122: On Leadership, Self-Healing & Jean-Luc Picard (feat. Jennifer Urezzio)

I will just go, nope. I'm sorry. Like, here's the situation.

I gotta show up for you, and I can't show up for you if I

haven't shown up for myself. I also think it's about

really knowing that you're not perfect and you don't have

to be perfect.

Welcome or welcome back to Too Legitimate To Quit.

Instantly actionable small business strategies with a pop

culture spin. I am your host, Annie p Ruggles,

And my guest today is the magnificent Jennifer

Arazio, or as my ancestors would have said,

Jennifer is the founder of Soul Language. A paradigm that puts

tangibility to soul, so a conscious connection can be

established To enable crystal clear decisions for success,

Jennifer is also a master intuitive, and the author of

2 best selling books. Currently, she has trained over 30

practitioners worldwide in soul language. And at this time,

there are over 5,000 individuals, Including me,

all over the world connecting to their soul languages. Jennifer has worked

with and supported hundreds of successful highly creative

individuals With resolving blocks in their creative process

so that new opportunities can be received and created.

Oh my goodness, listeners. I am so

freaking stoked because between you and me, I'm

having kind of a weird week. People are being a little nutty

around me this week and, hurling some stuff at

me In a way that is a little abnormal, so my energy is a

little funky. But the universe has a tendency to

provide exactly what you need even though you don't know that you need it. And

lo and behold, today, I get to introduce you or

reintroduce you to not Not only one of my favorite people,

the person I turn to when energy gets freaking

weird. That's right. I'm talking about Jennifer

Orazio. Jennifer, I'm gonna call you J u because that's what I call

you. J u darling, It is a pleasure and privilege to

ask you the question, what do small business owners need to focus on this

week? I think they need to focus on not letting their inner child

run their business. Oh, no.

Oh, no. What do you mean? I think so often, you know,

our unconscious behavior, which tends to, Like, be controlled

by the inner child, runs our business. Right?

It makes really weird decisions for us. It, You know?

Makes us go left when we really wanna go right.

And if you have warrior energy, then Your inner child's

a inner warrior, and that's like giving a kid

literally with a gun. Right? And so It's

I think so often, we are seeking out

clients' relationships, you know, in order to

kind of heal something in that inner child. And if it's not

healed, then we're gonna keep, you know, kind of doing that same

pattern over and over again, and that kind of

stinks. Heck, yes. It does.

Wow. Okay. Well, you know, you've been talking for a minute, and

you already gave me so much. I'm freaking reeling. Like, 1

minute in. I told you she was a dents y'all. Whew.

Where to begin? So, you know, I think that that's

so interesting because Because I definitely wanna get

to these ideas of patterning and self healing and everything else. But

as someone with a lot of childlike

energy and who embraces that in interesting

ways through Quirkworks Consulting, I

I'm surprised with how hardcore I resonate with don't

let your inner child run your business. Like, my brand is playful,

but it's also very disciplined. My business has to be

disciplined. I bring an element of fun into

the discipline of running a business. And when I've been Out

of alignment with that, it really is

like having a 5 year old run the show

Because I, at my core, my inner child,

love her to death, is a fucking brat. Well, I

mean, there's good parts of the inner child. Right? That curiosity, that

play, you know, that lightheartedness, the

innocence. Those are all great parts of the inner child, and and

we wanna love every part of us. We don't wanna, you know, eradicate

anything. But The inner child that shouldn't,

in quotes, be running the show is that inner child that's

frustrated, angry, That's living in trauma.

That Yeah. You know, it is dying for affection.

All of the Yes. Kind of trauma from the inner child that

We need to offer love and we also need to kind of heal that.

And that is validation for me. One of the ways that really shows up when

the inner child runs the show is very much that

pick me up, pick me up, mommy, pick me up, pick me up energy. When

it's like, nobody commented on that social post. I thought that post was really good.

Why did it anybody want it? Nobody's on my calendar today. What's going on? Pick

me up, mommy. And it's like, Or

you could take a breath, do something nourishing for yourself,

and then go write a different post that someone will like next day. Right? Like,

it's cool. Right? Or you could don't go something do

something nurturing for yourself and not even worry about writing

another post. Right? See y'all. See.

Because there's, like, I've been talk I was just talking to a

client, about having a backup generator in your

business. So you know how when your lights go off and you have a generator.

Right? Like, that's the backup generator. So often,

You know, especially purpose driven warrior energy

believe that their business is entirely entirely

up to them. And they forget that there's this

backup energy of goodness of the divine. Right? And so

because we're all focused on, like, I'm in a good mood and positive, then

everything's gonna work out in my business and blah blah blah. But when we're in

a crappy mood or having a challenge, we also then believe,

Oh, well, my business is kind of screwed because right?

So my fame like, I love this thing I always say

with god, business is always good. But if you don't believe that there's

a backup generator, god, right, that's

actually supporting your business and handling all the stuff

You can't do because you're cranky or you had a bad day

or whatever, then that's even harder on your business. Right?

So you need a backup generator. I'm laughing

because these conversations always find me just when I need

them. Like, I'm so crabby. I'm so

crabby. And yet, like, talking to you, having this

conversation For this audience I love on this show that

I adore with a person I love brings me a lot of joy, and it

does take the edge off the cranky. Right?

And and And so in essence, I don't really mean to be, like, meta modeling

this right now, but I kind of am. Like, do something nourishing.

Call someone you love. Have a conversation. It

doesn't have to be a super weird deep one. We're eventually gonna talk

about Star Trek. But in the meantime, we're gonna talk about all kinds of other

stuff, and I think that's Really big and and the idea of

of self prioritization in that way because you

you said something else Back in the back end. And one of the

things that I realized early, early, early, early

in my marketing The liaison for coaches

and healers role that I walk, is that

a lot just like how a lot of coaches

Model or or show people through processes

that they used to struggle with. For example, I was sales

avoidant, and now I teach people out of sales avoidance. I've

noticed that a lot of healers or people that identify as

healers, are drawn to the

work as a form of self healing

to say, okay. I'm Still evolving through this, but let me

take others through this path. And so my question for you

is, I've seen Self healing

by healers done really

beautifully, and I've seen Self healing done

by healers in a really, like, toxic codependent

gross way. You are

masterful at keeping your

container, prioritizing yourself, nurturing yourself, and serving your

clients, And honoring all the different parts of you along the way,

are there any tips, modalities, tricks that you

could share To help people not become

a toxic self healer, but an empowered

force for what they're trying to create. Well, thank you for

the beautiful statements. I

think the fundamental thing I know, the more I know, the less I

know. And I'm one of those

master healers that doesn't believe I heal

anyone, that I'm just giving people the opportunity.

I'm also I have a really good support team. I mean, yesterday

at this time, you would've gotten In a different gen because Jennifer's head was

exploding, and I was like, right,

I call my people to break down, right,

and to process. And I'm working my

I'm working my processes. I'm also very clear

if I'm going through something, I put it in my big metaphysical

bowl and leave it in the bowl and then pick it up

afterwards. I'm also if I'm really going through something,

I will cancel. I will just go, nope. I'm sorry.

Like, here's the situation. I gotta show up for you, and I

can't show up for you if I haven't shown up for myself. I also think

it's about really knowing That

you're not perfect, and you don't have to be perfect. And

I'm consciously transparent with someone. I tell stories. I

don't eviscerate myself. Right? But I tell

stories. And I also try

to go through something fully before I

start talking about it. And sometimes you can't. Like,

when Roxy died, my dog, I was, like,

upfront with everyone. I was like, listen. Here's what's going on. My dog got hit

by a car. Here's where I am. You know? I'm gonna be totally

present for you, but I'm in so much pain because I just lost

my soulmate. And this is gonna last for a while.

So I'm just upfront, consciously transparent.

It's all on my face. I don't have a poker face. I think so often,

Healers are trying to be something they're not. They're trying to

be this supreme being instead of being

divinely human. Again, I'm like,

there are so many areas I want to take because I have, like, 87,000

questions. I'm gonna have to do, like, an entire, like, 18 part

master class. But the is just my brain

is like, ask her this, ask her this, and then you say something else. I'm

like, ask her that. And then I'm like, Stay present. Damn it. Stop it. Listen.

But, I mean, I think you brought up something

that is Such a weird

topic that I didn't see this episode turning into for a while, and

maybe we won't hang out here long, but maybe we will because

I know when I was grappling with my boundaries earlier

in business or even now, one of the main things

that I can get hung up on when I'm not

personally gathered, is the idea

of cancellations. And I

Hate. Capital h. I get it. I know you're

a carrier. I get it. But but but

I had COVID for a month, as you know.

I know. Lot of stuff had to get

canceled, and I think it was a really Interesting

unraveling of that

for me because Every single

person that I approach with transparency, which was every single person

I had to reschedule or cancel on, every single

person Not only had

a positive reaction, not a negative reaction, not even a

neutral reaction. Honey, what do you need? Everything's fine. Are you feeling

okay? Have you had lunch today? By the way, these are the supplements that I

took when I had COVID. Do you have a good doctor? Does Ryan know what

to feed you? Are you okay? By the way, have you seen any good movies

lately? Should I send you a board game? Like, that's the kind of stuff I

got, Whereas in my head, I'm like, I

am destroying businesses. Oh,

no. The world's gonna explode.

Nothing exploded. 23 days of COVID,

dozens, literally dozens of calls moved

or canceled, Zero complaints,

and I got, like, 97 soup recipes out of the mix. Right? So

I'm grateful for that because It

showed me not that I wanna abuse it. We never wanna abuse the

graces and the love that we're given, but but I had

it very firmly in my head that the least professional thing I could

ever do was cancel, and then I had to. And guess what

changed? Nothing. Right? And so I love that you're going even

further to be like, if you're not energetically feeling it,

move it. Because, again, like how you said yesterday,

I would have had a very different j u 2, 2 months ago, 3 months

ago before I had COVID. If you would've been like, oh, Annie, if you're not

feeling it, just cancel it. I would be like, I can't just move things

based on my energy. Of course, you can, people.

Of course, you can. And to your point, sometimes you must. So,

like, where do we get this weird hang up

about manipulating Our schedules or or taking

space or time when we need it. Where does it come from? Oh, everything

we've ever been taught in society. Everything.

Oh, okay. Just everything? Like, you know, I I remember

when Eric you know, Erin. Like, my best

friend's kid When he was in

preschool or kindergarten, she called me. She's like, there was

nothing in Eric's green folder today. I was like, woah. What? So, like,

every day, the teacher brings him out to the car and gives us a folder

of all the stuff he did today. She said and today, the teacher

said, There was not there's nothing in Eric's green folder. He chose

not to participate. And I was like, we'll give the kid

a star. And she goes, well, what do you mean he chose not to participate.

I was like, from the moment that kid came out of the

belly, we asked him, what do you want? What do you need? And now he's

actually telling people what he wants and what he needs, and now it's not appropriate?

No. Right? Like, We lose that kind of

we're taught not to want, not to need. We're

taught self sacrifice. And

right? And with master healers and masters of service,

that goes above and beyond. And here's the thing. A couple years

ago, I had this client pre COVID or just on the cusp of

COVID. And,

I got a new client and, you know, I have this whole way of

picking a client. Right? I do the Peanuts characters in my head. Right?

So My clients are always Lucy and

Linuses. There's no difference between Lucy and Linuses. It's just what?

I used to take on Lucy. No. I'm

sorry. Sally and Linuses. I used to take on Lucy's.

Right? So this client was a Lucy. I knew she was a Lucy.

Right? But I always at that point, I like to, like, maybe she won't

be a Lucy. So I get a new client. She's supposed to,

like, Have a session on Tuesday. I

the doctor tells me, do not speak.

If you speak, the vocal cords are gonna get worse,

and it could be really serious. The doctor tells me, do not speak for 2

days. Don't I? So I text her. I was like, I'm really sorry, but I

have to move our session because the doctor says don't

speak because It might actually ruin my vocal cords. That's how sick I

am. And she goes, oh, well,

I'm kinda disappointed because I was really looking forward to our 1st

session. And I went, are you kidding

me? I'm like, might not have used some

vocal cords, But that's okay. Might

not have used of vocal cords for the foreseeable

future, if ever, but by all means, Let's let's

handle your 45 minute issue right now.

Right? So I rescheduled.

Time goes on. And I'm listening

to her relationships. So

someone's great, great, great, a greater than sliced bed. I love

this person. And then Something happens

in her head, and then they're just horrible. And so she stopped working with

me about a year and a half later, and I thought, Oh, I

wonder who she's telling. I'm terrible.

But here's the thing. That's why when we don't listen, when we don't

Really tune in when we're not being connected to our soul.

And the way I teach people to to do that is through soul language.

There's a huge disconnect, and that shows up in the tangibility of your

life. Right?

And so I I personally don't like to

struggle. I have struggled. I

will struggle. Struggled yesterday. I might struggle

tomorrow. But I know that there's a path to

not struggling as much, And that's about being connected.

And when when you're start when you're

a coach, a master healer, I think so often,

a lot of coaches and master healers are doing their coaching with

their heads and not connected with the mind

following the heart. And that's the easiest tip

I can give anyone. Divine intelligence,

Allow my mind to follow my heart and then take action from

there.

I literally just wanna give that just the weight that it

deserves. Like, it's so

It sounds so foundational, and it is in the form that it's

essential. But in the moment, Especially

bringing it back full circle when that little hellion

inside you is running the show because they didn't get enough

sugar today, and the Easter your money line was too long or whatever.

We don't we don't necessarily think about head and heart. We

just Do we just act, and it's like, woah. Woah. Woah. Woah.

Woah. Woah. Ground, center, connect, breathe.

Right? Divine intelligence put

my head behind my heart, open open whatever

connection I need or Unblock whatever I need to

fuel me heart first.

And and I think that's Just

the weight the weight just comes up, and it's like, okay. Hold on.

The world isn't spinning. You're spinning. Right? You

are not in charge of helping the world.

And unless you're doing brain surgery, no one's gonna die.

No one's gonna die. No one's gonna die. Right?

If someone has a 52% open rate instead

of a 53% open rate,

I'm not being reported to marketers anonymous

or whatever. Right. Wow.

Okay. Boy, look at this. We've already talked about self

sacrifice, self healing, cancellations, warrior energy,

backup generators. Like, my goodness. We've talked about

so many things, but I love that we keep kinda coming back to this place

of unhealthy self sacrifice because Wait. Wait.

Wait. There's no healthy self sacrifice.

Keep talking. Well, self sacrifice,

In this sense, means you're actually giving something up.

It's not a sacred offering. When we're sacrificing in

that kind of conditions, We're actually doing something

in we're harming ourselves.

Right? Because the sacred offering is given up without any

harm coming to you or anyone else.

Isn't that interesting? So many of

us are still killing our firstborn trying to get noticed.

It there's I wanna say every curse word

I can. You can. Go ahead. You know? It's

actually not even worth putting the weight there. Meaning Yeah.

You know, It's not the viewpoint

of what divinity is.

And and we're only still Interpreting divinity

in the capacity that our little brains can understand.

Mhmm. But If an energy can

let me tell you a story because it's a really powerful one. So I'm in

my car. Okay? And I'm yelling at

god. And I'm like, look, god. I want I

want to prove right here and right now That

I exist, that you know who I am. And I want my dead dad to

prove that, like, someone's watching out for me because I'm

pissed. So I'm driving my car, and the radio comes on.

And it's a song my father loved, and I was like, you know what? That's

too freaking easy. No. No. No. That's not. It's not proofing

up. And the radio announcer comes on.

He goes, thank you so much for all of the

requests from all of those good, like, Places of music,

and he starts to run through it. I'm like, yeah. Whatever. And then he goes,

and brothers 3, and I drive off the road Because

that was the name of my father's bar that I forgot he had.

What? So if that force can

put all of those movable pieces into

place, Then you can

bet that we can

harness that because we are that and that is me, That we

can harness that to create what we want.

But we spend a lot of time. In fact, I

will use my personal. I spend a lot of

time not focusing

on that and focusing on so much other crap.

Yeah. Right? Because we feel like the weight of all All of it is on

us. We feel like especially as small business owners, like, I am the be all

end all. I am the gatekeeper. I am the light. I am the

solution. I am the blah blah blah. And they're we're making

it life and death. It's not life and death.

It's really not. You're not getting chased by a bear. No one's gonna

die. Like, we make every business relationship and

interactions, especially if you have warrior energy, Like life

and death. And where your energy, when

not conscious, and in general, is already

heightened. So we're already scanning, like, case

everyone get me safe. Is everyone right? So you drop that in a

bad day, And it's like explosion.

Instead of, okay, let's reconnect. What

decision do we wanna make from the point of consciousness,

not pattern, not inner child on crack?

Where do we wanna make a decision based on?

It's just so much Deeper,

simpler, calmer, more natural. It's just

not always easy. Yeah. But it's

also not self sacrificial to

a fault. I think that that's so interesting. There is

No good form of self no. What did you say? There is no healthy self

sacrifice.

Oh, we're gonna get some Christian fundamentalist hate mail about that

one. Oh, lord.

Early. I mean, really You know, I I I think

that it's we've talked a lot about warrior

energy, in this episode, and and it's also one of our

favorite topics to discuss in our friendship, you and me.

And I love, although they're not on our topic today, I love that you see

the world in Charles Schulz Peanuts characters,

because that's totally clear, and I think I've definitely had

a lot of disordered Lucy energy, and Lucy

is a 100% what happens when I let my inner child run

the show because Lucy's like, I know everything and nothing is gonna go wrong

and I'm fine and everything's Fine. And everybody's leading up, and it's fine. And I'm

fine. And by the way, the doctor is in. Like,

chill out. Chill out. And now when I'm

grounded, when I'm healthy, when I'm running my business from that place of love,

I'm very much Just

full linus all the time up to the point where Actually,

technically, your people are Schroders. If

we really wanna be technical, I think your people are Schroeders. You think my

people are Schroeders? I could see that. Heads down, get it done. Let's be

perfectionistic about it. Highly creative.

Highly creative, but don't notice the love that's literally laying on their

piano. Yeah. People are short. And you come in. You know, I'm

over here with my blanket, like, hey, does anybody wanna cuddle

and talk about their marketing? And they're like, no, I'm Busy Eddie,

go away. I'm playing Chopin. I'm like, okay.

Right. But with your with your help,

It's actually heard. Right? Their creativity, their

passion, their music is heard,

And that's huge. I mean, you could do a

whole marketing campaign just for Schroeder. I just hear from From

You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown, now that's stuck in my head. Do you know

something, Schroeder? I think the way you

play the Yeah. No. It's

nice. Like, that's gonna be stuck in my head all day, so thanks for

that. You're welcome. But, like okay. So

so warrior energy, you know, like all energy

can be harnessed. It can flow.

It can be cultivated. It can be

cleared. Like, For anybody out there

who suspects that they have warrior energy or that they have

misfiring warrior energy, how do they know, And how do they

shape it up? Well, warrior energy, when I say warrior

energy, usually just knows. Like, there's a, That's me.

Right? Misfiring is loyal to

a fault, never leave a man down, Lone

wolf, self sacrificing. And the way you kind

of realign it and start to harness it is

really For a warrior,

understanding that they are profoundly safe and

letting go of responsibility of everyone else being safe. And

that's a huge step, but that's the first step.

That's one of those things that you say. And this happens all the time with

you. Where, like, I felt like I was already breathing, and then you said that,

and I had to take Took a deep breath, and I was like, did I

forget how to breathe for a minute? Like,

that rang of truth. Right? But, like, that same self imposed

Panic. Yeah. You know? And I think we're especially in the

last couple years, right, we're all breathing a

lot less and all and very shallow.

And I think it's

really about Choice.

I mean, it's our greatest asset, and it's a

it's a fuck show too. I mean, it's just a great right? It's a

great asset, and you go, really? Just tell me the movie you want me

to see, and I will go see the freaking movie.

But without choice, you can't choose

to be connected. You can't choose what's in your greatest

good. Right? And and

if that was withdrawn, then we would just be a bunch of, you know,

robots. Right?

Remind me to talk to you about, when we go move into

Star Trek about Vulcans.

Oh, we can do that right now. Just jump on in. You

know? Talk about him right now. Go for it. I'm rewatching Voyager.

I've I've because of because I was So sad when the card was over.

And, there was this between

2 Tuvac and, I think Paris about

how he's like, well, aren't you curious? And he's like, yes. I'm

curious. And I thought, How can he be curious? Because curious

is an emotion. Like

like, where does the the line draw

with Vulcans. Like, if they're unemotional and it's

just logical, then how can they be curious?

Right. Right. Like, AI,

Chad GPT is not curious about

why I wanted to write Ryan a poem asking him to

take the trash out for the 50th time. Like, Chap p t t p t

isn't curious, it just delivers the data. Of course.

And to your point, curiosity means

I long for Clarity or I

long for I can't just assume. Alright.

So technically, Alright. We need to get them done.

I think dogs. Yeah. Right? So I think

I think they need to reframe it because what Vulcans

Don't participate in

is emotional responses.

Right? Making decisions from an emotional response

place. Living

their life through an emotional response. Yeah. Because it's

right. And I think a lot of people In spirituality

are trying to be a Vulcan

or a Vulcan just on happiness. They're trying to

kind of not have a range

of emotion. So listen. If you're

trying to cut out all the kind of negative emotions, you're also gonna

cut out the high emotions as well. Like, you can't just have

a song with the high notes because it sounds like crap. Right? And

so it's really about how we respond to our

emotions. So now I'm gonna reevaluate Vulcan.

I think Vulcans have emotions. I

just think they respond differently. Or it's been trained

out of them. Right. So it's like, oh,

there's hunger. Oh, how do I wanna respond? I don't wanna respond

With all of me, I just wanna respond logically.

I love it. 1st, we're gonna get, like, self sacrifices of

god hate mail from the fundamentalist Christians, and now We're

gonna get, like, an app actually. Yeah. Actually,

Vulcans are trained from alright. Alright, nerds. We hear

you. Nope. So I can't do it in Vulcanese. I'm

good. Oh my gosh. That's although total side note, I just watched

this wonderful, wonderful clip Of, Stephen

Colbert interviewing Liv Tyler, and Stephen Colbert is, like, the biggest

Tolkien nerd that has ever existed. And Liv

Tyler says if you want him, come and claim him, and Steven looks like he's

gonna die. And then Liv's like, I know the Elvish too. So, you

know, your people are out there. And if you wanna

yell at somebody about Vulcans, go find the right people to

yell at about Vulcans, but it's not me and Jen. K? You want

a wrap around? I was talking to this guy last week, and he

compared me to Tolkien. I

can see it. Is that fun? I was like, hey.

I was like, hey. Thank thanks for the compliment. I know it's a big compliment,

but, you know, I haven't read in my just seen the movies.

Yeah. But the movies are good, so it's fine. Let me read it right away.

That's from me who had a Hobbit theme winning. So, like, I give you permission

and not have read the books, Especially because I appreciate that. There's there's a

there are some parts in the books where I'm like, are we really gonna describe

the tree for another 3 pages? Really? Really,

babe? Really? I got too much warrior for that. I'd be like, get

off the tree. Well, we're also, like, way too much of the TV

generation. Like, come on. Jean Luc Picard woulda

had 17 battles by then and 3 lovers and a dinner. Like, it's

fine. It's 28 minutes. We need a wrap up.

I you know? Okay. Let's talk about Picard for a second. Because in

the Picard episodes, right,

versus, I'm gonna do a total wrap around,

versus next generation. It really had

bothered me That Jean Luc Picard

in Picard was more human than he was in

Next generation. He had more feelings. He was

more human. When he cursed, I almost fell off my chair. I

was like, Did John Luke Bacard just curse? I don't I don't think

my brain can handle that. It

bothered me up until the last episode, And then I

was all into it. Well, I'm a sucker for father

son connection. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Right?

So I was like, okay. Bring on the emotion.

I like it. But isn't that interesting? At first, you were like, stop having so

many emotions. I I was like, he's too because he was like a

hero. He's too normal. He's

too human. And I was like, yeah. He's not a

Vulcan. Of course, he's gonna have emotions. He's not a freaking

Vulcan. He's not a freaking Vulcan. But this last

season It was just so good.

I mean, it was so good. They wrapped it up. They brought in 7 of

9. It was so I mean, she was in the 2nd season, but it

was so perfect in how they brought

pieces back From all

over, I loved it. See. And that

I take weird connection to my own rebrand From because what I've

been trying to explain to everybody about the Quirkworks rebrand is that

it's weaving together elements of my

work Going back generations

of my business. Right? Like, I've had I've been a

life coach. I've been A professional

speaker. I've been a lounge singer. I've done marketing. I've done

selling. I've done you name it, I've done it, and And

it's so interesting because I'm weaving that all back. I'm

bringing that all back, not all of it, But

I'm I'm weaving it back in in a

way that it feels like a homecoming to me. Whereas

when they make references on Picard, you're like,

oh. Right. That's so not a rebrand.

Familiar. Right. It's not a rebrand. It's a brand integration

then. Dang, girl.

Brand integration? Yeah. That's what that is.

Dang. And therefore, Picard is the brand integration of

Star Trek. He's in integrate he's, it

Actually made him I mean, I've

loved Patrick Stewart since, Claudius

days, and they I mean take care on that guy. I mean

But it made him it made

you want to be a better person watching Picard.

I felt that way about Next Gen. Like, I felt that

way about when Wesley would do something

Wesley. Weird And, like, upset the whole thing

or, like, when people would be having interpersonal problems or, like, someone would go

and get orders, and I I feel like I was Kind of, like,

raised in the terror of Picard disappointment

because if he did show enough emotion to show disappointment in

you, you done Fucked up, son. Yeah. You you

yeah. You might just put yourself out an airlock pad.

Exactly. Like, oh, We got issues.

Now we're all in danger. Daddy is mad.

Like, like, don't make space daddy mad,

because he normally has it all together, but yeah. And then because that's it, like,

the the emotion was so few and far between. Isn't that interesting that when he

would emote, I'd be like, oh, he's angry. Don't be angry at me,

daddy. I mean, really does if we think about it, he really just

show showed a lot of anger disappointment. He, you know,

he very rarely showed joy.

And right? I mean, there's only, like, 2 or 3

episodes of him engaging in any carnal

thing Oh, good. Where Riker was, like, at last and right.

Oh god. Riker's so emotion. It's like we have

Vulcans with very, very little. We got Picard

on that end of the spectrum, and then we got Riker Way

over here not having a logical thought for

6 seasons. Like, come on, baby. But, you know, I

mean, I also liked

that Picard turned towards Troy.

And not in a weird way, but was like, what do you

sense? What do you feel? Like, He

like, I like that guidance. Like, I like that he

turned towards something that he was

incapable of, That he didn't have the

skill set in order to get a deeper

picture of what decisions he had to be had to be made.

You're my Diana Troy. Aw,

thanks. I have the boobs. You do.

Thank you. She's I I well, I've, like now I went back

and I watched this the next generation and with and I was

like, She was truly beautiful, and they

screwed it up with that crazy makeup.

Right? I even loved her on NCIS.

But thank thank you for I I'll take being your

Troy. You're my Troy. Big time. I like that.

Because, I mean, if you think about it, at the very beginning

before we recorded, you're like, what's going on? And I'm like, my energy is really

weird today, and I don't know what's up with it. Like, that's me who

is normally pretty emotionally or energetically attuned. That's me

Being like, Troy, what do you feel? And then you're

like you're like client sadness. And I'm like, yes.

Yes, Troy. There is great sadness here, and I'm choosing not to participate

in that because it's not of me. Like,

Right. Because she's gotta reign it in. She's got all the emotions

and she's so keyed in, but she they're also not

relying on her To make life or death

decisions, they factor in her input,

but are we gonna let this person live or die or put this person out

in airlock, or what are we gonna do to keep the plague from devouring

everyone on the ship? They're gonna be like, Troy, who's infected? Not Troy, who

do we kill? Right. And she does

it without being attached. This is really key for you

healers out there. Without being attached about how that information

is being received or what people do with that information.

And I think so often we're attached by the For t's, we

give. And I think going back to the inner

child, that's an inner child thing too. Like, really notice.

Like, There are certain energies where I'm a little more attached.

Like, why aren't you listening to me? And then when I, like,

get back, I'm like, oh, There's that energy of my mother. I got it.

Like or when I feel like the person

is really doing themselves harm by, like, Okay.

Now we've gone through the same thing a 1000000 times. I've told you the answer.

I've texted you the answer. I've sent you the answer. And here we

are back at the same thing again.

Like, What's going on?

You I know you can hear me. You've recited it back to me,

and yet you're doing the exact opposite. Okay. Well,

Like that. Right? Now I just want a little

Troy to, like, come onto the deck and be like, Strange

maternal energy you've sensed, captain. Like, thank you, Troy.

Thank you, Troy. Or, like, in your car story, like,

Avoidance. Avoidance, of course, happening.

The way I do it. Right? I tune in. Right?

And I go, like, I did that's one of my checks

when choosing a client. Oh, man. Well, I wish we could continue

this all day because you know you're one of my favorite people, and this conversation

is exactly one of the many, many reasons why because I feel like

you just took me to church in the best And I know the listeners will

feel that way too. But I have 2 more questions for you. The first

question is, let's say

You have decided to hire a fractional

C suite employee. So you have

decided to bring on, let's not say, a CEO, but you've decided to

bring on a COO To

run the show so that you can be the talent and they can run the

show. Which Star

Trek crew member Are you bringing on

out of fleet and into soul language?

The CEO. Right? Mhmm.

I'm gonna go with Jordy,

a, because He can do almost anything.

He could do anything and also just what a presence to be around all

the time. He's calm, and he he has a sense of

humor, and he can see things in different

you know? Like, First, he has eyes, then he doesn't doesn't have eyes, then he

has adviser, then he has eyes again. But, you know, he can see the different

wavelengths of things. And,

he really takes the time to figure out what's

wrong and how to fix it and always solution oriented.

I hugged LeVar Burton once, and he looked into my soul. It was like the

best hug Oh my god. That's so fun. Ever had in my entire

life. So I'm with you. I'm with you all day. Oh my god. That's so

fun. He looked into my freaking soul. Like, you are the soul

expert. I told him that reading rainbow

Was a foundational part of my life, which he's

heard a 1000000 times. I'm positive as well. He

should. And he put his arms on my shoulders,

looked me dead in the face, and said, I'm so glad to hear

that, And then hugged me, and I looked at my husband, Ryan,

as we were walking away, and I said, LeVar Burton just looked into my

soul. And he's like, oh, yeah. He did. I saw it. It's

real. So, yes, I'm also team Jordy. Heck yes. Now,

you Do you wanna know a little thing? Yes. Of course, I do. I've

never seen Reading Rainbow ever. Oh, it's wonderful. It's a gift to the

world. Never seen it. Never seen it. I mean, LeVar Burton is a gift

to the world. We've talked A lot of give to the world people today. Patrick

Stewart, we love you. Please come over for tea with your

best friend, sir Ian McKellen. Give you my number. Right?

Jed and I will take you anywhere you wanna go at any time. LeVar Burton.

Anytime. Gift to the multiverse. Wherever you wanna

go, let's go. But, you know, as someone who has actually

looked into my soul, worked with my soul and

worked with me toward The honing elevation,

harnessing, and joyful delight of my soul.

How do our listeners Come into your world and get a

little piece of you. Well, they can go to soul language dot us. That's always

the best way. But I think I also wanna send them to the

myths A Purpose.com, which is a great

guide that miss Annie was, like, the inspiration

and just the joy of you guys. It's So

good. That will help you break down the myths that

you might be telling yourself around purpose. Hell, yes.

Well, Darling, this episode has been

far, far more stunning than 2 nerds talking

about Star Trek has any right to be.

So, thank you, and I love you.

And live long and prosper.

I like it. I like it. I'm gonna let's

with that in stone right now, so be it. And

everybody else, I will be back in just a second with my final thought and

your homework for this week.

Well, hey there. 1st and foremost, Your homework

this week is not in any way gonna tell you what you

should believe about energy, spirit, the

cosmos, or any of it. I believe what I believe.

JU believes what she believes. You believe what you believe, and guess

what? That's all okay. But for every single

one of us, self employment is an endurance

sport, not a sprint, not by, I almost said not

by a mile, but not by a long shot. This

is a marathon and one that

requires tenacity, Patience and so

much self kindness. So this week, although this episode

is about Picard, We're gonna take some inspiration from our

Vulcan friends, and we're going to monitor our

emotions. Because Like Picard, we are going to

be in this game and in that pilot jump seat for

a very very long time, hopefully. In the

fast paced world of small business, look, it's crucial to stay on

top of your game. You know that. But amidst the ever changing

landscape Of the rest of the world, we often forget to

prioritize our own well-being like Jay, you said. So this

week, again, your homework challenge is to take a step back And

be aware of when your emotions show up.

Both when you're riding high on success or Facing

lows or setbacks, I want you to treat yourself with

curiosity and kindness. Because by cultivating self awareness

and self compassion, You're not only enhancing your mental and

emotional state in a very logical way, but you're also training

your brain to endure, To find the positive,

to find the innovative, and to find the best of you.

Of course, we know that every high and low is an opportunity

For growth. So as you navigate the challenges of your work week, I want you

to keep a close eye on the emotions tied to failure

and fear, but again, To approach them with curiosity.

Meanwhile, I want you to embrace those highs with gratitude for

your damn self, And allow yourself to celebrate

your accomplishments. And then beyond that, if that gratitude

needs to be spread around, Please do. But in all

things, be kind to yourself and honor the

journey.

Hey. Thanks for listening. If this episode kept you laughing and

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