Any man can be a father, but it takes someone who truly cares to be a Dad. We each have our own parenting styles, new and old traditions, varying ranges of humor, and individual perspectives. These are what make up how we succeed or don’t at being a good Dad to our children, and that’s the beauty of it! We can all be unique in our own ways and still be viewed with adoration by our kids.
Here are a few details to keep in perspective, no matter your situation:
1. Be present and involved: One of the most important tips for fatherhood is to be present and involved in your child's life. Spend quality time with your child, participate in their activities, and show them that you are there for them. Do things together. Let them help you even if it takes 5 times as long to do it. Let them be silly without repercussions! This will help build a strong bond and create lasting memories.
2. Communicate and listen: Effective communication is key in any relationship, including the one with your child. Take the time to listen to your child's thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Encourage open and honest communication, and be a supportive and understanding listener. It’s crucial that your child knows you care and that you truly hear out your child. This could be the difference between social, mental, or emotional issues and not.
3. Lead by example: As a father, you are a role model for your child. Your actions and behaviors have a significant impact on their development. Lead by example by demonstrating positive values, such as kindness, respect, and responsibility. Show your child how to navigate challenges, handle emotions, and make good choices. Problem solving well puts them at an advantage from the get-go, so remember that the next time you start to boil - show them there are different ways to approach a concern. Your actions will shape their character and influence their future behavior.
Of course these are just a few topics to cover, but above all, know that there are billions of other fathers who have done this before and have your back. Just be the best you can be, and be self-aware. Know when to put ego aside.
From all the "Dad!"s, the "I love you"s and the "I hate you"s to the everyday stresses we face as parents, the late night ER visits, the literal sleepless nights, and everything else life throws at you when you have kids to watch over: we are still expected to be strong and suck it up. But not everyone is cut out to exist in the old schools of thoughts about what it means to be a father, and that’s okay! With most families needing both parents to work, the American Dream has officially become the American Struggle, and families are facing significantly more challenges than ever before. So be kind to yourself! We’re not going through what our parents went through, we have to be stronger. And we’re all in this together.
