Balancing Theory vs Practice

1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,400 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, Your home for all 2 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:03,960 things, man, husband, and father. 3 00:00:04,230 --> 00:00:06,540 A big shout out to the fallible nation and a warm welcome 4 00:00:06,540 --> 00:00:07,710 to our first time listeners. 5 00:00:07,950 --> 00:00:12,270 My name is Brent, and today we're talking about balancing theory versus practice. 6 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:16,440 In the first part of the show, guys, we're gonna talk about the things that keep us 7 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:20,670 in that theory planning phase of life, and prevent us from taking the action that we 8 00:00:20,670 --> 00:00:24,150 need to take to really thrive in our life. 9 00:00:24,570 --> 00:00:27,570 In the second half of the show, we're gonna get into the rewards of taking 10 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:29,580 action and executing your plan. 11 00:00:30,030 --> 00:00:32,640 Then we'll wrap it up with balancing the two out just a little bit. 12 00:00:33,030 --> 00:00:36,269 So without further ado, guys, let's get into the show. 13 00:00:37,290 --> 00:00:38,879 Here's the million dollar question. 14 00:00:39,390 --> 00:00:43,050 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 15 00:00:43,050 --> 00:00:46,930 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 16 00:00:47,370 --> 00:00:51,870 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 17 00:00:52,599 --> 00:00:54,450 That's the question in this podcast. 18 00:00:54,750 --> 00:00:56,040 We'll help you with those answers. 19 00:00:56,045 --> 00:00:59,040 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 20 00:01:00,075 --> 00:01:01,515 Number one guys fear. 21 00:01:01,695 --> 00:01:02,565 Plain and simple. 22 00:01:02,625 --> 00:01:03,435 We're afraid. 23 00:01:03,855 --> 00:01:04,575 Afraid of what? 24 00:01:04,635 --> 00:01:06,225 Well, that could be anything. 25 00:01:06,315 --> 00:01:11,235 The most obvious fear is just failure if we just plan and never try when 26 00:01:11,295 --> 00:01:13,005 we won't have to deal with failure. 27 00:01:13,485 --> 00:01:16,605 Most surprisingly though, success is a common fear. 28 00:01:16,935 --> 00:01:18,885 What happens if our lofty plans succeed? 29 00:01:19,815 --> 00:01:20,745 Will that change us? 30 00:01:20,745 --> 00:01:22,875 Will it be enough to satisfy us? 31 00:01:23,295 --> 00:01:25,035 What comes next after that? 32 00:01:25,035 --> 00:01:28,545 What will people expect from us if we actually achieve so? 33 00:01:29,550 --> 00:01:35,369 Success is actually a more common fear almost than failure because people 34 00:01:35,369 --> 00:01:37,500 are terrified of what comes next. 35 00:01:37,500 --> 00:01:39,210 What happens if I succeed? 36 00:01:40,140 --> 00:01:41,970 Will people look at me differently? 37 00:01:41,970 --> 00:01:43,380 Will people expect more from me? 38 00:01:43,979 --> 00:01:47,520 That's really hard for a lot of people to deal with guys, so that's one of the 39 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,160 things that holds us in that theory realm. 40 00:01:50,910 --> 00:01:52,919 Number two, self doubt. 41 00:01:53,429 --> 00:01:57,929 Even more insidious than fear is doubt, specifically doubting ourselves. 42 00:01:58,604 --> 00:02:01,244 If we don't believe in our abilities to pull off plans, 43 00:02:01,244 --> 00:02:03,494 then we won't ever act on them. 44 00:02:04,125 --> 00:02:08,655 We will rather lose ourselves in than planning and theorizing the risk, exposing 45 00:02:08,655 --> 00:02:12,465 ourselves as frauds just by trying, Right? 46 00:02:12,855 --> 00:02:15,516 I don't even remember what it's been attributed to a lot of people, but there's 47 00:02:15,516 --> 00:02:20,976 that old saying of, it's better to keep your mouth shut and be presumed a fool 48 00:02:21,036 --> 00:02:22,536 than to open your mouth and prove them. 49 00:02:24,051 --> 00:02:26,751 We really have struggles with self doubts. 50 00:02:26,751 --> 00:02:28,881 We just don't believe in ourselves most of the time. 51 00:02:29,361 --> 00:02:33,482 And so that keeps us in this theory phase where we dream big and we plan 52 00:02:33,487 --> 00:02:41,192 big, but we never get moving because we really don't believe that we can. 53 00:02:41,732 --> 00:02:45,152 Guys, that's a horrible fear to have eating at you that doubt. 54 00:02:45,812 --> 00:02:47,552 It's just a horrible thing to deal with. 55 00:02:48,002 --> 00:02:50,042 You have to start believing in your. 56 00:02:50,912 --> 00:02:55,052 If we're ever gonna get outta that planning phase number three is comfort. 57 00:02:56,672 --> 00:02:57,722 Comfort guys. 58 00:02:57,722 --> 00:02:58,502 Comfort's a killer. 59 00:02:58,549 --> 00:02:59,820 I've talked about this before. 60 00:02:59,820 --> 00:03:03,930 I rag on this a lot, but I mean, comfort is the enemy of action. 61 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:08,010 A lot of people enjoy being comfortable and do whatever they can 62 00:03:08,010 --> 00:03:10,320 to avoid discomfort in their lives. 63 00:03:10,950 --> 00:03:15,870 The problem is, it's a natural part of life to experience some discomfort. 64 00:03:16,470 --> 00:03:20,040 The most successful of us learn to embrace temporary discomfort if it 65 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:22,200 helps us get to long-term gains. 66 00:03:23,010 --> 00:03:27,280 If you're the type of person that avoids discomfort at all costs, you'll be 67 00:03:27,285 --> 00:03:30,030 far less likely to act on your plans. 68 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:35,850 Taking action, especially if it's a major or new action, often includes 69 00:03:35,850 --> 00:03:39,540 some level of discomfort, whether that's mental or emotional, or 70 00:03:39,540 --> 00:03:41,070 even physical discomfort, right? 71 00:03:41,820 --> 00:03:42,210 Maybe. 72 00:03:43,230 --> 00:03:46,860 You want to get in better shape, but there's gonna be some physical discomfort 73 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:48,900 because you haven't been in shape. 74 00:03:48,900 --> 00:03:53,429 So going for that walk or getting in the gym That can be a little scary. 75 00:03:53,429 --> 00:03:55,439 Or, Hey, I like my comfort food. 76 00:03:55,739 --> 00:03:57,089 I got the belly to prove it, guys. 77 00:03:57,089 --> 00:03:58,199 It's something I gotta work on. 78 00:03:58,679 --> 00:04:04,709 I like my comfort food that's uncomfortable to have to switch to foods 79 00:04:04,709 --> 00:04:07,389 I don't necessarily enjoy to get he. 80 00:04:07,964 --> 00:04:11,174 So comfort zones, guys, comfort is just the enemy in progress. 81 00:04:11,174 --> 00:04:13,574 It's the enemy of progress forward. 82 00:04:15,224 --> 00:04:16,394 I can rant on that all day. 83 00:04:16,394 --> 00:04:18,254 In fact, I think I've done an entire podcast on that. 84 00:04:18,254 --> 00:04:20,774 So I'll leave it be and we'll just keep on moving. 85 00:04:21,554 --> 00:04:25,304 Number four, it's fun for some people. 86 00:04:26,324 --> 00:04:28,984 Planning, learning, theorizing. 87 00:04:28,984 --> 00:04:30,764 There're just a lot of fun. 88 00:04:31,724 --> 00:04:36,284 Now I gotta admit I can be this guy cuz I love to plan things. 89 00:04:36,719 --> 00:04:42,839 My wife especially, she's one of these people, she loves to plan and dream big 90 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:46,892 and put together thoughts and ideas and, dream about how this would go or how 91 00:04:46,892 --> 00:04:48,572 if we were in this situation, right? 92 00:04:49,502 --> 00:04:54,342 These people love to hit the books or just lose themselves in the books entirely. 93 00:04:55,622 --> 00:04:59,282 They might lose themselves researching new things or new ideas or new 94 00:04:59,282 --> 00:05:02,372 concepts, and they enjoyed to learn. 95 00:05:02,732 --> 00:05:05,882 The new concepts or skills so much, they actually just, that's 96 00:05:05,882 --> 00:05:07,352 the phase they like to be in. 97 00:05:07,862 --> 00:05:09,362 Now, there's nothing wrong with that. 98 00:05:09,662 --> 00:05:12,452 I hope you enjoy learning, cuz learning should be fun. 99 00:05:13,082 --> 00:05:16,922 Learning should be a positive thing in your life and I hope it really is. 100 00:05:17,942 --> 00:05:22,052 So it doesn't necessarily be sound bad, however, we can't 101 00:05:22,057 --> 00:05:24,422 get caught in that fun learning. 102 00:05:26,492 --> 00:05:27,662 And just stop there. 103 00:05:28,232 --> 00:05:29,642 We have to have forward action. 104 00:05:29,972 --> 00:05:32,552 They might not enjoy putting the plan into action. 105 00:05:34,112 --> 00:05:38,972 Taking action on their plans might mean doing a lot of basic, boring 106 00:05:38,977 --> 00:05:42,362 groundwork that they don't find that's tedious, find enjoyable. 107 00:05:42,362 --> 00:05:45,362 Sorry, let me finish that thought that they don't find enjoyable, 108 00:05:45,362 --> 00:05:49,662 that's tedious to them, or that's just not the part they enjoy. 109 00:05:49,662 --> 00:05:51,884 I actually had a friend who was a great planner. 110 00:05:53,579 --> 00:05:57,059 They were great right up until execution. 111 00:05:57,149 --> 00:05:58,619 Then they're like, uh, yeah. 112 00:05:58,739 --> 00:06:05,249 Um, and then it was halfhearted and some people, like I'm an executor. 113 00:06:06,149 --> 00:06:10,949 I had a friend I've done a lot of work with and he is really good at putting 114 00:06:10,949 --> 00:06:16,009 together all those pieces, and, but when it comes to hitting the ground and 115 00:06:16,009 --> 00:06:19,999 running, he'd much rather sit and advise. 116 00:06:21,349 --> 00:06:21,979 And that's fine. 117 00:06:22,039 --> 00:06:23,449 We play to each other's strengths. 118 00:06:23,449 --> 00:06:26,389 He was a great planner and I was good at hitting the ground and running. 119 00:06:26,389 --> 00:06:28,609 You give me the plan and you're like, All right, here's the plan down. 120 00:06:28,609 --> 00:06:29,599 I was like, Okay, let's go. 121 00:06:29,599 --> 00:06:30,529 Yeah, go, go, go. 122 00:06:30,547 --> 00:06:33,351 So you can play to each other's strengths, but you have to take action. 123 00:06:34,341 --> 00:06:35,421 It's fun to plan. 124 00:06:35,421 --> 00:06:35,901 It's fun. 125 00:06:35,901 --> 00:06:36,891 Fun to theorize. 126 00:06:36,891 --> 00:06:38,061 It's fun to dream big. 127 00:06:38,061 --> 00:06:39,679 It's fun to research fun. 128 00:06:40,009 --> 00:06:40,849 I'm saying fun today. 129 00:06:41,029 --> 00:06:41,359 I'm sorry. 130 00:06:41,779 --> 00:06:45,709 It's fun to research and to look into, but you have to get moving. 131 00:06:46,924 --> 00:06:50,884 Fun can be an absolute derailment from where you want to go and 132 00:06:51,274 --> 00:06:52,204 actually achieving your plan. 133 00:06:53,224 --> 00:06:55,804 Number five, perfectionism. 134 00:06:56,584 --> 00:07:01,444 This stops so many people from ever going anywhere. 135 00:07:02,584 --> 00:07:05,494 A lot of people get caught up in the myth of perfection. 136 00:07:06,214 --> 00:07:09,784 We refer to it as a myth because there will never be an exact right 137 00:07:09,784 --> 00:07:11,914 time or set of circumstances. 138 00:07:13,159 --> 00:07:16,369 Your plans will never be perfect, and if they do somehow work out 139 00:07:16,369 --> 00:07:20,479 perfectly, it will be more about luck than anything you really did. 140 00:07:21,859 --> 00:07:25,369 Even knowing all that info, people still can't help themselves. 141 00:07:25,369 --> 00:07:31,309 They get stuck theorizing forever because they can't find the perfect time or the 142 00:07:31,309 --> 00:07:35,179 stars don't align and they don't feel like their plans are ever quite good enough. 143 00:07:37,369 --> 00:07:39,019 I've been part of think media's. 144 00:07:41,164 --> 00:07:46,894 YouTube training program for a while, and I love Think Media. 145 00:07:46,894 --> 00:07:50,104 They put out great information if you wanna be a YouTuber. 146 00:07:50,178 --> 00:07:51,108 That's why I went there. 147 00:07:51,108 --> 00:07:55,218 That's why I watch a lot of their stuff, is they help me with my YouTube channel 148 00:07:56,238 --> 00:08:00,948 and one of the things that they talk about is perfectionism just kills people 149 00:08:00,958 --> 00:08:03,108 from ever actually taking that leap. 150 00:08:04,068 --> 00:08:05,808 And the founders. 151 00:08:06,573 --> 00:08:11,403 One of his favorite things to say, Sean says, You just got, you gotta 152 00:08:11,403 --> 00:08:12,933 punch fear in the face and hit record. 153 00:08:14,283 --> 00:08:16,023 Your first videos will be messy. 154 00:08:17,703 --> 00:08:21,273 Your first, It will all be messy. 155 00:08:21,333 --> 00:08:25,353 And if you go back to the beginning, guys, if you go back to my first videos 156 00:08:25,353 --> 00:08:29,133 on my YouTube channel, they're bad. 157 00:08:30,693 --> 00:08:35,253 And I don't know that I'm that much better two years later than I was then, but I'm. 158 00:08:36,348 --> 00:08:40,338 But if you go back to the beginning, everybody started out rough, right? 159 00:08:40,338 --> 00:08:40,638 Mr. 160 00:08:40,638 --> 00:08:45,888 Beast, who is one of the biggest YouTubers in the world, put out well over a hundred 161 00:08:45,888 --> 00:08:49,548 plus videos before he ever had much of a following, and they weren't very good. 162 00:08:50,718 --> 00:08:55,368 Sean can the Finder founder of Think Media actually left his original videos 163 00:08:55,368 --> 00:09:01,548 up for the purpose of letting people see that everybody starts messy and. 164 00:09:02,833 --> 00:09:05,568 which I have deep appreciation of because it makes me feel 165 00:09:05,568 --> 00:09:06,690 a little better about myself. 166 00:09:06,690 --> 00:09:08,322 If Sean can have to work on it. 167 00:09:08,322 --> 00:09:11,035 Well guys, most of us get stuck in that perfectionism. 168 00:09:11,041 --> 00:09:17,401 We expect that we'll have the perfect line or the perfect plan, or the perfect 169 00:09:17,401 --> 00:09:24,584 setup, or the perfect this or the perfect that, or the stars will line, Guys you 170 00:09:24,589 --> 00:09:26,744 can't, Perfectionism will hold you. 171 00:09:28,649 --> 00:09:32,519 Have you and any of you ever seen the meme, let us know. 172 00:09:34,189 --> 00:09:35,819 DM me on whatever platform you guys know. 173 00:09:35,819 --> 00:09:36,779 I'm everywhere. 174 00:09:38,009 --> 00:09:39,179 DM me on whatever platform. 175 00:09:39,179 --> 00:09:43,499 Have you ever seen the meme and has like, got the skeleton sitting there 176 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,015 on the park bench saying, still waiting for the perfect mate, right? 177 00:09:48,015 --> 00:09:49,859 You've gotta dump the idea of perfectionism. 178 00:09:50,309 --> 00:09:52,079 Every great idea started messy. 179 00:09:52,349 --> 00:09:54,359 Everything that you see, don't compare. 180 00:09:55,849 --> 00:09:58,589 Somebody's two years, three years, five years, 10 years 181 00:09:58,589 --> 00:10:00,899 into something with your start. 182 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:05,009 Perfectionism will just end you before you even begin. 183 00:10:06,479 --> 00:10:09,359 Number six, worrying about other people. 184 00:10:09,599 --> 00:10:13,769 It's very easy to get caught up worrying about what other people are gonna think. 185 00:10:13,799 --> 00:10:14,499 I know I do. 186 00:10:14,526 --> 00:10:15,636 I'm guilty of this. 187 00:10:16,596 --> 00:10:20,226 You might have come up with a plan or a theory that excites you, but then you 188 00:10:20,231 --> 00:10:22,276 worry about, well, what will other people? 189 00:10:23,631 --> 00:10:26,451 What happens if I try and fail? 190 00:10:26,541 --> 00:10:28,441 What if it doesn't go according to plan? 191 00:10:28,448 --> 00:10:30,398 That perfectionisms creeping in that brain there. 192 00:10:31,238 --> 00:10:36,128 It doesn't matter how well you plan, if you're worried about looking like a 193 00:10:36,128 --> 00:10:42,548 failure, you are not gonna be motivated to act on your plans if you are so 194 00:10:42,553 --> 00:10:44,528 wrapped up and everybody else's thoughts. 195 00:10:45,338 --> 00:10:47,948 Oh my goodness, how does this person, how? 196 00:10:47,948 --> 00:10:49,028 How is so and so go? 197 00:10:49,208 --> 00:10:49,898 Going to react to. 198 00:10:51,233 --> 00:10:54,683 I know I was scared to tell some people when I started podcasting, 199 00:10:56,333 --> 00:10:58,163 we call it imposter cinema, right? 200 00:10:59,063 --> 00:11:02,412 We talked about that on YouTube a lot among YouTubers is, why 201 00:11:02,412 --> 00:11:03,582 would anybody listen to me? 202 00:11:03,582 --> 00:11:05,232 Why do I have to offer the world? 203 00:11:05,742 --> 00:11:09,342 There are a lot of people who never share because that's the way they feel like, 204 00:11:09,702 --> 00:11:11,772 Well, I have nothing to offer anybody. 205 00:11:12,732 --> 00:11:14,112 It's called imposter syndrome. 206 00:11:14,682 --> 00:11:18,642 We just put a fancy term on it for a specific situation, but really that's 207 00:11:18,642 --> 00:11:22,872 what it all comes down to is we're worried about how other people are gonna 208 00:11:22,872 --> 00:11:26,082 react to our videos or our podcast. 209 00:11:26,562 --> 00:11:27,702 Why would anybody listen? 210 00:11:27,732 --> 00:11:31,752 I was actually really kind of afraid to tell a couple of people close to me 211 00:11:31,752 --> 00:11:39,792 in my life that I love dearly that I was starting a podcast because what? 212 00:11:39,851 --> 00:11:41,261 How are they gonna react? 213 00:11:41,696 --> 00:11:42,759 Are they gonna laugh at me? 214 00:11:42,759 --> 00:11:46,697 Are they, They're gonna be like, Yeah, but, but as you, what do you have to say? 215 00:11:46,702 --> 00:11:51,532 I was really scared to share that with some people who were very close to me 216 00:11:52,072 --> 00:11:54,832 because I was afraid of their opinion. 217 00:11:55,312 --> 00:11:59,012 So I actually, like, I got almost a year and a half into my podcasting 218 00:11:59,202 --> 00:12:04,612 career before I ever even told some people I had a podcast. 219 00:12:05,947 --> 00:12:10,837 Worrying about other people is a very valid issue that interferes 220 00:12:11,347 --> 00:12:14,317 with you getting to that action phase and just locks you into 221 00:12:14,617 --> 00:12:16,417 the theorizing planning phase. 222 00:12:18,007 --> 00:12:19,777 And so it's something you have to get a handle on. 223 00:12:20,887 --> 00:12:23,377 Worrying about other people is never gonna benefit you. 224 00:12:24,267 --> 00:12:26,197 It's never gonna make your life better. 225 00:12:26,557 --> 00:12:32,276 And I know it's hard, but if that's you, we need to work on getting out of that. 226 00:12:33,791 --> 00:12:36,761 Number seven, bad experiences in the past. 227 00:12:37,541 --> 00:12:39,401 Life is rarely a smooth ride. 228 00:12:39,911 --> 00:12:42,911 Most of us have dealt with bad experiences in our past. 229 00:12:44,441 --> 00:12:49,271 The problem comes when we let those past experiences define our current life. 230 00:12:49,691 --> 00:12:52,271 And I've seen this on so many levels and this plays out 231 00:12:52,271 --> 00:12:53,801 on so many different levels. 232 00:12:54,311 --> 00:12:56,381 Way past what I can probably even imagine. 233 00:12:57,401 --> 00:13:01,931 If you had big dreams and plans in the past and acted on them, then fail. 234 00:13:02,321 --> 00:13:04,701 You might be a little gun shy to try it again. 235 00:13:04,730 --> 00:13:09,093 Often we won't act on our plans because they remind us too much of past failures. 236 00:13:09,093 --> 00:13:11,071 Guys, this happens with everything, right? 237 00:13:12,361 --> 00:13:16,591 A lot of people have skeletons in their closet, things that ha them bad 238 00:13:16,591 --> 00:13:22,531 experiences, whether it's with trying to start something new and succeeding 239 00:13:22,531 --> 00:13:28,411 or failing, or whether it's with relationships or whether it's with work. 240 00:13:28,441 --> 00:13:29,341 Experie. 241 00:13:30,331 --> 00:13:35,131 A lot of us have bad experiences that often influence our current world. 242 00:13:36,271 --> 00:13:41,161 Those can hold us back from so much so, so, so much possibility, right? 243 00:13:41,431 --> 00:13:44,461 How are you supposed to move on something new when you're 244 00:13:44,461 --> 00:13:45,781 letting that pass define you? 245 00:13:45,781 --> 00:13:50,071 And that's the same thing with launching anything new as you theorize, as you 246 00:13:50,371 --> 00:13:54,061 come up with new plans and new dreams and new goals and their beautiful goals. 247 00:13:55,231 --> 00:13:58,831 That creeps in there and you're like, you know, the last time I put myself out 248 00:13:58,831 --> 00:14:02,251 there, it didn't turn out like I planned. 249 00:14:03,211 --> 00:14:05,491 Or maybe it even wasn't a bad experience. 250 00:14:05,496 --> 00:14:08,797 Maybe it was a mediocre experience, and you're like I thought I had this 251 00:14:08,797 --> 00:14:12,355 together and I planned and I put together and I worked hard and it still in a 252 00:14:12,355 --> 00:14:15,235 bad or just still didn't go anywhere. 253 00:14:16,735 --> 00:14:20,545 You have to stop letting bad experiences define you and hold you. 254 00:14:21,265 --> 00:14:27,865 In that planning theorizing zone because it will just lock you up and twist you 255 00:14:27,865 --> 00:14:31,615 up inside and you'll get bitter because you won't chase the things that are 256 00:14:31,615 --> 00:14:33,595 important to you in your future dreams. 257 00:14:35,815 --> 00:14:36,295 Number eight. 258 00:14:37,315 --> 00:14:40,795 This is the last one thing I want to address on things that hold us back 259 00:14:40,795 --> 00:14:46,405 from moving from theory to plan and planning to actual action and practice. 260 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:51,220 Number eight is we worry it's too late. 261 00:14:52,180 --> 00:14:56,410 A classic reason we don't act on our plans is that we're worried it's too late. 262 00:14:56,433 --> 00:14:59,935 We feel like our window of opportunity is just closed. 263 00:15:00,775 --> 00:15:05,125 All of our hard work formulating a plan is useless because the timing isn't right. 264 00:15:06,475 --> 00:15:12,295 We might worry that time in general has moved on too much, making our 265 00:15:12,300 --> 00:15:14,485 plans kind of moot and pointless. 266 00:15:15,295 --> 00:15:18,475 Alternatively, maybe we worry we have moved on too much and 267 00:15:18,475 --> 00:15:21,625 reached a certain age where our plans don't make sense anymore. 268 00:15:23,215 --> 00:15:27,505 People spend their whole lives dreaming about the future, but by 269 00:15:27,505 --> 00:15:30,205 the time they get the pieces in place to follow some of those dreams, 270 00:15:30,210 --> 00:15:33,205 they're like, Ugh, well, I'm 40 now. 271 00:15:33,295 --> 00:15:34,495 That doesn't make any sense. 272 00:15:36,325 --> 00:15:39,895 This happens a lot in the YouTube community where. 273 00:15:40,765 --> 00:15:43,531 People are worried that it's too late to start a YouTube channel. 274 00:15:43,711 --> 00:15:45,083 It's, that ship has sailed. 275 00:15:45,083 --> 00:15:47,243 You can't start on YouTube and be successful anymore. 276 00:15:47,243 --> 00:15:48,983 It doesn't happen, right? 277 00:15:49,643 --> 00:15:51,513 This happens all the time in business. 278 00:15:52,343 --> 00:15:52,863 I know. 279 00:15:52,863 --> 00:15:56,284 I put together plans and my wife and I were trying to figure out how to 280 00:15:56,284 --> 00:16:02,464 put together funding cuz we're new to trying to do a business and we had 281 00:16:02,464 --> 00:16:05,584 this great idea for a bakery, right? 282 00:16:05,584 --> 00:16:08,644 We're gonna open this bakery and we had a good location picked out. 283 00:16:09,709 --> 00:16:13,369 A good plan put together and we kept struggling to try and figure out 284 00:16:13,369 --> 00:16:15,979 how to make financing work cause we didn't know anything about business. 285 00:16:16,729 --> 00:16:22,489 Well, in that time period, our local grocery store actually completely 286 00:16:22,489 --> 00:16:28,849 rooted their bakery and like tripled its size and started producing some 287 00:16:28,849 --> 00:16:31,849 of the best donuts in the county, if not the best donuts in our county. 288 00:16:31,849 --> 00:16:32,719 Maybe farther. 289 00:16:32,869 --> 00:16:33,709 It's great donuts. 290 00:16:34,789 --> 00:16:39,799 And a little bakery that handled everything else opened up in a not as 291 00:16:39,799 --> 00:16:45,289 good of a spot as I think as we picked, but they opened and all of a sudden 292 00:16:45,289 --> 00:16:48,709 all of our plans were like, well, this town that we live in factually is not 293 00:16:48,709 --> 00:16:50,329 big enough to have that many bakeries. 294 00:16:51,589 --> 00:16:57,189 And so all our plans became kind of mo and void cuz we took too long to get. 295 00:16:57,198 --> 00:17:00,178 That impacted the way I look at other things now too, cuz it's like, oh 296 00:17:00,178 --> 00:17:05,985 wait, if I plan too long or it's gonna pass me by, A lot of us deal with this 297 00:17:05,985 --> 00:17:10,605 fear and it keeps us in that planning zone, keeps us in the theorization. 298 00:17:10,610 --> 00:17:11,745 It's this beautiful thought. 299 00:17:11,745 --> 00:17:15,735 But by the time I get it worked out, put together, it's gonna be too late. 300 00:17:16,755 --> 00:17:18,435 It's too late for me to go back to school. 301 00:17:18,735 --> 00:17:20,685 It's too late for me to start a family. 302 00:17:20,685 --> 00:17:22,545 It's too late for me to. 303 00:17:23,295 --> 00:17:25,575 Take up motorcycle riding or backpacking. 304 00:17:25,575 --> 00:17:27,285 It's too late for me to start working out. 305 00:17:27,285 --> 00:17:28,695 I'm already overweight, right? 306 00:17:30,135 --> 00:17:34,785 This fear will lock you guys up and it's a bad, bad thing. 307 00:17:35,655 --> 00:17:38,715 Guys, so far we've been talking about balancing theory versus practice, 308 00:17:38,955 --> 00:17:42,315 and so far we've been handling the things that trap us in that planning 309 00:17:42,315 --> 00:17:47,675 phase and a theory and just kind of keep us locked up there from actually 310 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,145 pursuing our goals and our plans. 311 00:17:50,565 --> 00:17:51,945 In the second half show, we're gonna talk. 312 00:17:52,755 --> 00:17:57,015 Getting into taking action and some of the positive benefits of being 313 00:17:57,020 --> 00:18:00,320 an action taker and how that affects us both mentally and emotionally and 314 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:03,110 how that kind of snowballs as we go. 315 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:06,380 Now we're gonna roll to our sponsor and we'll be right back. 316 00:18:07,730 --> 00:18:08,750 What's not valuable Nation? 317 00:18:08,750 --> 00:18:10,490 Are you getting something out of this podcast? 318 00:18:10,490 --> 00:18:11,960 You enjoy our content? 319 00:18:12,350 --> 00:18:14,390 Do you know we have content both on. 320 00:18:15,485 --> 00:18:19,415 On multiple social media accounts, a blog, and so, so, so much more. 321 00:18:19,655 --> 00:18:22,985 But what we really wanna share with you guys is we have a live 322 00:18:23,105 --> 00:18:26,015 and virtual conference that we do called the Phoenix Conference. 323 00:18:26,525 --> 00:18:29,105 The Phoenix Conference is coming up February 10th, 324 00:18:29,165 --> 00:18:30,815 11th, and possibly the 12th. 325 00:18:30,815 --> 00:18:34,235 No guarantees on that yet, but February 10th and 11th, and we 326 00:18:34,265 --> 00:18:36,275 wanna invite you to join us now. 327 00:18:36,275 --> 00:18:38,345 If you can attend Live in person. 328 00:18:38,345 --> 00:18:40,265 It's in central Washington and Quincy 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and walk that path. 351 00:19:59,630 --> 00:20:00,410 Let's get back to the. 352 00:20:02,030 --> 00:20:02,930 And we're back guys. 353 00:20:02,930 --> 00:20:07,520 We're here today discussing theory versus practice and balancing the two. 354 00:20:08,390 --> 00:20:13,370 We already talked in the first half of the show about the things that prevent 355 00:20:13,370 --> 00:20:18,380 us from moving outta that theory stage and that practice state how that theory 356 00:20:18,385 --> 00:20:22,820 stage and planning into actual action. 357 00:20:23,120 --> 00:20:26,780 We talked about eight factors that tend to hold us back from moving into that. 358 00:20:26,780 --> 00:20:29,900 So if you missed the first half of the show, be sure and jump back. 359 00:20:30,485 --> 00:20:33,695 And identify some of the things that might be holding you back, 360 00:20:34,175 --> 00:20:38,645 and then you can search the rest of our catalog to find help on how 361 00:20:38,645 --> 00:20:40,535 to move past those things as well. 362 00:20:40,955 --> 00:20:45,605 In this half of the show, we're going to get into the benefits and rewards both 363 00:20:45,605 --> 00:20:50,795 mentally and emotionally to actually taking action and pursuing those 364 00:20:50,795 --> 00:20:52,895 plans and putting them into practice. 365 00:20:53,495 --> 00:20:56,165 So number one, guys satisfaction. 366 00:20:56,555 --> 00:21:00,185 Many people argue that satisfaction is even better than happiness. 367 00:21:00,935 --> 00:21:04,055 Truly feeling satisfied is a wonderful feeling. 368 00:21:04,355 --> 00:21:09,125 We can only feel it if we're taking action and reaching our goals. 369 00:21:09,755 --> 00:21:13,685 More action you take in life, the more satisfied you're gonna feel and 370 00:21:13,685 --> 00:21:21,785 accomplishing those goals will leave that satisfaction as just this well 371 00:21:21,785 --> 00:21:24,745 of energy in your heart and in your. 372 00:21:25,940 --> 00:21:28,670 You will feel completed, more saturated. 373 00:21:28,700 --> 00:21:34,250 Like it's, it's, it's hard to describe, but you can't enjoy that satisfaction 374 00:21:34,250 --> 00:21:38,900 without knocking things off that list that you've been carefully planning. 375 00:21:39,530 --> 00:21:44,360 So create a smart plan with smart goals and take action 376 00:21:44,365 --> 00:21:45,440 and start bumping those off. 377 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:49,280 And the satisfaction you will feel as you accomplish things will 378 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:50,810 just be incredibly overwhelming. 379 00:21:50,870 --> 00:21:52,610 I don't know that it's better than Happys. 380 00:21:53,270 --> 00:21:55,040 But it is a pretty awesome feeling. 381 00:21:56,210 --> 00:21:58,070 Number two, you accomplish more. 382 00:21:58,070 --> 00:22:01,910 I mean, I, That should be a foregone conclusion, but you know, there 383 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:03,980 in case it didn't occur to you. 384 00:22:03,980 --> 00:22:04,610 That's fine. 385 00:22:05,150 --> 00:22:08,780 When we act on our goals, we accomplish more. 386 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:13,250 Thus, leading to more feelings of satisfaction and more 387 00:22:13,550 --> 00:22:15,260 feelings of pride in ourselves. 388 00:22:16,220 --> 00:22:17,750 Planning and theorizing are real. 389 00:22:17,780 --> 00:22:18,830 They are important. 390 00:22:18,950 --> 00:22:20,540 Don't, don't misunderstand. 391 00:22:20,540 --> 00:22:26,390 I'm not trying to, Take out the validity and importance of those stages. 392 00:22:26,390 --> 00:22:31,640 You need to have a good, solid plan, but we won't accomplish anything unless we 393 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:34,010 put those plans into practice, right? 394 00:22:34,010 --> 00:22:37,220 We have to exercise and execute on our planning. 395 00:22:37,700 --> 00:22:39,680 Otherwise, it's just a really great dream. 396 00:22:40,700 --> 00:22:46,490 Tell me in the comments, how many of you have struggled with having 397 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:50,060 a list of great dreams that never. 398 00:22:51,410 --> 00:22:53,450 Your mind are the notebook page. 399 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:59,210 I know I have, I've had so many, so many dreams and ideas that I thought, 400 00:22:59,210 --> 00:23:00,230 Man, this would be a good idea. 401 00:23:00,235 --> 00:23:01,280 This would be an awesome idea. 402 00:23:02,300 --> 00:23:05,900 And they never left the page right. 403 00:23:05,900 --> 00:23:09,950 I planned, I theorized, but I just, I didn't have enough confidence 404 00:23:09,950 --> 00:23:11,330 in myself to try and move forward. 405 00:23:11,330 --> 00:23:12,710 I didn't think I knew the best. 406 00:23:13,250 --> 00:23:15,260 I didn't think I had the perfect plan. 407 00:23:16,865 --> 00:23:21,875 And there were so many things that never left the starting gate because I just 408 00:23:21,875 --> 00:23:24,455 didn't go past the theorizing stage. 409 00:23:25,295 --> 00:23:30,605 You can accomplish more always by acting on your plans and moving forward 410 00:23:30,610 --> 00:23:33,095 on those goals than if you don't. 411 00:23:34,595 --> 00:23:37,535 It should be a simple truth, but for some reason we all struggle 412 00:23:37,755 --> 00:23:39,125 with that, including myself. 413 00:23:39,995 --> 00:23:42,995 Number three, actions lead to motivat. 414 00:23:44,060 --> 00:23:46,640 Many people spend a lot of time trying to find their 415 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:48,470 motivation to attempt something. 416 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,240 Even people with the best laid plans and theories can find out really 417 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,570 hard to get motivated to get started. 418 00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:02,660 The thing is taking action is what leads to motivation, not vice versa. 419 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:07,010 You don't get motivated by thinking about doing something. 420 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,970 You get motivated when you start doing so. 421 00:24:10,580 --> 00:24:15,290 Taking a small, simple step helps us build momentum and find the mo 422 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,090 motivation we're sorely lacking. 423 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,900 I can tell you there have been a lot of days where I did not wanna go to the gym. 424 00:24:21,230 --> 00:24:22,340 I was to sore. 425 00:24:22,340 --> 00:24:22,910 I was tired. 426 00:24:22,910 --> 00:24:26,750 I had a lot to do and I just was not motivated to work out. 427 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,720 Well, it's amazing. 428 00:24:29,725 --> 00:24:33,330 I get to the gym, I get about five minutes in, 10 minutes in, and I'm 429 00:24:33,330 --> 00:24:35,048 like, Oh yeah I'm feeling good. 430 00:24:35,057 --> 00:24:36,461 I've had some of my best workout. 431 00:24:37,541 --> 00:24:41,801 On days where I just did not feel motivated to go to the gym, but I went 432 00:24:41,801 --> 00:24:46,541 anyways out of discipline, and that launched into an incredible workout 433 00:24:47,021 --> 00:24:52,961 because I actually took action and that motivated me into a better workout. 434 00:24:54,041 --> 00:24:56,441 Number four, you gain life experience. 435 00:24:56,561 --> 00:25:00,971 We miss out on a lot of life experience if we're stuck in the theoretical stages 436 00:25:01,361 --> 00:25:03,101 and never put our plans into action. 437 00:25:04,076 --> 00:25:07,406 When we put our plans in action, we get to learn a lot. 438 00:25:07,496 --> 00:25:08,936 We learn from the failures. 439 00:25:09,206 --> 00:25:10,706 We learn from the successes. 440 00:25:11,096 --> 00:25:16,316 We learn from the entire experience of taking action. 441 00:25:17,276 --> 00:25:21,356 This kind of life experience is only possible if you put your 442 00:25:21,356 --> 00:25:25,586 carefully laid plans into practice because there are certain things 443 00:25:25,586 --> 00:25:27,776 that you only learn once you. 444 00:25:27,843 --> 00:25:31,087 I talk about the difference between education, like intellectual 445 00:25:31,087 --> 00:25:36,517 knowledge and wisdom and practical knowledge all the time. 446 00:25:36,522 --> 00:25:40,027 I may not always term it that way, but I have very strong feelings about it. 447 00:25:40,057 --> 00:25:45,157 I know a lot of people who have a lot of intellectual education and because they 448 00:25:45,157 --> 00:25:50,317 went to college and they study these things, but they never actually set foot 449 00:25:50,527 --> 00:25:52,927 in that trade or in that profession. 450 00:25:55,372 --> 00:26:00,112 I know a lot of people who never went to school, but they started at the bottom 451 00:26:00,112 --> 00:26:06,652 and worked their way up, and those people go get things done because there 452 00:26:06,652 --> 00:26:08,092 are certain things you have to learn. 453 00:26:08,092 --> 00:26:10,942 Now those intellectually educated people, there's nothing wrong with that. 454 00:26:11,872 --> 00:26:15,802 As you go through the process, you're gonna get even smarter because you may 455 00:26:15,802 --> 00:26:18,652 have that intellectual knowledge, but once you start adding that practical 456 00:26:18,652 --> 00:26:23,242 knowledge, It'll create a beautiful blend that will make you really good at what 457 00:26:23,242 --> 00:26:27,412 you do, but you're gonna have to learn on the ground some because there's just 458 00:26:27,412 --> 00:26:32,362 certain things about everything, every experience, every profession, every job 459 00:26:33,142 --> 00:26:37,282 that comes with actually putting feet on the ground and getting the experience. 460 00:26:38,272 --> 00:26:41,182 Number five, what's next? 461 00:26:42,587 --> 00:26:46,732 . Now, this may seem strange, but from actually putting into practice 462 00:26:46,762 --> 00:26:53,782 your planning and your theory, You get a whole nother level, and 463 00:26:53,787 --> 00:26:57,562 that is what is our first thought after accomplishing something. 464 00:26:58,702 --> 00:27:03,052 For many of us, the first thought is what's next? 465 00:27:04,792 --> 00:27:08,692 This is a healthy mindset because it means we are constantly striving to be better. 466 00:27:09,202 --> 00:27:13,312 When we accomplish something, it sets us up to be excited about our next challenge. 467 00:27:13,702 --> 00:27:16,332 It's actually like a regular progression. 468 00:27:16,702 --> 00:27:18,332 People who accomplish goals. 469 00:27:19,222 --> 00:27:22,042 Wanna accomplish more goals and wanna accomplish more goals, and 470 00:27:22,042 --> 00:27:25,192 they start setting more goals and loftier goals and bigger goals. 471 00:27:26,212 --> 00:27:28,042 You still have to go through the planning phase. 472 00:27:29,062 --> 00:27:32,875 But this shifts us into action along with planning. 473 00:27:33,205 --> 00:27:35,395 Because once you knock out one, it feels good. 474 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,715 You gain that satisfaction, you gain that experience and you're like, I can do that. 475 00:27:40,165 --> 00:27:41,005 What about this? 476 00:27:41,575 --> 00:27:43,625 And then you do that and you're like, Man, I did that. 477 00:27:43,649 --> 00:27:44,484 What's next? 478 00:27:44,874 --> 00:27:46,224 And you start dreaming bigger. 479 00:27:46,914 --> 00:27:50,484 and you start inspiring yourself because you start believing in 480 00:27:50,484 --> 00:27:55,674 yourself so that what's next mindset is really, really valuable. 481 00:27:56,844 --> 00:27:59,754 Number six, you inspire people close to you. 482 00:28:00,714 --> 00:28:05,064 One of the best motivators I've found in my life is I 483 00:28:05,064 --> 00:28:06,444 like to encourage other people. 484 00:28:07,434 --> 00:28:10,554 I like to walk alongside other people. 485 00:28:11,854 --> 00:28:14,244 Becoming someone that takes action doesn't just benefit. 486 00:28:16,479 --> 00:28:19,299 It doesn't bene just benefit me if I take action. 487 00:28:20,049 --> 00:28:24,579 Putting our plans into practice will help motivate other people around us. 488 00:28:24,909 --> 00:28:26,949 That might be friends, that might be loved, ones that might 489 00:28:26,949 --> 00:28:30,069 be coworkers, doesn't matter. 490 00:28:30,399 --> 00:28:36,379 People in your orbit will be motivated by you taking action. 491 00:28:37,449 --> 00:28:40,719 They'll see that we attacked our goals and we reached them, and if we 492 00:28:40,749 --> 00:28:43,539 can do it, maybe they can do it too. 493 00:28:43,899 --> 00:28:45,309 You're empowering them. 494 00:28:46,239 --> 00:28:49,629 Think about how positive an example of this would be for your kids, right? 495 00:28:49,959 --> 00:28:52,179 What if your kids see you meeting goals? 496 00:28:52,179 --> 00:28:55,899 What if they actually understand and become part of that process and 497 00:28:55,899 --> 00:29:02,319 see you plan and you know, come up with ideas and theories, and then 498 00:29:02,409 --> 00:29:05,949 put it into action as an action plan, a watch you achieve things. 499 00:29:06,519 --> 00:29:07,749 What are you teaching them? 500 00:29:08,289 --> 00:29:09,879 What are you teaching, coworker? 501 00:29:10,419 --> 00:29:14,229 You're our friends, you're, you're empowering them to be 502 00:29:14,229 --> 00:29:18,219 powerful too by you taking action. 503 00:29:18,219 --> 00:29:21,639 Because if you can do it, then maybe they can too, and that helps with 504 00:29:21,639 --> 00:29:25,719 that confidence that we talked about that holds us back, that belief in 505 00:29:25,719 --> 00:29:27,969 self in the first half of the show. 506 00:29:28,779 --> 00:29:32,169 Number seven, guys, you develop new skills quite often. 507 00:29:32,169 --> 00:29:34,479 Planning includes brushing up on some skills. 508 00:29:35,334 --> 00:29:39,234 Sometimes this commitment to improving skills holds us back from taking 509 00:29:39,234 --> 00:29:40,794 action and can be problematic. 510 00:29:41,274 --> 00:29:46,374 However, when we put that plan into action or into practice, 511 00:29:47,784 --> 00:29:51,268 that we truly start building our skills, that's where it happens. 512 00:29:51,898 --> 00:29:53,488 Practice is what makes perfect. 513 00:29:53,598 --> 00:29:56,488 I've had this discussion with my daughter over and over again. 514 00:29:56,488 --> 00:30:01,558 My 10 year old thinks that she should be really good at something just automat. 515 00:30:02,428 --> 00:30:06,268 Just like defacto, she is talented at basketball. 516 00:30:07,378 --> 00:30:09,598 Oh, well, I'm not good at baking cookies. 517 00:30:09,868 --> 00:30:12,748 You've only done it once, right? 518 00:30:13,078 --> 00:30:16,528 She's still wrapping your mind around this idea that to get good at something 519 00:30:16,528 --> 00:30:17,968 you're not inherently good at it. 520 00:30:18,178 --> 00:30:20,098 It takes practice. 521 00:30:21,238 --> 00:30:23,698 Practice is what makes perfect, after all, not planning. 522 00:30:23,698 --> 00:30:27,988 So as we work towards our goals, we are forced to learn new 523 00:30:27,988 --> 00:30:29,998 skills to deal with new obstacle. 524 00:30:30,062 --> 00:30:32,295 We hone our current skills by using them. 525 00:30:32,475 --> 00:30:35,415 When it matters, guys, it's that practice and that practice, 526 00:30:35,415 --> 00:30:36,765 and you learn what you need. 527 00:30:37,035 --> 00:30:38,355 Oh, look, I learned this. 528 00:30:39,195 --> 00:30:45,934 I cannot tell you how many skills I've developed in production by just 529 00:30:45,964 --> 00:30:47,884 working on my own YouTube channel. 530 00:30:48,304 --> 00:30:54,154 I now offer production work for other podcasts because after two years of 531 00:30:54,154 --> 00:30:59,771 producing my own show, Week in and week out, guys I've picked up a lot of skills 532 00:30:59,771 --> 00:31:04,091 in audio engineering and other stuff, and so now I actually have those skills 533 00:31:04,151 --> 00:31:09,131 that I can sell for other people's shoes as well as my own because I had 534 00:31:09,131 --> 00:31:13,358 to learn, I had to hone the skills I already had and take on new skills. 535 00:31:13,427 --> 00:31:17,157 That comes from action number eight, boost your confidence. 536 00:31:18,297 --> 00:31:22,877 Acting on our plans and theory is one of the best ways to boost your confidence. 537 00:31:24,032 --> 00:31:30,032 When you start hitting that satisfaction of achieving certain things, when we act 538 00:31:30,032 --> 00:31:36,182 on our plans and things go as we theorize, we naturally feel more confident, right? 539 00:31:36,212 --> 00:31:37,982 We didn't believe in ourselves necessarily before. 540 00:31:37,987 --> 00:31:39,612 That was one of the things that holds us back. 541 00:31:39,612 --> 00:31:42,383 We naturally start to become more confident as we act 542 00:31:42,383 --> 00:31:44,633 and things go the right way. 543 00:31:45,713 --> 00:31:48,803 We'll be more confident in ourselves, more confident in our plan. 544 00:31:49,373 --> 00:31:53,363 And it will make taking action a lot easier because we're building up that 545 00:31:53,363 --> 00:31:59,213 belief in ourself and that confidence that we are capable and we are able. 546 00:32:00,263 --> 00:32:02,153 Number nine, you minimize regret. 547 00:32:04,193 --> 00:32:05,123 This one's a weird, 548 00:32:08,123 --> 00:32:11,331 weird, big theory that I'm gonna keep short because I'm pretty sure 549 00:32:11,331 --> 00:32:14,241 I could go down the rabbit hole on this, but by acting on your. 550 00:32:15,366 --> 00:32:17,286 You minimize your regrets in the future. 551 00:32:17,976 --> 00:32:21,906 For most people, their biggest regrets are things they never tried or experienced. 552 00:32:22,776 --> 00:32:26,046 If you're the type of person that plans more than you act, then you're, 553 00:32:26,166 --> 00:32:28,326 you'll likely be full of regrets. 554 00:32:29,196 --> 00:32:31,596 When you're the type of person that puts your plans into practice, 555 00:32:31,601 --> 00:32:34,416 you're more likely to try most of the things that you wanted to do. 556 00:32:35,136 --> 00:32:39,636 A lot of people get towards the later portions of their life. 557 00:32:39,636 --> 00:32:41,796 It's like, Man, I wish I had tried starting that business. 558 00:32:42,396 --> 00:32:44,226 Man, I wish I had taken that vacation. 559 00:32:44,601 --> 00:32:45,351 Man, I wish. 560 00:32:45,351 --> 00:32:47,001 I wish, I wish right? 561 00:32:47,001 --> 00:32:50,361 I wish I had tried developing that guys. 562 00:32:50,421 --> 00:32:55,401 It's incredible how much regret people have in their lives. 563 00:32:55,406 --> 00:32:57,231 Well, how do we fight? 564 00:32:57,236 --> 00:32:57,711 Regret? 565 00:32:57,741 --> 00:33:03,651 We, we act, We get outta the planning in theory phase after we have a good plan 566 00:33:03,671 --> 00:33:11,841 and we put it into practice number 10, it creates new opportunity no matter how. 567 00:33:12,636 --> 00:33:12,906 Thorough. 568 00:33:12,906 --> 00:33:15,376 Our plans are, we can't plan for everything, right? 569 00:33:15,376 --> 00:33:16,240 I'm a big believer. 570 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,350 I was just talking about this on the live stream the other night of having 571 00:33:20,350 --> 00:33:26,290 plan A, plan B, plan C, plan D, and if I get through plan C, I'm okay 572 00:33:27,970 --> 00:33:30,190 , because we can't plan for everything. 573 00:33:30,190 --> 00:33:36,190 And I know, cuz I try, While this might be scary, it's not always a negative. 574 00:33:37,165 --> 00:33:41,245 You can never know what new and exciting opportunities might present itself 575 00:33:41,785 --> 00:33:44,545 while you're working towards your goals. 576 00:33:44,995 --> 00:33:49,945 I never thought, as I was building my own podcast, I would be able to 577 00:33:49,950 --> 00:33:52,885 take some of the skills I learned from that and use that as a business 578 00:33:52,885 --> 00:33:58,585 tool to help other podcasters and to make some extra income, right? 579 00:33:59,125 --> 00:33:59,755 I didn't know that. 580 00:33:59,755 --> 00:34:03,115 I didn't know the skills I would develop would enable that as a business. 581 00:34:04,165 --> 00:34:04,915 I didn't know. 582 00:34:05,950 --> 00:34:09,010 The skills and experiences I developed, being a podcaster would 583 00:34:09,010 --> 00:34:12,010 help me to put on a live conference. 584 00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:16,000 And some of the people I work with, some incredible people 585 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:17,620 I've met all over the world. 586 00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:21,940 If you've been following the podcast, you know, I've talked to guys in Scotland and 587 00:34:21,945 --> 00:34:26,023 Australia and South Africa and England it's just been really cool when guys all 588 00:34:26,023 --> 00:34:31,783 over Canada and America, it's been super incredible cause I met these people and 589 00:34:31,843 --> 00:34:33,523 opportunities have come out of that. 590 00:34:33,958 --> 00:34:37,828 To do other collaborations, and that's what happens when you act. 591 00:34:38,878 --> 00:34:41,518 You get new and exciting opportunities that you may not have planned 592 00:34:41,518 --> 00:34:45,186 on, but it may be exactly where you need to go, and you just even 593 00:34:45,191 --> 00:34:47,876 know it until it fell in your lap. 594 00:34:48,506 --> 00:34:53,276 Now guys, if you're struggling with balancing theory versus practice, what 595 00:34:53,276 --> 00:34:56,756 you need to do is iron out a system to keep you accountable to yourself. 596 00:34:57,716 --> 00:35:01,526 This can be done by setting different boundaries, deadlines, and systems. 597 00:35:02,816 --> 00:35:06,026 Such as, I can only work on one long term goal and one short term 598 00:35:06,026 --> 00:35:08,996 goal at a time, and can't start another one until that's done. 599 00:35:09,176 --> 00:35:13,099 So, shut off that, Oh, plenty phase, Okay, I have to finish this task, right? 600 00:35:13,699 --> 00:35:17,089 I'm really bad about starting a bunch of stuff and only getting some of it done. 601 00:35:17,839 --> 00:35:20,525 So let's limit how much I can start, right? 602 00:35:21,035 --> 00:35:24,935 Or setting a deadline on the planning stage. 603 00:35:24,935 --> 00:35:27,934 Like, okay, this is a, mid-size goal. 604 00:35:28,789 --> 00:35:32,059 One week of solid dedicated focus planning. 605 00:35:32,389 --> 00:35:35,359 And then I have to start no more planning after that, right? 606 00:35:36,109 --> 00:35:36,769 Review. 607 00:35:37,609 --> 00:35:37,939 Sure. 608 00:35:37,939 --> 00:35:39,169 But no more planning after that. 609 00:35:39,649 --> 00:35:43,219 Or you can gauge a protocol like the wedge system to use to 610 00:35:43,224 --> 00:35:44,389 guide you through the process. 611 00:35:44,389 --> 00:35:49,129 The wedge system is w what and why. 612 00:35:49,639 --> 00:35:51,409 E Establish goals. 613 00:35:51,469 --> 00:35:56,149 D, decide what matters most G go with milestones are an E. 614 00:35:56,209 --> 00:35:57,109 Engage in reflect. 615 00:35:57,949 --> 00:36:00,919 Now for a complete late breakdown of the wedge system, because 616 00:36:00,919 --> 00:36:02,299 that's a whole nother podcast. 617 00:36:02,299 --> 00:36:08,269 Guys, What you actually need to do is check out our blog on our website on 618 00:36:08,299 --> 00:36:12,229 Friday this week, I have a complete breakdown of what the wedge system 619 00:36:12,229 --> 00:36:17,329 is, how it works, and how you can use it to help balance theory versus the 620 00:36:17,329 --> 00:36:22,129 practice on my website, on the blog on Friday, that you guys will be able 621 00:36:22,129 --> 00:36:25,369 to then actually just see that instead of me trying to explain it verbally. 622 00:36:25,864 --> 00:36:29,914 You can actually see the acronym and see how it breaks down, and that will give 623 00:36:29,914 --> 00:36:34,744 you a much better solution than me trying to explain it verbally over the podcast. 624 00:36:35,704 --> 00:36:37,894 But check that blog out Friday, guys. 625 00:36:38,314 --> 00:36:42,004 If you're having problems balancing it, you need to identify the things that 626 00:36:42,009 --> 00:36:45,024 are keeping you from going forward. 627 00:36:46,024 --> 00:36:48,274 And we went through those, go back to the first half of the show. 628 00:36:48,934 --> 00:36:51,724 We went through eight of the most common things that keep us 629 00:36:51,784 --> 00:36:53,944 in that theory planning zone. 630 00:36:54,799 --> 00:36:59,509 Identify what those weaknesses are in your own life, and then seek solutions. 631 00:36:59,509 --> 00:37:00,889 Like I said, look through my catalog. 632 00:37:00,889 --> 00:37:05,389 If I haven't covered it yet, contact me and we'll do a show on that next. 633 00:37:05,959 --> 00:37:08,089 But guys, identify those weaknesses. 634 00:37:08,869 --> 00:37:10,819 Look at other coaches if you need to or whatever. 635 00:37:10,819 --> 00:37:11,299 That's fine. 636 00:37:11,299 --> 00:37:15,949 It's not gonna upset me, but identify those, Get that in check. 637 00:37:16,549 --> 00:37:18,919 Set boundaries, right? 638 00:37:19,699 --> 00:37:21,709 Set deadlines, so you have to take action. 639 00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,039 And start moving forward. 640 00:37:25,219 --> 00:37:29,029 You need to put into practice or you will live a life where you struggle with 641 00:37:29,029 --> 00:37:31,759 regrets at the end, and nobody wants that. 642 00:37:32,299 --> 00:37:37,579 Guys, we want to come alongside you here at the Fallow Man on your journey as 643 00:37:37,579 --> 00:37:42,259 man, husband, father, wherever you are, and help you as you walk along because 644 00:37:42,289 --> 00:37:46,279 we're trying to, to our best selves, we're trying seeking our purpose and 645 00:37:46,279 --> 00:37:49,189 becoming the best version of ourselves, and I think that's why you're here. 646 00:37:49,684 --> 00:37:51,274 If we can serve you in that way. 647 00:37:51,334 --> 00:37:52,564 I have coaching services. 648 00:37:52,564 --> 00:37:54,934 I have other venues besides the podcast. 649 00:37:55,654 --> 00:37:57,034 Find us wherever we are. 650 00:37:57,394 --> 00:38:01,534 We would love to come alongside you as part of the fallible nation and encourage 651 00:38:01,534 --> 00:38:03,874 you, jump on memberships on my website. 652 00:38:04,654 --> 00:38:08,914 And guys, we just wanna be part of your life and encourage you as you make that 653 00:38:08,914 --> 00:38:10,564 journey, because we believe in you. 654 00:38:10,924 --> 00:38:13,384 Because we believe you are meant to be incredible. 655 00:38:13,984 --> 00:38:17,394 And we're born for a specific purpose, and the world needs who you were made. 656 00:38:18,214 --> 00:38:19,234 I believe it in all my heart. 657 00:38:19,234 --> 00:38:22,954 Guys, be better tomorrow because what you do today and 658 00:38:22,954 --> 00:38:23,794 we'll see you on the next one. 659 00:38:24,754 --> 00:38:27,274 This has been the Fable Man Podcast. 660 00:38:27,874 --> 00:38:31,084 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 661 00:38:32,014 --> 00:38:34,354 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 662 00:38:35,194 --> 00:38:41,524 Head over to www.thefollowableman.com for more content and get 663 00:38:41,524 --> 00:38:43,024 your own fallible man gear.