Mastering the Power of Response

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,660 Exploring why mastering the art of responding is essential for 2 00:00:03,660 --> 00:00:07,890 every fallible man out there, not just reacting to other people. 3 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:09,240 Let's get into it. 4 00:00:14,850 --> 00:00:16,170 Here's the million dollar question. 5 00:00:16,740 --> 00:00:19,050 How do men like us reach our full potential? 6 00:00:19,590 --> 00:00:23,550 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 7 00:00:23,910 --> 00:00:28,170 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 8 00:00:29,295 --> 00:00:32,445 Well, that's the big question in this podcast. 9 00:00:32,685 --> 00:00:34,485 We'll help you answer those questions and more. 10 00:00:34,665 --> 00:00:37,545 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 11 00:00:41,955 --> 00:00:45,644 Today we're unlocking the power of response, not reaction. 12 00:00:46,185 --> 00:00:49,125 Get ready to challenge yourself and elevate your journey as we dive into this 13 00:00:49,125 --> 00:00:52,245 crucial topic, gentlemen, as fallible men. 14 00:00:53,250 --> 00:00:57,930 We're not immune to our fair share of emotional triggers and impulsive reactions 15 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,050 that ends badly usually, and mistakes. 16 00:01:01,769 --> 00:01:06,540 But what if I told you that within those moments of vulnerability lies a tremendous 17 00:01:06,540 --> 00:01:08,910 opportunity for growth and connection? 18 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:15,120 By choosing response overreaction, we unlock the power to navigate life's 19 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:19,890 changes, our life's challenges, sorry, with grace and resilience. 20 00:01:21,270 --> 00:01:25,470 In today's episode, guys, I'm gonna share five compelling reasons why responding 21 00:01:25,470 --> 00:01:28,620 and not reacting is a game changer. 22 00:01:30,420 --> 00:01:32,970 By the way, welcome into another thought-provoking episode 23 00:01:32,970 --> 00:01:34,320 of the Fallible Man podcast. 24 00:01:34,320 --> 00:01:38,820 You're home for all things, man, where we delve into the depths of self-improvement 25 00:01:38,850 --> 00:01:40,410 and explore the complexities. 26 00:01:40,770 --> 00:01:43,770 Of modern masculinity and relationships. 27 00:01:43,980 --> 00:01:45,600 A big shout out to Fallible Nation. 28 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:49,350 You guys make this all possible and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 29 00:01:49,350 --> 00:01:50,490 Thanks for giving us a chance. 30 00:01:50,490 --> 00:01:53,250 I hope you enjoy what you hear and you'll stick around. 31 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,860 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 32 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,039 Now guys, as always, be safe. 33 00:01:59,070 --> 00:02:01,770 If you're listening to this on the road, don't take notes, come 34 00:02:01,770 --> 00:02:03,090 back and listen to it again. 35 00:02:03,810 --> 00:02:07,020 But I've got five compelling reasons for you guys. 36 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:09,720 Why we need to respond. 37 00:02:10,079 --> 00:02:10,500 Okay. 38 00:02:10,770 --> 00:02:14,850 Reacting has gotten men in trouble so often over the years. 39 00:02:15,180 --> 00:02:18,960 There are a lot of men in jail or who have rights taken away because they 40 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,109 have crazy convictions against them. 41 00:02:22,170 --> 00:02:25,019 Because of reacting to other people. 42 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:29,070 Reacting to other people has led to so many problems. 43 00:02:29,130 --> 00:02:31,230 And I'm saying that twice cuz I want you to hear it. 44 00:02:31,769 --> 00:02:34,829 Reacting is not the best solution. 45 00:02:34,829 --> 00:02:40,799 And as a man, you can step above that and keep yourself into a better position. 46 00:02:40,920 --> 00:02:44,760 Keep yourself out of trouble and just raise yourself and 47 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:46,019 elevate yourself up a lot. 48 00:02:46,019 --> 00:02:47,910 So, so here's the list of five guys. 49 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:51,870 Number one is emotional intelligence and self-awareness. 50 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:57,920 When we respond, we engage our emotional intelligence and cultivate self-awareness. 51 00:02:59,085 --> 00:03:03,015 By understanding our emotions, we can navigate difficult situations 52 00:03:03,045 --> 00:03:08,175 with greater clarity and compassion Response empowers us to lead with 53 00:03:08,180 --> 00:03:12,555 emotional intelligence, fostering healthier relationships and self-growth. 54 00:03:12,885 --> 00:03:17,395 It also keeps us out of jail, like I said, so it's probably a good thing. 55 00:03:19,625 --> 00:03:21,045 Number two, gentlemen. 56 00:03:21,845 --> 00:03:23,445 Building authentic connections. 57 00:03:25,205 --> 00:03:28,365 Reacting impulsively often leads to strained relationships. 58 00:03:29,265 --> 00:03:33,915 However, when we respond thoughtfully, gotta pause there. 59 00:03:33,915 --> 00:03:35,685 Think about that thoughtfully, right? 60 00:03:35,685 --> 00:03:39,375 That's what people really want, especially the female persuasion. 61 00:03:39,795 --> 00:03:42,765 We create a space for authentic connections. 62 00:03:43,875 --> 00:03:48,945 By listening actively, empathizing genuinely, and communicating effectively. 63 00:03:49,365 --> 00:03:52,005 We forge bonds that withstand the test of time. 64 00:03:52,635 --> 00:03:55,575 Response is the gateway to a meaningful connection. 65 00:03:56,805 --> 00:03:57,525 Number three. 66 00:03:58,140 --> 00:04:03,930 Conflict resolution collaboration conflict is inevitable. 67 00:04:04,890 --> 00:04:06,660 There's gonna be that dude who gets Brody. 68 00:04:06,690 --> 00:04:07,739 It's just gonna happen. 69 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:11,250 There's gonna be those situations that suck. 70 00:04:11,255 --> 00:04:12,209 You're gonna have a jerk. 71 00:04:12,215 --> 00:04:14,670 Boss are that asshole coworker. 72 00:04:15,690 --> 00:04:18,420 How we handle it defines our character. 73 00:04:19,500 --> 00:04:22,870 Through response, we unlock the ability to resolve conflicts peacefully. 74 00:04:23,570 --> 00:04:24,310 That's a good thing. 75 00:04:25,005 --> 00:04:30,045 Like I said, out of jail, fostering collaboration and growth instead of 76 00:04:30,135 --> 00:04:35,595 more conflict By choosing to understand different perspectives, seeking 77 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:43,095 common ground and embracing compromise not on your values, we transform 78 00:04:43,095 --> 00:04:48,135 conflicts into opportunities for personal and collective evolution Now. 79 00:04:48,479 --> 00:04:50,250 Guys, let me pause there for a minute. 80 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,979 A lot of you know that I do group coaching. 81 00:04:52,979 --> 00:04:57,270 I do direct one-on-one coaching in both relationships and personal developments. 82 00:04:57,719 --> 00:05:03,510 We also have our private community site, but sometimes what we really 83 00:05:03,510 --> 00:05:06,120 need is just that collective. 84 00:05:06,525 --> 00:05:06,975 Right. 85 00:05:07,245 --> 00:05:10,665 So I'm excited to tell you that by the time this airs, 86 00:05:10,665 --> 00:05:12,315 you should see a new offering. 87 00:05:12,555 --> 00:05:14,475 So we're going to launch the Fallible Man Mastermind. 88 00:05:14,835 --> 00:05:17,265 We're gonna have a mastermind both for personal development. 89 00:05:17,475 --> 00:05:21,945 We're gonna have a mastermind for relationships because it is an 90 00:05:21,945 --> 00:05:27,225 approachable way together with a group of men and work together collaboratively to 91 00:05:27,225 --> 00:05:31,365 support one another in a better position, and I think is something of value that we 92 00:05:31,365 --> 00:05:33,975 can do with you guys that I want to offer. 93 00:05:33,980 --> 00:05:37,965 So, As you're hearing this recording, know it should exist. 94 00:05:38,025 --> 00:05:39,405 Go check it out on my website. 95 00:05:39,705 --> 00:05:40,905 Look for our new mastermind. 96 00:05:40,905 --> 00:05:42,405 I'm very excited about this. 97 00:05:42,855 --> 00:05:46,365 I think we're going to have a lot of success growing together as 98 00:05:46,365 --> 00:05:49,335 men and building better lives. 99 00:05:49,575 --> 00:05:50,985 Now let's get back into the show. 100 00:05:53,115 --> 00:05:57,255 Number four is overcoming stereotypes and cultivating emotional wellbeing. 101 00:05:58,815 --> 00:05:59,985 Sound a little bit wordy for me. 102 00:05:59,985 --> 00:06:02,925 I'm trying to expand some of the words I use, like expand my. 103 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:09,330 Vocabulary a little bit these days, but overcoming SA stereotypes and cultivating 104 00:06:09,330 --> 00:06:12,000 emotional wellbeing isn't fancy, guys. 105 00:06:12,570 --> 00:06:13,620 It's just reality. 106 00:06:14,100 --> 00:06:17,160 Society often places narrow expectations on us as men. 107 00:06:18,030 --> 00:06:18,990 It's just a fact. 108 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:23,790 Con conditions us to suppress our emotions, and we just have 109 00:06:23,790 --> 00:06:27,030 these foregone conclusions about men, and this is how we act. 110 00:06:27,630 --> 00:06:30,090 It's one of the things we fight here all the time on the Fallible man. 111 00:06:31,289 --> 00:06:34,650 By embracing response, we challenge the stereotypes. 112 00:06:34,710 --> 00:06:40,979 We prioritize emotional wellbeing instead of worrying about everybody else. 113 00:06:41,700 --> 00:06:44,609 We learn to express ourselves authentically to seek support when 114 00:06:44,609 --> 00:06:48,900 we need it, and to create a positive ripple effect on those around us. 115 00:06:50,429 --> 00:06:56,940 The fifth reason you should res, embrace responding, not reacting, right? 116 00:06:56,940 --> 00:06:58,200 That's what we're focused on right now. 117 00:06:58,810 --> 00:06:58,929 I. 118 00:06:59,325 --> 00:07:02,565 Is personal fulfillment and resilience. 119 00:07:03,765 --> 00:07:09,705 When we respond rather than react, we take control of our own narrative, embracing 120 00:07:09,705 --> 00:07:11,835 personal fulfillment and resilience. 121 00:07:13,005 --> 00:07:16,655 I've told you guys many times that you are the author of your own story by 122 00:07:17,205 --> 00:07:18,675 taking personal responsibility, right? 123 00:07:18,675 --> 00:07:20,805 You're, you're writing your own story. 124 00:07:20,805 --> 00:07:23,595 You are the person with the power to make changes in your life 125 00:07:24,285 --> 00:07:25,935 by choosing thoughtful action. 126 00:07:27,735 --> 00:07:29,595 Over impulsive reactions. 127 00:07:29,895 --> 00:07:32,475 Like I said, those are problems. 128 00:07:32,595 --> 00:07:35,055 Those cause major setbacks for us a lot of times. 129 00:07:35,835 --> 00:07:44,775 But by embracing thoughtful action and responses over impulsive reactions, 130 00:07:45,165 --> 00:07:46,875 we're gonna learn from our setbacks. 131 00:07:47,085 --> 00:07:48,345 We're gonna adapt change. 132 00:07:48,345 --> 00:07:50,265 We're gonna thrive in the face of adversity. 133 00:07:52,635 --> 00:07:57,284 It's, it's, it's a win-win guys response empowers us to become the best version 134 00:07:57,284 --> 00:08:01,875 of ourselves as opposed to usually what it turns out to be the worst version 135 00:08:01,875 --> 00:08:03,825 of ourselves, which is reacting. 136 00:08:05,055 --> 00:08:09,255 Now I can hear it already as I'm saying this. 137 00:08:09,255 --> 00:08:13,125 All right, Brent, how do we respond instead of react? 138 00:08:13,305 --> 00:08:19,905 I know a lot of us struggle with our tolerance level for stupid. 139 00:08:21,224 --> 00:08:24,705 I know a lot of us struggle with our temper from time to time. 140 00:08:26,354 --> 00:08:33,855 I know a lot of us struggle with feeling like we're actually getting 141 00:08:33,855 --> 00:08:37,304 to live the lives we want to as men because we do get put in those boxes. 142 00:08:39,315 --> 00:08:41,115 So it's a very valid question. 143 00:08:41,415 --> 00:08:45,555 How do we respond instead of react, which usually ends up very badly for men? 144 00:08:46,095 --> 00:08:47,265 And the answer is so simple. 145 00:08:47,265 --> 00:08:50,625 You're not gonna believe me, but it really is this simple. 146 00:08:50,630 --> 00:08:56,505 And here it is, 10 box breaths with a minimum of five seconds per stage. 147 00:08:58,725 --> 00:09:01,035 If you can go 10 seconds, that's even better, but you're 148 00:09:01,035 --> 00:09:02,145 gonna have to work up to that. 149 00:09:03,555 --> 00:09:06,285 So that's the question, right? 150 00:09:06,555 --> 00:09:06,765 Brent? 151 00:09:06,795 --> 00:09:09,555 What's the box press if you're not familiar with box breathing. 152 00:09:10,005 --> 00:09:10,425 Okay. 153 00:09:11,625 --> 00:09:13,275 It is a style of breathing. 154 00:09:14,085 --> 00:09:19,125 That is something they teach operators of the military to regulate their 155 00:09:19,130 --> 00:09:21,314 systems in high stress situations. 156 00:09:21,915 --> 00:09:25,095 It's literally conscious breathing, right? 157 00:09:25,095 --> 00:09:30,450 If you've heard of that idea before, It's literally a form of conscious 158 00:09:30,450 --> 00:09:32,610 breathing and breathing techniques, right? 159 00:09:33,330 --> 00:09:35,670 Maybe you've heard of that on some other self-help channels, 160 00:09:36,090 --> 00:09:39,360 uh, but it's very simple. 161 00:09:39,780 --> 00:09:40,860 Anybody can do it. 162 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:46,710 There's a reason we use this and teach this to our men and women 163 00:09:46,710 --> 00:09:54,060 who have to go into the most insane situations, and it's because it works. 164 00:09:54,750 --> 00:09:57,945 So if you're not familiar with box breathing, Think of a square. 165 00:09:59,265 --> 00:09:59,745 Okay. 166 00:10:00,465 --> 00:10:03,255 Breathe in through your nose four or five seconds. 167 00:10:04,485 --> 00:10:07,185 Hold it at the top four or five seconds. 168 00:10:07,785 --> 00:10:10,455 Breathe out over five seconds. 169 00:10:11,385 --> 00:10:14,685 Hold it on empty for five seconds. 170 00:10:15,435 --> 00:10:16,605 That's one box. 171 00:10:16,605 --> 00:10:16,935 Breath. 172 00:10:17,925 --> 00:10:18,885 Now do 10 of them. 173 00:10:21,495 --> 00:10:24,585 If you can work up to seven to 10 seconds, that's even better. 174 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:25,800 Okay. 175 00:10:25,980 --> 00:10:28,650 This actually will regulate a lot of things for you. 176 00:10:29,490 --> 00:10:34,230 In fact, it will physiologically disarm your fight or flight response. 177 00:10:35,130 --> 00:10:40,800 It will tune your brain into a different thought pattern than you are already 178 00:10:40,805 --> 00:10:42,840 in and provides an important disruptor. 179 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:48,540 One of the things that often gets us on reacting is we don't have a disruptor. 180 00:10:49,755 --> 00:10:51,285 Your brain has to jump stages. 181 00:10:51,314 --> 00:10:56,324 Okay, we're jumping from one box to another gentleman, so doing 182 00:10:56,444 --> 00:11:00,375 this breathing will help with that. 183 00:11:01,694 --> 00:11:03,285 All these things, okay? 184 00:11:03,290 --> 00:11:06,915 The physiological disarming of the fight or flight response, changing 185 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:12,194 your brain to a different thought pattern and creating a disrupt all 186 00:11:13,245 --> 00:11:15,765 compounds the need to not react. 187 00:11:16,785 --> 00:11:19,035 It actually enables you to. 188 00:11:19,665 --> 00:11:24,855 Get a state of clarity, a state of calm, and separate from the moment, 189 00:11:26,205 --> 00:11:31,005 just long enough to break out of the negative react habit and jump 190 00:11:31,005 --> 00:11:33,915 into a positive ability to respond. 191 00:11:35,205 --> 00:11:39,285 Gentlemen, as fallible men, we acknowledge that we're not immune to mistakes. 192 00:11:40,085 --> 00:11:43,125 Our, our emotional reactions, they're part of life. 193 00:11:43,844 --> 00:11:48,314 However, by embracing the art of response, we can transcend those limitations. 194 00:11:48,765 --> 00:11:49,094 Yeah. 195 00:11:49,425 --> 00:11:49,755 Wordy. 196 00:11:49,755 --> 00:11:52,484 Today, like I said, I was feeling really kind of uppity when I was 197 00:11:52,484 --> 00:11:53,925 writing this, so sorry about that. 198 00:11:54,734 --> 00:12:00,104 We become resilient, we become more compassionate, and we become more 199 00:12:00,104 --> 00:12:03,704 authentic individuals capable of building meaningful connections, 200 00:12:05,295 --> 00:12:08,834 resolving conflicts, and finding fulfillment in our journey. 201 00:12:09,795 --> 00:12:12,015 So let's embark on that transformative path together. 202 00:12:12,555 --> 00:12:15,615 Master the power of response is something that I think is really 203 00:12:15,615 --> 00:12:18,015 crucial here at the Fallible Man. 204 00:12:18,495 --> 00:12:20,595 Now it is Friday, so I wanna share with you guys. 205 00:12:20,595 --> 00:12:22,305 It's the podcast review moment. 206 00:12:23,115 --> 00:12:27,795 Uh, you guys are just so generous with some of your comments and reviews. 207 00:12:27,795 --> 00:12:31,155 I'm so grateful because it does help us gain more visibility on 208 00:12:31,155 --> 00:12:34,995 Apple Podcasts where we can reach more people because Apple Podcast 209 00:12:34,995 --> 00:12:36,975 goes, oh look, people like this. 210 00:12:36,975 --> 00:12:38,115 We should show it to more people. 211 00:12:38,670 --> 00:12:39,960 So thank you. 212 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:45,240 I want to say thank you to Scott Wyden who left this review on Apple Podcast for us. 213 00:12:45,780 --> 00:12:48,120 It's titled A Bold Take Five Stars. 214 00:12:48,510 --> 00:12:50,850 As a father, I'm totally in for this show. 215 00:12:51,330 --> 00:12:55,350 It's a bold take on manhood and fatherhood, and I can't wait to binge 216 00:12:55,380 --> 00:12:56,970 older episodes now that I found it. 217 00:12:57,795 --> 00:12:58,725 Thank you, Scott. 218 00:12:58,905 --> 00:13:01,875 I, I am, like I said, so grateful for taking the time 219 00:13:01,875 --> 00:13:04,755 to actually write us a review. 220 00:13:05,115 --> 00:13:09,885 Uh, I know it seems like a little thing, but it's taking time out of your day to 221 00:13:09,885 --> 00:13:13,695 actually put some thought into helping us, and so we're very grateful for that here. 222 00:13:14,115 --> 00:13:17,925 It helps us reach more in like yourself, so thank you for that. 223 00:13:17,985 --> 00:13:23,100 And to all of our listeners, Stay fallible, stay responsive and keep 224 00:13:23,100 --> 00:13:26,310 striving for greatness and above all, be better tomorrow because of what you do 225 00:13:26,310 --> 00:13:28,080 today and we'll see you on the next one. 226 00:13:29,910 --> 00:13:32,310 This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. 227 00:13:32,970 --> 00:13:36,240 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 228 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:39,480 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 229 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:46,530 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get 230 00:13:46,680 --> 00:13:47,970 your own fallible man here. 231 00:13:48,915 --> 00:13:48,974 It.