Stop Complicating Your Relationship with Women

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Women are complicated, or at least
most men think they're complicated.

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There have been at least two versions
of the movie, What Women Want.

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And in the, and in the
movie, we hear this.

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Sigmund Freud once said, Despite
my 30 years of research into the

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feminine soul, I've never been
able to answer the great question.

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What does a woman want?

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I may not be able to answer the question
in every aspect of a woman's life,

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but today we're going to answer this
question when it comes to relationships.

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You see, men overcomplicate this idea.

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Because we've been compelled to
believe that women are so complicated

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beyond our understanding that we're
never going to get this right guys.

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It's just not true.

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So let's get into it and help
you understand what every

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woman wants in a relationship.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach
our full potential?

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Growing into the men we dream of being
while taking care of our responsibilities,

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working, being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big question.

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In this podcast, we'll help you
answer those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man Podcast.

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So the dreaded V Day has come and
gone, and some of you are in trouble.

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Some of you are waiting for this weekend
to do whatever you had planned since V Day

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kind of fell in the middle of the week.

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Some of you don't care, and
some of you hate it because

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you're not in a relationship.

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And I understand that.

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That's OK, too.

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Either way, this is a valid question
that needs answered for every man.

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The funny thing is that we're going
to answer the question for all of your

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female relationships, whether that's
a good friend or your children are.

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Your mom or whoever, whatever
female is in your life today, you

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get the answer you need for every
female relationship in your life.

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Now, I know that's a big claim,
but I promise I'm going to

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deliver on this one for you guys.

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By the way, my name is Brent and
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We really appreciate
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Now, I'm sure that all largely depends
on whether I can deliver on this promise.

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So most men know this answer
in their hearts and they just

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haven't connected the dots.

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Because time and time again, we're
told as men that women are complicated

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and we expect women to be complicated.

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It's this great ruse that benefits
women and leaves men feeling a little

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off kilter when dealing with women.

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The various industries such as
the jewelry, flower, lingerie, and

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chocolate and more have spent billions
of dollars trying to further this

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mystique and make it complicated
because it serves them, right?

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That's just good business for them.

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It's not a slight at them.

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That's just the facts.

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Us feeling confused are like, we don't
really know how to properly deal with

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the women in our lives in a healthy
relationship benefits them, right?

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So that's why they further that mystique,
but I don't want to drive this out.

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I made you a promise.

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So here's what you need to know from
the youngest daughter, your girlfriend,

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your wife, all the way up to your mom,
all women want one thing more than

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any other in a relationship, ready?

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You're going to think this is simple,
your full intentional focus, see them,

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hear them, remember what they tell
you, keep track of their secrets,

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spend quality time with them, be
present when engaging with them.

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Every woman in your life wants this thing.

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Now it sounds really simple, but
in a world full of distractions,

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it can actually be very complex.

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And it's why it's so valuable.

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Okay.

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This is why every woman wants this.

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And frankly, most men want this.

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It's because in a world filled with
distractions, when people multitask and

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touching their phones all the time and
doing this and doing a thousand things.

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Your full undivided attention
when you're present.

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I'm not saying 24 hours a day.

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Your full undivided attention when
you are present with them is the most

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valuable gift you will ever give them.

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If you think about the things that
really score big, right, with Valentine's

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Day, it always has something to do with
you spending quality time with them.

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That should have been a hint.

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They want to be valued.

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And we show real value by the
time we spend and focus on things.

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Right.

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There's that great saying that
says, if you want it to know

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what's important are, don't tell
me what's important to me, to you.

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I should have written this down.

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I didn't don't tell me
what's important to you.

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Show me your calendar and your wallet.

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And I'll tell you how,
what's important to you.

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Everybody wants to feel value in a
time when we were showing less value

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to people by multitasking and being
so busy and not actually really paying

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attention to what people are saying.

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In fact, 80 percent of people aren't
listening to the conversation.

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They're thinking of the next
thing they're going to say.

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Bad guys is a bad, okay?

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Men will spend fortunes to buy more time.

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Billionaires do it all the time.

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I read a statistic, not a statistic,
I read from a billionaire the other

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day on a post human aid, he spends, I
think, 7, 500 a month on menial tasks,

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like washing dishes and stuff like that.

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And cooking, paying other people to
do it for him 75 hours of time and

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he builds his time out at almost
a half a million dollars an hour.

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We can always make more money.

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People spend a fortune to buy more
time because time is truly finite.

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So having your undivided attention, being
intentional with your presence, when

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you're with the women in your life is
uber valuable and it's what they all want.

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If you listened to the podcast
before, you probably heard the story.

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If not, it will be new to you.

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But several years ago, I was
sitting on the couch with my

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oldest daughter watching a movie.

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When I say watching guys, I'm using
air quotes because I was flipping

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through my phone, looking at schedules,
answering emails and scrolling.

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I'm sure doing scrolling on
social media or something.

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And it was a movie I had seen with
her probably a dozen times already.

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And her little hand reached over
and landed on top of my phone.

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And she gently.

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Pushed my phone down into
my lap and I looked at her.

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So what's up, honey?

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She said I want you to
watch the movie with me.

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I said, baby, i'm watching the movie
with me You're cuddled up next to me

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She's like no, I want you to watch
the movie with me and it dawned on

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me right then and there I said, baby.

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Do I need to put my phone away?

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She said yes didn't matter that we had
seen it many times before it wasn't

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that we were watching a movie It was
we were spending quality time together.

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Nothing makes the women in your life
happier Then when you demonstrate that

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you, they have value to you, when your
daughter knows that they're truly in, that

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you are truly, truly deeply listening to
her and you're interested in what she's

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saying to you, then you have struck pure
gold, my friend, because she will tell

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you everything for the rest of your life.

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You don't have to worry about her
hiding troubles and bad things from you.

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If she learns that you truly will
listen to her and pay attention to her.

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When she talks to you, there's no into it.

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When your wife knows you heard her
because you randomly grab something for

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you that she mentioned in passing two
years ago, and you just had it in your

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head that you need to look out for it.

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It doesn't matter if it's super
valuable or fancy or expensive.

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But you remember, she told
you it was important to her.

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She'll know she's loved when your mom
sees you passing on the knowledge,

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skills, and values that she taught
you as a child to your children and

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treating your spouse the light way.

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She's happy because you listened
to her and we're paying attention.

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You can spend a fortune and
never have a woman be happy.

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Demonstrate that you're listening and
focused and intentional with her and

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present with her when you're spending
time with her and she'll love you forever.

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Everybody wants to be valued.

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So guys, if you want to really,
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It really, really is not that complicated.

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And you've been lied to all this time.

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Stop complicating your relationship
with the women in your life.

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Be intentional, be present
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When you're interacting with them,
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