --> 01:11:04,505
scroll to the bottom that has
my social media stuff on it.

1713
01:11:04,505 --> 01:11:05,545
You can find me from there.

1714
01:11:05,785 --> 01:11:08,385
Uh, and if you reach out in any
way, you're going to either hear

1715
01:11:08,385 --> 01:11:11,045
from me or my wife, and we've
intentionally built it that way.

1716
01:11:11,245 --> 01:11:13,805
And if you say, Hey, I'm looking for
Alex, she'll be like, cool, here's Alex.

1717
01:11:13,815 --> 01:11:15,175
So, uh, podmatch.

1718
01:11:15,175 --> 01:11:16,125
com has everything I do.

1719
01:11:16,125 --> 01:11:16,765
And then if you're.

1720
01:11:17,050 --> 01:11:19,610
Uh, if you're interested in the podcast
side, you'll find the podcast thing.

1721
01:11:19,610 --> 01:11:21,660
It's simple show, uh, right there as well.

1722
01:11:21,690 --> 01:11:23,430
Um, but man, I recommend
hanging out here, man.

1723
01:11:23,430 --> 01:11:23,960
The fallible man.

1724
01:11:23,960 --> 01:11:26,330
This is an incredible podcast
that I personally have

1725
01:11:26,330 --> 01:11:27,370
learned and grown for myself.

1726
01:11:27,370 --> 01:11:28,330
So thanks again, Brent.

1727
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:30,050
Very, very generous there.

1728
01:11:30,050 --> 01:11:30,340
Right.

1729
01:11:30,620 --> 01:11:31,710
And guys, we'll have all the links.

1730
01:11:31,710 --> 01:11:32,810
I want you to find pot.

1731
01:11:33,030 --> 01:11:36,590
I want to do, I want you to
find Alex guys after the show.

1732
01:11:36,590 --> 01:11:38,570
So we'll have all those links
down in the description and shown

1733
01:11:38,570 --> 01:11:39,780
us just like always for you.

1734
01:11:40,320 --> 01:11:41,770
Uh, Alex is our friend.

1735
01:11:42,170 --> 01:11:44,650
I think him and Alicia are
amazing and doing amazing work.

1736
01:11:44,960 --> 01:11:47,850
It's one of the reasons I wanted to bring
him on for this end of the year show.

1737
01:11:48,700 --> 01:11:50,380
Now, I know you're all worried about this.

1738
01:11:50,630 --> 01:11:54,220
Alex is actually one of my few guests who
was keeping track of this in his mind.

1739
01:11:54,950 --> 01:11:58,290
When were Guy Fawkes and
Gunpowder Plot discovered?

1740
01:11:59,070 --> 01:12:04,410
And Alex, you said 1705,
the answer is 1605.

1741
01:12:05,320 --> 01:12:09,350
Ah, man, I know you say this, but people
almost never get their question right.

1742
01:12:09,350 --> 01:12:10,590
So I'm not going to hold myself to it.

1743
01:12:10,590 --> 01:12:14,360
But I just listened to an episode
that you did with Bryce Kenny.

1744
01:12:15,090 --> 01:12:17,170
He's like a monster truck
driver and he got it right.

1745
01:12:17,640 --> 01:12:21,150
And I feel like you set him up for
failure kind of by saying American

1746
01:12:21,150 --> 01:12:22,570
football and European football.

1747
01:12:23,630 --> 01:12:24,920
Anyway, go back and listen to that.

1748
01:12:25,160 --> 01:12:27,980
Um, also he has a really
interesting, um, favorite snack.

1749
01:12:27,990 --> 01:12:29,450
So go back and listen to
that episode, everybody.

1750
01:12:29,450 --> 01:12:32,480
But, uh, anyway, I'm not gonna hold
myself too much to it, but man,

1751
01:12:32,630 --> 01:12:33,820
I was only a hundred years off.

1752
01:12:35,050 --> 01:12:35,680
It's not bad, right?

1753
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:36,730
No, that's not bad.

1754
01:12:36,980 --> 01:12:39,050
Considering the scope of history,
I'm asking you to recall.

1755
01:12:39,050 --> 01:12:42,460
So very few people, they don't
even teach that most of the time.

1756
01:12:42,460 --> 01:12:44,780
So, you know, that's,
that's a pretty good jump.

1757
01:12:45,760 --> 01:12:51,580
Alex, in the year for us, if our
audience hears nothing else today,

1758
01:12:51,620 --> 01:12:52,510
what do you want them to hear?

1759
01:12:54,610 --> 01:12:58,320
You owe it to yourself, become the
best version of yourself to live life

1760
01:12:58,320 --> 01:13:03,640
at the fullest is something that you
really deserve and that you should do.

1761
01:13:03,640 --> 01:13:06,470
And I feel that so many of us in
society today, we just kind of settle

1762
01:13:06,480 --> 01:13:08,210
for what society puts in front of us.

1763
01:13:08,550 --> 01:13:11,590
But if you sit down and reflect and
think about what you want, I think you'll

1764
01:13:11,590 --> 01:13:16,180
realize it's not only counterculture, but
it's just really different than what maybe

1765
01:13:16,180 --> 01:13:17,570
you're used to in your daily routines.

1766
01:13:17,940 --> 01:13:20,470
And so my thing is just sit back
and really think about, Hey, what

1767
01:13:20,470 --> 01:13:21,890
is it that really wanted this life?

1768
01:13:22,305 --> 01:13:25,585
And start taking tangible steps, little
things every day to start getting closer

1769
01:13:25,585 --> 01:13:28,855
to it, because I find that the more we
do this more intentionally or with our

1770
01:13:28,855 --> 01:13:30,875
time, the more we really get out of life.

1771
01:13:31,065 --> 01:13:33,855
And I just am so sad seeing people
that aren't making it there.

1772
01:13:33,855 --> 01:13:34,565
So I encourage you.

1773
01:13:35,130 --> 01:13:37,220
Reflect, do this thing, get out there.

1774
01:13:37,490 --> 01:13:39,680
And I just think that you'll
learn to enjoy life more than

1775
01:13:39,680 --> 01:13:40,910
you ever even thought possible.

1776
01:13:42,190 --> 01:13:44,460
Guys, as always be better
tomorrow, because what you do

1777
01:13:44,460 --> 01:13:45,740
today, we'll see you next year.

1778
01:13:48,130 --> 01:13:50,230
This has been the fallible man podcast.

1779
01:13:51,180 --> 01:13:56,590
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1780
01:13:56,710 --> 01:13:59,270
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1781
01:14:01,970 --> 01:14:02,190
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1782
01:14:02,190 --> 01:14:06,290
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1783
01:14:07,525 --> 01:14:10,315
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