Ep 50 -Learning the Art of Forgiveness for the Unforgiveable

EPISODE NOTES FOR THE LOIS WAGNER INTERVIEW

Learning the Art of Forgiveness for the Unforgivable

Today's guest, Lois Wagner will move you from victim through survivor to thriver and beyond to freedom, after facing a life or business challenge or adversity.

Based in Johannesburg, South Africa, she will be sharing events and lessons from her own story moving her through fear into forgiveness to freedom using resilience, grit, a growth mindset, and forgiveness.

Lois Wagner, your friend for forgiveness, is an accomplished Speaker, Storyteller, Mentor, Inspirer, Learning/training facilitator, and Empowering coach through her program (using the Acronym – SMILE). S stands for speaker. M stands for mentoring, I stands for inspiring, L stands for learning facilitation, and E stands for empowering coaching.

Lois’s book – Walking Without Skin: A Journey of Healing – From Fear to Forgiveness to Freedom is part memoir and part self-help guide and she has a TEDx talk From Fear to Forgiveness to Freedom.

Lower your guard and open your heart to change as we welcome Lois to share her SMILE with us as she takes you on a journey of healing.

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Here are the top tips of today’s episode:

•  It is never a victim's fault
• There are different stages on the journey. The first is the victim stage where you are filled with blame, anger, hatred, guilt, etc., The second stage is that of survivor mode where you are trying to make meaning of what happened and get your life back together again. We can then travel to the thriver stage and beyond. 
• If you are experiencing physical ailments try and listen to your body and the underlying message it is trying to show you. Physical problems can be an indication that we need to give attention to something else we are missing that we need or what is missing.  
• This is why it is essential to deal with your emotions because if you don't the triggers will come back again and again. 
•  it is important to sit with your emotions and work out what they are doing to you and what they are doing for you.
• Hate is such a negative emotion and the more we focus on negativity the more of the same we will attract.
• A wonderful strategy to help reconnect with positive emotions which you would like to experience more of in your life is to go through an exercise where you engage your senses and create a vision board of sorts. For example, if you want to experience more happiness, you could say happiness looks like sunshine and find a picture of the sun shining. And you could say happiness smells like apple pie and find a picture of an apple pie. And you could say happiness feels like a hug and you could find a picture of two people hugging. And you could say happiness sounds like a babbling brook. And you could say happiness tastes like homemade lemonade. 
• Lois has developed the anacronym BRAVE as a teaching method to help young people learn appropriate behavior. B stands for boundaries. R stands for respecting boundaries. A stands for mutual agreement. V stands for values and vulnerabilities. And E stands for empowering yourself and have equality. 
•  When we hold onto unforgiveness it bonds us to negative emotions or feelings. When we cannot forgive, we can become weighed down by unforgiveness.
• It is important to understand that when you are in victim mode you are incapable of forgiving because you are still at the first stage of reacting to what has happened to you before you are able to move to survivor mode where you are beginning to process what has happened to you. Even when you are at the survivor stage, you are not yet ready to forgive completely because you are still trying to piece your life back together again. When you shift into the thriver stage where you start actively creating a new reality for yourself, then this is the time where you are able to forgive. Forgiveness happens when you are ready.
• I compassionately and completely forgive you and I take responsibility for my higher self and I hand it back to your higher self and I take back my power. 
• The more we practice forgiveness, the easier it becomes. So try Lois's tip of writing 3 things you forgive yourself for every day and 3 things you forgive others for every day. Develop that forgiveness muscle. 
• We can either get bitter, or we can get better. 

I hope this interview inspires you to rise and shine.

If you would like to connect with Lois Wagner use these links

COACHING CONVERSATIONS FOR CHANGE

Speaker, Author, Executive Coach and Leadership Consultant

GSM: (+27)  082 563 1959

lois@loiswagnercoaching.com

web: http://loiswagnercoaching.com/

web: http://walkingwithoutskin.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lois-wagner-coach/

Speakerhub:      https://speakerhub.com/speaker/lois-wagner

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