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My Simple System for Building Self-Discipline (for normal people)!

My Simple System for Building Self-Discipline (for normal people)!

On this Episode of The Fallible Man Podcast we are digging into what all the fuss is about, how discipline helps your life and more importantly how to actually build discipline. You can go to YouTube and find all kinds of bogus techniques on how to build...

On this Episode of The Fallible Man Podcast we are digging into what all the fuss is about, how discipline helps your life and more importantly how to actually build discipline. You can go to YouTube and find all kinds of bogus techniques on how to build discipline, but they rarely produce long term discipline.

IN this episode we will share a 9 step approach GUARANTEED to help you build discipline. Full disclosure, you won’t find any micro wave instant fixes here. If that is what your after move on down the road. This is not for people who want the easy way, because there is no easy way. If you are ready to put in the work then you have come to the right place.

Self-Discipline will make your life easier, better and more effective but it is not as simple as taking a cold shower every morning, there is a huge difference between self-discipline and being stubborn. If you’re a masochist or simple love being miserable go down the road, but for us normal people, enjoy the episode!

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1 00:00:00,210 --> 00:00:00,780 Discipline. 2 00:00:01,140 --> 00:00:01,680 What is it? 3 00:00:01,950 --> 00:00:03,390 What does it even matter? 4 00:00:03,390 --> 00:00:04,980 And how do we build it? 5 00:00:05,070 --> 00:00:09,270 Because a lot of people talk about it, but honest to God, most of the stuff 6 00:00:09,270 --> 00:00:13,170 I see out there is a really stupid idea on how to build discipline. 7 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:17,310 Guys, we're gonna dig into this, and that's what we're talking about 8 00:00:17,315 --> 00:00:18,870 on this episode of the podcast. 9 00:00:18,875 --> 00:00:20,181 So let's get into it. 10 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:22,740 Here's the million dollar question. 11 00:00:23,220 --> 00:00:26,250 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow 12 00:00:26,250 --> 00:00:27,330 into the men we dream of? 13 00:00:28,110 --> 00:00:33,330 While taking care of our responsibilities, working, being good husbands, fathers, 14 00:00:33,330 --> 00:00:35,700 and still take care of ourselves. 15 00:00:36,570 --> 00:00:38,280 That the question in this podcast. 16 00:00:38,580 --> 00:00:39,900 We'll help you with those answers. 17 00:00:39,905 --> 00:00:43,019 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 18 00:00:43,050 --> 00:00:45,360 Welcome to the Fable Man Podcast, Your home for all things, 19 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:46,590 man, husband, and father. 20 00:00:47,100 --> 00:00:48,570 A big shout out to Fallible Nation. 21 00:00:48,570 --> 00:00:52,170 You guys make this possible and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 22 00:00:52,175 --> 00:00:54,830 Thanks for joining us and welcome To the Fallible. 23 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,190 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 24 00:00:59,060 --> 00:01:02,770 It's pretty obvious to nomenclature, cuz let's face it, I don't have 25 00:01:02,770 --> 00:01:04,450 all the answers and neither do you. 26 00:01:04,810 --> 00:01:06,400 So I wanted to be upfront about that. 27 00:01:07,690 --> 00:01:13,960 Now, discipline in this context is different than discipline that 28 00:01:13,960 --> 00:01:15,700 we're all terrified of, okay? 29 00:01:15,970 --> 00:01:18,130 We're not talking about being punished for bad things. 30 00:01:18,940 --> 00:01:21,700 Discipline has really negative connotations to it. 31 00:01:21,700 --> 00:01:23,140 So get that out of your mind for now. 32 00:01:23,140 --> 00:01:24,220 That's not what we're talking about. 33 00:01:25,375 --> 00:01:30,475 Discipline in this context, the way you hear people ranting about it on YouTube 34 00:01:30,505 --> 00:01:35,215 and other social media platforms is to find as like this I actually went 35 00:01:35,215 --> 00:01:36,475 to the dictionary to check this out. 36 00:01:37,195 --> 00:01:41,065 Training that corrects molds or perfects, the mental faculties 37 00:01:41,095 --> 00:01:42,565 are moral char moral character. 38 00:01:43,105 --> 00:01:44,245 That's mouthful. 39 00:01:44,845 --> 00:01:49,435 Our second definition that's similar to train or develop by instruction and 40 00:01:49,875 --> 00:01:52,285 exercise, especially in self control. 41 00:01:53,365 --> 00:01:55,975 Now, see, those aren't terrifying. 42 00:01:56,155 --> 00:01:58,405 Like we have these negative connotations about discipline. 43 00:01:58,735 --> 00:02:01,165 Those are actually like really beneficial things. 44 00:02:01,765 --> 00:02:03,625 But why should you care about discipline? 45 00:02:04,165 --> 00:02:05,695 What does it actually do for you? 46 00:02:06,625 --> 00:02:08,365 That's a valid question, right? 47 00:02:08,485 --> 00:02:10,975 Before you invest in something, before you like get into this 48 00:02:10,975 --> 00:02:12,316 discipline thing, what's the payout? 49 00:02:12,346 --> 00:02:13,426 Why would you do that? 50 00:02:15,226 --> 00:02:17,756 Discipline is what keeps you in the gym. 51 00:02:20,281 --> 00:02:26,701 Trying to build that muscle or lose that weight when you're tired and you don't 52 00:02:26,701 --> 00:02:28,171 wanna do it anymore and things hurt. 53 00:02:28,861 --> 00:02:32,431 Or from eating that super delicious looking donut in the break room 54 00:02:32,431 --> 00:02:37,081 when you're on a diet or right now during this season, right? 55 00:02:37,321 --> 00:02:40,381 Discipline is what keeps you from going through your kid's entire 56 00:02:40,381 --> 00:02:44,971 candy sash from Halloween, especially when you're trying to diet, right? 57 00:02:45,061 --> 00:02:46,141 I'm fighting that one right. 58 00:02:47,461 --> 00:02:49,171 Lot of candy laying around my house. 59 00:02:49,231 --> 00:02:54,181 This one is what keeps me out of that bag because I'm trying to lose some weight. 60 00:02:55,561 --> 00:02:59,641 Discipline is what gets you outta bed at O Dart 30 to pursue that side hustle. 61 00:03:00,781 --> 00:03:03,571 Or what keeps you from going, drinking with your buddies when you 62 00:03:03,571 --> 00:03:08,101 really need to stay in and study for that exam or that new certification 63 00:03:08,101 --> 00:03:09,301 or whatever you're studying for. 64 00:03:10,441 --> 00:03:14,521 Motivation is really fickle inspiration fades and that really 65 00:03:14,521 --> 00:03:15,781 great life changing idea you. 66 00:03:16,721 --> 00:03:19,981 It goes out the window faster than New Year's resolution. 67 00:03:20,041 --> 00:03:25,981 Without discipline, those things will fail you almost every time. 68 00:03:25,986 --> 00:03:32,281 External drivers just, they don't hold up as the days and miles grow by discipline 69 00:03:32,286 --> 00:03:34,471 is how great athletes reach their goals. 70 00:03:34,476 --> 00:03:38,271 And men like Elon Musk build the future, right? 71 00:03:38,671 --> 00:03:41,161 I mean, besides Twitter, which we're all reading about and 72 00:03:41,161 --> 00:03:42,301 seeing all over the news. 73 00:03:43,516 --> 00:03:45,016 He's trying to do what now? 74 00:03:45,028 --> 00:03:48,928 We're still trying to go to Mars and build a colony there, or is it some mag train? 75 00:03:48,928 --> 00:03:51,807 The guy is always trying to build something new and better 76 00:03:51,807 --> 00:03:53,380 the world and I'm glad for that. 77 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,550 Not saying he's perfect, but you know, he's trying, I think that's 78 00:03:57,550 --> 00:04:02,500 what it seems like discipline is how he achieves those things. 79 00:04:03,100 --> 00:04:06,490 The great thing about discipline is that it's a skill. 80 00:04:08,050 --> 00:04:08,440 It can be. 81 00:04:09,580 --> 00:04:14,076 It can be learned, it can be experienced, and it can be grown 82 00:04:14,436 --> 00:04:16,746 and solidified and made stronger. 83 00:04:18,006 --> 00:04:21,666 You may struggle along the way, but here's the really big secret that everybody 84 00:04:21,671 --> 00:04:27,186 doesn't wanna talk about, is everybody struggles with building their discipline. 85 00:04:28,236 --> 00:04:30,636 Put in the reps and you will absolutely build your. 86 00:04:33,351 --> 00:04:35,991 Warren Buffet said, We don't have to be smarter than the rest. 87 00:04:36,201 --> 00:04:38,661 We have to be more disciplined than the rest. 88 00:04:40,311 --> 00:04:44,271 Now, that's my argument for why you should practice, discipline 89 00:04:44,271 --> 00:04:45,261 and grow your discipline guys. 90 00:04:45,651 --> 00:04:49,401 And so I want to give you nine steps to rinse and repeat that will 91 00:04:49,401 --> 00:04:51,381 help you build your discipline. 92 00:04:52,401 --> 00:04:52,881 Okay? 93 00:04:53,151 --> 00:04:56,541 So if you're driving, please don't try write this down, but 94 00:04:56,541 --> 00:04:58,431 if you've got a second pause the. 95 00:04:59,241 --> 00:05:01,761 And get out of pen and paper and write these down. 96 00:05:01,761 --> 00:05:04,401 If you don't have the moment right now, if you're driving or something, 97 00:05:05,031 --> 00:05:06,231 listen to the show again later. 98 00:05:06,231 --> 00:05:07,221 Just listen to this piece. 99 00:05:07,221 --> 00:05:11,481 It's gonna be a short show, and write down these nine steps and they will help you 100 00:05:11,486 --> 00:05:13,671 get on track to building your discipline. 101 00:05:14,361 --> 00:05:16,431 Number one, find a solid why. 102 00:05:16,971 --> 00:05:18,861 It has to be emotionally significant. 103 00:05:19,641 --> 00:05:27,591 It will fail if it's not, You can't have some flimsy external motivation. 104 00:05:28,026 --> 00:05:29,766 You have to find your why. 105 00:05:30,426 --> 00:05:33,816 You want to do this internally or it's gonna fall apart. 106 00:05:34,386 --> 00:05:35,796 It's gotta mean something to you. 107 00:05:36,576 --> 00:05:38,286 Number two, create a plan of attack. 108 00:05:39,126 --> 00:05:39,546 Okay? 109 00:05:39,846 --> 00:05:41,616 We talk a lot about setting goals. 110 00:05:41,646 --> 00:05:42,756 This is what we're talking about here. 111 00:05:43,116 --> 00:05:44,076 Create a plan. 112 00:05:44,076 --> 00:05:44,946 Set the goals. 113 00:05:44,951 --> 00:05:46,116 Set the pieces in place. 114 00:05:46,356 --> 00:05:52,746 Now break it into smaller pieces and track them now that you have your plan. 115 00:05:52,746 --> 00:05:56,946 Number three is identify and remove those obs, remove obstacles to those goals. 116 00:05:58,161 --> 00:06:00,741 Temptations, things that distract you. 117 00:06:00,741 --> 00:06:03,921 Excuses, if you're trying to lose weight, get the crap out of the house. 118 00:06:03,921 --> 00:06:05,631 The junk food that you know is gonna attempt you. 119 00:06:06,081 --> 00:06:08,481 If you're trying to spend more time studying. 120 00:06:09,351 --> 00:06:10,641 Block out your schedule better. 121 00:06:11,061 --> 00:06:16,011 Remove the obstacles that you can see that are coming down the road for you. 122 00:06:16,016 --> 00:06:17,481 Chasing those go goals. 123 00:06:18,021 --> 00:06:21,771 Number four, make physical adjustments to make it easier. 124 00:06:22,431 --> 00:06:23,661 Pack your gear the night. 125 00:06:24,711 --> 00:06:28,431 Set calendar blocks that are just solidly set. 126 00:06:28,491 --> 00:06:29,961 There's no wiggle room. 127 00:06:30,501 --> 00:06:31,941 And be sure to set reminders on them. 128 00:06:32,511 --> 00:06:38,121 Personal experience, set reminders so you get alerted cuz I can get 129 00:06:38,121 --> 00:06:41,361 into something and totally blow off my calendar or forget things. 130 00:06:42,081 --> 00:06:43,191 Adjust your schedule. 131 00:06:43,661 --> 00:06:46,131 Put that pull up bar where you walk by it all the time. 132 00:06:46,431 --> 00:06:51,021 Make physical adjustments to make it easier to accomplish your goals. 133 00:06:51,921 --> 00:06:55,731 Number five is make habits, the support, the plan, and I want you to 134 00:06:55,731 --> 00:06:57,381 do 'em over and over and over again. 135 00:06:57,921 --> 00:07:01,952 Now, I hate to say I want you to do them, but you have to understand, if you 136 00:07:01,952 --> 00:07:04,262 do 'em for a week, it's not gonna help. 137 00:07:05,822 --> 00:07:11,055 I was talking to a psychotherapist, some I can't even pronounce what 138 00:07:11,055 --> 00:07:15,675 she was, neuro psychotherapist or something, and she said, Bare 139 00:07:15,675 --> 00:07:18,585 minimum, 65 days to create a habit. 140 00:07:20,415 --> 00:07:22,665 Every day guys, do them over and over again. 141 00:07:22,665 --> 00:07:27,355 Small habits, the support, the goals you're trying to achieve. 142 00:07:27,355 --> 00:07:29,481 I promise this is getting to ahead of why. 143 00:07:29,631 --> 00:07:29,991 Okay. 144 00:07:30,921 --> 00:07:34,431 Number six, start small and build up to bigger goals as your discipline grows. 145 00:07:35,241 --> 00:07:38,601 Guys, we are all about success. 146 00:07:38,601 --> 00:07:42,711 Stacking our wind, stacking on this channel, something I've talked 147 00:07:42,711 --> 00:07:46,461 about a lot, both on my live stream and on the podcast before Stack. 148 00:07:46,461 --> 00:07:47,001 Little win. 149 00:07:48,096 --> 00:07:52,176 As you stack little wins and get more wins under your belt, it's easier 150 00:07:52,176 --> 00:07:54,336 to conquer those bigger goals too. 151 00:07:54,936 --> 00:07:59,196 So start small and build the bigger goals as your discipline level grows. 152 00:08:00,186 --> 00:08:03,696 Number seven, get somebody to hold you accountable that you actually 153 00:08:03,696 --> 00:08:07,266 value and listen to people's, people blow this all the time. 154 00:08:08,496 --> 00:08:12,246 If it's somebody you easily blow off, they're not a good person to 155 00:08:12,246 --> 00:08:14,406 have as your accountability person. 156 00:08:15,186 --> 00:08:19,266 If it's somebody you don't listen to their advice anyway, not a good person to 157 00:08:19,266 --> 00:08:21,996 have as your accountability person, okay? 158 00:08:21,996 --> 00:08:25,386 You need to have somebody who it matters when they speak to 159 00:08:25,386 --> 00:08:27,966 you to help you be accountable. 160 00:08:29,076 --> 00:08:30,186 Number eight, succeed. 161 00:08:31,026 --> 00:08:34,146 Right Now you're like, Whoa, Brent, we're dumping head no. 162 00:08:34,151 --> 00:08:35,166 I want you to succeed. 163 00:08:35,586 --> 00:08:36,576 Small, right? 164 00:08:36,576 --> 00:08:43,986 Small goals, small steps, small things succeed at those number. 165 00:08:44,751 --> 00:08:48,291 I want you to do it, especially when it sucks and you don't want to do it. 166 00:08:49,641 --> 00:08:53,391 This is really, really important because there will come a point where 167 00:08:53,391 --> 00:08:58,551 all these changes, you're too tired, it's too early, you're worn out. 168 00:08:59,511 --> 00:09:03,561 That is the most important time for you to do this, do it, especially when it sucks. 169 00:09:03,561 --> 00:09:05,061 Now, Brent, how does this help us? 170 00:09:05,061 --> 00:09:07,111 Well, this is how it builds discipline . Okay. 171 00:09:07,182 --> 00:09:09,252 Let me walk you through why this works. 172 00:09:10,212 --> 00:09:11,502 The more you succeed. 173 00:09:12,192 --> 00:09:13,872 Back to stacking winds. 174 00:09:14,172 --> 00:09:16,482 The more you succeed, the easier you're gonna find it. 175 00:09:16,482 --> 00:09:20,982 Stay on the path and other things you can do. 176 00:09:20,987 --> 00:09:26,742 Crash plans like, uh, take a nice cold shower at the cracker dawn, or 177 00:09:26,742 --> 00:09:30,222 torture yourself with grueling workouts that just suck man and burn yourself. 178 00:09:30,552 --> 00:09:31,272 You're gonna burn out. 179 00:09:31,392 --> 00:09:33,192 It's not actually gonna be long term discipline. 180 00:09:33,702 --> 00:09:36,582 This horrible advice, and I've seen it way too often on YouTube. 181 00:09:37,812 --> 00:09:40,332 Put in the reps and succeed over and over again. 182 00:09:40,332 --> 00:09:41,262 Stack win. 183 00:09:41,907 --> 00:09:47,667 Now, as you succeed at small goals, by following your plan, by following these 184 00:09:47,667 --> 00:09:54,117 steps, by following these stages as you go, as you make little wins, your brain 185 00:09:54,477 --> 00:09:58,947 will start to have more discipline because you're gonna go, You know, I followed 186 00:09:58,947 --> 00:10:00,537 this plan and I succeeded at this. 187 00:10:01,017 --> 00:10:01,827 I followed this plan. 188 00:10:01,827 --> 00:10:02,877 I succeeded at this. 189 00:10:02,907 --> 00:10:04,227 I followed this plan, I succeeded. 190 00:10:04,617 --> 00:10:09,627 And the more you succeed, the more wins you make with the little build as you go. 191 00:10:10,857 --> 00:10:17,457 The easier it is to have the discipline and the faith in your plan to continue. 192 00:10:19,017 --> 00:10:20,637 As your goals get bigger and bigger. 193 00:10:20,967 --> 00:10:23,997 Discipline will become your best friend because you'll have the experience 194 00:10:23,997 --> 00:10:28,737 that tells you, if I go A to Z, if I follow this goals, if I follow 195 00:10:28,737 --> 00:10:31,517 this pathway, I'm going to succeed. 196 00:10:33,582 --> 00:10:35,682 Guys, be better tomorrow because of what you do today. 197 00:10:36,012 --> 00:10:36,972 We'll see you on the next one. 198 00:10:37,872 --> 00:10:40,392 This has been the Fable Man Podcast. 199 00:10:40,992 --> 00:10:44,382 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 200 00:10:45,132 --> 00:10:47,412 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 201 00:10:48,282 --> 00:10:54,642 Head over to www.thefableman.com for more content and get 202 00:10:54,642 --> 00:10:56,172 your own fallible man gear.