Hello Everyone!! Today is a special day!! Not only is it the 12/12 Portal (a sign to give yourself time and patience to deal with any complex emotions that arise while transitioning to a new way of thinking) but it's also the New Moon!!(time to initiate new beginnings) Can you see how beautifully these coincide?!
I've been thinking a lot about what this Next Chapter will be for me. I've been healing, journaling, learning, growing, meditating, moving (yoga, walks, anything to get that blood pumping) and reflecting a lot.
As I step into my New Chapter here are a few things I have learned about myself and grown through that I can leave behind. "How does this relate to parenting, Jac?!?!" Trust me it does, read and receive and you will understand.
Self doubt. It's really easy to have self doubt. I mean life is constantly changing and new obstacles or what I like to call it, learning experiences arise almost everyday. After so much reflecting and working on who I am I love her. Why would I doubt her? Why would I think she would take me in the "wrong" direction. See I don't believe in wrong directions. Life is all a learning experience. Through doubt we allow ourselves to question our choices. I strongly believe that when we are in a healing love and light heart space there are no bad choices. They all are a part of the big picture. They are all a part of growing and becoming our true authentic self. So doubt can just float away!! GOOD BYE DOUBT!!
Things that no longer serve me. This is where it starts to get hard. You know that nagging you get or dread when your walking into a situation? Why?! Is it for money? Is it because of a past relationship and the need to feel like you have to? Is it because you don't even know why but you just keep doing it?! When you are healing and growing there are things that will start to pop out at you. EW!! Why am I all of a sudden feeling like I'm melting into the floor?! Why do I have to drag my feet to go (insert stressful place or to see a human here). I understand there are certain things that we cannot get out of doing. But finding those feelings that no longer serve you is key in those situations. Can you find something in this process that you love? Can we let go of those feelings or people that are no longer serving us? This brings me to my next point.
Not having clear boundaries. BOUNDARIES!! BOUNDARIES!! BOUNDARIES!! YES!! Hey! Guess what? We don't have to cut people out of our lives but setting boundaries should be an everyday practice. When I say boundary I don't mean cutting something or someone off completely but why not shield yourself from the aspects that are hurting you or not for your greatest good? This can be how someone makes you feel. A boss belittling you? Very toxic, if you can't find a way out find your way around. Shield those hurtful words they say but take in the actual info you need. Tell yourself this hurts me and I don't deserve this treatment but I have to work so what is the actual message here and filter out the rest. These can be set with our kids, our partners, family, friends.... the list can go on and on. Sometimes it doesn't have to be a wall but a veil of protection around the part of you that is being effected. The freedom and lift that comes after some nice boundary setting is transformative. Snd notice, it's still in my things I need to let go of. Practice makes perfect and we have to keep setting boundaries throughout our whole journey. I'm still adjusting everyday.
Intrusive thoughts. I have them, you have them, he has them, she has them. We all do it. Why do we do this to ourselves?! Then normally there is dwelling that comes with it and here comes the anxiety!! All over nothing. One thing that may or probably won't happen. Everyday I recognize my intrusive thoughts. These are things that creep in that are not necessary and won't help you but will just cause stress and anxiety. Imagine you're sitting there waiting for the holidays but all you can think of as a parent is, Will my kids be sick? Will someone make them sick? Will the house burn down because of the lights?! Why don't I have my shit together? Why can't I be perfect like (fill in false reality character influencer)? NOPE!! NOPE!! We ain't going there dudes!! IT'S NOT REAL!! IT HASN'T HAPPENED?! This is one of the biggest toxic traits you can keep around. The first thing is recognizing them when they come up. I literally will recognize and it's almost like an alert system that pops into my head now INTRUSIVE THOUGHT ALERT!! I will swat them away in my mind and watch them fly!! BYE BYE Intrusive thoughts!! You definitely do NOT serve me and you only cause stress and anxiety. Both are not needed in The Mama Jac's life and they surely are not needed in yours!!
Ok now it time for the fun part!! Still with me?
THE NEW BEGINNINGS!! or what I like to call My Next Chapter!!
A lot of people manifest. Some people call it prayer some people call it goal setting. What I want to challenge you to do is not to just think about it and let go what you want for your future. Write it down, speak it, become it!! BECOME IT!! Saying good-bye to the old chapter and walking into the new is leaving what is in the past in the past and coming into a part of yourself that you are proud to be!! Look how far we have come!! Look at all the progress we made and learned from!! BRAVO!! and HELLO!! Hello new chapter!! Goodbye last chapter!! I'm ready for my new world. The one where I get to say no to things that no longer serve me, put boundaries up where they need to be so I can be in my highest good and throw doubt out of the window.
Imagine if you felt all of this greatness inside of you. How much better will you be for yourself? How much better for your family? This annoying thing that your kid does, it now makes you smile. They are kids they are learning they are meant to do weird shit and mess up. Just as we have even as adults!! When we help ourselves we are helping other around us. We are happier, we can show up better for our family, we can all live brighter.
My hope is after reading this something resonates inside of you. Something sparks. We all deserve the best life we can live. Today is just a reminder there is no better time than now!
