Ep 47 - Let's Talk About Sex, And Working Through Healing From Sexual Abuse

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE SUSAN STARK INTERVIEW

LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX,

AND WORKING THROUGH TRAUMAS WITH SEXUAL ABUSE

On today’s show, I have a very interesting guest, her name is Susan Stark, she is a Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Counsellor and Facilitator who supports people seeking abundant pleasure, who want to move from feeling stuck and disconnected to experiencing ecstatic erotic empowerment.

The reason I have Susan as a featured guest is because her area of interest is working with survivors of sexual violence to help them to reclaim their connection with pleasure, sex and intimacy. She runs groups on this topic, has a podcast series and she does individual sessions with survivors as a sex coach and counsellor.

So tune in now and find out what help Susan has to give listeners to help them work through their traumas around sexual abuse.

Susan is a Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Counsellor and Facilitator who supports people seeking abundant pleasure, move from feeling stuck and disconnected to ecstatic erotic empowerment.

Susan’s work draws from a dynamic mix of somatic, psychological, and shamanic tools woven together with intuition and trust. She has spent nearly three decades offering counselling, support, groups and workshops to a huge range of people from all walks of life. She has extensive experience and passion for working with survivors of sexual violence and relishes the opportunity to create and teach in communities of like-minded people.

Susan offers individual and couple sessions as well as workshops, retreats and festivals both in-person and online. Besides her four children and beloved, Susan loves good coffee, belly laughs and breaking the rules.

Her area of interest is working with survivors of sexual violence to reclaim their connection with pleasure, sex and intimacy. 

And remember that every day is a new day and a new opportunity to move in the direction of your dreams. Every day is a clean slate to start fresh.

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Here are the top tips of today’s episode:

• Because we are not well resourced on the topic of sex, generally speaking, feeling ashamed is something many people experience around sex and their sexuality. 
• The way we learn about sensing where our limit is with sexual exploration often does not include a felt sense for allowing our body to send us signals that this is as far as you want to go with something.
• Learning to get a felt sense of where your boundaries are and learning to put that into words can be a game-changer in helping to regain a sense of control over yourself. 
• When you experience trauma, the body doesn't feel like a safe place to be and that's why it's important to take things really slowly when it comes to healing work. 
• You need to send your nervous system signs that it is safe when you are free from the cycle of abuse so that it allows you to be open to explore healing. Something like an exercise of slowing the breath down can help to calm your nervous system down and then when this happens your mind can better accept that you are ok. 
• Know that your healing journey is personal, so don't make comparisons between yourself and another person about where they are at in their recovery journey, don't compare it to your own. Allow yourself space and give yourself grace. 
• Allow yourself time, it's those little tiny progressive steps that you make that add up over time and make a big difference. 
• Performance, pleasing someone else, a judgement of ourselves and an expectation of perfection are things that are often associated with sex. Whereas it should be about being present in the moment and be attuned to what we need to find pleasure in that encounter for ourselves.
• The starting place in healing is to focus on you and your needs and what gives you pleasure.
• Building resilience and learning to lean into the hard edges is where growth and development are found.
• Give yourself permission to be clunky in this space of exploring what gives you pleasure.
• You may need to learn how to have fun, experience pleasure, be happy, be playful, because of the pain and suffering you have experienced.
• Get encouragement from others who can support you and this will give you courage.

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

If you would like to connect with Susan Stark www.susanstark.com.au

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