Decluttering Your Life for the New Year: 3 Steps to Succeed at Your New Goal

1 00:00:01,110 --> 00:00:03,360 What if I told you you're going about New Year's resolutions? 2 00:00:03,510 --> 00:00:04,140 All wrong. 3 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:07,680 Everybody decides they're gonna do something like loose weight, quit 4 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:10,650 smoking, they're gonna take up a new hobby or start going to the gym. 5 00:00:10,890 --> 00:00:11,670 They're gonna make more money. 6 00:00:11,670 --> 00:00:12,660 That's a good goal, right? 7 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:13,950 We can all get behind that. 8 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:17,790 Well, in this episode of the Fallible Man podcast, we're gonna share exactly 9 00:00:17,795 --> 00:00:22,230 what is missing from this process and how you can actually achieve 10 00:00:22,230 --> 00:00:24,540 your goals this coming New Year. 11 00:00:24,870 --> 00:00:25,020 Let's. 12 00:00:26,220 --> 00:00:27,779 Here's the million dollar question. 13 00:00:28,290 --> 00:00:31,950 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 14 00:00:31,950 --> 00:00:36,089 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 15 00:00:36,269 --> 00:00:40,769 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 16 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:43,349 That's the question in this podcast. 17 00:00:43,650 --> 00:00:44,940 We'll help you with those answers. 18 00:00:44,940 --> 00:00:48,060 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 19 00:00:48,060 --> 00:00:51,120 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all things, man, husband, and. 20 00:00:51,809 --> 00:00:55,110 Big shout out to Fallible Nation and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 21 00:00:55,379 --> 00:00:57,510 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 22 00:00:57,809 --> 00:01:01,379 I'm a man's personal development lifestyle coach and podcaster, and 23 00:01:01,379 --> 00:01:04,200 we're grateful that you are here to spend some time with us today. 24 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:10,259 It's that time again, the annual promise that 2023 will be your year. 25 00:01:11,130 --> 00:01:14,970 Well, these yearly ambitions are exciting and motivation is high at the beginning 26 00:01:14,970 --> 00:01:17,670 of the year by about two months in. 27 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:19,710 Many of these goals tend to trickle. 28 00:01:20,865 --> 00:01:23,024 Don't worry, you're not alone in that. 29 00:01:23,414 --> 00:01:27,645 Only about 46% of the American population makes a New Year's resolution. 30 00:01:28,335 --> 00:01:30,854 Less than 6% are successful. 31 00:01:32,145 --> 00:01:34,725 But why do so many people tank their resolution? 32 00:01:35,085 --> 00:01:36,464 Why do so many people fail? 33 00:01:37,095 --> 00:01:39,615 The truth is there are many contributing factors. 34 00:01:39,884 --> 00:01:45,195 There's one, just one that you need to know about that is often overlooked in 35 00:01:45,195 --> 00:01:49,335 the planning of New Year's resolution that jams up more people than they. 36 00:01:50,715 --> 00:01:51,945 To be successful. 37 00:01:52,095 --> 00:01:53,025 Here's the secret. 38 00:01:53,655 --> 00:02:00,495 First, you have to subtract in math, there's a set order of operations 39 00:02:00,495 --> 00:02:02,385 for a problem to work correctly. 40 00:02:02,775 --> 00:02:07,005 Well, subtraction is the unspoken key to being successful at 41 00:02:07,005 --> 00:02:08,295 your New Year's resolution. 42 00:02:08,625 --> 00:02:10,875 You have to subtract first. 43 00:02:11,865 --> 00:02:16,245 You see every choice, every new thing, every change has a cost. 44 00:02:16,545 --> 00:02:17,445 Most people miss. 45 00:02:18,435 --> 00:02:22,695 We're also stupidly busy already, that your day is incredibly full. 46 00:02:23,535 --> 00:02:28,275 Most people live by a calendar of non-negotiables and un relinquish ables. 47 00:02:28,575 --> 00:02:32,625 Now, I'm not sure that un relinquish is officially a word. 48 00:02:32,835 --> 00:02:35,775 I know if I take the S off, the spell check doesn't flag it, but 49 00:02:35,780 --> 00:02:37,005 we're gonna pretend it is okay. 50 00:02:37,725 --> 00:02:39,405 Even if people don't admit it. 51 00:02:39,765 --> 00:02:45,075 A lot of people live by what I'm calling un relinquish balls in their calendar. 52 00:02:45,375 --> 00:02:46,785 They just don't think they are. 53 00:02:48,119 --> 00:02:51,989 These are, there are things like work, sleep, food, and bathroom 54 00:02:51,994 --> 00:02:54,720 time, which you absolutely must do. 55 00:02:54,779 --> 00:02:57,869 These are non-negotiables and I encourage you to add a few other 56 00:02:57,869 --> 00:02:59,369 non-negotiables in your life. 57 00:03:00,089 --> 00:03:03,766 But if you know the numbers on how much time a ha person spends in the 58 00:03:03,771 --> 00:03:07,666 bathroom every year of their life, you know that's a requirement, right? 59 00:03:08,116 --> 00:03:09,556 Basic biology and such. 60 00:03:10,246 --> 00:03:14,866 Then there are the things that you have decided that you must do. 61 00:03:15,826 --> 00:03:19,336 Which are only the place you have wiggle room in your schedule. 62 00:03:19,816 --> 00:03:24,856 The problem is you've already decided what you must do in that timeframe. 63 00:03:25,936 --> 00:03:33,526 Any changes, additions are realignments, have to fit in here, which for the 64 00:03:33,526 --> 00:03:37,786 majority of people, that means subtraction of something else because you only have 65 00:03:37,786 --> 00:03:40,156 so much time and people fill it all up. 66 00:03:40,546 --> 00:03:41,776 We're obsessed with being busy. 67 00:03:41,776 --> 00:03:43,696 We're obsessed with filling our schedule. 68 00:03:44,716 --> 00:03:48,856 People forget what they have to give up to make changes. 69 00:03:49,846 --> 00:03:53,056 Going to the gym requires sacrificing some family time. 70 00:03:53,536 --> 00:03:57,496 Maybe some work around the house time, some Netflix and chill 71 00:03:57,501 --> 00:03:59,686 time, or maybe some me time. 72 00:04:00,286 --> 00:04:03,886 Whatever you fill your time with, adding that one change. 73 00:04:03,886 --> 00:04:07,516 If you wanna go to the gym a couple times a week, that has to come 74 00:04:07,516 --> 00:04:09,436 out of that un relinquish time. 75 00:04:10,276 --> 00:04:12,496 Now that you understand that this is the failure. 76 00:04:13,531 --> 00:04:18,421 That, I mean this way lays so many people from achieving their goals. 77 00:04:19,171 --> 00:04:22,681 I'm gonna share with you men how we need to navigate this to 78 00:04:22,681 --> 00:04:24,361 successfully make this happen. 79 00:04:25,201 --> 00:04:29,911 Now, if you actually wanna make your New Year's resolution successful this 80 00:04:29,911 --> 00:04:33,811 year, I want you to try this exercise. 81 00:04:34,531 --> 00:04:37,171 Number one, document your normal week. 82 00:04:37,231 --> 00:04:37,951 Take a week. 83 00:04:38,491 --> 00:04:41,241 I know New Year's is, you know, tomorrow. 84 00:04:41,926 --> 00:04:48,526 Document your week if you, if it's worth doing New Year's is I irrelevant day. 85 00:04:48,526 --> 00:04:50,356 It's actually a procrastinator's holiday. 86 00:04:51,556 --> 00:04:55,006 You have to have a realistic inventory of your time. 87 00:04:55,306 --> 00:04:59,146 Document every moment of your life for an entire week. 88 00:04:59,896 --> 00:05:00,946 How long do you sleep? 89 00:05:01,396 --> 00:05:03,376 Well, not don't generalize every day. 90 00:05:03,616 --> 00:05:05,536 Like actually document it day by day. 91 00:05:05,776 --> 00:05:07,156 How long are you in the bathroom? 92 00:05:07,456 --> 00:05:08,566 Maybe it's time to stop playing on your. 93 00:05:09,781 --> 00:05:12,211 How much time are you on your phone since we're talking about that? 94 00:05:12,901 --> 00:05:15,301 How much time are you playing with your kids, spending with your wife, 95 00:05:15,391 --> 00:05:21,091 answering emails if you've ever documented calories, this is like that. 96 00:05:21,091 --> 00:05:21,871 Only worse. 97 00:05:22,741 --> 00:05:24,901 Literally document every moment of your day. 98 00:05:25,081 --> 00:05:27,931 If you are sitting on the couch picking your nose, document that too. 99 00:05:28,351 --> 00:05:30,151 It's gross, but document that too. 100 00:05:31,481 --> 00:05:32,101 Document your time. 101 00:05:32,101 --> 00:05:36,391 You need an absolute real inventory of what your life looks like. 102 00:05:37,201 --> 00:05:37,471 Number. 103 00:05:38,191 --> 00:05:39,181 Choose your goals. 104 00:05:39,781 --> 00:05:43,501 Now, we are all about smart goals here on the Fallible Man podcast. 105 00:05:43,531 --> 00:05:46,171 If you've been on our channel before, you know I've talked about it. 106 00:05:46,381 --> 00:05:49,171 In fact, I did a whole different episode on that, and I'll link that 107 00:05:49,171 --> 00:05:51,331 at the end of this podcast as well. 108 00:05:51,991 --> 00:05:56,461 Choose your big goal for the year, decide this is what 2023 109 00:05:56,461 --> 00:05:57,751 is gonna be for me this year. 110 00:05:58,771 --> 00:06:03,271 Once you have that big goal, then set smaller quarterly goals 111 00:06:03,661 --> 00:06:05,311 to help you get to that big. 112 00:06:06,781 --> 00:06:07,501 From there. 113 00:06:07,651 --> 00:06:10,861 Set small monthly goals to help you get to those quarterly goals 114 00:06:10,861 --> 00:06:12,091 that help you get to that big goal. 115 00:06:12,091 --> 00:06:12,991 You see how this works? 116 00:06:13,651 --> 00:06:14,011 Okay. 117 00:06:14,221 --> 00:06:15,361 That's what we need to do. 118 00:06:15,361 --> 00:06:22,291 We need to make smart goals, which are specific, measurable, realistic, time. 119 00:06:22,291 --> 00:06:25,491 Trackable or timely and actionable. 120 00:06:25,491 --> 00:06:26,791 Something you can actually do. 121 00:06:26,791 --> 00:06:28,681 Setting a goal for something you can't control is too. 122 00:06:30,061 --> 00:06:32,551 Now, once we have an inventory of your. 123 00:06:33,271 --> 00:06:35,851 And you've picked out your goals for the year. 124 00:06:36,481 --> 00:06:38,821 The third thing you need to do is solve for X. 125 00:06:39,661 --> 00:06:42,031 Now, this is easy, right? 126 00:06:42,036 --> 00:06:43,591 This isn't as scary as algebra. 127 00:06:43,981 --> 00:06:46,081 If you don't like math, solve for X. 128 00:06:46,081 --> 00:06:46,441 Okay? 129 00:06:46,831 --> 00:06:48,631 Analyze the goals that you've set. 130 00:06:49,441 --> 00:06:52,711 Decide a realistic, remember how we talk about smart goals, right? 131 00:06:53,191 --> 00:06:55,591 Realistic, trackable, or timely? 132 00:06:56,461 --> 00:07:00,241 Decide a realistic time commitment to achieve each. 133 00:07:02,071 --> 00:07:04,921 Once you analyze those goals and figure out a realistic time 134 00:07:04,921 --> 00:07:09,451 commitment to achieve them, then start deciding what in your schedule 135 00:07:09,541 --> 00:07:11,401 you can subtract to make it possible. 136 00:07:11,671 --> 00:07:14,320 This is where we're getting into those un relinquish bowls. 137 00:07:15,340 --> 00:07:17,230 It may cost you your favorite TV series. 138 00:07:17,290 --> 00:07:20,770 I know I had to give up several things to get some of the goals 139 00:07:20,770 --> 00:07:22,150 done that I wanted to get done. 140 00:07:22,150 --> 00:07:23,050 I gave up gaming. 141 00:07:23,050 --> 00:07:25,780 I gave up watching near as much television, not a bad. 142 00:07:27,085 --> 00:07:28,945 It may cost you your me time. 143 00:07:29,095 --> 00:07:31,465 It may cost you your night out with the guys. 144 00:07:31,795 --> 00:07:34,585 You may have to tighten your budget, get rid of some of the 145 00:07:34,585 --> 00:07:36,685 extra going out that you like to do. 146 00:07:37,135 --> 00:07:43,225 You have to decide what's important to you and live your schedule accordingly. 147 00:07:44,035 --> 00:07:45,985 You have the three steps that's required. 148 00:07:45,985 --> 00:07:49,225 You need to know exactly what your real time frame looks like, 149 00:07:49,555 --> 00:07:50,725 what life looks like for you. 150 00:07:50,725 --> 00:07:51,175 In a week. 151 00:07:51,175 --> 00:07:54,025 You have to decide what your goals are, and then you have 152 00:07:54,025 --> 00:07:55,585 to take the un relinquish. 153 00:07:56,455 --> 00:08:03,175 And subtract those time elements to open up space to make the new goals possible. 154 00:08:03,445 --> 00:08:04,705 That's how you succeed, guys. 155 00:08:04,705 --> 00:08:10,135 This is the unspoken part of succeeding at new goals and at 156 00:08:10,140 --> 00:08:11,755 New Year's resolutions as well. 157 00:08:13,285 --> 00:08:13,855 Try it. 158 00:08:14,035 --> 00:08:17,665 Let me know if you wanna be successful at your New Year's resolution this year. 159 00:08:17,815 --> 00:08:19,345 This is how you go about it. 160 00:08:19,705 --> 00:08:21,505 This is the base factor. 161 00:08:21,505 --> 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