In this episode, I delve into how our healing from complex trauma also heals our image of God. Drawing from my own experiences since 2008, I discuss three types of trauma—emotional neglect, emotional/spiritual abuse, and enmeshment trauma—and their impact on our relationship with God. I explain how authentic love and…
Just like a child's growth can signal underlying issues when it stalls, our spiritual growth can hit roadblocks too. If you feel stuck in your faith journey, it's a good time to seek guidance from those who have walked the path before you. Remember, faith development isn't about hitting milestones;…
As we become more integrated, our capacity to receive God's unconditional love deepens. This understanding isn't just intellectual; it permeates our entire being. We start to rest in the knowledge that we are loved by God, which shifts our focus from perfect performance to authentic relationship. This newfound confidence allows…
In this episode, I explore how complex trauma affects our ability to make spiritual discernment. I discuss the importance of a secure attachment with God, the impact of trauma on our nervous system, and how healing and integration can transform our interior freedom in the discernment process. Follow me on…
On the journey of holistic integration, we start valuing the messy and imperfect process of making our faith real. This means embracing our emotions and bodies rather than numbing them for a perfectly performed faith. It's about trusting that God is present in the reality of our lives, with all…
When I give authentically and freely, it strengthens my self-trust and sense of wholeness. Genuine self-gift is an integrative force, connecting me to myself and others. It's about being attuned to the nuances of each situation and making compassionate choices from a place of freedom. Each time I give freely,…
Self-abandonment leads to losing trust in yourself, making you feel empty, unseen and unappreciated. When you constantly sacrifice yourself and others don't support you, it's not just about losing faith in them — it's about losing faith in yourself. This creates a cycle where you doubt your own worth and…
In this week's episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, we delve into the nuances of faith and personal autonomy. Brya and I share our experiences of discovering how God values our happiness and well-being. It may be challenging to navigate our internal conflict between religious obligations and the lack of…
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the struggle of dealing with trauma? In our latest episode, we dive deep into the real and raw experiences of navigating trauma, faith, and personal growth. In this episode, we discuss the challenges of overcoming trauma and the physical and emotional barriers it creates and…
Ever wondered how integrating faith and psychology can enhance your interior health journey? In our latest episode of this new season, we explore trauma responses, particularly, with going to mass. Joining me in this episode is a special guest, Brya Hanan — a Catholic trauma therapist who has successfully blended…
In this episode, I engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with Catholic trauma therapist Brya Hanan. We delve into the complexities of trauma, particularly how it intersects with our faith journey. We explore how experience a resistance to going to church and attending mass can be a trauma response,…
In this clip from a recent live coaching call for CLARITY, I delve into the journey of discerning our personal vocation over time. I discuss how life events, including interruptions and suffering, contribute to our understanding of our true calling. Through my own experiences, particularly around trauma and its role…
God is not interested in how well I do. He is much more interested in my genuine, authentic response to His love. At every moment, He is loving me, even if I can’t fully receive it. This understanding has made a huge difference. I used to think faithfulness was a…
In this video, I delve into the transition many of us experience from spiritual fervour to spiritual maturity, especially during deep healing and integration. I discuss the differences between these stages, focusing on their characteristics and how we respond to suffering. By sharing my personal experiences and insights into the…
Understanding faithfulness took a turn after a profound retreat in 2016. For years, I believed faithfulness meant constantly proving my worthiness to God. But I've learnt that God is not constantly evaluating my performance. How can we feel safe if we think we're always being judged? God is more interested…
In this video, I delve into the transition many of us experience from spiritual fervour to spiritual maturity, especially during deep healing and integration. I discuss the differences between these stages, focusing on their characteristics and how we respond to suffering. By sharing my personal experiences and insights into the…
In my journey, I’ve realized that viewing my struggles solely through the lens of sin is limiting. It’s essential to adopt a broader perspective, one illuminated by God's love. God sees us not as sinners, but as His beloved children. While we know this intellectually, our lived reality often feels…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share one of my experiences of integration in my life. When I started listening to my own needs, it transformed my role as a wife. I realized that true intimacy isn't about constantly fixing each other's problems or always making the…
In this video, I address a thought-provoking question from one of my subscribers who asked how can we experience the unconditional love of God. I delve into the concept of embodied spirituality, underscoring the indispensability of involving our entire being—body, senses, and soul—in our spiritual journey to connect with God's…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share one of my experiences of integration in my life. When I started listening to my own needs, it transformed my role as a wife. I realized that true intimacy isn't about constantly fixing each other's problems or always making the…
Does connecting to self necessarily result in connecting with others? And what if my true self doesn't land well with others? This thought-provoking question invites us to dive into the heart of personal growth and relationships. Often, deepening our connection with ourselves leads to more genuine connections with others. When…
Feeling lost in the search for a therapist who perfectly aligns with your faith and understanding? You're not alone. It's rare to find that ideal match. But don't let that deter you from starting your healing journey. Remember, it's on us to actively discern and integrate our faith with emotional…
In this personal narrative, I discuss my journey as a recovering complex trauma survivor, grappling with a deep-seated fear of criticism, judgment, and rejection, and how these fears intersect with my faith and my walk with Christ. I explore the concept of interior integration and the realisation that my fear…
Ever felt like your therapist understood your words but missed the mark on understanding you? You're not alone. It's not just about intellectual comprehension; it's about feeling safe, seen, and heard. We all crave emotional attunement, especially in therapy. While it's tempting to assume that a therapist who shares our…