Join the 6%: Mastering the Art of Goal Achievement

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Well, it's official, the calendar's
flipped, or it's outdated if you're

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like me and you didn't buy a new
one because you just haven't yet.

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The parties are over and it's
back to regular everyday life.

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Another year has ended and the worst
thing is, statistically, the majority

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of people haven't hardly noticed
because they only had to change the

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date, nothing else changed for them.

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They're right where they were a
year ago at this time, doing the

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same thing they've always done.

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Now, if you're a regular on my
show, you know that only 8 or 9

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percent of the 46 percent of the
population who actually makes New

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Year's resolutions will keep them.

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Over half of that 46 percent will quit
before next week's Friday episode airs.

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They don't even make it a
full two weeks necessarily.

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Some depressing shit, right?

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How about this?

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Statistically, only 20 percent
of people even set goals.

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I'm, I'm not talking like New
Year's resolutions, like only 20

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percent of people period actually
ever set goals in their lives and

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only 6 percent out of that 20%.

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So we're talking about low numbers
here, actually achieve them.

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You should absolutely have new goals for
this year, or maybe they're just adjusted

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depending on what your goal cycle is.

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I like to work in a three month cycle
and you don't need a lame resolution.

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You should just be working
towards that next goal or goals.

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With or without a resolution, I'll
tell you what guys in this episode,

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I'm going to help you increase the
chances of achieving your goals by 80%.

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Fair enough.

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Let's get into it.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach our full
potential growing into the men we

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dream of being while taking care
of our responsibilities, working,

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being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big
question in this podcast.

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We'll help you answer
those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Falbo man podcast.

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Now here's the cliff notes list
for all of you who are just

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looking for the punch list.

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Based on the research from the American
society of training and development

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and several other studies, this combine
process will put you in the 95 percent

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success rate for achieving your goals.

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There's seven steps, set big,
specific goals, smart goals,

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like really big, specific goals.

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Write them down in vivid detail.

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Three, visualize the process.

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and succeeding at the process.

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Four, break them into smaller pieces.

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Five, make a daily action plan
that builds on the bigger goals.

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Focus on that.

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Six, tell a close friend
about the daily action goals.

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And seven, get an accountability
buddy that you're checking

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with at least twice a week.

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Now, if you just wanted that, you're set.

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I know some of you just want the
punch list, but for a little clarity

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on the steps, stick around and
I'll go through it pretty fast.

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I'm begging, just don't be
part of the 80 percent that are

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aimlessly wandering through life.

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Join the 6 percent that are crushing
their goals and changing lives.

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By the way, my name is Brent and
welcome to the Fallible Man podcast,

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your home for all things, man.

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That's right.

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We talk about all things, man.

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So there's a lot of different
conversations going on.

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Big shout out to Fallible Nation.

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That's a private community.

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There's more about that in the
show notes or the description,

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whatever platform you're listening
to, or watching this on and a warm

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welcome to our first time listeners.

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Hey.

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There's a lot out there.

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And as you start this new year,
thanks for giving us a chance.

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I appreciate it.

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Appreciate that you are checking us
out and be sure and leave us a note,

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put it in a, I I'm at the fallible
man everywhere, or leave us a review.

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That'd be great too, but thanks
for hanging out with us today.

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I hope you enjoyed the episode.

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Now let's knock this out in case you
weren't familiar with all I threw at you.

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And you want to get clear so you
can be part of that 6 percent rate.

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We're all about helping men
reach the goals that they want

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to, and then they're meant to.

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So this is a really important
foundation for what we can

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do here at the Fallible Man.

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Number one is set big, specific goals,
specifically smart, big, specific goals.

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Over a thousand different studies show
that setting higher goals actually

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results in better task performance,
motivation, and persistence.

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Compared to vague goals of, Oh, I'll
get healthier or something like that.

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So it's actually important to dream big.

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If you're not smart, if you're
not familiar with the SMART goals,

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acronym is specific, measurable,
achievable, realistic, and timely goals.

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It's, it's a guidance for when
you are setting goals of how

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to set a goal, the guidelines.

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That make it a really useful goal.

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If you're not familiar, I did an
entire episode on smart goals, and I'll

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try and link that down in the notes
so you can go back and visit that.

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Number two, write them
down in vivid detail.

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A study by Forbes uncovered that
being very vivid and detailed in your

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writing down these goals actually
increase the likelihood of success.

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So don't be stingy with the details.

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What does it look like?

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Smell like, tastes like, how does it feel?

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Get granular on it when you're
writing it out, guys, I'm not kidding.

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This actually improves your
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goals, binding additional 40%.

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Like this is a part of the component.

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So don't miss out on this step.

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Number three, visualize
the process and succeeding.

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According to the survey, visualizing
and imaging your goals can make you

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twice as confident in achieving them.

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Only 31 percent of the participants
who don't visualize feel comfortable

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about achieving their goals.

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Whereas 59 percent of those who
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the concept of visualizing the goals.

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We know that this works
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You see this in professional
sports and athletes all the time.

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They visualize what they want to do.

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We use this in the gym.

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They use this on the football field.

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They use this in Olympic gymnastics.

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This is used in almost every
sports because it works.

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Number four, break them
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Big goals are important.

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They keep you more motivated, more
invested, more interested, but the

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overwhelm of huge goals can destroy
all your efforts because you're just

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so, so overwhelmed, it's like, oh
my goodness, can I actually do this?

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Hey, any project manager will tell
you the goal of building a new state

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of the art hospital is a great goal.

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It won't get built unless you break
it down to smaller manageable pieces.

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You can't just say, Hey, I want to build
a new state of the art hospital and think

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it's going to happen or that it's going to
work because she says you wanted to do it.

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Likewise.

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Your goals don't work that way.

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Just because you said you want to
achieve this, you need actionable,

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small, smart steps put into a logical
plan of action for you to succeed.

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Number five, make a daily action plan
that builds on to the bigger goals.

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Focus here.

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Now, this is something we talked
about with my friend, Alex Sanfilippo,

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or Sanfilippo, sorry, Alex.

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So I'll quote him and let him
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So how do you set a goal correctly?

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This is going to sound super weird,
but I make a goal to make all

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of my goals, non outcome based.

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And that sounds really weird, right?

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Non outcome based goals.

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Yes.

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Maybe again, going back to like my,
my, my reflection, my vision time,

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maybe I want to lose 20 pounds, right?

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But I don't want to give myself a
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Instead of non outcome based
goal to me means, you know what?

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I know that this will happen
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a day and stop drinking soda, right?

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I did the math, figured it
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That's all it takes to do that.

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So now my goal is just every single day, I
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I'm not tying myself to an outcome.

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I might not even share the outcome, right?

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I might share it when I get there, but
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row have I worked out and not drank soda?

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And to me, that's a
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And even my business, I do the same thing.

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So focus on these daily executables
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once every three months or so.

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Um, I don't know what it is
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they seem to be very effective.

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You can find a lot of
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I like three month cycles on my goals.

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My friend, Alex likes three
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I don't know what it is.

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So three months works for us.

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Maybe yours is a two month or
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Uh, but a whole year is way too big.

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It's not measurable at that point.

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You will be much more successful at
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daily executables than you will.

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If you just focus on a big goal.

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Number six, tell a close
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Let me be really specific there.

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The daily action goals, not
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Now you caught what Alex
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I might not share the outcome with them.

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When you tell your friends too much,
they can get lost in the big goal

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because they can't see it all and the
full process as clearly as you can.

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By this point, you've created action
plans and you've written broken

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down and you see this big goal, but
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that are going to get you there.

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And that can overwhelm your friends.

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If you tell them the big outcome, right.

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They may say that's unrealistic.

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They might actually, with the best
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of our you because they can't see.

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The actual plan to get there.

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So be really cautious with
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Sometimes it's better to keep that
to yourself and just clue them in on

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what they need to know to help you
and encourage you and not hinder you.

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Number seven, guys, I told you
we're going to go through this fast.

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Get an accountability buddy,
twice weekly check ins.

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Guys, really tune in right now.

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Here is the secret sauce.

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The piece de resistance.

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This is the power move for
success at achieving your goals.

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It's the reason we have accountability
groups in my private community area.

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Find a friend with ambition who
will value you succeeding and become

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accountability partners with them.

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Now, obviously you have to have
this conversation with them.

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This is something you can just
assume to do on Monday message them

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directly with your daily action steps
for the week, the stuff you will do

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every single day, and vice versa.

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The precise steps you will
take every day, no matter what.

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Then on Friday, have a come
to Jesus talk with them.

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It can be done in less
than 15 minutes a week.

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I guarantee it.

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Have them hold your feet to the
fire and help them do the same.

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Baby it's money.

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I mean, mic drop.

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I should just walk away from
the episode right there.

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I'm telling you, this is it.

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This is the, in all the studies I read,
and I read a lot of studies for this

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episode, guys, this, this is money.

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This is what just separates the people
who win and from people who lose.

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Now, as we wrap up the episode, let's
reflect on the sober statistics.

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And the powerful strategies that
can propel you into that 6 percent

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of individuals who not only set
goals, but actually achieve them.

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The path to success is illuminated by the
principles of setting big, specific goals,

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vividly detailing them, visualizing the
process, breaking them into manageable

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pieces, and creating a daily action plan.

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Embrace non outcome based
goals like Alex shared with us.

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Focus on daily executables and
remember the significance of sharing

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your journey with a trusted friend.

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and an accountability buddy or
an accountability buddy in the

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pursuit of your aspirations.

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Be part of the elite 6 percent who defy
the odds, changing their lives one goal at

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a time, because that's how you win, right?

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Be that 6%.

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This is Brent signing off from
the Fallible Man Podcast, where we

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guide men on their journey to become
the best version of themselves.

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apply it, be sure to reach out.

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I'd love to hear about it.

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I'm at the Fallible Man,
pretty much everywhere.

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Guys, be better tomorrow
because what you do today, and

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we'll see you on the next one.

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This has been The Fallible Man Podcast.

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Your home.

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Grab everything man, husband, and father.

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