The Magic of Traditions: Spooky Season and Beyond

The Magic of Traditions: Spooky Season and Beyond

The costumes are picked out and readied. The pumpkins are acquired and will be carved very soon. Or they might already be by the time this comes out. The candy is purchased. The decorations are up. Well, mostly because I'm bad about doing that. We're only a few short days away from the greatest holiday of the entire year.

You may think it's something else. Maybe your holiday is Thanksgiving or Christmas. That's okay. You could be wrong. Maybe it's St. Paddy's. That's my second favorite or Easter. You, you're entitled your Opinion, I guess. But most people have a holiday and Halloween's the best because it's the one I like. Just, just ask me.

I'll tell you the same. My kids and I have a great time. Most people have that holiday. This matters. Most of them, that's more important that they enjoy more. This is their thing. One that has great traditions are great value to them and their family. Now, traditions don't have to be tied to a holiday or a specific date.

Traditions have a great [00:01:00] deal of value for your family. It doesn't have to be someone else's tradition or one that's already existing or common or shared by other people. It can actually be anything you want to make it. In fact, I highly encourage and think that you should have some that are just yours.

Whether anybody else agrees or not, I think you got to give it a try. Let's get into it.

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My name is Brent and welcome to the Halloween Man Podcast.

I love Halloween. I've always loved Halloween. In fact, Halloween is by far the best and greatest holiday ever. In our house, we [00:02:00] have family tradition. We go and we handpick pumpkins, usually at a pumpkin patch. We We take part of an afternoon or a morning, go out as a family, all of us together. We pick out our special pumpkin and everybody, everybody in the household gets a pumpkin.

Now we take the pumpkins and we take them home. And then we pick one evening when we have time when everybody's home and nothing else is going on. And that's pumpkin carving night. Now you got to be careful. You can't carve them too soon. Are they rot too fast? Especially when you live in a place where the weather.

Temperature varies a lot, but we picked that one night and we turn on the nightmare before Christmas soundtrack, because it is the greatest holiday movie ever, because it works for both Christmas, Thanksgiving, and Halloween all at once is amazing. And we turn on the nightmare before Christmas soundtrack, which we will probably watch at least a dozen times between now and Christmas.

and have a pumpkin carving [00:03:00] party, like all in everybody's carving the parking pumpkin. We get around the table. We spend hours and we listen to music and we eat treats. Usually we make some cookies or something to go along and we laugh and we make decorations and we carve pumpkins and we help each other.

And we tease and we have a good time. And it is an amazing night for a family tradition. And I absolutely 100 percent think it is the best thing ever. This wasn't a tradition in my house growing up. Sure. We had a pumpkin, but this is uniquely our tradition that I started for our family. By the way, welcome to the Fallible Men podcast where we dive into everything about being a better man, husband, and father.

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I hope you enjoy this. Today will be a short episode. I won't take a great deal of your time. Today we're talking about traditions. So first, let's be really clear what a tradition is, because a lot of people get lost in that word. It doesn't have to be religious. It doesn't have anything to do with a holiday.

By definition, a tradition is a practice or an activity that is repeated regularly and holds special meaning for the people involved. Traditions can be anything from grand annual events to simple daily routines that, and they don't have to follow any strict rules. What makes them really special is the significance they hold for your family.

They can be silly and lighthearted. They can have like, you can have a funny pajama day where everyone wears goofy outfits on a Saturday morning. Maybe that's your tradition or they can be seriously reflective, like gathering together each year to share what you're grateful for during the holiday dinner.

It doesn't even have to be Thanksgiving. You can talk about [00:05:00] gratitude other times. Some traditions may be really intense, like a yearly family challenge or competition, while others may be really sentimental or are deeply connected to family history. Like revisiting the place where your grandparents first met or something.

Ultimately, traditions are flexible and can be whatever you want them to be. They're about creating shared moments that reflect your family's unique values, humor, spirit. They provide a sense of identity and continuity that helps keep families connected across time and distances. Now today I want you to throw certain ideas and misnomers out.

Okay. Traditions don't have to be a holiday. I've said this and I'm saying it again. It doesn't have to be a holiday thing. It doesn't have to be a religious thing. It doesn't have to be something that somebody else did or somebody else came up with. Or you might hear one and think, Hey, that's a great idea.

Me pumpkin carving night is huge. It is one of [00:06:00] my favorite nights of the entire year. And I absolutely, absolutely. Love having pumpkin carving night. It is so much fun for us and we make a big deal of it. And the girls work on getting the carvings better every year. It's actually really fun to watch them progress at being able to pump pumpkin carve.

And it is something I love, but it's something that I came up with. It's not something that was there before. It's not something that was passed down. It's something I came up with to do with my kids because it was part of a way for me to share my love of Halloween. and my love of creativity and just being together with my family and it's turned into something rather spectacular.

It had no rhyme reason other than I enjoy Halloween and I think it's fun. So get rid of the preconceived notions. Check out a word from our favorite sponsor and we'll be right back with five reasons you should have unique family traditions. A large retail store [00:07:00] just canceled a huge order leaving us with a ton of extra MyPillows.

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Whether it's a weekly game [00:09:00] night, I'm working on that one. So if you listen to the podcast before, you might know that's something I've been trying to institute. Or maybe an annual holiday trip. These shared experiences help build lasting connections and foster a sense of belonging inside the family. You also have these unique experiences, which leads to inside jokes and inside stories and stuff like that.

So it's a very, very, very cool option. Number two, it creates lasting memories. Traditions https: otter. ai

Reinforcing a sense of continuity and shared history. Uh, it's just incredibly powerful at creating memories. I keep telling, talking about pumpkin carbonite guys, really, we, we have just an amazing time and remember it fondly year to year to year, my daughters can't wait to do it every year. Number three, providing stability and comfort family traditions offer a [00:10:00] sense of predictability and stability.

Even when things are off, especially during times of change or uncertainty, actually, they create an anchor that provides emotional comfort and helps children feel secure in a family environment. Everybody is struggling right now. The economy is pretty rough. And so things are more expensive. My wife just went grocery shopping and oh my God, our grocery bill just dropped.

Keeps climbing without bad. Everything is in the economy. Money isn't coming in more, but man, groceries are way more expensive. Even in six months ago, pumpkin carving night is still on for this year. We're still going to get pumpkins. Why? Because that provides comfort, stability, continuity to our year.

Things may be tighter around your household. I know they are around mine, but having those traditions provides security Emotional mental security for your family. And that's one of the things that we need to do as men is make sure we're [00:11:00] providing emotional mental security for our family. Number four, passing down values and culture traditions are an effective way to impart important values, beliefs, and cultural heritage, whether they're celebrating a specific holiday, that's important to your heritage or your family or where you come from, however you want to say it, are engaging in community service or teaching specific skills.

Traditions can be meaningful ways to teach children what matters most in your family. I like to volunteer with my kids. I like to, if you follow me on social media, you know, my daughter and I do the Ruck Challenge, Veteran Ruck March Challenge every year. Where we raise money for veterans charities by rucking 50 plus miles, uh, with weight.

And that's something my daughter and I have been doing for two years now. Uh, we're actually trying to decide if we're going to do it. Cause they have two that they do a year. We're trying to decide if we're just going to do it once a year or twice a year this year, uh, [00:12:00] because November is the next one.

So, Hey, I may be throwing that out there on Facebook. If you want to support veterans charities. But part of what we've conveyed with that is that it's important. We have a lot of veterans in our family. So that's something that we like to pass on a lot of friends and family that are veterans. And that's a way that we can serve that community.

And that's something I want my daughters to grow up doing is understanding that you can serve other people and it's incredibly impactful for you and for them. Maybe it's a cultural thing. I live in a very Hispanic community. We're about 96 percent Hispanic in the town I live in. And one of the things I've always appreciated about the Hispanic culture is they have some traditions that we don't have.

Uh, there's something called a quinceanera, which is a young woman coming of age. It's really fancy. I still remember going to one of my friends quinceaneras. When I was a kid and I thought weddings were huge, but I mean, this was just an incredible thing, right? [00:13:00] Different cultures have different traditions they pass on.

And those are important things to have. It's important to maintain that cultural heritage while living the life you want to live. So having these traditions is another way of doing that. Number five, it encourages togetherness and fun. Unique family traditions are often centered around activities that everybody can enjoy.

That may be a family vacation or pumpkin carving night, right? They encourage family members to spend quality time together, take a break from the daily routines. It's one of the reasons that I'm exploring Bear meaning with game night in my household is I want to get my kids off screens a little more, but I still want to spend time with them.

I don't just want them. Like my daughters are hitting that age where they want to go listen to music in their room now because they're bored. Right. So I want to break away from that. So that's why I'm playing with some other traditions as well, but there are ways to break out of those daily routines and have fun, which strings in this family relationships.

And it creates a positive, joyful [00:14:00] experience. Guys, I. I don't want to beat this one to death. It doesn't have to be a long episode, but I want you to understand it's so important and it can be anything, anything that you want it to be. Incorporating unique traditions tailored to your family's interests and values will not only deepen relationships, but will create a legacy that can be passed through generations.

Think about this, right? What you start now may echo through generations to come. My daughters one day will have families of their own. I'm not ready to even think about that thought yet, but one day, right? Maybe their families will have pumpkin carving night as well. Maybe they'll do something entirely different.

But I'm teaching them the value of having these moments of family that is something that we look forward to and that we anticipate. More importantly, these are things that connect you wherever you go for years and years. My family [00:15:00] has geographically lived way apart for years. Uh, most of my life we have been multiple states away from other family members, but the traditions that my parents instilled in us Still bind us together years and miles apart.

I'm the youngest of four and years and miles apart, different states, different lives. The traditions of my parents set forth still impact our children still impact the way we live our lives. And it's part of what you will pass on to your own children. Now guys, I encourage you to start your own holiday traditions, but don't just start holiday traditions, start other traditions as well.

They can be daily. They can be weekly. They can be bi weekly like our newsletter that you can sign up for down in the show notes, whatever platform you're on and the description in the show notes bi weekly. I don't spam you, [00:16:00] but they also can be monthly or quarterly or yearly, right? You set the span.

That's the cool thing about them being your traditions. Build memories that will last a lifetime with your experiences, with family secrets, with unique family quirks. Try different things, explore, try all kinds of stuff, and you will actually have so much fun deciding what's going to become family traditions.

Just the journey of trying to find what your traditions are going to be. You're going to try a bunch of stuff you might not have before, and you will build stronger family relationships. in the journey to get there, as well as with the traditions that you guys settle on and decide to make your family traditions.

Guys, we are heading into the silly season. A lot of people have holidays around this time. Our holidays have traditions during this time of the year. They're not wrong. They're not right. They may not be your traditions, but you know what? They're amazing for a lot of [00:17:00] people. And they mean a lot to a lot of people.

So be kind and loving to your neighbors and your community, respect their traditions, respect your traditions, and create your own as we head into this holiday season. And hey, Halloween rules and everything else sucks. That's just my stance. With that said, guys, be better tomorrow because what you do today, we'll see on the next one.

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