Is the Honeymoon period over? A few years down the road and wondering what happened? The good news is you’re not alone and it’s nothing you can’t recover. The majority of couples hit this cross road, but couples that last do something about it. Will ...
Is the Honeymoon period over? A few years down the road and wondering what happened? The good news is you’re not alone and it’s nothing you can’t recover. The majority of couples hit this cross road, but couples that last do something about it. Will you allow me to share with you what worked for me?
If you are wondering what the hell happened to your thriving relationship, then you are just joining the ranks of reality in life. It doesn’t matter if you did pre-marital counseling or read every relationship book. All marriage hit a point where you wonder what happened to that wild swinging from the chandeliers passionate marriage to now.
The big difference is what you choose to do about it, the way you choose to respond to the situation.
I woke up one day and had the same thought. “We used to be more fun” what happened to us? The answer is life happened, you grew up some, you’re not a kid anymore, you are “adulting” now. You have jobs, bills, responsibilities and maybe even kids.
You got tired, busy, distracted by all the things and got lazy about the one thing that is holding it all together. You both did most likely.
The awesome thing is your relationship can be more amazing as the years go by, but the things we need to worry about adjusting is the one thing we really can; YOU
In this episode we show you how to get your A Game back by changing your Marriage Mindset and asking the right questions
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1 00:00:00,870 --> 00:00:03,840 Is the honeymoon period over a few years down the road and wondering 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:04,950 what happened to your marriage. 3 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:08,700 The good news is you're not alone and it's nothing you can't recover from. 4 00:00:09,790 --> 00:00:12,930 Majority of the couples hit this crossroad, but couples 5 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,610 that last do something about it. 6 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:19,320 Well, you allow me to share with you what worked for me and what I think 7 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,980 will help you as you try and bring your endgame back to your marriage. 8 00:00:24,420 --> 00:00:24,570 Let. 9 00:00:25,919 --> 00:00:27,509 Here's the million dollar question. 10 00:00:27,990 --> 00:00:31,650 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 11 00:00:31,650 --> 00:00:35,790 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 12 00:00:35,970 --> 00:00:40,470 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 13 00:00:41,340 --> 00:00:43,050 That's the question in this podcast. 14 00:00:43,350 --> 00:00:44,640 We'll help you with those answers. 15 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:47,550 My name is Brett and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 16 00:00:48,629 --> 00:00:50,040 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 17 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:51,989 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 18 00:00:52,410 --> 00:00:54,150 Big shout out to Fallible Nation and warm. 19 00:00:54,150 --> 00:00:55,470 Welcome to our first time listeners. 20 00:00:55,470 --> 00:00:57,599 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 21 00:00:58,349 --> 00:01:01,919 If you're wondering what the hell happened to your thriving relationship, then you're 22 00:01:01,925 --> 00:01:04,560 just joining the ranks of reality in life. 23 00:01:05,039 --> 00:01:08,520 It doesn't matter if you did premarital counseling or read every 24 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:12,210 relationship book, all marriages hit a point where you wonder what 25 00:01:12,210 --> 00:01:15,690 happened to that wild swing from the chandelier passionate marriage to. 26 00:01:17,145 --> 00:01:20,565 The big difference is what you choose to do about it. 27 00:01:21,495 --> 00:01:23,265 I woke up one day and had the same thought. 28 00:01:23,565 --> 00:01:25,155 I thought, Hey, we used to be more fun. 29 00:01:25,155 --> 00:01:26,205 What happened to us? 30 00:01:27,045 --> 00:01:28,875 The answer is, life happened. 31 00:01:29,145 --> 00:01:29,865 You grew up. 32 00:01:30,435 --> 00:01:31,635 You're not a kid anymore. 33 00:01:31,905 --> 00:01:33,105 You're adulting. 34 00:01:33,105 --> 00:01:34,875 Now, I, I hate that term. 35 00:01:34,935 --> 00:01:36,285 I, I super hate that term. 36 00:01:37,035 --> 00:01:41,625 You have jobs, bills, responsibility, maybe even kids, and life happens. 37 00:01:42,285 --> 00:01:43,605 You got tired, you got. 38 00:01:45,195 --> 00:01:49,634 Distracted by all the many things and you got lazy about the one thing 39 00:01:49,634 --> 00:01:53,145 that's holding it all together, and most likely both of you did. 40 00:01:54,074 --> 00:01:58,125 The awesome thing is your relationship can be more amazing as years go by, 41 00:01:58,994 --> 00:02:02,865 but the things we need to worry about adjusting in this situation is the one 42 00:02:02,865 --> 00:02:05,145 thing we really can, and that's you. 43 00:02:06,345 --> 00:02:07,395 You lost your A game. 44 00:02:07,634 --> 00:02:09,884 Moreover, you, you just kind of let it go. 45 00:02:10,035 --> 00:02:10,975 You traded it for. 46 00:02:12,494 --> 00:02:14,864 Why keep up the work for something you already have? 47 00:02:15,704 --> 00:02:18,704 This is the mindset we fall into, and the answer to that 48 00:02:18,704 --> 00:02:20,475 question is why you're here. 49 00:02:22,005 --> 00:02:25,154 This is what life looks like when you give up your A game. 50 00:02:25,315 --> 00:02:26,625 That's, that's why we're here. 51 00:02:27,015 --> 00:02:29,054 That's why you should keep up the work. 52 00:02:30,255 --> 00:02:31,185 So how do we fix it? 53 00:02:32,430 --> 00:02:35,280 One thing I usually don't share is how impactful the podcast 54 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:36,390 has been for me personally. 55 00:02:37,020 --> 00:02:40,019 There's a lot I love and appreciate because I have the podcast. 56 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:42,570 I become somebody who can approach people easier. 57 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,000 I have a better network of people to call upon when I need 'em. 58 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,170 I get to meet new people all the time from all walks of life and all over the 59 00:02:49,170 --> 00:02:53,370 globe and connect with 'em at a deeper level, and I have a voice to do what I. 60 00:02:54,385 --> 00:02:57,985 I'm always put into situations where I'm having to stretch and learn something new. 61 00:02:58,315 --> 00:03:01,015 I've really grown as a person and a professional since I started doing 62 00:03:01,015 --> 00:03:04,855 my podcast, and that was even before my show really started growing. 63 00:03:05,755 --> 00:03:09,085 I hired a company called Grow Your Show, who's our sponsor, by the way, 64 00:03:09,715 --> 00:03:10,975 and I wanted to share them with you. 65 00:03:11,395 --> 00:03:14,045 The owner, Adam, has one of the very best podcasts for teaching 66 00:03:14,325 --> 00:03:15,535 you how to be a podcaster. 67 00:03:16,015 --> 00:03:17,155 I honestly wish I had found it. 68 00:03:18,270 --> 00:03:21,480 One thing that they've done to help me is to bring me to a much larger 69 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,630 listener base so that my voice is being heard around the world. 70 00:03:25,140 --> 00:03:28,590 There's a good chance, in fact that they helped us connect, but they 71 00:03:28,590 --> 00:03:30,570 also do editing and post-production. 72 00:03:31,110 --> 00:03:34,470 They can even help you launch and start your podcast, which could 73 00:03:34,475 --> 00:03:37,530 really help you in your business or whatever you're trying to achieve. 74 00:03:38,460 --> 00:03:40,170 So I just wanted to give them a quick shout out. 75 00:03:40,260 --> 00:03:43,980 I love to share great people and companies that I believe in, that I use person. 76 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,700 So that's Grow Your show@growyourshow.com. 77 00:03:48,030 --> 00:03:51,420 I have a link in the show notes and if you have a podcast or you wanna start 78 00:03:51,420 --> 00:03:54,720 a podcast or you're thinking about it, just scroll down there, click that 79 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,790 link and go work with my friend Adam. 80 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,140 He's gonna treat you right? 81 00:03:58,830 --> 00:04:02,460 Well, we do so with a simple but radical mindset shift. 82 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:04,320 Well, let me see if you can hear it. 83 00:04:05,580 --> 00:04:09,630 Why keep up the work for something you already have is how we got. 84 00:04:11,625 --> 00:04:16,935 Doesn't the person who love me so long deserve my very best is how we get back. 85 00:04:18,464 --> 00:04:23,565 See, I looked at myself one morning in the mirror and I thought, I don't 86 00:04:23,565 --> 00:04:24,474 wanna look at myself shirtless. 87 00:04:25,455 --> 00:04:28,395 Then I thought, why should my wife have to look at me shirtless? 88 00:04:28,605 --> 00:04:29,955 So look at me like this. 89 00:04:30,565 --> 00:04:33,015 I, I let my physique go. 90 00:04:33,015 --> 00:04:35,835 I just gotten kind of sloppy and lazy about taking care of 91 00:04:35,835 --> 00:04:37,515 myself, and it occurred to. 92 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,080 That she did put up with me. 93 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,320 Not only did she put up with me, she loved me anyway, even though I didn't 94 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:49,169 look the same way I used to or near as good as I used to 20 years ago, I wasn't 95 00:04:49,169 --> 00:04:50,820 paying attention to how I looked anymore. 96 00:04:50,820 --> 00:04:53,280 I just, I let it all go and I didn't care. 97 00:04:53,700 --> 00:04:54,990 I didn't think I had to worry about it. 98 00:04:55,349 --> 00:04:59,130 I certainly don't look as healthy as I once did when we first got married. 99 00:05:00,180 --> 00:05:02,219 I also realized I wasn't putting the effort into our 100 00:05:02,224 --> 00:05:03,930 relationship that I used to either. 101 00:05:04,710 --> 00:05:06,270 I got lazy and I got. 102 00:05:08,609 --> 00:05:13,289 If anyone in my life is worthy of and deserves my A game, it's the 103 00:05:13,289 --> 00:05:16,890 woman who's now had my back and journey with me for over 20 years. 104 00:05:18,390 --> 00:05:21,299 I know you're looking for a silver bullet to jump back into the crazy 105 00:05:21,299 --> 00:05:23,400 wild monkey passion, and here it is. 106 00:05:23,460 --> 00:05:28,020 Let me, lemme show up as the upgraded version of the man she fell in love with. 107 00:05:29,549 --> 00:05:34,094 See, regardless of anything, This woman has put up with my shit, loved me 108 00:05:34,094 --> 00:05:38,115 through all the ups and downs, and still looks at me like I'm something special. 109 00:05:38,715 --> 00:05:41,685 And that that woman, she deserves my A game. 110 00:05:42,105 --> 00:05:44,835 The best version of me, the healthy version of me. 111 00:05:45,435 --> 00:05:48,975 The me that actively pursues her even though she's already mine. 112 00:05:49,695 --> 00:05:54,164 The me that shows up, this present the me that works hard and puts 113 00:05:54,164 --> 00:05:59,715 in the effort you want your A game back in your marriage and B, like. 114 00:06:01,125 --> 00:06:04,065 Live a life where you get finer with age. 115 00:06:04,905 --> 00:06:08,715 The longer you're in your marriage, the more amazing you should try 116 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:11,205 and become because she's earned it. 117 00:06:11,325 --> 00:06:14,445 She's done the laps, she's put in the reps, she's put in the miles. 118 00:06:15,015 --> 00:06:18,195 She's absolutely worth it because she's been with you through 119 00:06:18,195 --> 00:06:19,515 the ups, through the downs. 120 00:06:19,545 --> 00:06:23,745 No matter how you were, she's made this right with you and 121 00:06:23,745 --> 00:06:25,785 doesn't she deserve your very. 122 00:06:28,065 --> 00:06:29,205 You deserve your best. 123 00:06:29,355 --> 00:06:30,825 Sure, do it for yourself. 124 00:06:30,885 --> 00:06:36,045 If nothing else, if that doesn't work for you, but shift that mindset instead 125 00:06:36,050 --> 00:06:39,045 of, why should I worry about it? 126 00:06:39,195 --> 00:06:40,094 She's already mine. 127 00:06:40,094 --> 00:06:41,025 Why should I keep this up? 128 00:06:41,025 --> 00:06:47,445 She's, instead of go with doesn't this person who's loved me so long deserve 129 00:06:47,445 --> 00:06:49,905 the very best version of me, no matter. 130 00:06:52,500 --> 00:06:56,700 I promise if you put in the effort, she's gonna notice and that wild, crazy 131 00:06:56,700 --> 00:06:58,200 passion in your marriage will come back. 132 00:06:59,190 --> 00:07:00,900 You guys will be revitalized. 133 00:07:01,230 --> 00:07:05,100 I know some couples who have been married for 40 or 50 years, and they will make you 134 00:07:05,100 --> 00:07:07,680 sick with how much they adore each other. 135 00:07:07,830 --> 00:07:11,880 And if you want to be that crazy couple that at 40 years of marriage, 136 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,940 50 years of marriage is grossing out all the young people because they 137 00:07:14,940 --> 00:07:16,650 still just get googly over each other. 138 00:07:17,340 --> 00:07:18,570 Guys, this is how it happens. 139 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:25,140 Show up as the upgraded version of the man she fell in love with, not 140 00:07:25,140 --> 00:07:29,430 the downgraded leftover, cuz she deserves the best version of you. 141 00:07:29,430 --> 00:07:31,500 And so do you guys. 142 00:07:31,505 --> 00:07:33,240 I promise it's gonna make a difference. 143 00:07:33,750 --> 00:07:34,830 You can control you. 144 00:07:34,835 --> 00:07:35,659 That's what we do here. 145 00:07:37,065 --> 00:07:38,085 Now it's Friday. 146 00:07:38,085 --> 00:07:40,034 I wanna share a user review. 147 00:07:40,094 --> 00:07:43,484 You guys leaving these reviews for us speaks volumes to me and just 148 00:07:43,604 --> 00:07:46,604 does amazing things for the podcast and we're so grateful for it. 149 00:07:47,495 --> 00:07:52,305 CD Raw 18 said Helpful content, five star review. 150 00:07:52,635 --> 00:07:55,905 I appreciate how this podcast is not pretending to be anything other 151 00:07:55,905 --> 00:07:58,695 than the person trying to help other people to be their best selves. 152 00:07:59,294 --> 00:08:02,474 There's valuable information while geared towards men. 153 00:08:02,594 --> 00:08:03,974 The parenting advice applies. 154 00:08:04,034 --> 00:08:04,765 Applies to. 155 00:08:05,940 --> 00:08:07,950 And it's definitely helpful. 156 00:08:08,550 --> 00:08:12,720 Thank you so much for sharing that review with us and guys, if you are 157 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,160 trying to get over that hurdle, right? 158 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:18,330 If you're stuck and just need that little push, that little help, that 159 00:08:18,330 --> 00:08:19,770 little bit of support, that's great. 160 00:08:19,770 --> 00:08:20,400 That's okay. 161 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:21,720 We can do that. 162 00:08:22,110 --> 00:08:27,810 Check us out@thefallowman.com slash coaching is our coaching page on the 163 00:08:27,810 --> 00:08:30,240 website and schedule your free discovery. 164 00:08:31,020 --> 00:08:34,020 Let's talk about how we can help you jump over that hurdle, guys, 165 00:08:34,020 --> 00:08:35,480 that's the way I do my coaching. 166 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:39,600 Six, eight week plans to just get you over to that next step, 167 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:45,200 help you realign some things, get together and develop a positive 168 00:08:45,205 --> 00:08:46,950 plan of attack so you can move on. 169 00:08:47,370 --> 00:08:49,230 And it's one and done guys. 170 00:08:49,230 --> 00:08:49,950 Simple and easy. 171 00:08:50,310 --> 00:08:52,260 So schedule your covered discovery call today. 172 00:08:52,260 --> 00:08:54,840 I love to walk with you as you're on your journey to become 173 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:55,980 the best version of yourself. 174 00:08:56,460 --> 00:08:57,930 As always, thanks for listening. 175 00:08:58,140 --> 00:09:00,810 Be better tomorrow because of what you do today, and we'll see you on the next one. 176 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,530 This has been The Fallible Man Podcast. 177 00:09:05,130 --> 00:09:08,400 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 178 00:09:09,270 --> 00:09:11,220 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss. 179 00:09:12,435 --> 00:09:18,735 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get 180 00:09:18,795 --> 00:09:20,265 your own Fallible man gear.
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