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Before 40: 7 Goals for High Value Men to BUILD Your Masculine Frame!

In this episode of The Fallible Man Podcast, we explore the seven goals every high-value man should be working on before turning 40. These goals will help you build a strong masculine frame, and they are essential to becoming the best version of your...

In this episode of The Fallible Man Podcast, we explore the seven goals every high-value man should be working on before turning 40. These goals will help you build a strong masculine frame, and they are essential to becoming the best version of yourself. Join us as we discuss the importance of financial stability, investing in yourself, taking care of your physical shape, and stepping out of your comfort zone. We'll also share tips on learning the art of cooking and maintaining strong relationships with your friends and family.

 

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1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:05,130 As Men, we're often told to be strong, confident, successful, but 2 00:00:05,370 --> 00:00:06,990 how do we actually achieve that? 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:09,840 Well, in this episode of the Fallible Man Podcast, we're gonna give you 4 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:14,400 seven tangible goals to help you build a strong masculine frame and 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:15,810 become the best version of yourself. 6 00:00:16,170 --> 00:00:19,290 So if you're ready to take your life to the next level, keep listening. 7 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:26,630 Here's the million dollar question. 8 00:00:27,060 --> 00:00:28,800 How do men like us reach our full? 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,870 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 10 00:00:34,230 --> 00:00:38,610 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 11 00:00:39,599 --> 00:00:43,440 Well, that's the big question In this podcast, we'll help you 12 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:44,789 answer those questions and more. 13 00:00:44,970 --> 00:00:51,429 My name is Brent and welcome to the Album Man podcast on the mission. 14 00:00:51,810 --> 00:00:53,280 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 15 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:54,959 Your home for all things, man, husband, and. 16 00:00:55,590 --> 00:00:56,940 Big shout to Fallible Nation. 17 00:00:56,970 --> 00:01:00,869 You guys make this all possible and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 18 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,319 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 19 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,339 And on today's show, guys, I'm really excited that this one is specifically 20 00:01:08,339 --> 00:01:11,220 aimed at all of you under the age of 40. 21 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,369 Now, I know that some of my listeners are over that age, and that's fine. 22 00:01:14,399 --> 00:01:18,899 You can apply these things to your life too, but this is really in 23 00:01:18,905 --> 00:01:22,530 particular for those of you guys who are just getting a good launch on life. 24 00:01:23,875 --> 00:01:28,365 The world is kind of nuts these days and really confusing as modern men. 25 00:01:28,365 --> 00:01:31,845 Let's face it, it feels like the world doesn't really want us to be men 26 00:01:31,845 --> 00:01:35,835 sometimes, and our roles have grown, change expanded, and even for previous 27 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,384 generations, it's, it's a different world. 28 00:01:39,465 --> 00:01:42,615 We've talked about masculine framing before, but for a quick refresher 29 00:01:42,615 --> 00:01:45,755 on why we're using that term or if you're unfamiliar with the. 30 00:01:46,884 --> 00:01:48,345 Masculine frame is a man's foundation. 31 00:01:48,405 --> 00:01:51,375 It's what supports him and allows him to take action in the world. 32 00:01:51,795 --> 00:01:55,785 A strong frame conveys confidence, power, and authority, and it's the first 33 00:01:55,785 --> 00:01:59,145 thing that's really noticed about you by other people and kind of sets the 34 00:01:59,145 --> 00:02:00,645 tone for how they interact with you. 35 00:02:01,155 --> 00:02:03,705 We're not talking about having a bad attitude or anything like that. 36 00:02:03,710 --> 00:02:04,755 It's a presence. 37 00:02:05,175 --> 00:02:07,185 So why before 40? 38 00:02:07,725 --> 00:02:08,984 Because I called the show. 39 00:02:10,050 --> 00:02:10,740 Just that, right? 40 00:02:10,740 --> 00:02:12,030 That's what I titled this before. 41 00:02:12,030 --> 00:02:13,260 40 Things You Want to Achieve. 42 00:02:13,260 --> 00:02:14,850 Well, two reasons, guys. 43 00:02:15,510 --> 00:02:21,900 At 43, I can tell you that it's easier before you hit 40 than after you hit 40 to 44 00:02:21,900 --> 00:02:26,910 achieve some of the things on this list, and it's easier to maintain what you've 45 00:02:26,915 --> 00:02:28,680 already built than to build them later. 46 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:33,270 You can do it after, but it will help your journey a lot to establish some of these 47 00:02:33,270 --> 00:02:35,340 things before you ever get to my age. 48 00:02:36,285 --> 00:02:39,375 Number two is at 40, I've gained some perspective that 49 00:02:39,375 --> 00:02:41,085 comes with Asian experience. 50 00:02:41,445 --> 00:02:44,685 I'm not saying I'm some old wise man or claiming to be brilliant, 51 00:02:45,105 --> 00:02:49,005 but enough people have come and gone in my life through death, through 52 00:02:49,215 --> 00:02:50,955 moving through all kinds of things. 53 00:02:51,555 --> 00:02:55,935 But I've started to see with some clarity what would've helped me live the life I 54 00:02:55,935 --> 00:03:01,995 wanna live if I started it out earlier, instead of feeling like I'm scrambling. 55 00:03:03,435 --> 00:03:06,375 So that's why we're doing this show and that's why I'm prefacing it. 56 00:03:06,525 --> 00:03:10,335 Four guys under the age of 40, specifically, like I said, there's 57 00:03:10,335 --> 00:03:11,565 something for all of you in this. 58 00:03:11,565 --> 00:03:16,335 Please don't think this doesn't apply to the rest of us, but I wanna talk to 59 00:03:16,335 --> 00:03:18,405 the younger guys just for a little bit. 60 00:03:19,215 --> 00:03:23,235 The first thing is, the first goal you want to achieve, right, 61 00:03:23,895 --> 00:03:26,595 is to have an awareness of. 62 00:03:27,555 --> 00:03:27,915 Right. 63 00:03:28,365 --> 00:03:29,445 I know that sounds kinda weird. 64 00:03:29,865 --> 00:03:33,555 As a man, it's important to have an awareness of our own mortality. 65 00:03:34,155 --> 00:03:37,575 The awareness will motivate you to make the most of the time and to 66 00:03:37,575 --> 00:03:39,555 prioritize things that truly matter. 67 00:03:40,335 --> 00:03:44,415 Remembering that our time is limited will help us focus on things that are 68 00:03:44,535 --> 00:03:49,005 more important and most important to you, and it will give you the courage 69 00:03:49,005 --> 00:03:50,875 to pursue your goals fearlessly. 70 00:03:51,510 --> 00:03:53,670 It's not morbid guys, it's perspective. 71 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:54,840 I wasted a lot of time. 72 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:59,220 I can never recover on shit that doesn't matter and didn't make my life better. 73 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,680 And at 43 is something I wish I had been more focused on. 74 00:04:05,700 --> 00:04:09,300 Point number two is financial freedom and stability. 75 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:14,280 Achieving financial stability is essential to build a strong masculine frame. 76 00:04:15,030 --> 00:04:19,440 We derive a lot of our value from our ability to make a decent living and to 77 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:20,909 provide for the people we care about. 78 00:04:21,959 --> 00:04:24,450 It really does a number on men's brains. 79 00:04:24,810 --> 00:04:27,419 This means being able to support yourself and your loved ones. 80 00:04:27,419 --> 00:04:30,150 Having a solid financial plan and investing in your own future, 81 00:04:30,750 --> 00:04:34,140 building a successful career, or starting a business will give you the 82 00:04:34,140 --> 00:04:36,870 freedom to live life on your terms. 83 00:04:37,260 --> 00:04:40,409 It will give you the confidence and it'll give you the means to pursue your. 84 00:04:41,670 --> 00:04:43,500 This doesn't look the same for all PA people. 85 00:04:43,500 --> 00:04:44,070 I know that. 86 00:04:44,070 --> 00:04:44,849 And that's okay. 87 00:04:45,060 --> 00:04:49,020 You don't have to look like my trip to success, financial success, 88 00:04:49,740 --> 00:04:51,000 and by God, I hope you don't. 89 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:52,320 God hope you, I hope you do it better. 90 00:04:52,890 --> 00:04:58,349 But you have a better chance now at a younger age than an ever history to 91 00:04:58,349 --> 00:05:02,730 actually achieve financial freedom and stability at a much, much younger age. 92 00:05:02,820 --> 00:05:07,080 Used to you had to work 40 years in a fairly significant 93 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:08,490 job after a lot of years of. 94 00:05:09,945 --> 00:05:14,565 To ever have a really solid financial future, and that's not the case anymore. 95 00:05:15,825 --> 00:05:20,715 Number three, invest in yourself to become a high value man, 96 00:05:21,285 --> 00:05:23,175 you must invest in yourself. 97 00:05:23,445 --> 00:05:26,715 This means taking courses, reading books, attending workshops, and learning 98 00:05:26,715 --> 00:05:29,565 new skills by investing in yourself. 99 00:05:30,510 --> 00:05:34,200 You'll be better equipped to handle any cha challenge that comes your way, and 100 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,710 you'll be able to contribute more to your community and the world at large 101 00:05:38,340 --> 00:05:40,740 and just live the life that you want to. 102 00:05:41,280 --> 00:05:43,200 Knowledge really is power. 103 00:05:44,130 --> 00:05:45,630 Now gonna roll this sponsor real quick. 104 00:05:45,690 --> 00:05:48,330 Will be right more back with four more things that you guys 105 00:05:48,330 --> 00:05:49,770 really wanna work on, I promise. 106 00:05:50,700 --> 00:05:54,360 Now before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys, I don't always tell 107 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,720 you how much I love doing my podcast. 108 00:05:58,185 --> 00:06:02,955 Like I passionately love what I'm doing and one of the things that makes my 109 00:06:02,955 --> 00:06:06,885 life better as a podcaster is to work with a company like Grow Your Show. 110 00:06:07,455 --> 00:06:09,705 Grow Your Show is a one stop podcast. 111 00:06:09,705 --> 00:06:10,275 Do it all. 112 00:06:10,575 --> 00:06:13,604 Now I use Grow Your Show for my marketing, but Grow Your Show 113 00:06:13,604 --> 00:06:14,985 is literally a one stop shop. 114 00:06:14,985 --> 00:06:17,325 You can record your episode and just drop it off with them 115 00:06:17,325 --> 00:06:18,255 and they take it from there. 116 00:06:18,284 --> 00:06:18,885 It's amazing. 117 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:23,520 If you are interested in picking up podcasting, it's a hobby, or maybe 118 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,610 you're looking to expand your business and use podcasting in that aspect, 119 00:06:27,090 --> 00:06:28,979 talk to my friends over Grow Your Show. 120 00:06:28,979 --> 00:06:30,030 Adam will take care of you. 121 00:06:30,030 --> 00:06:30,960 I guarantee it. 122 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:31,950 I trust him. 123 00:06:31,950 --> 00:06:36,539 He's my friend, he's my business colleague, and I wouldn't trust 124 00:06:36,539 --> 00:06:37,560 anybody else with my show. 125 00:06:37,849 --> 00:06:39,120 Welcome back guys. 126 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:39,480 We got. 127 00:06:39,854 --> 00:06:45,015 Seven goals for high value men to build before 40 to help carry 128 00:06:45,015 --> 00:06:46,875 and build that masculine frame. 129 00:06:47,414 --> 00:06:50,234 We've already talked about points one through three, so if you miss it, go back. 130 00:06:50,685 --> 00:06:56,685 Number four is take care of your health, of your physical shape. 131 00:06:57,645 --> 00:06:59,955 I mean, it's, it's important guys. 132 00:07:00,544 --> 00:07:02,265 I, I can't overstress that. 133 00:07:02,925 --> 00:07:06,075 Taking care of your official physical shape is crucial to 134 00:07:06,075 --> 00:07:07,725 building a strong masculine frame. 135 00:07:07,725 --> 00:07:08,475 It just is. 136 00:07:09,075 --> 00:07:12,585 This means eating a better, healthier diet, getting regular exercise, and 137 00:07:12,585 --> 00:07:14,355 taking care of your mental health as well. 138 00:07:14,985 --> 00:07:18,015 By prioriti, prioritizing your physical health, you're gonna 139 00:07:18,015 --> 00:07:21,284 have more energy, you're gonna be more productive, and you're gonna 140 00:07:21,284 --> 00:07:23,325 feel more confident in yourself. 141 00:07:23,925 --> 00:07:28,695 And I can tell you at 43, it is also so much harder as time goes. 142 00:07:30,090 --> 00:07:34,980 To get into shape if you haven't been in decent shape and you stand a much 143 00:07:34,980 --> 00:07:39,510 better chance of maintaining it or staying in that healthy lifestyle, 144 00:07:39,510 --> 00:07:43,170 if you build and develop it early in life and just carry that with 145 00:07:43,170 --> 00:07:44,880 you than if you try and do it later. 146 00:07:46,050 --> 00:07:48,720 Number five, learn the art of cooking. 147 00:07:49,260 --> 00:07:50,890 My goodness, this is so important. 148 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,670 I can't even begin to stress it enough and it doesn't get talked about. 149 00:07:54,645 --> 00:07:58,965 Cooking is an essential life skill that every man should learn. 150 00:07:59,835 --> 00:08:03,885 Not only will it help save you money and help you eat healthier, but it's 151 00:08:03,890 --> 00:08:08,025 also a great way to impress loved ones and show them how much you care. 152 00:08:08,025 --> 00:08:09,135 I'm a southern person. 153 00:08:09,224 --> 00:08:11,835 I come from southern family, so that's love. 154 00:08:11,835 --> 00:08:13,065 In our house, we cook for you. 155 00:08:13,065 --> 00:08:14,305 You will eat in my house. 156 00:08:15,855 --> 00:08:20,655 But by learning cook, you'll also be able to take care of your family yourself. 157 00:08:21,225 --> 00:08:25,335 You'll be able to share your love through your food, but you'll also 158 00:08:25,335 --> 00:08:27,135 be able to get yourself better food. 159 00:08:27,405 --> 00:08:27,885 Okay? 160 00:08:28,245 --> 00:08:32,445 Having to cook food is cheaper than buying food all the time. 161 00:08:32,924 --> 00:08:36,075 It's also one of the most attractive skills to the 162 00:08:36,435 --> 00:08:37,395 opposite sex that men can have. 163 00:08:38,565 --> 00:08:42,685 I dunno about you guys, but my wife's first birthday. 164 00:08:43,530 --> 00:08:47,520 After we got married, we cooked her a six course deal, our six 165 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,980 course meal of Asian style food. 166 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,300 It was an all day thing and it was amazing, and she loved it. 167 00:08:55,290 --> 00:08:56,459 Goal number six, guys. 168 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,740 Comfortable being uncomfortable. 169 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:03,569 Stepping out of your comfort zone is essential to personal growth and 170 00:09:03,569 --> 00:09:05,220 ability and strong masculine frame. 171 00:09:05,970 --> 00:09:09,350 This means taking risk, trying new things, pushing. 172 00:09:10,890 --> 00:09:13,949 I'm stretching your limits by getting out of your comfort zone. 173 00:09:13,949 --> 00:09:15,270 You build resilience. 174 00:09:15,300 --> 00:09:19,020 You learn new skills, you develop the confidence to tackle challenges. 175 00:09:19,770 --> 00:09:25,439 Comfort zones are one of the greatest, greatest killers of 176 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,160 growth, of potential and of success. 177 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:34,319 Becoming complacent and being in your comfort zone is accepting your reality, 178 00:09:34,324 --> 00:09:38,280 how it is, and refusing that you deserve more, and that's just a bad. 179 00:09:39,690 --> 00:09:43,350 Last one we wanna talk about is, you know, build high quality relationships. 180 00:09:44,460 --> 00:09:47,490 As a man, it's important to maintain strong relationship with 181 00:09:47,490 --> 00:09:49,110 your friends and your family. 182 00:09:49,950 --> 00:09:53,910 This means taking the time to connect with them, listening to their concerns, 183 00:09:53,915 --> 00:09:55,530 and offering support when needed. 184 00:09:56,310 --> 00:10:00,540 By prioritizing your relationships, you'll build strong support system that will help 185 00:10:00,540 --> 00:10:03,960 you navigate the ups and downs of life. 186 00:10:04,350 --> 00:10:06,870 Your tribe is your strength when life pushes. 187 00:10:07,694 --> 00:10:09,045 So build a strong one. 188 00:10:10,425 --> 00:10:13,064 Now guys, think about it really carefully. 189 00:10:14,055 --> 00:10:15,704 This applies to all men. 190 00:10:16,245 --> 00:10:19,485 I know I specified before you turn 40 because I'm telling 191 00:10:19,485 --> 00:10:24,045 you, starting on this path much earlier will make it much easier. 192 00:10:24,135 --> 00:10:27,645 It'll also bring you a lot more fulfillment and joy earlier in 193 00:10:27,885 --> 00:10:31,935 your life and help you live the life you want much sooner, much. 194 00:10:32,954 --> 00:10:37,305 Much longer because if you wait till you're past 40 to start this journey, 195 00:10:38,115 --> 00:10:43,005 you could have a really long trek and by the time you get there, you may not have 196 00:10:43,010 --> 00:10:47,625 a lot of time, especially with the whole financial stability thing to enjoy that. 197 00:10:47,685 --> 00:10:48,015 Right? 198 00:10:48,015 --> 00:10:50,055 You could be working for years. 199 00:10:50,444 --> 00:10:54,175 Retirements are not what they used to be, so take control of your. 200 00:10:55,199 --> 00:10:58,199 Grab these seven goals before you reach 40. 201 00:10:58,199 --> 00:11:03,060 If you're under 40 and even after, after 40, keep working towards these things. 202 00:11:03,510 --> 00:11:06,060 Remember, building a strong masculine frame takes time. 203 00:11:06,180 --> 00:11:09,990 It takes dedication, hard work by setting these seven goals 204 00:11:09,990 --> 00:11:11,670 for yourself before you turn 40. 205 00:11:12,420 --> 00:11:15,150 You'll be well on your way to becoming the best version of 206 00:11:15,150 --> 00:11:16,829 yourself much earlier in your life. 207 00:11:17,189 --> 00:11:18,749 And that comes with a lot of reward. 208 00:11:18,749 --> 00:11:22,979 Getting to that point way sooner is much, much more rewarding. 209 00:11:23,430 --> 00:11:24,839 So take first steps today. 210 00:11:24,869 --> 00:11:29,219 Start building the life you always wanted, and I promise you'll never regret it. 211 00:11:30,239 --> 00:11:31,050 Now it is Friday. 212 00:11:31,050 --> 00:11:32,609 So we wanna do a listener shout out. 213 00:11:32,969 --> 00:11:34,060 And today I wanna shout. 214 00:11:34,620 --> 00:11:36,660 They get Help Dad podcast. 215 00:11:36,990 --> 00:11:39,810 They, uh, reviewed my show and I wanna thank you guys for that. 216 00:11:40,260 --> 00:11:43,680 Uh, it's always wonderful to hear it from another podcast, 217 00:11:43,680 --> 00:11:44,880 so thanks for that support. 218 00:11:45,870 --> 00:11:48,900 They gave us a five star review and said, great podcast for people looking 219 00:11:48,900 --> 00:11:53,430 for support, a supporting podcast that breaks ideas down simply and gently 220 00:11:53,430 --> 00:11:56,790 and pushes you to where you want to be with your relationships and your goals. 221 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,250 The host did a great job carrying the show. 222 00:11:59,699 --> 00:12:00,930 Thank you so much. 223 00:12:01,170 --> 00:12:07,905 I, I'm, I'm, So just overwhelmed by you guys' generosity and 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236 00:12:43,604 --> 00:12:47,444 group and a tribe to circle up with you of people who are like-minded 237 00:12:47,744 --> 00:12:49,755 and on a forward path like you are. 238 00:12:50,084 --> 00:12:52,935 You can come connect with us there, or I do individual men's coach. 239 00:12:53,865 --> 00:12:56,445 As always, be better tomorrow because what you do today, and 240 00:12:56,445 --> 00:12:57,405 we'll see you on the next one. 241 00:12:58,845 --> 00:13:01,245 This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. 242 00:13:01,935 --> 00:13:05,175 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 243 00:13:06,105 --> 00:13:08,385 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 244 00:13:09,255 --> 00:13:15,765 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get your 245 00:13:15,765 --> 00:13:17,855 own Fallible man gear now. 246 00:13:18,285 --> 00:13:19,775 I ain't waiting and wish.