Apathetic Men | Time to Wake Up

1 00:00:00,810 --> 00:00:04,530 Are you feeling lost, unfulfilled, or indifferent towards life? 2 00:00:05,310 --> 00:00:06,420 It happens to us all. 3 00:00:07,470 --> 00:00:11,250 Do you find yourself lacking the motivation and drive to pursue your goals? 4 00:00:12,090 --> 00:00:16,170 If so, you may be experiencing avie a condition that is becoming increasingly 5 00:00:16,170 --> 00:00:21,930 common among men, and it's time to wake up and step into your life and 6 00:00:21,930 --> 00:00:23,370 reclaim your birthright as a man. 7 00:00:23,910 --> 00:00:24,270 Let's get. 8 00:00:25,470 --> 00:00:29,680 I won't, won't. 9 00:00:30,630 --> 00:00:32,080 Here's the million dollar question. 10 00:00:32,490 --> 00:00:34,800 How do men like us reach our full potential? 11 00:00:35,340 --> 00:00:39,330 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 12 00:00:39,690 --> 00:00:44,100 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 13 00:00:45,060 --> 00:00:46,590 Well, that's the big question. 14 00:00:47,310 --> 00:00:50,220 In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more. 15 00:00:50,430 --> 00:00:52,680 My name is Brent, and welcome to the Fbu Man. 16 00:00:56,170 --> 00:01:01,080 Mission in today's society, men are facing a crisis of apathy as they struggle to 17 00:01:01,085 --> 00:01:03,180 find meaning and purpose in their lives. 18 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,590 From the pressures of work and relationships to constant bombardment 19 00:01:07,595 --> 00:01:18,720 of negative news, social media, and just the pressures of life, men are feeling 20 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,850 overwhelmed and disengaged from the world. 21 00:01:22,055 --> 00:01:25,185 In this episode, we're gonna explore the impact of Athe on Men and 22 00:01:25,185 --> 00:01:29,535 provide a couple actionable steps to help you break free from his grip. 23 00:01:30,525 --> 00:01:33,465 By the way, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all 24 00:01:33,465 --> 00:01:35,025 things, man, husband, and father. 25 00:01:35,715 --> 00:01:37,005 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 26 00:01:37,005 --> 00:01:40,395 You guys keep us on the air and make these shows possible and warm. 27 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:41,925 Welcome to our first time listeners. 28 00:01:41,925 --> 00:01:42,975 Thanks for joining us. 29 00:01:43,275 --> 00:01:45,405 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 30 00:01:47,445 --> 00:01:51,315 Apti is a growing concern among men affecting their physical, 31 00:01:51,315 --> 00:01:53,145 emotional, and psychological health. 32 00:01:53,715 --> 00:01:57,885 It's characterized by a lack of motivation, interest and enthusiasm 33 00:01:57,885 --> 00:02:02,265 towards life, resulting in filling the, the fillings of detachment 34 00:02:02,415 --> 00:02:03,885 from the world around them. 35 00:02:04,365 --> 00:02:08,055 It looks a lot like depression is not necessarily the exact same thing. 36 00:02:09,255 --> 00:02:12,615 There are several factors that contribute to the development of aptiom men. 37 00:02:13,725 --> 00:02:18,315 Societal expectations, cultural norms, they play significant roles in 38 00:02:18,315 --> 00:02:20,114 shaping men's attitudes towards life. 39 00:02:21,285 --> 00:02:22,785 They're also external factors. 40 00:02:22,785 --> 00:02:26,535 Like I said, you can get really negative input because life, right 41 00:02:26,535 --> 00:02:28,725 news, social media can be so negative. 42 00:02:28,730 --> 00:02:32,834 It really impacts you and you don't even know it's happening a lot of times. 43 00:02:33,810 --> 00:02:37,620 Men are often expected to be strong, stoic, and unemotional, leading them to 44 00:02:37,620 --> 00:02:41,850 suppress their feelings sometimes and their desires, which can also result 45 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,040 in a lack of purpose and direction. 46 00:02:44,490 --> 00:02:50,609 We talk about needing to have healthy outlets for those things and being in 47 00:02:50,609 --> 00:02:53,970 control of them while not suppressing them frequently here on the show. 48 00:02:54,750 --> 00:02:58,260 Moreover, personal experiences such as job loss, relationship 49 00:02:58,260 --> 00:03:02,180 breakdowns, and traumatic events can lead to a feeling of a. 50 00:03:03,855 --> 00:03:08,804 Men may feel disillusioned, they may feel hopeless, and it just leads 51 00:03:08,804 --> 00:03:10,454 to a lack of motivation and drive. 52 00:03:11,024 --> 00:03:14,475 The impact of app, the men's physical and emotional health is significant. 53 00:03:14,924 --> 00:03:19,484 Apti can lead to feelings of fatigue, sleep disturbances, and lack of appetite 54 00:03:19,905 --> 00:03:21,734 resulting in physical exhaustion. 55 00:03:21,975 --> 00:03:27,105 In addition, many men experience emotional numbness and the inability to connect with 56 00:03:27,105 --> 00:03:31,454 others, and that feeling of loneliness, which can lead to depression and. 57 00:03:33,345 --> 00:03:38,505 Furthermore, apathy can be, can have a profound impact on men's relationships, 58 00:03:38,505 --> 00:03:40,275 both personal and professional. 59 00:03:40,905 --> 00:03:44,535 Men may find it challenging to connect with others leading to strained 60 00:03:44,535 --> 00:03:49,665 relationships and lack of social support or emotional support in the workplace. 61 00:03:49,670 --> 00:03:53,085 Apathy can lead to poor job performance, lack of engagement, and reduce 62 00:03:53,085 --> 00:03:58,245 productivity, ultimately impacting your career growth, advancement, 63 00:03:58,245 --> 00:04:00,945 and just overall work life. 64 00:04:00,945 --> 00:04:01,305 Right. 65 00:04:02,565 --> 00:04:08,685 It, it, it's this evil little nasty thing, guys that's just back there 66 00:04:08,685 --> 00:04:12,225 picking at you and you don't even know it Sometimes understanding the 67 00:04:12,225 --> 00:04:15,555 causes and effects of empathy, of apathy is essential to addressing the 68 00:04:15,555 --> 00:04:18,555 issue and prevent long-term impacts. 69 00:04:18,975 --> 00:04:21,945 It's time for men to wake up and recognize the science of apathy 70 00:04:22,065 --> 00:04:25,215 to take action and to regain their vitality and purpose in their. 71 00:04:26,895 --> 00:04:31,905 Now, although apathy can be debilitating, there are practical steps that men can 72 00:04:31,905 --> 00:04:35,115 take to overcome this condition and regain their sense of purpose and meaning. 73 00:04:35,865 --> 00:04:39,105 Here are three actionable steps that men can take to break 74 00:04:39,105 --> 00:04:40,755 free from the cycle of apathy. 75 00:04:42,975 --> 00:04:45,165 And please, guys, if you're, you're, you're feeling this? 76 00:04:45,165 --> 00:04:46,065 No, you're not alone. 77 00:04:46,515 --> 00:04:46,545 Okay. 78 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:49,980 I've struggled with apathy in my life. 79 00:04:50,280 --> 00:04:52,620 I know a lot of men who have struggled with apathy in their own life. 80 00:04:52,620 --> 00:04:55,680 That's why I wanted to talk about the in this episode, because it's one of 81 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:57,930 those things we just don't talk about. 82 00:04:58,710 --> 00:05:00,960 So, number one, practice self-reflection. 83 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:06,120 The first step towards overcoming apathy is to step back and reflect 84 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:07,730 on what truly matters in your. 85 00:05:08,924 --> 00:05:11,655 I was sitting in a conference earlier today and there was a 86 00:05:11,655 --> 00:05:17,684 great conversation about what actually does success look like? 87 00:05:18,705 --> 00:05:22,034 And the speaker was talking about success isn't always measured in 88 00:05:22,034 --> 00:05:25,155 the numbers that we were focusing on cause it was a podcasting conference. 89 00:05:25,784 --> 00:05:32,645 But in the takeaway in fulfillment, your audience gets in it and how your audience 90 00:05:32,650 --> 00:05:34,664 reacts to what they're doing, right? 91 00:05:34,844 --> 00:05:40,330 Like, In this case, as you're reflecting on what's important, what actually 92 00:05:40,335 --> 00:05:44,040 matters to you, you may find is not the things you thought it was. 93 00:05:44,745 --> 00:05:45,044 Right. 94 00:05:45,044 --> 00:05:46,664 It may not be that high salary. 95 00:05:46,664 --> 00:05:50,145 It may not be the, you know, important titles. 96 00:05:50,205 --> 00:05:51,495 It may be something entirely different. 97 00:05:51,674 --> 00:05:55,094 Maybe you measure it or hopefully you measure it in family and life you 98 00:05:55,185 --> 00:05:56,924 interact with and the people around you. 99 00:05:57,885 --> 00:06:01,844 But self-reflection can really help men identify their values, their 100 00:06:01,844 --> 00:06:06,465 passions, their purpose, and provide a clear direction for their lives. 101 00:06:06,765 --> 00:06:10,575 It's essential to set aside some time to reflect on your goals and aspir. 102 00:06:11,460 --> 00:06:13,310 Identify any barriers that may be holding you back and 103 00:06:13,310 --> 00:06:15,050 develop a plan to move forward. 104 00:06:16,100 --> 00:06:17,810 Number two is change the conversation. 105 00:06:18,740 --> 00:06:22,100 Seeking support from others is a powerful way to overcome apathy. 106 00:06:22,575 --> 00:06:24,854 That's why you and I are having this conversation right 107 00:06:24,854 --> 00:06:26,085 now today in this episode. 108 00:06:26,594 --> 00:06:30,375 Whether it's through therapy coaching, or mentorship, or talking to someone 109 00:06:30,375 --> 00:06:34,424 about your struggles, you can help gain a fresh perspective and develop some 110 00:06:34,424 --> 00:06:36,914 new coping skills to ward off Athe. 111 00:06:37,424 --> 00:06:41,655 Just as importantly, surround yourself with a tribe that is acting and having 112 00:06:41,655 --> 00:06:45,015 conversations about moving forward. 113 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:49,349 Having a circle that is apathetic will drag you down. 114 00:06:49,349 --> 00:06:53,159 If you surround yourself with those people, it's going to pull you down too 115 00:06:53,159 --> 00:06:54,840 and keep you from breaking out of that. 116 00:06:55,469 --> 00:06:59,219 It's essential to surround yourself with a positive, supportive people who can 117 00:06:59,219 --> 00:07:04,140 provide encouragement and motivation, and are having the kind of conversations that 118 00:07:04,140 --> 00:07:10,289 are leaning towards four momentum to help you stay on track towards your goals. 119 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:13,799 Number three is to take action, and this is where most people. 120 00:07:15,299 --> 00:07:18,900 Tank entirely on this process, right? 121 00:07:18,900 --> 00:07:20,700 We're really good at planning stages. 122 00:07:20,700 --> 00:07:21,630 It's crazy, right? 123 00:07:21,630 --> 00:07:27,210 Everybody likes to plan things, but so many people fail at just taking steps 124 00:07:27,299 --> 00:07:28,979 forward and actually taking action. 125 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,789 Taking action is crucial in overcoming apathy. 126 00:07:33,450 --> 00:07:36,659 It's important to start small setting achievable goals, right? 127 00:07:36,659 --> 00:07:39,390 We talk about smart goals here all the time that are aligned 128 00:07:39,390 --> 00:07:40,950 with your values and purpose. 129 00:07:41,310 --> 00:07:43,070 Celebrate the small victories along the. 130 00:07:43,500 --> 00:07:46,170 And gradually build up your confidence and your motivation. 131 00:07:46,380 --> 00:07:50,790 It's hard to break out of a a out of apathy. 132 00:07:50,790 --> 00:07:51,960 So you know what? 133 00:07:52,470 --> 00:07:53,670 Celebrate the small victories. 134 00:07:53,730 --> 00:07:54,240 It's okay. 135 00:07:54,300 --> 00:07:54,960 Build up. 136 00:07:55,050 --> 00:07:57,090 We start small and we keep building, right? 137 00:07:57,090 --> 00:07:58,140 We stack wins. 138 00:07:58,620 --> 00:08:01,890 So taking action not only helps you achieve your goals, but also 139 00:08:01,890 --> 00:08:05,820 provide you a sense of purpose and fulfillment as you are building 140 00:08:05,820 --> 00:08:07,890 your way out of this apathetic life. 141 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:11,190 Helping you break the cycle of apathy. 142 00:08:12,060 --> 00:08:15,780 Now overcoming apathy is possible, guys, and taking these three actional 143 00:08:15,780 --> 00:08:19,620 steps will help men regain their sense of purpose and direction in their life. 144 00:08:20,250 --> 00:08:24,120 Practicing self-reflection, changing the conversation and taking action 145 00:08:24,630 --> 00:08:28,890 can help men break free from the script apathy that you may not 146 00:08:28,890 --> 00:08:30,720 even know is impacting your life. 147 00:08:31,380 --> 00:08:34,230 It leads to more fulfillment at a better life. 148 00:08:36,645 --> 00:08:38,445 Apti is a silent killer, guys. 149 00:08:38,595 --> 00:08:42,525 It's Robby men of their vitality, of their joy and their purpose, 150 00:08:42,855 --> 00:08:45,405 but it doesn't have to be this way. 151 00:08:46,185 --> 00:08:47,415 Reclaim your birthright. 152 00:08:47,925 --> 00:08:50,445 This is not what you were meant for. 153 00:08:50,475 --> 00:08:51,935 It's not what you were born for Jor. 154 00:08:51,940 --> 00:08:53,925 It's not who you were born to be. 155 00:08:55,125 --> 00:08:57,255 Remember, men have sailed. 156 00:08:57,255 --> 00:08:58,665 The oceans climbed the highest. 157 00:08:58,665 --> 00:09:00,555 Mountains built nations. 158 00:09:01,185 --> 00:09:03,045 Men come from a place of. 159 00:09:04,410 --> 00:09:05,340 Of responsibility. 160 00:09:05,340 --> 00:09:12,420 We don't come from a place of apathy and just that's not who is in your bloodline. 161 00:09:13,350 --> 00:09:20,370 As a man, it's important to step into your purpose and to head the direction that 162 00:09:20,370 --> 00:09:22,470 you need to go, that you were born to go. 163 00:09:23,190 --> 00:09:25,040 Take time to reflect on what truly matters. 164 00:09:25,770 --> 00:09:28,080 Change that conversation and take action. 165 00:09:28,230 --> 00:09:32,670 Break free from the grip of Athe and live a life that is truly fulfilling 166 00:09:32,670 --> 00:09:36,540 for yourself and for those around you, it's time to wake up and take 167 00:09:36,540 --> 00:09:41,700 ownership of your life and start living with intention and purpose. 168 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:48,090 It is so easy to get lost these days in some of this negativity guys and 169 00:09:48,090 --> 00:09:49,590 who can become very apathetic about. 170 00:09:50,564 --> 00:09:53,805 But you were meant for so much more. 171 00:09:54,105 --> 00:09:55,245 It is incredible. 172 00:09:57,074 --> 00:10:00,675 If you're struggling with Apti, I know I have fought it off several times in 173 00:10:00,675 --> 00:10:05,745 my life and you need a little help, you can join our private community. 174 00:10:05,954 --> 00:10:07,425 We have accountability groups. 175 00:10:07,425 --> 00:10:10,905 We have a sense of community there, and we have these conversations. 176 00:10:11,235 --> 00:10:13,425 If you're looking for a little more help, if you're looking for someone 177 00:10:13,425 --> 00:10:18,285 to walk with you for a little ways, go by my website, www.fallibleman.com, 178 00:10:18,285 --> 00:10:19,275 and click on the coaching link. 179 00:10:19,980 --> 00:10:21,780 Sign up for a free discovery call. 180 00:10:21,780 --> 00:10:25,500 Guys, maybe I can walk with you for a little while and if I'm not the 181 00:10:25,500 --> 00:10:29,190 right person, I can point you towards several friends of mine who are also 182 00:10:29,190 --> 00:10:32,250 in the coaching space, who might be a better fit for you, and I will send 183 00:10:32,250 --> 00:10:33,750 you to them if that's a better option. 184 00:10:35,070 --> 00:10:37,890 But I don't want you to know you don't have to walk alone. 185 00:10:38,070 --> 00:10:43,710 There are men out there, tribe, community, that can be yours if you want somebody 186 00:10:43,710 --> 00:10:46,860 to walk with you on this life, because that is a better way to go through it. 187 00:10:48,735 --> 00:10:52,035 As always, be better tomorrow because of what you do today. 188 00:10:52,485 --> 00:10:53,354 We'll see you on the next one. 189 00:10:54,525 --> 00:10:56,954 This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. 190 00:10:57,615 --> 00:11:00,885 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 191 00:11:01,814 --> 00:11:04,064 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 192 00:11:04,964 --> 00:11:11,145 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get 193 00:11:11,295 --> 00:11:12,464 your own fallible man here. 194 00:11:14,005 --> 00:11:15,814 I ain't waiting and wishing.