Sculpting Time: Shaping Your Life in the Seasons You’re Given

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From the moment we enter this
life, we're in the flow of it.

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We measure it.

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We mark it.

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But we cannot defy it.

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We cannot even speed
it up or slow it down.

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Or can we?

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Have we not each experienced the
sensation that a beautiful moment

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seemed to pass too quickly and
wish that we could make it linger?

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Or felt time slow on a dull day and wish
that we could speed things up a bit?

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Here's a quote from the illusionist
Edward Norton played a character,

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a character called Eisenheim,
the illusionist in the 2006 film.

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But it really brought some
thoughts to mind for me.

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Time is an interesting paradox.

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We never seem to have enough of it.

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We all wish for more.

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You can't buy more, but we waste it
more than we waste more of it than

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almost anything else in our lives.

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We also tend to struggle
with letting it go.

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In this episode of the
Fallible Man podcast.

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We're going to discuss seasons
and time, what it means for you

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and how to capitalize on it.

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So let's get into it.

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When my wife was pregnant with our second
child, I realized that my wife would

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soon have a newborn to take care of
and a one and a half year old, I don't

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know if that's a still like considered
a toddler or an infant or what that

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official title is, to try and contend
with simultaneously to the newborn.

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And so I realized she'd be spending
a lot of time probably in our

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living room with the two of them.

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So I built my daughter's a castle
slash playhouse in our living room,

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a place where Abby could play safely.

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My that's my oldest wall.

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Sarah was tending to the little one.

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My children have grown up for
the last 10 years, having a giant

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play toy in the living room.

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As long as the youngest one's been alive
and most of the oldest one's life as well.

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It's served other children
as well over the years.

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Friends and relatives have come and gone.

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All the kids love coming over to the
house because we have this giant play

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toy in the middle of the living room.

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It has become our dog's favorite perch.

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Because it's a two story play thing.

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And it lets her sit right at
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she's up on that second level.

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So she gets lots of attention because
it's right in the main walkway of my

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living room, dining room, kitchen area.

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But we'll come back to all that.

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My name is Brent and welcome
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Moving forward with the show, I've never
met anyone who felt like they had enough

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time for everything they wanted to do.

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It's the most valuable
commodity in existence.

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So much so that people with larger
financial resources actually spend

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a lot of money to have more time.

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Because while they can't buy it, they
spend money on employees and outsourcing

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tasks that they can outsource to
other people in an effort to give

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them more time in their schedule.

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It's something you can't buy more
of, but maybe you can give yourself

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some space by outsourcing tasks
if you have the income for that.

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You can make more money.

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You can acquire more resources.

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You can get more stuff.

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We all have lots of stuff these
days, but your time is finite.

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Yet it's the most wasted
asset in existence.

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Think how many days or how many hours,
days actually might be accurate.

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Think how many hours a
day the average person.

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Waste.

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Now, let me define waste before
you argue with me on this one.

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Anything that's not nurturing or
providing for your actual fundamental

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needs, building towards your goals, or
caring for the important relationships

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in your life, is wasting time.

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Now that leaves a lot of leeway.

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I can already hear people
freaking about their leisure time.

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Look, some leisure time,
some, is self care.

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Every now and then you need to sit
down and tune out with a book that's

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not educational or a television show.

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Okay.

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I love Netflix too.

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I just try not to love it
very often or very long, but I

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understand you need some downtime.

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That's not what I'm saying.

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I'm not saying you can't have that.

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That is part of nurturing
fundamental needs.

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You do need to have some time
downtime every now and then.

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Now I say every now and then, because
you don't need near as much as

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most people think they should have.

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And most people way overdo that.

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But part of the problem
is we want everything.

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Now, the problem with that is you
can't have everything now, but because

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we want everything now, we feel a
rush to get everything done and to

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have everything to do everything.

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And we feel overwhelmed because we're in
a rush because we're trying to do it all.

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Now, regardless of your personal feelings
about the Bible, there is a biblical

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scripture that shines a light on this
for us that I'd like to share with you.

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In Ecclesiastes 3, 1 through 8, we read,
There's a time for everything, a season

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for every activity under the heavens,
a time to be born and a time to die,

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a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal, a

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time to tear down and a time to build.

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A time to weep and a time to laugh.

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A time to mourn and a time to dance.

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A time to scatter stones and
a time to gather them up.

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A time to embrace and a time
to refrain from embracing.

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A time to search and a time to give up.

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A time to keep and a time to throw away.

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A time to tear, tear, and a time to mend.

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A time to be silent and a time to speak.

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A time to love and a time to hate.

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A time for war and a time for peace.

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Now, there's a lot of wisdom behind
this package, whether you personally

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agree with the Bible or not.

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The wisdom behind this passage
is that there's A time, and more

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importantly, a season for everything.

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Likewise, your life goes through seasons.

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Seasons of growth, seasons of change,
seasons of building, seasons of

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flourish, and seasons of struggle.

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Sometimes it's easy to see
what kind of season you are in.

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Other times you feel really lost and you
have no idea what's happening, and it's

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hard to tell what kind of season it is.

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Tip, this is usually a season of growth
or change when you're feeling that way.

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Tapping into what kind of
season you were in will actually

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help you direct your time.

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If you know what kind of season
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a better direction for that time.

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If you know you're in a season of
flourish, then you can capitalize on that

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season because it will only last so long.

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Let me be clear about that.

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It will only last so long
because things move in seasons.

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If you're in a season of flourish,
maybe you spend some time laying by

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in store, putting things back, right?

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Save some money, get some stuff
done that you need to do that you

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don't normally have the money for.

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Things that need taking care
of that you put off, right?

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When you have the means and the time.

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So you can capitalize on that season
because it will only last so long.

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If you're in a season of struggle,
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what to focus on with your time.

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Because of what you need to do to
leave that season because nobody

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wants to spend time in that season.

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You're going to go through a
lot of seasons in your life.

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How you spend your time is the most
important decision you're going to make.

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If you recognize what season you're
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how you need to spend that time.

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We also see that
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It's not going to last forever, okay?

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You're going to go through a
lot of seasons in your life.

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I know it feels like some
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But life flows in interesting waves.

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If you actually take the 40,
000 foot view, so to say, and

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look back at your life, right?

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Take a few minutes and really
take stock and you'll see

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that your life moves in waves.

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It ebbs and flows.

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You're up, you're down.

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It lulls for a little bit.

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You're up.

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You're down.

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It's crazy, right?

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Seriously, pause the show and
take stock of the last 20 years.

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If you've been alive that long,
if you're not that old yet.

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Okay, that's going to be a little harder,
but if you're 20, 30, 40, look back

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and you're going to see that there are
these waves or seasons in your life.

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Because of this, there will be times
to have to let some things, old

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things go to make way for new things.

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Holding onto things from past
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from moving on to the next season.

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Sometimes in those seasons of change,
we have to Make room in our life so

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we can move into that next season.

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It's not always easy to let
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seasons, but it is necessary.

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Now I was telling you the story when I
started, so let me get back to that story.

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So I built this castle to provide
the needs of my wife and my children.

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That was 10 years ago and it's been
a huge blessing to have in our lives.

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Dads, if you want to do something
really cool and you have the building

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skills, seriously, It honestly was
the best use of that space in my

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living room for the last decade.

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Uh, my kids have so many
great memories on that thing.

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It's incredible.

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I have tons of pictures of them and
their friends and, uh, my friends, kids,

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friends like to come over and play on it.

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Like it was, it was a great choice.

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Okay, so if you wanna be a super
awesome dad, you might consider putting

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a giant castle in your living room.

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Your wife may not agree with the
interior decorating on that, but she will

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concede that it's a great thing to do.

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I'm sure.

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Maybe, maybe not.

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We'll see, my wife looked at me 'cause I
told her I was gonna do it and said no.

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I'm not going to let you be a super
awesome dad and build your kids

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a play toy in the living room..

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What am I supposed to say to that?

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Like, I can't even So, you
know, I, I kind of won that one.

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But, you know what, it benefited
all of us for a very long time.

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And, it's usefulness has diminished with
time because my kids are now at an age

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where, like, they have to get on their
knees to be in the lower level of it.

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So much so, the lower levels become
kind of a toy box, where they throw

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everything that I tell them to pick up.

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And they can't actually ever get in there.

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And the upper deck is the only
thing that ever really gets used.

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And every now and then my daughter
sits up there with my dog and

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reads a book or something.

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So I took it down last weekend
while my children were with

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my wife visiting her family.

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I built it while they were there.

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I thought it was poetic that I
tore it down while they were there.

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We've been telling them that we're
going to take down for almost two years

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and they freak out every single time.

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And I knew if I told them they
would freak out and it would ruin

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their weekend with the family.

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So I didn't want to do that.

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They're not pleased about it.

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They weren't pleased when they
came home and still a little more

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than unhappy with me about it.

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It took a little for them to it's
it's too little for them now.

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To play on that much, but they have
so many memories tied up in it.

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They don't want to let it go.

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That's why they've been fighting
for us for about two years on it.

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We have other more pressing needs for
that large space because it's not small.

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And it's a really large space to
spend on an oversized dog bed.

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Things that will serve them better in this
next season of their life can go there.

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The change is unwanted and
it's hard to process for them.

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Like a lot of us, they fear change.

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They'll probably be mad for a
little while more until they see

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the benefits firsthand, and it might
take a while even to that point.

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They want to hold on to what's
comfortable, familiar, and warm

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because they don't know what will
come in the next season, even though

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they don't process it like that yet.

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Neither do you.

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You don't know what's
coming in the next season.

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I don't know what's
coming in the next season.

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This season of my life has been
a little crazy and chaotic,

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and it's not always been easy.

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So, you know, we're all somewhere
in those ebbs and flows.

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But if you embrace the seasons of your
life for what they are, you'll suffer less

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stress and regrets about how you spend
your time because you'll know how to spend

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that time effectively to make your life
better and to move into that next season.

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Guys, I hope that helps.

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I hope you'll really consider
some of those thoughts.

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Um, I'm sharing them with you because I
know their thoughts that are on my mind.

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So I'm guessing that I'm not
the only one going through some

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interesting seasons in their life.

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Focus on how to spend your time because
you only have so much of it based on where

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you are in your seasons of your life.

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Are you in a building season?

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Are you in a change season?

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Are you in a flourishing season
where you should maybe put

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something back for the harder times?

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Are you in a struggle season?

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There are a lot of seasons in life.

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Remember, keep the people you love
close to you through all of them,

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and they'll be easier, and utilize
your time based on where you're at.

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Be better tomorrow because
of what you do today.

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We'll see you on the next one.

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