Why you Struggle with Personal Development. 5 TRUTHS!

1 00:00:00,510 --> 00:00:01,410 Personal development. 2 00:00:01,590 --> 00:00:05,190 That magical journey towards becoming the best version of ourselves, 3 00:00:05,730 --> 00:00:07,950 it's, it's often an elusive quest. 4 00:00:08,550 --> 00:00:12,150 Despite our best intentions and the plethora of self-help resources available, 5 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:16,320 many of us find ourselves stuck in a loop of unfulfilled aspirations. 6 00:00:17,040 --> 00:00:20,970 Today, we'll unravel the five fundamental truths that lie at the heart of 7 00:00:20,970 --> 00:00:22,410 our personal development struggles. 8 00:00:23,220 --> 00:00:27,240 Brace yourself for some honest introspection here, because in order 9 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,280 to move forward, we must first. 10 00:00:29,655 --> 00:00:31,635 Confront the barriers, hindering our growth. 11 00:00:32,235 --> 00:00:34,815 So let's explore the reasons why personal development reigns 12 00:00:34,875 --> 00:00:40,335 elusive, an elusive pursuit for many individuals, and maybe even you and me. 13 00:00:45,825 --> 00:00:47,115 Here's the million dollar question. 14 00:00:47,715 --> 00:00:50,025 How do men like us reach our full potential? 15 00:00:50,535 --> 00:00:54,525 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 16 00:00:54,885 --> 00:00:59,175 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 17 00:01:00,239 --> 00:01:03,420 Well, that's the big question in this podcast. 18 00:01:03,629 --> 00:01:05,429 We'll help you answer those questions and more. 19 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,490 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 20 00:01:12,735 --> 00:01:15,945 In today's episode, we'll explore a topic that holds many of us back 21 00:01:15,945 --> 00:01:17,235 from reaching our full potential. 22 00:01:18,104 --> 00:01:19,574 Why you struggle with personal development? 23 00:01:19,574 --> 00:01:25,965 Five Truths is meant to delve into this topic and just help you clear out all 24 00:01:25,965 --> 00:01:27,405 those obstacles that are holding you back. 25 00:01:27,975 --> 00:01:30,735 If you've ever under why personal development seems like an 26 00:01:30,735 --> 00:01:35,175 uphill battle, then this episode is for you and for me, and. 27 00:01:35,914 --> 00:01:36,545 Trust me. 28 00:01:37,205 --> 00:01:39,125 A lot of people could use this episode on this one. 29 00:01:40,054 --> 00:01:42,635 By the way, welcome to Fallible Man podcast. 30 00:01:42,635 --> 00:01:44,015 You are home for all things, man. 31 00:01:44,555 --> 00:01:46,025 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 32 00:01:46,030 --> 00:01:48,515 You guys make these episodes possible and a warm welcome 33 00:01:48,815 --> 00:01:49,895 to our first time listeners. 34 00:01:49,900 --> 00:01:51,215 Thanks for giving us a try. 35 00:01:51,215 --> 00:01:52,175 We're glad you're here. 36 00:01:52,175 --> 00:01:53,134 I hope you enjoy it. 37 00:01:53,525 --> 00:01:55,625 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 38 00:01:56,315 --> 00:02:00,935 Now, guys, so grab your favorite beverage behind a cozy spot and 39 00:02:00,935 --> 00:02:03,815 let's dive into the truth behind personal development struggles. 40 00:02:05,670 --> 00:02:10,259 Our first truth shines a light on crucial aspect of personal development, taking 41 00:02:10,259 --> 00:02:12,570 responsibility for our words and actions. 42 00:02:13,140 --> 00:02:16,290 It's really easy to point the finger or make excuses, but truth 43 00:02:16,295 --> 00:02:18,690 growth, true growth, truth growth. 44 00:02:19,590 --> 00:02:23,430 We'll see if I can read my own notes, but true growth starts with owning up to 45 00:02:23,460 --> 00:02:25,350 our own choices and their consequences. 46 00:02:26,130 --> 00:02:29,610 So number one is you don't take responsibility for your words and 47 00:02:29,610 --> 00:02:32,340 your actions in personal development. 48 00:02:32,340 --> 00:02:33,900 Taking responsibility is key. 49 00:02:34,665 --> 00:02:38,325 When we blame others or external circumstances for our lack of progress, 50 00:02:38,535 --> 00:02:41,084 we relinquish control over our own lives. 51 00:02:41,685 --> 00:02:46,245 By shifting the focus from external factors to our own behavior, we empower 52 00:02:46,245 --> 00:02:48,345 ourselves to make positive changes. 53 00:02:48,825 --> 00:02:51,105 Accepting responsibility means acknowledging that we have the 54 00:02:51,105 --> 00:02:53,055 power to shape our own destinies. 55 00:02:53,595 --> 00:02:57,225 It's time to stop playing a victim and start taking charge. 56 00:02:57,825 --> 00:03:02,114 Now, this can be painful because like I said, you have to take responsibility for. 57 00:03:02,685 --> 00:03:08,445 What you say, what you do, which also means for all the crap that comes 58 00:03:08,445 --> 00:03:12,795 out of your mouth when it shouldn't, and all the stupid or inaction that 59 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:14,475 happens, as well as the action. 60 00:03:14,475 --> 00:03:18,555 Guys, this is why this one is the first one on the list, and it's particularly 61 00:03:18,555 --> 00:03:20,745 difficult for a lot of us to deal with. 62 00:03:21,795 --> 00:03:25,995 Moving on to our second truth, let's explore how the way we treat others 63 00:03:26,055 --> 00:03:27,885 impacts our personal development journey. 64 00:03:28,765 --> 00:03:32,395 So number two is you don't treat other people the way you should. 65 00:03:33,535 --> 00:03:36,145 Personal development isn't just about self-improvement. 66 00:03:36,655 --> 00:03:40,075 It's about fostering healthy and real relationships with others. 67 00:03:40,585 --> 00:03:43,495 How we treat people, reflects our character and influences 68 00:03:43,495 --> 00:03:45,175 the quality of our interactions. 69 00:03:45,895 --> 00:03:49,975 Negativity, judgment, and lack of in empathy, hinder personal growth and 70 00:03:49,975 --> 00:03:54,265 create barriers between us and those who could potentially support and inspire us. 71 00:03:55,185 --> 00:03:58,485 Treat all people with respect and courtesy unless they've given 72 00:03:58,485 --> 00:04:00,225 you a definitive reason not to. 73 00:04:00,825 --> 00:04:05,745 If they've crossed that line, wash your hands of the whole relationship instead of 74 00:04:05,745 --> 00:04:08,175 wasting emotional energy and time on it. 75 00:04:10,845 --> 00:04:14,385 Our third truth delves into the realms of emotions and highlights the 76 00:04:14,385 --> 00:04:17,235 importance of emotional intelligence, interpersonal development. 77 00:04:17,745 --> 00:04:20,235 I know you guys don't like it when I talk about the feels. 78 00:04:21,089 --> 00:04:25,469 But there's something we actually have to deal with as men to 79 00:04:25,530 --> 00:04:27,000 become the man we want to become. 80 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,880 So point number three is you don't control your feelings. 81 00:04:30,750 --> 00:04:33,719 Emotions can be powerful drivers of our actions and decisions. 82 00:04:34,140 --> 00:04:38,549 When we let emotions dictate our behavior, we lose control over our 83 00:04:38,549 --> 00:04:39,659 own personal development journey. 84 00:04:40,650 --> 00:04:43,770 Developing emotional intelligence involves understanding and 85 00:04:43,770 --> 00:04:48,359 managing our emotions in a way that serves our growth and wellbeing. 86 00:04:49,140 --> 00:04:53,310 By practicing self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy, we 87 00:04:53,310 --> 00:04:57,330 can navigate the ups and downs of life with grace and intentionality. 88 00:04:59,130 --> 00:05:03,719 We're big fans of some of the stoic practices, not all of stoicism, 89 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,049 but we're big friends, fans of some of the stoic PA practices, and at 90 00:05:07,049 --> 00:05:08,729 least the most core element of. 91 00:05:10,035 --> 00:05:12,195 Not letting your emotions drive you. 92 00:05:12,945 --> 00:05:15,345 That is why Mormon up in jail. 93 00:05:15,345 --> 00:05:19,065 That is why Mormon end up with confrontations with the law is 94 00:05:19,215 --> 00:05:23,085 when we have emotional lapses and allow our emotions to drive us 95 00:05:23,565 --> 00:05:26,745 instead of the intellectual and intelligent brain that we are given. 96 00:05:28,845 --> 00:05:32,145 Our fourth truth focuses on the often neglected aspect of 97 00:05:32,145 --> 00:05:34,905 personal development self-care. 98 00:05:36,090 --> 00:05:38,100 Now, some of you are going, wait, I don't have a problem with this. 99 00:05:38,970 --> 00:05:41,790 Trust me, a lot of men have a problem with this. 100 00:05:42,390 --> 00:05:44,880 Personal development requires a solid foundation, and that 101 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,130 foundation begins with self-care. 102 00:05:48,180 --> 00:05:48,930 Neglecting. 103 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:49,920 Neglecting. 104 00:05:50,070 --> 00:05:51,030 We'll see if I can talk today. 105 00:05:51,330 --> 00:05:54,600 Neglecting our physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing undermines 106 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:56,370 our ability to grow and thrive. 107 00:05:57,090 --> 00:06:00,000 Prioritizing self-care means attending to our physical health, 108 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:03,540 nurturing our mental and emotional state, and setting boundaries that 109 00:06:03,540 --> 00:06:04,950 protect our energy and our time. 110 00:06:06,015 --> 00:06:10,755 Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup or like on an airplane. 111 00:06:10,755 --> 00:06:14,445 They say put the mask on yourself first before you take care of somebody else. 112 00:06:15,345 --> 00:06:18,435 You can't help anybody else if you lose consciousness because you're not 113 00:06:18,435 --> 00:06:19,875 getting enough air on an airplane. 114 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:22,320 You can't pour from an empty cup. 115 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,420 I don't know how many ways we can say this metaphor. 116 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:25,800 Take care of yourself. 117 00:06:26,310 --> 00:06:27,270 It's not selfish. 118 00:06:27,630 --> 00:06:32,070 In fact, it's essential to your personal development journey and your 119 00:06:32,070 --> 00:06:36,510 wellbeing because as men, we like to give, we tend to take care of others. 120 00:06:36,510 --> 00:06:37,620 We tend to protect each other. 121 00:06:38,010 --> 00:06:41,370 We tend to take care of those like our families and our friends, 122 00:06:42,450 --> 00:06:43,560 but you can't take care of them. 123 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:44,880 If you've got nothing left, you can't. 124 00:06:45,224 --> 00:06:47,145 You can't do it if there's nothing left. 125 00:06:47,145 --> 00:06:51,075 If you're just drained all the time, you really can't help anybody else. 126 00:06:51,344 --> 00:06:54,825 And that's usually the first thing is men, we like to sacrifice. 127 00:06:57,255 --> 00:07:00,135 Finally, our fifth truth examines the role of dedication and 128 00:07:00,135 --> 00:07:01,515 effort and personal development. 129 00:07:03,465 --> 00:07:05,895 And the fifth point is simply this. 130 00:07:06,135 --> 00:07:07,484 You don't put in the work in the effort. 131 00:07:08,414 --> 00:07:10,965 Personal development is not a passive process. 132 00:07:11,744 --> 00:07:14,505 I know we all wish we could fall asleep on a self-help book and be 133 00:07:14,505 --> 00:07:15,585 a better person in the morning. 134 00:07:16,125 --> 00:07:17,325 Osmosis doesn't work. 135 00:07:18,135 --> 00:07:21,104 It requires active participation and consistent effort. 136 00:07:21,645 --> 00:07:25,635 Growth doesn't happen overnight and real transformation demands 137 00:07:25,635 --> 00:07:27,315 dedication and perseverance. 138 00:07:28,065 --> 00:07:30,914 It's not enough to consume self-help content or set goals. 139 00:07:31,395 --> 00:07:35,294 We must take deliberate action and follow through on our intentions. 140 00:07:36,044 --> 00:07:38,745 Personal development is a lifelong journey and it's. 141 00:07:39,929 --> 00:07:43,770 The consistent, intentional effort that propels us forward. 142 00:07:43,770 --> 00:07:44,489 Can I say that again? 143 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:49,560 It's the consistent, intentional effort that propels us forward. 144 00:07:50,039 --> 00:07:51,510 You gotta put in the laps, guys. 145 00:07:51,510 --> 00:07:53,520 You gotta put in the reps, however you wanna say it. 146 00:07:55,050 --> 00:07:55,170 Now. 147 00:07:55,170 --> 00:07:55,740 There you got it. 148 00:07:56,100 --> 00:07:56,610 That's it. 149 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,040 I told you that be this one would be simple. 150 00:07:59,460 --> 00:08:02,970 Five truths behind why we struggle with personal development. 151 00:08:03,300 --> 00:08:07,560 And I say we because these things have all jammed me up in my C journey as well. 152 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:11,160 From time to time, I'm especially bad about neglecting myself. 153 00:08:12,075 --> 00:08:15,645 Taking responsibility for our words and actions, treating others with kindness 154 00:08:15,645 --> 00:08:20,385 and respect, mastering our emotions, practicing self-care and putting in the 155 00:08:20,385 --> 00:08:23,775 work and the effort are all essential ingredients for personal growth. 156 00:08:25,845 --> 00:08:28,395 As we conclude this episode, as we wrap things up, guys, 157 00:08:28,395 --> 00:08:31,605 let's remember that personal development is a continuous process. 158 00:08:32,115 --> 00:08:34,784 It's never too late to embark on the journey towards becoming 159 00:08:34,784 --> 00:08:36,015 the best version of yourself. 160 00:08:37,184 --> 00:08:38,474 Reflect on these truths. 161 00:08:38,534 --> 00:08:42,224 Apply them in your own life and watch your personal journey development. 162 00:08:42,615 --> 00:08:46,035 Your personal development journey unfolds before your eyes. 163 00:08:46,635 --> 00:08:52,875 Now, guys, it is Friday, so we wanna shout out a fan with a review, and if 164 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